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9 Smart Ways to Make Your Girlfriend Fall in Love With You All Over Again

How to Make Your Girlfriend Fall In Love With You All Over Again

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You may be in a relationship with this girl who you love like crazy. But you realize she no longer loves you, or her love for you is waning. What can you do to make your girlfriend fall in love with you all over again? How can you prevent her from losing her love for you totally?

1.     Solve the Root Problem

You must deal with the reason why your girlfriend lost her love for you, if you want to make your girlfriend love you all over again.

There are a variety of reasons why a woman would fall out of love with her boyfriend:

  1. She may feel you are not romantic enough.
  2. She may be bored in the relationship and need some more excitement.
  3. You may not be giving her the kind of attention she needs.
  4. Respect is one essential ingredient which makes a love relationship work. It is possible you may not be giving her the respect she requires.

These, among other reasons, may cause your girlfriend to lose her love for you. Have an honest discussion with her and find out why she thinks she has lost her feelings of love for you.

2.     Talk to Guys Who Have Been Through It Before

Find some guys whose girlfriends have lost love for them before, and find out from them what they did to make their girlfriends fall in love with them all over again. Implement their tips and strategies for making your girlfriend fall in love with you all over again. Some of the tips may be peculiar to their particular circumstances and situation. But some of the tips they give you may work for your particular situation. The important thing is to experiment, to do a little trial and error and see what works for you.

3.     Become a New Person

One thing you can do to make your girlfriend fall in love with you all over again is to involve God in your relationship and ask Him to make you a new person. There will be a radical change in your life and character when you place God at the center of your relationship.

Becoming a new person is a mighty spiritual change which can be brought about only by the intervention of God. He can cause an inner moral transformation in you that will lead to an outward change in your way of living, and this will make you treat your girlfriend better, and that could cause her to renew her love for you.

You can involve God in your relationship and seek His help to become a new person by praying something such as, “Dear God, I want you to help me become a new person. Please transform me and help me to change radically internally. Make my heart your home and help me to become a better lover.” God will put a new love for your fellow human beings, including your girlfriend, into your heart. You will treat her with greater love, and because when love is given it is received in even greater quantities, your girlfriend will start loving you again when you show her the love which God will teach you to use.

4.     Spring Surprises on Her

When you see that your girlfriend is losing her love for you and you want to make her fall in love with you all over again, one good way to do that is to do fresh things in the relationship which will show that you love her. These acts will put fresh excitement in the relationship, and may induce fresh feelings in her. For example, if you have been eating out at a particular restaurant, start taking her to a different restaurant which offers the same quality of service you were receiving at the old restaurant.

Or, take her on a ride in your car(if you have one). Just ride around the city with no destination in mind. Drive around, and observe how people are going about their day’s work. When she asks you where you are going, tell her nowhere. Just tell her you just want her to be near you. This will be a break from the routine of meeting at your place, or seeing her at her place. Tell her to enjoy the scenes she observes. She may see a couple walking hand-in-hand, or see a boyfriend and girlfriend kissing, and these things may cause her to think about love again. Or, when you see street children, pass a comment such as, “Look at those kids. They have no one to love them in the world, except their God. Hmmm! When you have someone to love you in this world, it is a great privilege which you must cherish. It is also a great privilege and honor to have somebody to love.” Do not look at her face when you say this. Let the words sink into her consciousness, and let her chew on those words. She may see that she is depriving herself of happiness by not loving you anymore. It may make her rethink about her feelings for you, see that she is throwing away something worthwhile, and she may start refreshing her feelings for you.

5.     Date Her All Over Again

Both of you can decide to pretend you have never met each other before in this life, and start dating her again as if you are new lovers.

  • Instead of going out to a restaurant, or to a comedy show, or to the theater, plan to have dates at your home , or her home, so that you can save some money.
  • When you met at first and started falling in love, most of your conversations may have been about you as a person, or your girlfriend, and your families and friends, because you wanted to get to know her better. This time, have conversations about things you have never talked about before. Read about some of the famous soccer stars and talk about them and their families. Talk about some stranger you met at school, or a client you are dealing with.
  • Instead of eating the foods you are used to eating every time, learn how to prepare a meal from Africa. Prepare it when you have your dates at home, and enjoy it together.
  • Draw your girlfriend, and let her draw you too. Compare your drawings and see which one resembles the true likeness of the person you tried to draw. It will be fun, and as you do it and laugh at the caricatures you create, you can start repairing the bond of love which was broken , and springs of love can spring up in your girlfriend’s heart again when she starts having fun again.
  • Say your favorite childhood rhymes to each other. Become children again, make her laugh, and you could make your girlfriend fall in love with you all over again.
  • Sing her favorite love song to her. Sing it with emotion in your heart. Try to remember how much you love your girlfriend as you sing it. If possible cry to show you deeply you love her. It will work wonders on her emotions and make her emotional too, which will increase your chances of making her fall in love with you all over again.
  • Read a romance novel to her. Look in her eyes as you read. Let her see you adore her.
  • Record personal messages of love and send them to her so that she can play them often. When she focuses her mind on your love for her, by listening to your messages, and they remind her often that you still love her, she will cast her mind back to how great you have made her feel in times past, and that could make your girlfriend fall in love with you all over again.
  • Watch a recorded video of both of you together, in which you were both having fun and displaying affection for each other. This could move her, and work on her emotions so that she will want that kind of relationship again. It could make her fall in love with you all over again.

Dating your girlfriend again can make her refresh her love for you, and make her fall in love with you all over again.

6.     Change Her Environment

If you have the money to take her to another city, or country, then do so. Take her out of the setting she is so used to, and away from people she meets every day.

Try to meet other couples who are also struggling to maintain the love in their relationship. Let them tell you how they managed to get back in love again. This will give your girlfriend fresh romantic energy and make her see that she is not the only girlfriend who is losing her love for her boyfriend, and it will also tell her that when you lose your love for your boyfriend, you can fall back in love with him again. This may motivate her to work on herself so that she will fall in love with you all over again.

7.     Make Her Feel She is a Part of You

One thing that can make your girlfriend fall in love with you all over again is to make her see that she contributes a lot to your life.

  • Make her see that she has deposited valuable things in you, that you are grateful, and you want her to continue depositing love and warm feelings in you.
  • You can say something such as, “Adwoa, I can never forget how you make me feel when you are affectionate. The feelings you invoke in me are deep and wonderful. I feel you are a part of me. I think I can be the best I can be with only you by my side. Adwoa, I want you to consider your feelings again. I don’t think this is something you cannot deal with. All you may need is some space and time to reconsider and find your bearings again. I need you, darling, and I know you will be happy if you continue in this relationship. I don’t think you will find the happiness we shared in this relationship, in another relationship with another guy. I need you, Adwoa. And deep down in my heart, I know you need me. I need you to continue loving me, encouraging me in rough times, showing me affection in times when I feel like no one in the world loves me. I need your conversation, your voice, your advice again. Please reconsider. Don’t let this beautiful baby we created just die.”

8.     Give Her Promises

Give her specific promises as an incentive to make her fall in love with you all over again. Also, point to promises you have kept in the past to make her know you are capable of keeping your promises.

For example, if she has lost her love for you because you were not spending enough time with her, promise her you will spend thirty minutes with her every day, i.e. time in her presence physically, and also virtually through the phone or computer, but end up spending forty five minutes with her each day. When she sees that you are giving her more than you offered, for example spending forty minutes instead of the thirty minutes you promised, it will make her feel you are very caring now, and it could make her fall in love with you all over again.

9.     Make Yourself Attractive to Her Again

When you are having conversations with her, say things to show you are enjoying your life.

  • Talk about all the great plans you have and the exciting prospects you see for your life.
  • If you make it look appealing enough, she may want to become a part of that life and vision. She will see you are an ambitious guy with big dreams, and a bright future, and she will want to be a part of that future prosperity. This could make your girlfriend fall in love with you all over again.

Conclusion

These are some of the ways you can make your girlfriend fall in love with you all over again. Keep on showing her love, and continue to make her feel special, and from time to time renew and refresh your love for each other, and it will all help to make her want to continue with the relationship.

Are there any other ways you think a guy can make his girlfriend fall in love with him all over again? Share it with the world by leaving a comment. Thank you.

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How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You Again: 7 Ways to Capture Her Heart Once More

How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You Again: Make Her Feel She Belongs to You

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You may have had a fight with your girlfriend, or cheated on her, or broken up with her for another reason. This may have led her to lose her love for you. But you realize you are still in love with her and want her back. How can you make your girlfriend love you again and renew her relationship with you?

Below, I share with you things you need to do to make your girlfriend fall in love with you again.

1.     Consider How You Acted in the Past

If you want to make your girlfriend fall in love you again, take one whole day and ruminate on what caused you to behave the way you did, if you are responsible for the breakup, or what you could have done to act differently so that both of you would not have parted ways, if she was responsible for the separation.

  • Find a quiet spot or place, such as an empty school classroom, or your own room(if you will not be disturbed), or an isolated park, where you can really think without any distractions keeping you from considering all the important points you need to think about.
  • Sit with a pen and writing pad.
  • Try to remember the issues that caused your relationship to come to a halt. For example, if you remember that it was your cheating on your girlfriend which caused the relationship to breakup, note it as point 1 in your writing pad.
  • Write down how you, as a person, contributed to making the cheating happen. For example, if you cheated because you just felt like having fun with another girl, note it down. If you cheated because you saw this gorgeous girl who swept you off your feet, and who looked extremely alluring and tempting, and who gave you so much attention that you forgot about your girlfriend and succumbed to her temptation, write it down. Similarly, write down all the ways in which you contributed to making the breakup happen.
  • Write down what your girlfriend did which pushed you to do what you did. For example, if you cheated because she was nagging too much, or she was too demanding, or she was not giving you enough attention, write them down.
  • Think about, and write down, the ways in which you think you can deal with the things that caused you to do what made the breakup come about. For example if you cheated, you can write that you will be careful how you associate with other girls other than your girlfriend from now on, or you will make sure you communicate more effectively with your girlfriend, or you will learn to resolve issues better when conflicts come up so that you will not find comfort in another girl, or you resolve now to be determined to remain faithful to your girlfriend from now on.
  • Write down what you think your girlfriend should do so that you will be satisfied and comfortable in the relationship, so that you will never try to seek that comfort with another girl ever again.
  • Think about how the breakup has cost you, what it has done to you emotionally and psychologically, for example the minutes of love or companionship from your girlfriend which you have missed. Also, think about how the issue has affected your girlfriend, and the ways it has made her suffer. Let these thoughts make you feel sorry about what you did, and make the thoughts help you to resolve never to repeat the mistake again.
  • Identify how you can improve your character as a person, and what you can do to become a better lover. For example, if you identify that being inconsiderate was the reason why your girlfriend left, what do you think you can do to become more considerate of her? If you broke up with her because she was self-centered, what are the ways you can help her to become a more selfless girl?
  • Make three copies of what you wrote down, and keep one copy.
  • Work on your inner man and your attitude to life. There is no better book in the world to help you do this than the Bible. It is the roadmap for life and you will find a lot of useful advice in it which can help shape your spirit, and your soul, and this shaping will help you to relate to your girlfriend better. The books of Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, Songs of Solomon, and the Psalms hold nuggets of wisdom which can help you to shape up your life better. Read your Bible every day, and pray to God to make you a better person, and you will see a transformation in your life which will impact positively on your relationship.
  • Learn all about loving a woman again and be committed to applying the knowledge you pick up to make her feel truly loved in the future.

Looking to the past so that you can make changes to your attitude is the first step you must take when you want to make your girlfriend love you again.

2.      Let Her See What She Is Missing

If you want to make your girlfriend love you again, you need to add value to yourself so that she will see she is missing something, and that she is the one losing and not you, so that she will find you attractive again and want to be in a relationship with you again, and that may instigate her to love you again.

Therefore, if you are in school, endeavor to work very hard at your books so that you can better your grades and achieve academic excellence. When you get excellent grades, let everybody know about it, and make sure the news gets to her. If you are a worker, double your efforts at work so that you may be considered for promotion, or even be promoted.

Adding value to yourself can act as a pull factor to draw your girlfriend back to you because she will feel she is missing out on being with this great guy.

Make sure you look even more attractive by dressing even better now than when you were with her. Look even more confident, smile as you walk about, and let everyone around you see that you are at peace with yourself, and with the world.

When you meet her in public, smile into her face and greet her civilly. Ask her how she is faring, and tell her about how your life is prospering since you left her, or since she left you. This is one way to make your girlfriend fall back in love with you again.

3.     Make the Move

When you feel you are over what caused the breakup, and you think you have assessed yourself thoroughly and you want to go forward and reunite with her, then make efforts to contact your girlfriend.

  • You may decide to contact her yourself, if the nature off the breakup was not acrimonious.
  • You may use her close friends or her relatives to drop hints that you want to meet her and have an honest discussion with her.
  • Invite her over to your place for a drink, or to watch a movie together, if she will be willing to oblige you. As the man, you must take the initiative to solve relationship problems, and that is what you demonstrate when you invite her to your place, and not vice versa. It shows leadership, and will help you establish your authority over her again if the relationship works out again.
  • On the day you are going to have the discussion with her at your place, create a romantic atmosphere for both of you. This is very crucial if you want to make your girlfriend love you again. Play her favorite love songs in the room where you will hold the discussions, place a picture of both of you at an advantageous place where she will see it immediately she comes to the place. The music will touch her emotions and make her sentimental, whilst the picture will remind her of the wonderful times you had in the past, and these two things may bring back fresh, love memories into her mind. The memories may influence her and make her have fresh love feelings for you if, subsequently, you say the right things.

4.     Remind Her You Are Human

You have to use the argument of your humanness to make your girlfriend fall in love with you again. Take the opportunity of the meeting to remind her that you are only human, and so would make mistakes.

  • Apologize sincerely for your contribution to what led to her losing her love for you.
  • Tell her you have reflected deeply on what happened, and you have seen you erred greatly. Let her know because of your humanness, you succumbed to the weakness, but just as there are many humans who have messed up terribly in life and have bounced back, you also feel you will bounce back and love her even more than you used to love her if she will just give you another chance.
  • You can use the stories of Peter, or David, or the gentleman in Judges 19 in the Bible to support your case. Read how these two men messed up, and how they came back to redeem themselves, and use the lessons you learn from these two stories to convince her that it is possible for a person to mess up terribly, but to become even better than he was later, when he is forgiven and given a second chance.
  • Show what you have written down to her to make her know that you are serious about tackling your weaknesses and improving your attitude. Give her one copy of what you wrote down, and give her a third copy to be given to a person of her choice who will act as an “overseer” and see to it that you act by what you have written down. This can influence her and make her fall in love with you again because she will see you are bent on really loving her, and this may make her more willing to give you her heart again.
  • Show you have changed when you are having this discussion. If you used to speak to her in harsh tones, speak in a slow, measured way. If you were unromantic before, use romantic words as you speak to her. Call her “honey,” or “love,” or “sugar,” as you speak to her. You must say things, or do something whilst you are with her to make her see that you have changed. This will influence her to want to renew her feelings for you again. This can make your girlfriend love you again.

5.     Remind Her of Her Humanness

You can point out a woman’s faults to her and let her see that what happened to you can also happen to her, if you want to make your woman fall in love with you again.

  • Make your girlfriend remember that she has also done things to hurt you in the past. Remind her of specific things she did to hurt you when you were together. For example, if there was an occasion on which she neglected you, or if she insulted you once, or if she got angry because you were not in a position to buy her a smartphone in the past, remind her of how her reaction hurt you, and the way you decided to let go because you loved her and wanted the relationship to progress. And tell her that just as you forgave, she should find it in her heart to forgive you.
  • Point out the specific things she did to make you lose your love for her, that is her contribution to the breakup or fight. Let her see she also has to carry some of the blame. Then discuss what you can do to make compromises so that you can renew your love again.
  • Give her a copy of what you wrote down as evidence that you will do things differently now.

6.     Tell Her the Rewards You Will Give Her

  • If you want to make a girl love you more again, then tell her you are still capable of loving her, and you want to show her even greater love. Assure her of your love for her. Give her evidence by showing her all the information on loving a woman again which you have gathered. This will tell her that you mean business, and it may influence her to throw down the wall which she may have built in her heart, and give you full access to her heart again.
  • Tell her the kind of love you will use to love her this time, which will be consistent, stable, undying, everlasting love.
  • When you renew your relationship, do even more than you told her you would do. Shower so much love on her that she will even beg you to reduce the amount of love you are giving her! It will make your girlfriend fall madly in love with you again.

7.     Make Her Feel She Belongs to a Relationship With You

If you want to make a girl fall in love with you again, you must make her see that you were a great couple, and she can become an important part of your life again and make you a better person if she comes back.

  • Let her know how she impacted on your life, and how important she is to you. For example, you can say something like, “I had low self-esteem until I met you and you made me feel I was the greatest guy in the whole world,” or “I never knew love until you taught me how to love.” This will make her know she is important to you, and it will make her feel she has an unfinished job to do, which is to love you and help make you a better person. It may influence her to love you again.
  • Let her know you need her presence, and make her feel she’s needed by your side. You can say something such as, “I really miss you, Ama. A hole has been created in my heart since you left. I remember the delicious recipes you used to prepare for me? I remember the words of love you used to share with me. We were so good together. Hmmm! Ama, I need you. I want you back in my life. Please consider giving your heart to me again.”

Conclusion

If you want to make your girlfriend love you again, do the things mentioned above in addition to making your girlfriend feel very important, showing her you care, making sure you keep things exciting in the relationship, and trying to get her to refresh her feelings for you, and you will keep her forever.

How did you make your girlfriend love you again? What was the magic formula you used? Let the world know by leaving a comment. Thank you.

How to Get Back Together With an Ex Girlfriend: 9 Intelligent Ways to Go About It

How to Get Back Together With an Ex Girlfriend: You Must See That You Can Win Her Again

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How do you get back together with an ex girlfriend? What are the steps you must take, and some of the things you must do so that the process goes smoothly for you to have your relationship again?

1.     Take the Initiative

God made the male as the leader of the family unit, and expects men to take the lead in solving relationship problems. When you take the initiative in solving relationship problems, it shows good leadership and helps the man to maintain the authority God expects him to hold over the woman.

Therefore, when you breakup with your girlfriend, even if your girlfriend did something terrible which caused you to go your separate ways, take the first steps to bring about reconciliation. Do not leave the girl to take the initial reconciliation steps, but see it as your duty, and your responsibility.

Give her a call, or send her a text saying something like, “Sue, this is Mike. Darling, I have tried to fight my feelings for you for a long time, but I just can’t overcome the feelings I have for you. Sweetheart, I still adore you, and I want us to meet so that we can talk things over.”

Girls are shy. Sometimes they find it difficult to take certain actions. It is possible she may also have wanted a comeback but was feeling shy to make the approach. When you take the initiative, you save the blushes of both of you, and make it easier for her to express herself, and to show her desire for reconciliation.

So, if you want to get back together with an ex girlfriend, you must show leadership and make the first move.

 

2.     Decide to be Humble

The Bible, in 1 Peter 1:5 says, “Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”

If you want to get back together with an ex girlfriend, decide in your mind you will be humble.

Humility is one admirable character trait people admire about others. When you are able to humble yourself, when you don’t find it difficult to accept your mistakes, and you are willing to admit your faults, it can make it easier for your girlfriend to soften her heart and to forgive you, even if what you did to her was terrible.

On the other hand, when you display an arrogant disposition, even if she was the cause of the breakup, and talk down on her or act as if you are making her a favor by trying to get back together with her, she will feel hurt, and may decide not to reconcile with you.

Therefore, approach her with a humble spirit.

  • If you were the cause of the breakup, say you are sorry for what you did and that you will do your best not to repeat those same mistakes. Tell her you will work together with her to make sure you change your bad habits, and you will be counting on her co-operation to keep you on track to do the right things for her always by expecting her to criticize you when she sees you doing the wrong things again. For example, if you broke up because you were chasing other girls, then tell her to remind you of your pledge to her when she sees you becoming too close with other girls again, and to draw your attention to that fact.

 

Getting back together with an ex girlfriend requires you to show a humble and contrite attitude, which will make her feel you are serious about making the relationship work again.

 

3.     Be Positive

You must be positive about the prospects of your reconciliation efforts yielding good result if you want to get back together with your ex girlfriend. You must first of all see it in your mind, and believe that you can work through all issues successfully, even if the breakup was acrimonious. This will give you the confidence to go forward.

When you think that because there was bitterness before the breakup, and when you look at the way and manner in which you broke up, you may feel it is not worth making the effort to try and get back together with an ex girlfriend.

But if you still love her and you desire to get back together with her, then believe it can work.

Thinking good thoughts can motivate you to make the required approach to get back together with an ex girlfriend.

 

4.     Arrange a Meeting With Her

Try to get a day when both of you will be in a good mood so that you can meet to talk through issues. Decide on such a day together, and meet at the rendezvous. It must be in a place where both of you can express your feelings without reservation, and where you will not be disturbed by other people.

It will help if you play love songs which talk about forgiving your partner, whilst the meeting is going on. Ask your ex girlfriend if it is okay for you to play music whilst you talk, and if she agrees, play music in the back ground from your smartphone, or any other device that plays music. Find a nice love song that speaks about your situation. Alternately, you may decide to play your ex girlfriend’s favorite love song, the love song she always liked and which helped both of you to feel so connected emotionally when you were in the relationship.

Songs have an interesting way of influencing the emotions of people, especially love songs, and it can help you to get back together with an ex girlfriend. Sentimental music, especially love songs, tend to make one sentimental, and it can work on the emotions of your ex girlfriend and make her sentimental, and also remind her of the times when you loved her so much and she in turn loved you so much. This may make her more willing to give you a willing ear, and to listen to your request with an open and positive ear.

 

5.     During the Meeting

  • Be honest. Do not pretend just because you want to get back together with your ex girlfriend.Tell your ex girlfriend exactly how you feel. Say how hurt you are by whatever she did to cause the breakup. Let her know exactly how it affected you emotionally. For example, if you caught her cheating and it affected your studies, you can say, “Because of your attitude to the relationship, I could not study for one month.” Let her see how serious the effect was on you. It will not make her take you for granted, and she will know how badly she hurt you, which may make her more remorseful if she contemplates on it.
  • Let your ex girlfriend also tell you how she feels about how you treated her, and about the past relationship. Try to find out ways in which you hurt her, and what you can do so that you do not make those same mistakes again.
  • Agree on changes you will make in your attitudes, and ways you will try to please your ex girlfriend. For example, if you broke up because you think she is not honest, you can agree that she will become more open and tell you about all her plans, and make you know her movements. If the breakup came about because you love yourself so much that you do not give her the attention she requires, then agree on how you will spend less time on yourself so that you can devote more time to making her feel loved.
  • Type your agreement on your phone and let your girlfriend type the same words on her phone so that you can remind yourselves often of the pledges you made to each other and keep each other accountable to these promises.
  • Give her some time to think over what you discussed, and obtain a promise from her to give you feedback by a set date which both of you should agree on.
  • Let her give you a date by which you will hear her final decision.
  • Let her know you still love her. Say it with words and tell her how you miss her, and how you want to get back together with her.

Consider making a meeting an essential part of trying to get back together with an ex girlfriend.

 

6.     Use the Things She Loves to Your Advantage

If you want to get back together with an ex girlfriend, you need to use what she loves best to your advantage, and make her feel a strong connection to you again. For example, if she loves a particular genre of movies, thrillers for example, find excuses to go to her place to watch thrillers with her. If you have the money to buy such movies for her, buy her a lot of those movies.

If she loves conversing, find time to have long conversations with her. Do not rush these occasions, but let her feel you have all the time in the world to spend with her to make her happy. This is how to get back together with your first love.

Show concern and let her feel you still care about her. This will show evidence that you still care, and she may consider that to give you another chance.

 

7.     Keep Up the Pressure

After the meeting, keep constant touch with your ex girlfriend, if you want to get back together with her. This does not mean you should make yourself a nuisance, but remind her often of what you discussed during the meeting and your love for her. This could work on her emotions and sway her thoughts in your favor so that she will decide to give the relationship another try.

 

8.     Make Her Feel Special

If your ex girlfriend agrees to get back together with you, promise to abide by the promises you made during the meeting, and try to make her feel special. You can do this by:

  • Making most of the words you say to her be compliments and not criticisms. Do not do it too often, and do not talk only about her physical beauty; also talk about her admirable qualities, like her patience, or her wonderful cooking skills.
  • Keep the promises you make to her.
  • Take her on unexpected visits to exciting places, such as the zoo or amusement park, or to interesting events such as comedy shows or  lover’s days together. Making it a surprise adds more excitement to your relationship, and will make her feel she can expect more surprises in the future.
  • Try to see her point of view too when you have disagreements. Remember she is different from you and sees life differently from the way you see it.
  • You must yield your desires to make your girlfriend happy. This means you must surrender your selfish plans so that she will be happy always.

 

9.     Date Her Again

See yourselves as starting the relationship all over again. Therefore, date your ex girlfriend again. Invite her out to places where you used to go when you saw her at first. It will bring back memories of the good times you shared in the past, and help you to feel connected again. It will also signify that you treasure the wonderful times you had in the past.

Then, take her to new places you have never been before. This will signify that you want a new relationship, and you want to take this new relationship to a different level into the future.

 

Conclusion

These are some of the things you can do to get back together with an ex girlfriend. Getting back together with an ex girlfriend will require you to  make sacrifices, and to give her concessions. Then, do your best never to make her feel sorry for giving you another chance, and show her undying love, and you will both enjoy your relationship.

 

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How to Keep Your Girlfriend: 16 Smart Ways to Go About It

How to Keep Your Girlfriend: Acknowledge Her

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How can you keep your girlfriend attracted to you, and in love with you till you can make the commitment to marry her?

 

1. Be a True Companion

We usually enter a relationship because we feel lonely, or do not want to spend our life alone but with someone who will share our space and be a friend we can always count on.

 A girl wants a true companion she can share her life with. Some guys are in relationships but are not companions; they do not offer time for the girl to share her intimate heart’s feelings and emotions with them.

If you want to keep your girlfriend interested, then be a true companion. Keep your girlfriend company. Devote time to her for her to share ideas with you in a peaceful and enjoyable atmosphere.

 

2. Comfort Her

Every girl has weaknesses and faces trials and temptations. A girl wants a guy who will have the patience to understand her weaknesses, trials, temptations, her low level of moral endurance, and who will, even when she messes up, carefully speak words of healing which will correct her and make her a stronger woman.

Girls also want guys who will be loving and do affectionate acts that will bring joy and peace to the relationship.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, be patient with her and try to understand her weaknesses, and help her to overcome them—this is how to keep your girlfriend in love. Comfort your girlfriend, speak words of healing when she makes mistakes, try to help her to overcome her weaknesses, be loving and affectionate, and you will be able to keep your girlfriend close and she will love you forever.

 

3. How to Keep Your Girlfriend From Other Guys—Protect  Her

A girl wants to feel safe when she is with a guy. You do not need to fight or exchange blows with another man, but at least you must demonstrate with your words to your girlfriend that she is secure when she is around you, and tell other guys to stay away from her because she belongs to you.

You can do this by making guys know that they cannot mess around with your girl, and that you will stand up to be counted and defend her to the best of your ability. Say it with all confidence, look fierce and bold, and guys will not want to come near your girlfriend.

 

4. Keep Her From Danger

One way you can protect her is to see beyond the present, look into the future, and give her advice, cautions, and assistance  which will help her  jump over some hurdles in life, or prevent danger and trouble in her life. For example, if she wants to start a business and you can do research and give her useful advice, she will cherish you for that. Also, if you see her developing a friendship which is likely to cause her problems in the future and you tell her honestly, stating the consequences of  that association clearly to her, and she sees reason, you will get your girlfriend’s attention and she will love you more when she sees you are doing it because you want to keep her safe.

 

5. Offer Her Security

When you give your girlfriend a comforting sense of belonging, if she feels you belong to her alone and she knows she is not sharing you with any other girl, it gives her peace of mind, and helps her to devote all her energy to the relationship, and it also makes her more willing to want to stay with you. This is one way to keep your girlfriend loyal, and to keep her happy.

If she knows you like jumping from girl to girl, she will not feel she has a future with you, and she may leave.

 

6. Do Not Only Hear Her, But Listen to Her

Women like to talk, and like to be listened to. It makes them feel very wanted when their guys hear, and also listen to them.

Hearing is to know that her voice is audible, and she is saying something. Listening is stopping whatever you are doing, giving her your full attention, looking into her face, and taking in whatever she wants to tell you, even if you don’t care about what she is saying.

When you do not listen to her, it gives her the feeling that you do not care about her inner thoughts, and this could make her unhappy with the relationship. But when you listen you show her you care a lot about what she has to say, and she will be happy about the relationship and want to continue being with you; this is a way to keep your girlfriend from breaking up with you.

 

7. Be Faithful

Let your girlfriend be the only girl you are seeing. Let her be more precious to you than anyone, apart from Jehovah, and let her know she holds a special place in your heart. This is one way to get your girlfriend comfortable, and to make her want to continue the relationship.

Some guys treat their friends and family with more respect, and give more attention and time to them, than they give to their girlfriends. Also, they place their love for their work, or other friendships, pastimes, or recreations  ahead of their relationship with their girlfriends.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, continue to have your close friends, and times of recreation, but devote more time to her than to the other things. It will keep your girlfriend calm and satisfied in the relationship.

 

8. Resolve Conflicts Amicably

You will most definitely have arguments, but you should not see your arguments as a challenge of your authority as the man, or as a boxing fight which must definitely be won by you. If you do that, you may tear down the relationship just to show that you can fight, and she may leave when she thinks she is being treated unfairly.

Instead, cooperate with her to fight the cause of the quarrels. Both of you should attack the problem, not the consequences of the problem.

 

9. Acknowledge Her

Make up your mind that your girlfriend does not owe you anything. Think that she owes you nothing, so that when she does anything for you, you will acknowledge it and see it as a precious gift she is giving to you. This will cause you to value her more, and she will be happier with you when she knows she is valued, it will keep your girlfriend crazy about you.

 

10. Make Sure You Are Great Fun

Your girlfriend will never leave you when you can make her happy always. How do you keep your girlfriend happy always? You can keep your girlfriend happy by  being great fun.

Some relationships break up because one partner is starved of fun by the other partner.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, then you will have to become a child again and make the relationship lively. Have a sense of playfulness, and a spirit of jollity and merriment. If you can adopt this attitude, and find ways to make even tough times great fun for her, you will keep her forever.

One good way to be great fun is to develop your sense of humor. Try and build up a catalogue of jokes, rehearse them often, practice them, and release them when you are together with her. Make her laugh and forget some of her stress, and she will always love your company, and want to be in a relationship with you.

Keep your girlfriend entertained and she will not want to leave you. It is also one way to keep your girlfriend from cheating on you.

 

11. Be Alert When You Are Around Her

Girls pay attention to detail, and sometimes think guys  also pay attention to detail. A girl wants you to notice it when she changes her lipstick, or when she starts doing her hair differently, or when she does manicure, or changes the color of her eye shadow, or when she wears a new shoe.

Keep your eyes open and notice changes you see in her, and tell her how beautiful it makes her look, or else you are in trouble. She will think you do not care about her when you do not notice these things.

Always remember that for some girls talking about how they look is a measure of your care and love for her. Therefore if you do not do it, they assume you do not love them, and that could cause a break up.

 

12. Don’t Be Manipulative

Manipulative people sometimes use shallow flattery as a ploy to get what they want.

If you are in the habit of flattering your girlfriend, and your girlfriend sees that you use it just to get her to do things for you, to take advantage of her, and she points it out to you but sees you are not willing to change, you will lose her trust, and she will fall out of love with you.

When you want her to do something for you, just negotiate with her. Let her know your needs, and her reward when she does something for you. This is more likely to motivate her, and to make her want to keep the relationship with you.

13. Don’t Be Proud

Pride takes many forms and sometimes shows itself  through an arrogant manner rooted in security. Proud people refuse to listen and face facts, refuse to admit wrongs when they make mistakes, vow never to say “I am sorry,” and refuse to negotiate.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, then you must not show pride in the relationship. If you are feeling insecure, work on your self-esteem and build up your confidence.

When you make mistakes, be humble enough to admit that you are a human and will make mistakes, and your girlfriend will be happy to stay with you. You do not lose anything when you apologize to a woman. It does not make you less of a man, and does not make your height reduce by an inch!

When  you have disagreements, resolve to negotiate so that there will be peace.

 

14. Make Her Feel Special

If you want to keep your girlfriend, you must make her feel that she is the most cherished girl on earth by the way you treat her and set her apart in your heart.

 

15. Date Her Often

Many girls want to be courted regularly. They want their men to rekindle the fire that was lit when they first met. They want to be wined and dined. When you become so busy that you do not have time to date her again, she can feel emotionally neglected, and seek that emotional connection with another man. Some girls have left their guys, or had affairs behind the back of their boyfriends because their boyfriends stopped being romantic.

Therefore, date her. Rekindle your love from time to time.

 

16. Manage Her Expectations

Many girls enter relationships with wild dreams, most of which are unattainable. It is your duty as the guy to  know your girlfriend’s expectations and fantasies, and to manage them so that she does not end up feeling you do not love her, which can make her break up with you.

For example, if she thinks that a boyfriend should always be buying expensive gifts for his girlfriend, and you do not make her understand that she must learn to adapt to the economic strength of her boyfriend and be satisfied with the little he can do for her, she will become dissatisfied with what you can do for her, look for a man who can buy her those expensive gifts, and leave you.

 

Conclusion

Women need attention, and it must be your resolve to give her the utmost attention you can give her. If you do that, she will not break up with you, and you can enjoy your relationship to the fullest.

 

Are there any other ways you think you can keep your girlfriend? Let the world know by leaving a comment. Thank you.

How to Show a Girl You Love Her: 7 Great Ways to Let Her Know

How to Show a Girl You Love Her: Say Words of Love to Her

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How do you show a girl you love her? What are some of the things you can do to show a girl you adore and treasure her?

1. Do Not Pressure Her For Sex

God made sex for a purpose. He made sex so that married people will use it to strengthen the marriage bond, and  to get more tender feelings for their spouse. He  knew it could  lead to the birth of a child which would need the loving care of both  a father and a mother, that is why He said it is married people, who can take care of that responsibility, who should have sex.

Unfortunately in today’s world, many guys do not see anything wrong with sleeping with a girl when you are not married to her. But God sees everything wrong with it, and punishes people who engage in pre-marital sex.

God takes a very serious view of  having sex when you are not married. In the Bible days, God killed 23,000 people in one day because of  immorality. That is how serious He takes it! And immorality will be one of the reasons why some people will end up in hell, because it is a sin God hates.

If you want to show a girl, especially a Christian girl, that you love her, then you would definitely not want her to incur God’s wrath, which she can do if she sleeps with you out of wedlock. Therefore, you will not pressurize her to do something that will have devastating consequences for her. You will not ask her to sleep with you and sin, because you care so much about her and her soul. When you love someone, you care about the whole of that person, including the soul and eternal destination of the person you love.

If you want to show a girl you love her, then you will control your sexual urge, not force her or worry her to have sex with you and do the wrong thing, but wait till you can marry her before you sleep with her. This shows you respect her as a person, respect her body, and also that you respect her right to have control over her own body. This is one way to show  a girl you love her without saying it.

2. Say Words of Love to Her

If you want to show a girl you care and love her, you will say words of love to her often. Girls like  to hear nice and sweet words said to them. Therefore, if you want to show a girl you love her, or make a girl fall for you, say sweet, beautiful words to her often.

“I love you,” are words that most guys say often. But you can take it a step further by saying these words in creative ways to make it more appealing and romantic, since girls hear “I love you” all the time.

  • You can say something like, “My heart is an unending well that produces fresh feelings for you every time I see you, darling, and this well will never cease to continue pouring out tender feelings of adoration for you.”
  • You can say, “Honey, I felt so incomplete I think I was a half-person before I met you. You have brought the other half and made me whole and complete.”
  • You can say, “I know angels go with me wherever I go, but I don’t see them. But you are the angel that I see.”
  • This is another way you can put it: “My heart is a kingdom and you are the queen who looks after my kingdom, and you will rule in this kingdom forever.”
  • “You are so perfect, darling, and I am so into you that I don’t think I could ever have enough of you. If you were food, I know I would eat lots of you and still not be satisfied because I would want more and more of you,” is another way you can put it.
  • You can decide to put it this way too: “You deserve to own the world, and I know it does not belong to you. I really wish I could give you the whole world, but I will give you something which comes close to this world—my world.”
  • “Life without you is like the summer without the sun,” is another interesting way you can express your love for her.
  • You can also decide to take her hand, look deep into her eyes, and say in a low voice, “Darling, every time I see you, my love for you grows bigger, stronger, and sometimes it feels like my love for you is a bomb on the inside which can explode at any time.”

When you are able to put it more creatively, it will not sound like she has heard it before, she will not be bored, and will always look forward to the next time you will say something different in her ears, which will put more excitement into the relationship and add diversity and variety.

This is also how to show a girl you love her without spending money because you do not need to spend anything before giving her words of love.

3. Never Compare Her to Other Girls

Some guys are fond of comparing their girls to other girls. “I wish you had a more beautiful nose than you have,” or “I like the way Jennifer treats her boyfriend. I wish you would also treat me that way,”  are some of the ways some guys compare their girls to other girls.

If you are a guy who compares your girlfriend to other girls, you will dampen her spirit and make her feel she is in competition with another girl. This does not show love.

Instead, treat her as a unique girl, and make her feel special. Let her feel  that you are proud of her, but that there is always room for improvement.

If there is something you don’t like about her, find a nice way to tell her to improve and become a better girlfriend. For example, if you think she is not romantic enough, you can say something like, “Darling, you know you are a great girl. You mean so much to me, I adore you, and will adore you even more if you try to be more affectionate. I can assure you my love for you will become even heavier.” This is how to show a girl you love her more than anything, and because she wants you to love her more, she will try to be more romantic so that she can make you happy. Do not say something like, “Jennifer is always holding Mike’s hands . I think that is very romantic. She is great when it comes to the affection she shows to her boyfriend. I do not think you are doing well in that area. You should try to be more like her.”

Not comparing a girl to other girls is how to show a girl you really love her.

4. Watch Your Tongue

The tongue is a small organ, but it can cause great havoc, and destroy relationships when it is not controlled well. It is shut up inside the mouth by a barricade of teeth, and then by the door of the lips, and still it gets loose and sometimes can be full of deadly poison and stir up a relationship in the wrong way.

The tongue is also a poisonous drug. A poisonous drug does not need to be taken in large doses in order to be effective; a drop or two will usually be enough. Just so, the tongue does not need to utter long speeches in order to be poisonous. Boyfriends and girlfriends lash, rail, and accuse each other with the tongue.

The tongue is also a fire. Fire, when it is under control, is a great blessing to man: it can be used to cook, to drive the chill out of our homes, and also to warm our bodies. But when fire is out of control, it destroys and leaves a path of desolation and destruction.

When you use your tongue wrongly by disparaging your girlfriend, or criticizing her destructively too often, it does not show a girl that you love her, and can lead to quarrels, making the whole of your relationship like a blazing hell. Using your tongue wrongly is how to show a girl you do not love her anymore.

If you want to show a  girl you love her, then restrain your tongue from spewing out a lot of destructive criticisms; she will do things you do not like, but find nice ways to tell her without sounding unnecessarily condemnatory. If you do not do this, she can leave you and give you a headache.

Another way not to show a girl you love her is to lie about her. Poisonous lies from the tongue have destroyed many relationships because a guy told a lie or destroyed the reputation of a girl.

Your tongue is a concealed and dangerous weapon. It is in a wet place and likely to slip. You must constantly guard against using it to lie and gossip about a girl if you want to show her you love her.

Try to keep secrets she shares with you, and make sure you do not harm her reputation by telling others about certain bad habits she may show in private when she is alone with you.

Also, if you want to show a girl you love her, you should not have an inconsistent tongue which says words of love to her at one moment, and then at another time criticizes destructively, mocks, lies, and defames her. When you have a consistent tongue that says only words of love and criticizes constructively, you show a girl you love her a lot.

5. Appreciate Her

There is nothing more painful in this world than to give your heart to someone or to show love to someone and expect to be appreciated, only for that person to take you for granted.

If you want to show a girl you love her, appreciate her. Appreciation  can work wonders in your relationship if you do it often. It shows a girl you love her very much and  willing to do her best to love you in return.

If she cooks a meal for you, you can say something like, “You are a fantastic cook!”

If you and your partner are rusty with appreciations, giving them will feel a bit awkward at first.  But as long as you are sincere, you will be delighted by the new level of goodwill that will begin to spring up in your relationship like trees growing new leaves, when you appreciate her often.

Start with small things you may have been taking for granted for so long, like her beautiful nose, her nice legs, the way she encourages you when you are down, how she makes you laugh because of her sense of humor, kindness she shows to your siblings etc.

When you don’t appreciate a girl, it makes her feel you don’t love her anymore, and she may have second thoughts about the relationship.

6. Give Her a Gift She Will Never Forget

Carefully write down the story of how you met her, what you felt when you first saw her, how you used to think about her when you were developing feelings for her, some of the thoughts that came into your mind when you realized you loved her, and how she has impacted on you as a person and influenced you to become a better guy. Get it printed and bound, and present it to her as a gift to show her the change she has brought to your life. Alternately, you can have the words imprinted on a wooden plaque, which she can keep in her room to always remind herself of how much you cherish her. This is how to show a girl you love her with actions.

Whenever she looks at it and reads the words, she will feel proud that she has at least influenced the way one person in the world feels. It will also make her feel she is so important to you that you cherish the story of your love so much as to want to immortalize it. This is something precious she will treasure forever. This is how to show a girlfriend you love her so much.

7. Criticize Her Constructively When She is Doing the Wrong Thing

When you love someone, you punish that person in love to correct them when they are going off the right path.

If your girl is doing something detrimental to the survival of your relationship, punish her by confronting her and giving constructive criticism: Turn on the heat in wisdom and in love when it is required. This is how to show a girl you love her without telling her. If she is drifting from the relationship, for example if she is losing focus and not giving you the attention you desire, tell her in the face. And then tenderly bring her back into the relationship by telling her what you expect of her, and that your heart is still open to her.

Some guys think that when they criticize their girls, it will make them leave. Not criticizing her at all is how to show a girl you don’t  love her, because it shows you do not care about making her a better person. Criticizing her to make her a better lover will make her know you care about her and the relationship a lot, and make her love you even more if she is a thoughtful  and wise girl.

 

Conclusion

These are some of the ways you can show a girl you love her. If you practice them consistently, you will have a beautiful relationship.

How to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special: 5 Wonderful Things You Can Do

How to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special: Say Romantic Words to Her

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If you want to be a good lover, you have to find ways to make your girlfriend feel special about your relationship, and let her know you love her.  How do you  make a woman  feel special, loved, cherished, and  adored?

1. Make Her Feel Special With Words

The way you use your tongue is a barometer of romantic maturity, and your speech reveals whether you love your girlfriend or not. The tongue can encourage the sorrowing, or it can cause emotional pain and spread distrust and induce wrong feelings.

There are two kinds of words—those that are uplifting and bring happiness and life, and there are those which tear down and destroy the spirit.

On average a man says 30,000 words a day. You can either speak wisely, or you can speak foolishly and waste words. When you use words  appropriately , you can make her feel special at all times, or feel terrible about herself.

Girls are creatures of hearing; they like to hear a lot, especially words that signify beauty and dignity, and words that make them feel that they are unlike any other girl in the world.

When you are speaking to your girlfriend, let your speech be with grace; let your words have a certain dignity—not with a tone of sarcasm. Graceful language means you will refrain from using words such as “foolish,” and “stupid,” and “prostitute,”  and “gold digger” when you are having a quarrel—these  words will not make her feel special.

When you say kind words to your girlfriend, it shows you love her, and care about her feelings, and want her to be happy. She will feel elated, excited, and special, and know you treasure her more than any other girl. Kind words can be magical; they give nutrients to the soul, and will help your girlfriend to feel connected, appreciated , and loved.

Things to Say to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special

Learn how to make her feel special with words—say  kind words  such as “Darling, you are fantastic!” or “You have a delightful sense of color in the way you dress,” or “I love the way you do your hair,” or “You cook the best meals,” or “I just love the way you smile,” or “The way you walk just sets my heart on fire,”  or “I appreciate the incredible amount of time you always spend with me, and the care you have for me. Thank you, sweetheart.” It will water her heart and make her feel good inside.

2. Show Her Genuine Love

Genuine love is not an empty claim. If you say you love your girlfriend—but your actions do not prove it—that kind of love is not genuine love. If your love produces no works, does not show in practical help, then it is mere words. Love is an invisible and intangible feeling; you can’t touch it, but you can show it in action.

One way to show genuine love is to exhibit energy and zeal and fervency for the relationship. Show that you are excited about her and about the relationship; when you are with her, talk with energy and life, not in a boring, dull manner as if you do not treasure the moments you are spending in her presence; when she asks you to do something for her, do it with a great deal of enthusiasm—put  your heart into it, and it will tell her  that her needs and burdens are of concern to you—it will make her feel special and loved.

Another way you show genuine love is by giving her thoughtful gifts from time to time. It does not necessarily have to be something expensive, but something she will cherish, and which will tell her you think she is the best girl in the world.

One day just go to her place, hold her hand, tell her to come with you. Do not tell her where you are going. If she asks you, “Where are we going?”  just tell her “to a special place.” Put her in a taxi, and then drive her to a boutique, and ask her to pick whatever she chooses.

3. Make Efforts to Improve the Relationship

You need to show you are serious about the relationship, and make conscious efforts to always make it better. This requires time, concentration, research, talking often about how you can become closer as romantic partners, assessing whether you are making progress, looking at where you are falling short, and doing your best to correct your mistakes and make yourself a better lover.

  • Regularly, it may be at the end of every week or every month, sit down quietly alone, or lie on your bed and ask yourself, “Am I a good lover? Do I deserve her? Am I impatient? Do we quarrel too often? Do I compliment her enough? Am I doing my best to satisfy her needs?” and other relevant questions. Be honest with yourself because you can never improve if you have a false sense of the efforts you are making. For example, if you know you have not been complimenting her often, admit it to yourself and make a mental note of it, and resolve to compliment her more often.
  • After you have assessed yourself, have an honest discussion with her and let her make you know how you can be a better lover.
  • Compare how you think you have fared with what she expects you to do.
  • Develop strategies to bridge the gap. For example, if she says you are too impatient, learn how you can manage your anger better. If she says you do not spend enough time with her,

It will make her feel wanted, and show her that you are utterly dedicated to making your relationship with her work, that you care so much about her that you are willing to take steps to make changes in your life so that you can make her happy.

4. Give Her Your Time

It is easy to forget this and to take your girlfriend for granted when you are occupied with school, or work and trying to make money, and facing stiff competition in class or in business—but you can never be too understanding of your girlfriend’s concerns and problems.

Make time for her—this shows that you value her and you are prepared to sacrifice other interests just for her. Tell her to talk to you about any challenges she may be having at school or at work. Listen with a sympathetic ear and do your best to offer words of encouragement and motivation.

Girls like talking  a lot. One thing you can do to make her feel special is just to be a good conversationalist—engage her in interesting conversation. Keep the discussion rolling for hours so that it will give you time to remain in her presence. Focus the conversation on her; her dreams, visions for the future, plans for her career, her ideas about family life, parenting and so on.

5. Show That You Are Not Ashamed of  Her

Some guys do not feel comfortable to be seen with their girlfriends; they feel they are doing their girlfriends a favor by being in that relationship with them.

Be different if you want your girlfriend to feel special. Let everybody, including your family and your friends see that she means a lot to you.

When you go to see your male friends with her, tell them how honored you are to have her as your girlfriend.

When you have family gatherings, invite her as a special guest and make her feel part of your family.

When you are walking in public, hold her hands and show visibly that you are happy to be with her by smiling, or showing an excited, content face. It will not be a good advert for your relationship if you are walking with her but have a frowned face; make jokes, laugh, let everybody see that you are happy and proud when you are in her presence.

Go to see your friends without her from time to time. Extol her wonderful qualities , and tell her later how you praised her to your friends. She will understand that you have no inhibitions about letting your friends know about her, and that you are comfortable to with her.

Conclusion

Pleasing a woman requires diligence, patience, and a lot of perseverance. But if you want your girlfriend to feel special so that she will feel happy, then you must do whatever it takes, and hope she will do her part to co-operate.