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How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You Again: 7 Ways to Capture Her Heart Once More

How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You Again: Make Her Feel She Belongs to You

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You may have had a fight with your girlfriend, or cheated on her, or broken up with her for another reason. This may have led her to lose her love for you. But you realize you are still in love with her and want her back. How can you make your girlfriend love you again and renew her relationship with you?

Below, I share with you things you need to do to make your girlfriend fall in love with you again.

1.     Consider How You Acted in the Past

If you want to make your girlfriend fall in love you again, take one whole day and ruminate on what caused you to behave the way you did, if you are responsible for the breakup, or what you could have done to act differently so that both of you would not have parted ways, if she was responsible for the separation.

  • Find a quiet spot or place, such as an empty school classroom, or your own room(if you will not be disturbed), or an isolated park, where you can really think without any distractions keeping you from considering all the important points you need to think about.
  • Sit with a pen and writing pad.
  • Try to remember the issues that caused your relationship to come to a halt. For example, if you remember that it was your cheating on your girlfriend which caused the relationship to breakup, note it as point 1 in your writing pad.
  • Write down how you, as a person, contributed to making the cheating happen. For example, if you cheated because you just felt like having fun with another girl, note it down. If you cheated because you saw this gorgeous girl who swept you off your feet, and who looked extremely alluring and tempting, and who gave you so much attention that you forgot about your girlfriend and succumbed to her temptation, write it down. Similarly, write down all the ways in which you contributed to making the breakup happen.
  • Write down what your girlfriend did which pushed you to do what you did. For example, if you cheated because she was nagging too much, or she was too demanding, or she was not giving you enough attention, write them down.
  • Think about, and write down, the ways in which you think you can deal with the things that caused you to do what made the breakup come about. For example if you cheated, you can write that you will be careful how you associate with other girls other than your girlfriend from now on, or you will make sure you communicate more effectively with your girlfriend, or you will learn to resolve issues better when conflicts come up so that you will not find comfort in another girl, or you resolve now to be determined to remain faithful to your girlfriend from now on.
  • Write down what you think your girlfriend should do so that you will be satisfied and comfortable in the relationship, so that you will never try to seek that comfort with another girl ever again.
  • Think about how the breakup has cost you, what it has done to you emotionally and psychologically, for example the minutes of love or companionship from your girlfriend which you have missed. Also, think about how the issue has affected your girlfriend, and the ways it has made her suffer. Let these thoughts make you feel sorry about what you did, and make the thoughts help you to resolve never to repeat the mistake again.
  • Identify how you can improve your character as a person, and what you can do to become a better lover. For example, if you identify that being inconsiderate was the reason why your girlfriend left, what do you think you can do to become more considerate of her? If you broke up with her because she was self-centered, what are the ways you can help her to become a more selfless girl?
  • Make three copies of what you wrote down, and keep one copy.
  • Work on your inner man and your attitude to life. There is no better book in the world to help you do this than the Bible. It is the roadmap for life and you will find a lot of useful advice in it which can help shape your spirit, and your soul, and this shaping will help you to relate to your girlfriend better. The books of Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, Songs of Solomon, and the Psalms hold nuggets of wisdom which can help you to shape up your life better. Read your Bible every day, and pray to God to make you a better person, and you will see a transformation in your life which will impact positively on your relationship.
  • Learn all about loving a woman again and be committed to applying the knowledge you pick up to make her feel truly loved in the future.

Looking to the past so that you can make changes to your attitude is the first step you must take when you want to make your girlfriend love you again.

2.      Let Her See What She Is Missing

If you want to make your girlfriend love you again, you need to add value to yourself so that she will see she is missing something, and that she is the one losing and not you, so that she will find you attractive again and want to be in a relationship with you again, and that may instigate her to love you again.

Therefore, if you are in school, endeavor to work very hard at your books so that you can better your grades and achieve academic excellence. When you get excellent grades, let everybody know about it, and make sure the news gets to her. If you are a worker, double your efforts at work so that you may be considered for promotion, or even be promoted.

Adding value to yourself can act as a pull factor to draw your girlfriend back to you because she will feel she is missing out on being with this great guy.

Make sure you look even more attractive by dressing even better now than when you were with her. Look even more confident, smile as you walk about, and let everyone around you see that you are at peace with yourself, and with the world.

When you meet her in public, smile into her face and greet her civilly. Ask her how she is faring, and tell her about how your life is prospering since you left her, or since she left you. This is one way to make your girlfriend fall back in love with you again.

3.     Make the Move

When you feel you are over what caused the breakup, and you think you have assessed yourself thoroughly and you want to go forward and reunite with her, then make efforts to contact your girlfriend.

  • You may decide to contact her yourself, if the nature off the breakup was not acrimonious.
  • You may use her close friends or her relatives to drop hints that you want to meet her and have an honest discussion with her.
  • Invite her over to your place for a drink, or to watch a movie together, if she will be willing to oblige you. As the man, you must take the initiative to solve relationship problems, and that is what you demonstrate when you invite her to your place, and not vice versa. It shows leadership, and will help you establish your authority over her again if the relationship works out again.
  • On the day you are going to have the discussion with her at your place, create a romantic atmosphere for both of you. This is very crucial if you want to make your girlfriend love you again. Play her favorite love songs in the room where you will hold the discussions, place a picture of both of you at an advantageous place where she will see it immediately she comes to the place. The music will touch her emotions and make her sentimental, whilst the picture will remind her of the wonderful times you had in the past, and these two things may bring back fresh, love memories into her mind. The memories may influence her and make her have fresh love feelings for you if, subsequently, you say the right things.

4.     Remind Her You Are Human

You have to use the argument of your humanness to make your girlfriend fall in love with you again. Take the opportunity of the meeting to remind her that you are only human, and so would make mistakes.

  • Apologize sincerely for your contribution to what led to her losing her love for you.
  • Tell her you have reflected deeply on what happened, and you have seen you erred greatly. Let her know because of your humanness, you succumbed to the weakness, but just as there are many humans who have messed up terribly in life and have bounced back, you also feel you will bounce back and love her even more than you used to love her if she will just give you another chance.
  • You can use the stories of Peter, or David, or the gentleman in Judges 19 in the Bible to support your case. Read how these two men messed up, and how they came back to redeem themselves, and use the lessons you learn from these two stories to convince her that it is possible for a person to mess up terribly, but to become even better than he was later, when he is forgiven and given a second chance.
  • Show what you have written down to her to make her know that you are serious about tackling your weaknesses and improving your attitude. Give her one copy of what you wrote down, and give her a third copy to be given to a person of her choice who will act as an “overseer” and see to it that you act by what you have written down. This can influence her and make her fall in love with you again because she will see you are bent on really loving her, and this may make her more willing to give you her heart again.
  • Show you have changed when you are having this discussion. If you used to speak to her in harsh tones, speak in a slow, measured way. If you were unromantic before, use romantic words as you speak to her. Call her “honey,” or “love,” or “sugar,” as you speak to her. You must say things, or do something whilst you are with her to make her see that you have changed. This will influence her to want to renew her feelings for you again. This can make your girlfriend love you again.

5.     Remind Her of Her Humanness

You can point out a woman’s faults to her and let her see that what happened to you can also happen to her, if you want to make your woman fall in love with you again.

  • Make your girlfriend remember that she has also done things to hurt you in the past. Remind her of specific things she did to hurt you when you were together. For example, if there was an occasion on which she neglected you, or if she insulted you once, or if she got angry because you were not in a position to buy her a smartphone in the past, remind her of how her reaction hurt you, and the way you decided to let go because you loved her and wanted the relationship to progress. And tell her that just as you forgave, she should find it in her heart to forgive you.
  • Point out the specific things she did to make you lose your love for her, that is her contribution to the breakup or fight. Let her see she also has to carry some of the blame. Then discuss what you can do to make compromises so that you can renew your love again.
  • Give her a copy of what you wrote down as evidence that you will do things differently now.

6.     Tell Her the Rewards You Will Give Her

  • If you want to make a girl love you more again, then tell her you are still capable of loving her, and you want to show her even greater love. Assure her of your love for her. Give her evidence by showing her all the information on loving a woman again which you have gathered. This will tell her that you mean business, and it may influence her to throw down the wall which she may have built in her heart, and give you full access to her heart again.
  • Tell her the kind of love you will use to love her this time, which will be consistent, stable, undying, everlasting love.
  • When you renew your relationship, do even more than you told her you would do. Shower so much love on her that she will even beg you to reduce the amount of love you are giving her! It will make your girlfriend fall madly in love with you again.

7.     Make Her Feel She Belongs to a Relationship With You

If you want to make a girl fall in love with you again, you must make her see that you were a great couple, and she can become an important part of your life again and make you a better person if she comes back.

  • Let her know how she impacted on your life, and how important she is to you. For example, you can say something like, “I had low self-esteem until I met you and you made me feel I was the greatest guy in the whole world,” or “I never knew love until you taught me how to love.” This will make her know she is important to you, and it will make her feel she has an unfinished job to do, which is to love you and help make you a better person. It may influence her to love you again.
  • Let her know you need her presence, and make her feel she’s needed by your side. You can say something such as, “I really miss you, Ama. A hole has been created in my heart since you left. I remember the delicious recipes you used to prepare for me? I remember the words of love you used to share with me. We were so good together. Hmmm! Ama, I need you. I want you back in my life. Please consider giving your heart to me again.”

Conclusion

If you want to make your girlfriend love you again, do the things mentioned above in addition to making your girlfriend feel very important, showing her you care, making sure you keep things exciting in the relationship, and trying to get her to refresh her feelings for you, and you will keep her forever.

How did you make your girlfriend love you again? What was the magic formula you used? Let the world know by leaving a comment. Thank you.

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How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You: 5 Smart Ways to Achieve It

How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You:Learn How to Maintain Peace

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How can you make your girlfriend love you so that your relationship will get stronger and better? What are some of the things you can do to make your girlfriend love you forever?

Below, I show you how to make your girlfriend love you so that you can enjoy her companionship better.

1.     Learn How to Maintain Peace

One of the biggest sources of stress in romantic relationships has to do with lack of peace in the relationship. Getting along well with your girlfriend, who was brought up in a different home under different circumstances, requires effort on your part, especially when she does things to irritate you.

When you are at peace with yourself, you do not become restless and frightened for your relationship, and you are better able to treat your girlfriend right. When you treat her right, there is a greater chance she will love you.

If you want to make your girlfriend love you, you must learn how to live at peace with yourself, and with her. This will ensure that the right atmosphere is created between the two of you for the love you have for each other to flourish.

If you do not maintain the peace in the relationship, and you are always finding fault with what she does, or you look down on her, or you allow jealous feelings to invade your heart when you see she is friendly with other guys, or you are abusive, or you are unfaithful, or you are self-centered, then she cannot feel motivated to love you.

What are some of the things you can do to live at peace with your girlfriend, create harmony in the relationship, and strengthen your love bond?

  1. Make up your mind that you are going to cultivate a humble spirit, and maintain a humble attitude even if your girlfriend decides to be beastly, cantankerous, and mean.
  2. Try to see your spouse’s point of view when you have disagreements. Do not expect your girlfriend to be your carbon copy. Do not expect her to behave just like you do. Recognize that the way she thinks may be different from the way you think. Her likes may be different from your likes. For example, she may like her food bland, whilst you may like your food spicy. In such a situation, you can make peace when you decide to compromise so that each will learn how to adopt to the taste of the other, or you may decide to eat what you like, and allow your girlfriend to also eat what she wants. To make peace, you have to understand each other.
  3. Be careful the way you use your tongue. Gossiping about your girlfriend to your friends, slandering her, and exaggerating things and blowing them out of proportion (the minor irritations that occur in the relationship) are all things that can destroy peace in the relationship.
  4. Learn how to communicate charitably. Do not lose your temper, raise your voice, or bang doors when you are angry with your girlfriend. Try to control yourself. Honestly try to approach your girlfriend and make efforts to become reconciled. You can say something such as, “We need to resolve our issues. I think we messed up, darling, and we must clean up the mess by discussing this issue,” instead of saying, “I am very upset with you. It is all your fault. If you had listened to me, all this would not have come up.” Using “we” instead of “you” or “I” shows you feel you are also a part of the problem, and prevents shifting all the blame onto your girlfriend. When you shift the blame onto her, she will be forced to become defensive, and that may mean she may attack you to defend her integrity.

 

2.     Learn How to Be Patient

You must learn to develop the quality of self-restraint which does not quickly retaliate even when the provocation is of a magnitude that is difficult to take, if you want to make your girlfriend love you even more.

When you are patient, it will prevent fights, and so your girlfriend’s emotions will not be ruffled, and this will make her continue to love you.

You must therefore develop the ability to absorb irritating things, such as your girlfriend nagging often, without becoming emotionally and psychologically paralyzed(to refuse to do things you must do just because your girlfriend has hurt your feelings, such as spending time with her, or showing her affection).

  • Try to control your temper. Anger has destroyed many relationships, and caused regret in a lot of relationships.
  • See patience as postponing your anger to a later date, or indefinitely.
  • Say something such as, “I will get angry tomorrow,” or “I will get angry next week,” when you are very angry that. Keep postponing your anger every time and with time you will realize that you are better able to control your temper, and your anger. After all what would it cost you if you decide to postpone your anger for a day, a week, a month, or indefinitely? You will lose absolutely nothing because anger is not an asset!

    3. Show You Love Her

If you want to make your girlfriend love you like crazy, then you need to show her that you really love you.

One way you can show you love her is to practice constant forgiveness towards her. As the Bible says in Matthew 6 : 12, “Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors.”  You have sinned against God many times, and God has forgiven you a lot of times. Therefore, He requires that you should also learn to forgive any person who wrongs you, including your girlfriend.

Forgiving your girlfriend when she wrongs you can be hard at times because as humans, we have our egos hurt when we suffer at the hands of our loved ones, and that makes us want to pay back.

If you carry an unforgiving heart, you are more likely to pick up quarrels with your girlfriend because you will make a big issue out of every little thing. This is bound to disturb your girlfriend emotionally, to cause her psychological trauma, and it may make her love for you wane.

How can you practice constant forgiveness towards your girlfriend so that you can make her love you?

  • You must learn to understand her. There is always a reason why a person does something. If she becomes cross-tempered, maybe she is having her menses and is disturbed emotionally and psychologically. If she treats you with suspicion and picks up quarrels with you often, maybe she misunderstands your motives, or she has been misunderstood about something you said or did. Maybe she is the victim of her environment or her own heredity—She was brought up in a home where her mother was always quarrelling with her father. Maybe her temperament is such that life is difficult, and human relations is a problem for her—She may be a choleric or sanguine extroverted person. When you understand her better, forgiving her would be easier for you. So, remember her past. Let it inform you and make you calm down when you are upset with her.
  • You must learn to forget. So long as you remember what she does to you, and allow the wrong things she does or says to you to remain strongly in your mind, and brood upon the slights and injuries she causes you, the likelihood that you will forgive her and let it go is drastically reduced. You may say, “I can’t forget what Yaa did to me,” or “I will never forget how Ama treated me in Lovers Restaurant!” These kinds of sayings are very dangerous, because they can make it extremely difficult, or maybe humanly impossible, for you to forget. When you say things like these, it can make you print the memory of what your girlfriend did to you indelibly on your mind. To forgive is the sign of a great lover, and to forget is sublime. Therefore, try to think about her positive sides, the good things she has done for you in the past, when you are tempted to remind yourself of the bad things she has done to you.
  • You must pray. Nothing but the cleansing spirit of Jesus can take the memories of the bad things your girlfriend does to you out of your mind, and remove the bitterness from your heart. Therefore, pray to God to help you forgive your girlfriend. You can pray something like, “Dear God, Yaa has done something to hurt me deeply. She called me a toad when we were quarrelling. This remark hurt me a lot. I want to forgive her, but I find it difficult to do so. I keep remembering that remark every time I see her big head, and it always gives me bitter feelings. Please help me to forget that remark.” If you are sincere, God will help you to let go of the hurt, and He will erase the memory from your mind. It is true that even if you forgive and forget those memories will come to your mind sometimes, but it will not have a hold over you, and cause you to be bitter towards her.

Showing love to her is one way to make your girlfriend love you.

4. Make Her Feel Special

One way you can make your girlfriend love you is to make her feel special.

  • Upload her picture onto Facebook and write fifty things you feel are great about her, and fifty ways in which you think she is special. Share this post with your friends, and the public, and tag her. When she sees the post, it will make her know you value her as a person by virtue of the fact that you are extolling her qualities in front of the whole world. She will appreciate it, and she will appreciate you more and fall in love with you even more.
  • Say romantic things to her. You can say something like, “My love for you is the air I breath, darling, and I know there will never be an end to this air, “ or “Some get addicted to alcohol. Some get addicted to drugs. Some get addicted to sleazy material, but I am addicted to the most pleasurable thing in the world, which is you, my sweetheart,” or “Your love is more precious to me than the most expensive gold or diamond in this world.” Come up with more of such romantic words. Use your creativity and say words that will make her feel she is the best girlfriend in the world.

    5. Give Love

The Bible says in Luke 6:38 that, “Give, and it will be given to you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For the measure you give will be the measure you get back.”

You must give if you want to receive. When you give love to your girlfriend, you will receive love from her. The more you love her, the more she will also love you.

Therefore, if you want to make your girlfriend love you, you must love her and show that you are a considerate, caring, loyal, compassionate, and an adoring and empathetic boyfriend who feels she is one of the best things to happen to this world, and one of the best things to happen to your life. This will encourage her to reciprocate your love, and she will also treat you like you are the most wonderful boyfriend in the world.

 

Conclusion

If you will diligently do these things, and also date her often, and keep her happy, you can make your girlfriend love you, and you will be able to keep her  forever.

 

 

What are some of the things you do to make your girlfriend love you? Please share them with the world by leaving a comment. Thank you.

How to Show a Girl You Love Her: 7 Great Ways to Let Her Know

How to Show a Girl You Love Her: Say Words of Love to Her

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How do you show a girl you love her? What are some of the things you can do to show a girl you adore and treasure her?

1. Do Not Pressure Her For Sex

God made sex for a purpose. He made sex so that married people will use it to strengthen the marriage bond, and  to get more tender feelings for their spouse. He  knew it could  lead to the birth of a child which would need the loving care of both  a father and a mother, that is why He said it is married people, who can take care of that responsibility, who should have sex.

Unfortunately in today’s world, many guys do not see anything wrong with sleeping with a girl when you are not married to her. But God sees everything wrong with it, and punishes people who engage in pre-marital sex.

God takes a very serious view of  having sex when you are not married. In the Bible days, God killed 23,000 people in one day because of  immorality. That is how serious He takes it! And immorality will be one of the reasons why some people will end up in hell, because it is a sin God hates.

If you want to show a girl, especially a Christian girl, that you love her, then you would definitely not want her to incur God’s wrath, which she can do if she sleeps with you out of wedlock. Therefore, you will not pressurize her to do something that will have devastating consequences for her. You will not ask her to sleep with you and sin, because you care so much about her and her soul. When you love someone, you care about the whole of that person, including the soul and eternal destination of the person you love.

If you want to show a girl you love her, then you will control your sexual urge, not force her or worry her to have sex with you and do the wrong thing, but wait till you can marry her before you sleep with her. This shows you respect her as a person, respect her body, and also that you respect her right to have control over her own body. This is one way to show  a girl you love her without saying it.

2. Say Words of Love to Her

If you want to show a girl you care and love her, you will say words of love to her often. Girls like  to hear nice and sweet words said to them. Therefore, if you want to show a girl you love her, or make a girl fall for you, say sweet, beautiful words to her often.

“I love you,” are words that most guys say often. But you can take it a step further by saying these words in creative ways to make it more appealing and romantic, since girls hear “I love you” all the time.

  • You can say something like, “My heart is an unending well that produces fresh feelings for you every time I see you, darling, and this well will never cease to continue pouring out tender feelings of adoration for you.”
  • You can say, “Honey, I felt so incomplete I think I was a half-person before I met you. You have brought the other half and made me whole and complete.”
  • You can say, “I know angels go with me wherever I go, but I don’t see them. But you are the angel that I see.”
  • This is another way you can put it: “My heart is a kingdom and you are the queen who looks after my kingdom, and you will rule in this kingdom forever.”
  • “You are so perfect, darling, and I am so into you that I don’t think I could ever have enough of you. If you were food, I know I would eat lots of you and still not be satisfied because I would want more and more of you,” is another way you can put it.
  • You can decide to put it this way too: “You deserve to own the world, and I know it does not belong to you. I really wish I could give you the whole world, but I will give you something which comes close to this world—my world.”
  • “Life without you is like the summer without the sun,” is another interesting way you can express your love for her.
  • You can also decide to take her hand, look deep into her eyes, and say in a low voice, “Darling, every time I see you, my love for you grows bigger, stronger, and sometimes it feels like my love for you is a bomb on the inside which can explode at any time.”

When you are able to put it more creatively, it will not sound like she has heard it before, she will not be bored, and will always look forward to the next time you will say something different in her ears, which will put more excitement into the relationship and add diversity and variety.

This is also how to show a girl you love her without spending money because you do not need to spend anything before giving her words of love.

3. Never Compare Her to Other Girls

Some guys are fond of comparing their girls to other girls. “I wish you had a more beautiful nose than you have,” or “I like the way Jennifer treats her boyfriend. I wish you would also treat me that way,”  are some of the ways some guys compare their girls to other girls.

If you are a guy who compares your girlfriend to other girls, you will dampen her spirit and make her feel she is in competition with another girl. This does not show love.

Instead, treat her as a unique girl, and make her feel special. Let her feel  that you are proud of her, but that there is always room for improvement.

If there is something you don’t like about her, find a nice way to tell her to improve and become a better girlfriend. For example, if you think she is not romantic enough, you can say something like, “Darling, you know you are a great girl. You mean so much to me, I adore you, and will adore you even more if you try to be more affectionate. I can assure you my love for you will become even heavier.” This is how to show a girl you love her more than anything, and because she wants you to love her more, she will try to be more romantic so that she can make you happy. Do not say something like, “Jennifer is always holding Mike’s hands . I think that is very romantic. She is great when it comes to the affection she shows to her boyfriend. I do not think you are doing well in that area. You should try to be more like her.”

Not comparing a girl to other girls is how to show a girl you really love her.

4. Watch Your Tongue

The tongue is a small organ, but it can cause great havoc, and destroy relationships when it is not controlled well. It is shut up inside the mouth by a barricade of teeth, and then by the door of the lips, and still it gets loose and sometimes can be full of deadly poison and stir up a relationship in the wrong way.

The tongue is also a poisonous drug. A poisonous drug does not need to be taken in large doses in order to be effective; a drop or two will usually be enough. Just so, the tongue does not need to utter long speeches in order to be poisonous. Boyfriends and girlfriends lash, rail, and accuse each other with the tongue.

The tongue is also a fire. Fire, when it is under control, is a great blessing to man: it can be used to cook, to drive the chill out of our homes, and also to warm our bodies. But when fire is out of control, it destroys and leaves a path of desolation and destruction.

When you use your tongue wrongly by disparaging your girlfriend, or criticizing her destructively too often, it does not show a girl that you love her, and can lead to quarrels, making the whole of your relationship like a blazing hell. Using your tongue wrongly is how to show a girl you do not love her anymore.

If you want to show a  girl you love her, then restrain your tongue from spewing out a lot of destructive criticisms; she will do things you do not like, but find nice ways to tell her without sounding unnecessarily condemnatory. If you do not do this, she can leave you and give you a headache.

Another way not to show a girl you love her is to lie about her. Poisonous lies from the tongue have destroyed many relationships because a guy told a lie or destroyed the reputation of a girl.

Your tongue is a concealed and dangerous weapon. It is in a wet place and likely to slip. You must constantly guard against using it to lie and gossip about a girl if you want to show her you love her.

Try to keep secrets she shares with you, and make sure you do not harm her reputation by telling others about certain bad habits she may show in private when she is alone with you.

Also, if you want to show a girl you love her, you should not have an inconsistent tongue which says words of love to her at one moment, and then at another time criticizes destructively, mocks, lies, and defames her. When you have a consistent tongue that says only words of love and criticizes constructively, you show a girl you love her a lot.

5. Appreciate Her

There is nothing more painful in this world than to give your heart to someone or to show love to someone and expect to be appreciated, only for that person to take you for granted.

If you want to show a girl you love her, appreciate her. Appreciation  can work wonders in your relationship if you do it often. It shows a girl you love her very much and  willing to do her best to love you in return.

If she cooks a meal for you, you can say something like, “You are a fantastic cook!”

If you and your partner are rusty with appreciations, giving them will feel a bit awkward at first.  But as long as you are sincere, you will be delighted by the new level of goodwill that will begin to spring up in your relationship like trees growing new leaves, when you appreciate her often.

Start with small things you may have been taking for granted for so long, like her beautiful nose, her nice legs, the way she encourages you when you are down, how she makes you laugh because of her sense of humor, kindness she shows to your siblings etc.

When you don’t appreciate a girl, it makes her feel you don’t love her anymore, and she may have second thoughts about the relationship.

6. Give Her a Gift She Will Never Forget

Carefully write down the story of how you met her, what you felt when you first saw her, how you used to think about her when you were developing feelings for her, some of the thoughts that came into your mind when you realized you loved her, and how she has impacted on you as a person and influenced you to become a better guy. Get it printed and bound, and present it to her as a gift to show her the change she has brought to your life. Alternately, you can have the words imprinted on a wooden plaque, which she can keep in her room to always remind herself of how much you cherish her. This is how to show a girl you love her with actions.

Whenever she looks at it and reads the words, she will feel proud that she has at least influenced the way one person in the world feels. It will also make her feel she is so important to you that you cherish the story of your love so much as to want to immortalize it. This is something precious she will treasure forever. This is how to show a girlfriend you love her so much.

7. Criticize Her Constructively When She is Doing the Wrong Thing

When you love someone, you punish that person in love to correct them when they are going off the right path.

If your girl is doing something detrimental to the survival of your relationship, punish her by confronting her and giving constructive criticism: Turn on the heat in wisdom and in love when it is required. This is how to show a girl you love her without telling her. If she is drifting from the relationship, for example if she is losing focus and not giving you the attention you desire, tell her in the face. And then tenderly bring her back into the relationship by telling her what you expect of her, and that your heart is still open to her.

Some guys think that when they criticize their girls, it will make them leave. Not criticizing her at all is how to show a girl you don’t  love her, because it shows you do not care about making her a better person. Criticizing her to make her a better lover will make her know you care about her and the relationship a lot, and make her love you even more if she is a thoughtful  and wise girl.

 

Conclusion

These are some of the ways you can show a girl you love her. If you practice them consistently, you will have a beautiful relationship.

How to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special: 5 Wonderful Things You Can Do

How to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special: Say Romantic Words to Her

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If you want to be a good lover, you have to find ways to make your girlfriend feel special about your relationship, and let her know you love her.  How do you  make a woman  feel special, loved, cherished, and  adored?

1. Make Her Feel Special With Words

The way you use your tongue is a barometer of romantic maturity, and your speech reveals whether you love your girlfriend or not. The tongue can encourage the sorrowing, or it can cause emotional pain and spread distrust and induce wrong feelings.

There are two kinds of words—those that are uplifting and bring happiness and life, and there are those which tear down and destroy the spirit.

On average a man says 30,000 words a day. You can either speak wisely, or you can speak foolishly and waste words. When you use words  appropriately , you can make her feel special at all times, or feel terrible about herself.

Girls are creatures of hearing; they like to hear a lot, especially words that signify beauty and dignity, and words that make them feel that they are unlike any other girl in the world.

When you are speaking to your girlfriend, let your speech be with grace; let your words have a certain dignity—not with a tone of sarcasm. Graceful language means you will refrain from using words such as “foolish,” and “stupid,” and “prostitute,”  and “gold digger” when you are having a quarrel—these  words will not make her feel special.

When you say kind words to your girlfriend, it shows you love her, and care about her feelings, and want her to be happy. She will feel elated, excited, and special, and know you treasure her more than any other girl. Kind words can be magical; they give nutrients to the soul, and will help your girlfriend to feel connected, appreciated , and loved.

Things to Say to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special

Learn how to make her feel special with words—say  kind words  such as “Darling, you are fantastic!” or “You have a delightful sense of color in the way you dress,” or “I love the way you do your hair,” or “You cook the best meals,” or “I just love the way you smile,” or “The way you walk just sets my heart on fire,”  or “I appreciate the incredible amount of time you always spend with me, and the care you have for me. Thank you, sweetheart.” It will water her heart and make her feel good inside.

2. Show Her Genuine Love

Genuine love is not an empty claim. If you say you love your girlfriend—but your actions do not prove it—that kind of love is not genuine love. If your love produces no works, does not show in practical help, then it is mere words. Love is an invisible and intangible feeling; you can’t touch it, but you can show it in action.

One way to show genuine love is to exhibit energy and zeal and fervency for the relationship. Show that you are excited about her and about the relationship; when you are with her, talk with energy and life, not in a boring, dull manner as if you do not treasure the moments you are spending in her presence; when she asks you to do something for her, do it with a great deal of enthusiasm—put  your heart into it, and it will tell her  that her needs and burdens are of concern to you—it will make her feel special and loved.

Another way you show genuine love is by giving her thoughtful gifts from time to time. It does not necessarily have to be something expensive, but something she will cherish, and which will tell her you think she is the best girl in the world.

One day just go to her place, hold her hand, tell her to come with you. Do not tell her where you are going. If she asks you, “Where are we going?”  just tell her “to a special place.” Put her in a taxi, and then drive her to a boutique, and ask her to pick whatever she chooses.

3. Make Efforts to Improve the Relationship

You need to show you are serious about the relationship, and make conscious efforts to always make it better. This requires time, concentration, research, talking often about how you can become closer as romantic partners, assessing whether you are making progress, looking at where you are falling short, and doing your best to correct your mistakes and make yourself a better lover.

  • Regularly, it may be at the end of every week or every month, sit down quietly alone, or lie on your bed and ask yourself, “Am I a good lover? Do I deserve her? Am I impatient? Do we quarrel too often? Do I compliment her enough? Am I doing my best to satisfy her needs?” and other relevant questions. Be honest with yourself because you can never improve if you have a false sense of the efforts you are making. For example, if you know you have not been complimenting her often, admit it to yourself and make a mental note of it, and resolve to compliment her more often.
  • After you have assessed yourself, have an honest discussion with her and let her make you know how you can be a better lover.
  • Compare how you think you have fared with what she expects you to do.
  • Develop strategies to bridge the gap. For example, if she says you are too impatient, learn how you can manage your anger better. If she says you do not spend enough time with her,

It will make her feel wanted, and show her that you are utterly dedicated to making your relationship with her work, that you care so much about her that you are willing to take steps to make changes in your life so that you can make her happy.

4. Give Her Your Time

It is easy to forget this and to take your girlfriend for granted when you are occupied with school, or work and trying to make money, and facing stiff competition in class or in business—but you can never be too understanding of your girlfriend’s concerns and problems.

Make time for her—this shows that you value her and you are prepared to sacrifice other interests just for her. Tell her to talk to you about any challenges she may be having at school or at work. Listen with a sympathetic ear and do your best to offer words of encouragement and motivation.

Girls like talking  a lot. One thing you can do to make her feel special is just to be a good conversationalist—engage her in interesting conversation. Keep the discussion rolling for hours so that it will give you time to remain in her presence. Focus the conversation on her; her dreams, visions for the future, plans for her career, her ideas about family life, parenting and so on.

5. Show That You Are Not Ashamed of  Her

Some guys do not feel comfortable to be seen with their girlfriends; they feel they are doing their girlfriends a favor by being in that relationship with them.

Be different if you want your girlfriend to feel special. Let everybody, including your family and your friends see that she means a lot to you.

When you go to see your male friends with her, tell them how honored you are to have her as your girlfriend.

When you have family gatherings, invite her as a special guest and make her feel part of your family.

When you are walking in public, hold her hands and show visibly that you are happy to be with her by smiling, or showing an excited, content face. It will not be a good advert for your relationship if you are walking with her but have a frowned face; make jokes, laugh, let everybody see that you are happy and proud when you are in her presence.

Go to see your friends without her from time to time. Extol her wonderful qualities , and tell her later how you praised her to your friends. She will understand that you have no inhibitions about letting your friends know about her, and that you are comfortable to with her.

Conclusion

Pleasing a woman requires diligence, patience, and a lot of perseverance. But if you want your girlfriend to feel special so that she will feel happy, then you must do whatever it takes, and hope she will do her part to co-operate.