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How to Get a Girl to Fall in Love With You: 9 Cool Ways to Do It

How to Get a Girl to Fall in Love With You: Be a Real Man

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How can you get a girl to fall in love with you if you think she is a great girl, and you have admired her for a long time, and you are dying to have a relationship with her so that you can show her how much you love her? What are some of the smart things you can do to make this dream come true?

1.     Be a Teacher

If you want to get a girl to fall in love with you, you must demonstrate to her that you know a lot more about the world than she knows, and you must also let her know you are very knowledgeable about some of the things that interest women most, such as fashion, beauty, skin care, and the like. When you are able to let her know that you have an interest in these things, and you even give her tips on how to dress well, foods and the lifestyle you should live if you want to look beautiful, and she applies this knowledge and sees it is working, her admiration for you will soar, and her attraction for you will become stronger, and this attraction may eventually lead her to fall in love with you.

Therefore, decide to school yourself in fashion, beauty, skin care, the right perfumes that are suitable for different kinds of girls, makeup, good hair care etc. Read wide on these topics so that you can drop some of these tips when you are having conversations with her. When she sees your knowledge in these areas, she will die for more of your time, and as you spend more time together, love can develop.

How can you get a girl to fall in love with you? Become knowledgeable in the things that interest women.

2.     Learn How to Write Great Love Poems

One thing that girls love a lot is to hear love words that extol their virtues, and also to hear romantic words. These things touch their hearts and make them sentimental.

If you want to get a girl to fall in love with you, then learn how you can write customized love poems for her.

  • The Songs of Solomon, in the Bible, is a good place to start. Learn some of the techniques which Solomon, who was a great lover, used to get about one thousand women to fall in love with him.
  • Also, there are many websites that teach how to write good poems.
  • Just Google “How to write a romantic poem for a girl,” or “How to write a love poem for a girl you love.” Choose one or two of those websites and study how you can write a poem that is specifically targeted at the girl you are interested in. this means you will include her specific physical and character attributes in the poem.
  • On weekends, or on days when the two of you have some leisure time, and the moon is smiling down on the Earth, and there are millions of stars in the sky shining down on you, take her to a romantic spot, such as a lakeside, or a botanical garden, or a quiet forest, or the beach. Let her sit at your feet, and then read the poem you have written for her, to her. Make it personal by making sure her name appears in the poem. Smile into her face and read it in a mellow, romantic, smooth voice, whilst looking into her eyes.
  • This act of romance you show can work wonders on her emotions and make her see you are a very romantic guy, and that can cause her to fall in love with you because girls like guys who are very romantic.

So, if you want to get a girl to fall in love with you, learn the art of writing good love poems, and excite her heart to love by reading these poems to her once in a while.

3.     Learn to Sing

One thing you can do to get a girl to fall in love with you is to sing love ballads to her. When a girl hears you singing love words, in the form of a song, to her, it will stimulate romantic feelings in her, and she may fall in love with you because of that.

  • If you are worried about the fact that you do not have a good voice, you should not worry because you can improve your voice if you practice singing every day. Sing when you are going to the bathroom, when you are alone in your room, and when you are alone in the house.
  • You must also remind yourself that you do not necessarily have to sing like a professional musician before your singing can achieve the purpose for which you are singing. The important thing is to put together a group of words that will show that you can pass romantic energy on to a girl to influence her to think that you are a romantic guy, so that she will want to be with you often.
  • It will be to your advantage to also learn how to play the guitar, or how to play a piano, or keyboards, so that you can put together great love songs for her.
  • Then, find special times when you can be alone with her, and sing whilst you play the piano or guitar. She will be touched, and it may influence her to fall in love with you.
  • Organize a small party for her. Invite about five or ten of your close friends, and about ten of her close friends. Sing a song you have specially written for her. It will increase her affection for you because you think she is so special as to deserve a song written specially for her. She will fall in love with you because of this.

Singing to a girl is one way to get a girl to fall in love with you fast.

4.     Learn How to Cook

One thing that girls find very sexy is a guy who knows how to cook. It makes you look extraordinary and special, and girls like guys who are not like every other guy.

So, ask her about her favorite meals. Then, spend time to learn how to prepare those meals so that you can surprise her on a special occasion, such as her birthday, or a day when she achieves something great, such as academic success, or she gets a promotion at work. Invite her to your place and cook the meal for her. She will be so impressed, and her admiration for you will go high, and that can make her develop a strong affection for you.

Learning how to cook, and impressing the girl with your cooking skills, is one way to get a girl to fall in love with you.

5.     Try to Become Popular

Girls are attracted to guys who are popular, and who a lot of people talk about. Therefore, if you want to get a girl to fall in love with you, harness your potential, and sharpen your talents which can make you become popular:

  1. If you have good soccer skills, develop that talent by practicing constantly so that you can make it to the school team and represent your school.
  2. If you are good in acting, perfect your talent so that you can get roles for plays performed by the school drama group.
  3. If you know how to play a musical instrument, keep practicing at it so that you can join the school band.
  4. If you are good at designing clothes, or painting, or reading, whatever talent you have, aim for excellence. Excellence will open up opportunities to you, you will become famous, and that will attract many girls to you. You can then look for the a girl you feel attracted to from among the lot, and develop a relationship with her so that she can fall in love with you.
  5. If you are a worker, work hard so that you can earn a promotion, and when a girl sees that you are earning more money, she will be attracted to you, and fall in love with you.
  6. Strive for academic excellence, if you are in school, and that excellence will propel your name all around school, making you popular, which will make girls get attracted to you. You can then take advantage of their attraction to date one you like.

6.     Tell Her Romance Stories

One thing you can do to get a girl to fall in love with you is to tell her romance stories. Girls like to hear stories. When you are a guy and you can develop the skill of storytelling, especially telling a girl romance stories, you can get the girl to fall in love with you.

There is this female friend of mine who told me she was attracted to, and fell in love with her present boyfriend, because he was good at telling stories. And I am sure there are many girls like her who will develop affection for a guy when he can tell them good romance stories.

So, master the art of telling good stories. When you watch romance movies and you love them, or when you read romance novels and you love the stories, practice saying the story all over again to yourself, or to your siblings. Also, when you meet your male friends, repeat it to them. When you are eating as a family in the evening, say a summary of the story to the whole family. All these practices will help you to improve your storytelling skills.

Then, later, when you meet the girl, tell her some of these stories, or romance stories you create yourself. She will ask for more if you tell them well, and this can strengthen your friendship, and cause romantic feelings to grow between the two of you.

7.     Be a Real Man

A girl wants a guy who is a real guy, that is, a guy who is bold, confident, courageous, and someone she will be proud to go out with.

So, if you want to get a girl to fall in love with you, you must exhibit these qualities:

  1. You must treat girls with respect.
  2. You must be a helpful person.
  3. You must be a leader who takes the initiative to solve problems, and who shows courage in dangerous situations.
  4. You must have a vision and purpose for your life.

Exhibiting these qualities will make you attractive to a girl, and she will want so much to have a relationship with you.

So, if you want to get a girl to fall in love with you, be a man who exhibits the qualities enumerated above.

8.     Be Playful

One way to get a girl to fall in love with you is to exhibit a playful, childish character when you are around her. This will tell her that you are great fun to be with, and that she will have fun-filled days when she associates herself romantically with you. This could influence her to fall in love with you.

  • Therefore, try to shed a bit of your “I am a mature man,” or “I must be serious because I am old” attitude.
  • Relax and have fun.
  • Tickle her, tease her, get her to play soccer, or basketball, or dance with you. Become a child again, and you could get a girl to fall in love with you.

9.     Be Extremely Caring

One of the surest ways you can get a girl to fall in love with you is to exhibit a very caring nature which shows tenderness.

  • One way to do this is to write an article about the girl, in which you state how wonderful she is as a person.
  • Then, upload this article onto a free blogging site such as com or Blogger.com.
  • Post it together with a picture of the girl you are interested in.
  • Then, alert her to what you have done and let her read it.

When she thinks about the fact that she means so much to you, as to influence you to spend time, money, and energy to let the whole world  know about her great personality, she will see how you care about her, and she can develop affectionate feelings for you, and fall in love with you.

Conclusion

In addition to the tips mentioned above, if you want to get a girl to fall in love with you, approach her well, make her feel special, learn how to date her well, show her love,  and learn how you can make her attracted to you.

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How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You Again: 7 Ways to Capture Her Heart Once More

How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You Again: Make Her Feel She Belongs to You

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You may have had a fight with your girlfriend, or cheated on her, or broken up with her for another reason. This may have led her to lose her love for you. But you realize you are still in love with her and want her back. How can you make your girlfriend love you again and renew her relationship with you?

Below, I share with you things you need to do to make your girlfriend fall in love with you again.

1.     Consider How You Acted in the Past

If you want to make your girlfriend fall in love you again, take one whole day and ruminate on what caused you to behave the way you did, if you are responsible for the breakup, or what you could have done to act differently so that both of you would not have parted ways, if she was responsible for the separation.

  • Find a quiet spot or place, such as an empty school classroom, or your own room(if you will not be disturbed), or an isolated park, where you can really think without any distractions keeping you from considering all the important points you need to think about.
  • Sit with a pen and writing pad.
  • Try to remember the issues that caused your relationship to come to a halt. For example, if you remember that it was your cheating on your girlfriend which caused the relationship to breakup, note it as point 1 in your writing pad.
  • Write down how you, as a person, contributed to making the cheating happen. For example, if you cheated because you just felt like having fun with another girl, note it down. If you cheated because you saw this gorgeous girl who swept you off your feet, and who looked extremely alluring and tempting, and who gave you so much attention that you forgot about your girlfriend and succumbed to her temptation, write it down. Similarly, write down all the ways in which you contributed to making the breakup happen.
  • Write down what your girlfriend did which pushed you to do what you did. For example, if you cheated because she was nagging too much, or she was too demanding, or she was not giving you enough attention, write them down.
  • Think about, and write down, the ways in which you think you can deal with the things that caused you to do what made the breakup come about. For example if you cheated, you can write that you will be careful how you associate with other girls other than your girlfriend from now on, or you will make sure you communicate more effectively with your girlfriend, or you will learn to resolve issues better when conflicts come up so that you will not find comfort in another girl, or you resolve now to be determined to remain faithful to your girlfriend from now on.
  • Write down what you think your girlfriend should do so that you will be satisfied and comfortable in the relationship, so that you will never try to seek that comfort with another girl ever again.
  • Think about how the breakup has cost you, what it has done to you emotionally and psychologically, for example the minutes of love or companionship from your girlfriend which you have missed. Also, think about how the issue has affected your girlfriend, and the ways it has made her suffer. Let these thoughts make you feel sorry about what you did, and make the thoughts help you to resolve never to repeat the mistake again.
  • Identify how you can improve your character as a person, and what you can do to become a better lover. For example, if you identify that being inconsiderate was the reason why your girlfriend left, what do you think you can do to become more considerate of her? If you broke up with her because she was self-centered, what are the ways you can help her to become a more selfless girl?
  • Make three copies of what you wrote down, and keep one copy.
  • Work on your inner man and your attitude to life. There is no better book in the world to help you do this than the Bible. It is the roadmap for life and you will find a lot of useful advice in it which can help shape your spirit, and your soul, and this shaping will help you to relate to your girlfriend better. The books of Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, Songs of Solomon, and the Psalms hold nuggets of wisdom which can help you to shape up your life better. Read your Bible every day, and pray to God to make you a better person, and you will see a transformation in your life which will impact positively on your relationship.
  • Learn all about loving a woman again and be committed to applying the knowledge you pick up to make her feel truly loved in the future.

Looking to the past so that you can make changes to your attitude is the first step you must take when you want to make your girlfriend love you again.

2.      Let Her See What She Is Missing

If you want to make your girlfriend love you again, you need to add value to yourself so that she will see she is missing something, and that she is the one losing and not you, so that she will find you attractive again and want to be in a relationship with you again, and that may instigate her to love you again.

Therefore, if you are in school, endeavor to work very hard at your books so that you can better your grades and achieve academic excellence. When you get excellent grades, let everybody know about it, and make sure the news gets to her. If you are a worker, double your efforts at work so that you may be considered for promotion, or even be promoted.

Adding value to yourself can act as a pull factor to draw your girlfriend back to you because she will feel she is missing out on being with this great guy.

Make sure you look even more attractive by dressing even better now than when you were with her. Look even more confident, smile as you walk about, and let everyone around you see that you are at peace with yourself, and with the world.

When you meet her in public, smile into her face and greet her civilly. Ask her how she is faring, and tell her about how your life is prospering since you left her, or since she left you. This is one way to make your girlfriend fall back in love with you again.

3.     Make the Move

When you feel you are over what caused the breakup, and you think you have assessed yourself thoroughly and you want to go forward and reunite with her, then make efforts to contact your girlfriend.

  • You may decide to contact her yourself, if the nature off the breakup was not acrimonious.
  • You may use her close friends or her relatives to drop hints that you want to meet her and have an honest discussion with her.
  • Invite her over to your place for a drink, or to watch a movie together, if she will be willing to oblige you. As the man, you must take the initiative to solve relationship problems, and that is what you demonstrate when you invite her to your place, and not vice versa. It shows leadership, and will help you establish your authority over her again if the relationship works out again.
  • On the day you are going to have the discussion with her at your place, create a romantic atmosphere for both of you. This is very crucial if you want to make your girlfriend love you again. Play her favorite love songs in the room where you will hold the discussions, place a picture of both of you at an advantageous place where she will see it immediately she comes to the place. The music will touch her emotions and make her sentimental, whilst the picture will remind her of the wonderful times you had in the past, and these two things may bring back fresh, love memories into her mind. The memories may influence her and make her have fresh love feelings for you if, subsequently, you say the right things.

4.     Remind Her You Are Human

You have to use the argument of your humanness to make your girlfriend fall in love with you again. Take the opportunity of the meeting to remind her that you are only human, and so would make mistakes.

  • Apologize sincerely for your contribution to what led to her losing her love for you.
  • Tell her you have reflected deeply on what happened, and you have seen you erred greatly. Let her know because of your humanness, you succumbed to the weakness, but just as there are many humans who have messed up terribly in life and have bounced back, you also feel you will bounce back and love her even more than you used to love her if she will just give you another chance.
  • You can use the stories of Peter, or David, or the gentleman in Judges 19 in the Bible to support your case. Read how these two men messed up, and how they came back to redeem themselves, and use the lessons you learn from these two stories to convince her that it is possible for a person to mess up terribly, but to become even better than he was later, when he is forgiven and given a second chance.
  • Show what you have written down to her to make her know that you are serious about tackling your weaknesses and improving your attitude. Give her one copy of what you wrote down, and give her a third copy to be given to a person of her choice who will act as an “overseer” and see to it that you act by what you have written down. This can influence her and make her fall in love with you again because she will see you are bent on really loving her, and this may make her more willing to give you her heart again.
  • Show you have changed when you are having this discussion. If you used to speak to her in harsh tones, speak in a slow, measured way. If you were unromantic before, use romantic words as you speak to her. Call her “honey,” or “love,” or “sugar,” as you speak to her. You must say things, or do something whilst you are with her to make her see that you have changed. This will influence her to want to renew her feelings for you again. This can make your girlfriend love you again.

5.     Remind Her of Her Humanness

You can point out a woman’s faults to her and let her see that what happened to you can also happen to her, if you want to make your woman fall in love with you again.

  • Make your girlfriend remember that she has also done things to hurt you in the past. Remind her of specific things she did to hurt you when you were together. For example, if there was an occasion on which she neglected you, or if she insulted you once, or if she got angry because you were not in a position to buy her a smartphone in the past, remind her of how her reaction hurt you, and the way you decided to let go because you loved her and wanted the relationship to progress. And tell her that just as you forgave, she should find it in her heart to forgive you.
  • Point out the specific things she did to make you lose your love for her, that is her contribution to the breakup or fight. Let her see she also has to carry some of the blame. Then discuss what you can do to make compromises so that you can renew your love again.
  • Give her a copy of what you wrote down as evidence that you will do things differently now.

6.     Tell Her the Rewards You Will Give Her

  • If you want to make a girl love you more again, then tell her you are still capable of loving her, and you want to show her even greater love. Assure her of your love for her. Give her evidence by showing her all the information on loving a woman again which you have gathered. This will tell her that you mean business, and it may influence her to throw down the wall which she may have built in her heart, and give you full access to her heart again.
  • Tell her the kind of love you will use to love her this time, which will be consistent, stable, undying, everlasting love.
  • When you renew your relationship, do even more than you told her you would do. Shower so much love on her that she will even beg you to reduce the amount of love you are giving her! It will make your girlfriend fall madly in love with you again.

7.     Make Her Feel She Belongs to a Relationship With You

If you want to make a girl fall in love with you again, you must make her see that you were a great couple, and she can become an important part of your life again and make you a better person if she comes back.

  • Let her know how she impacted on your life, and how important she is to you. For example, you can say something like, “I had low self-esteem until I met you and you made me feel I was the greatest guy in the whole world,” or “I never knew love until you taught me how to love.” This will make her know she is important to you, and it will make her feel she has an unfinished job to do, which is to love you and help make you a better person. It may influence her to love you again.
  • Let her know you need her presence, and make her feel she’s needed by your side. You can say something such as, “I really miss you, Ama. A hole has been created in my heart since you left. I remember the delicious recipes you used to prepare for me? I remember the words of love you used to share with me. We were so good together. Hmmm! Ama, I need you. I want you back in my life. Please consider giving your heart to me again.”

Conclusion

If you want to make your girlfriend love you again, do the things mentioned above in addition to making your girlfriend feel very important, showing her you care, making sure you keep things exciting in the relationship, and trying to get her to refresh her feelings for you, and you will keep her forever.

How did you make your girlfriend love you again? What was the magic formula you used? Let the world know by leaving a comment. Thank you.

How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You: 5 Smart Ways to Achieve It

How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You:Learn How to Maintain Peace

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How can you make your girlfriend love you so that your relationship will get stronger and better? What are some of the things you can do to make your girlfriend love you forever?

Below, I show you how to make your girlfriend love you so that you can enjoy her companionship better.

1.     Learn How to Maintain Peace

One of the biggest sources of stress in romantic relationships has to do with lack of peace in the relationship. Getting along well with your girlfriend, who was brought up in a different home under different circumstances, requires effort on your part, especially when she does things to irritate you.

When you are at peace with yourself, you do not become restless and frightened for your relationship, and you are better able to treat your girlfriend right. When you treat her right, there is a greater chance she will love you.

If you want to make your girlfriend love you, you must learn how to live at peace with yourself, and with her. This will ensure that the right atmosphere is created between the two of you for the love you have for each other to flourish.

If you do not maintain the peace in the relationship, and you are always finding fault with what she does, or you look down on her, or you allow jealous feelings to invade your heart when you see she is friendly with other guys, or you are abusive, or you are unfaithful, or you are self-centered, then she cannot feel motivated to love you.

What are some of the things you can do to live at peace with your girlfriend, create harmony in the relationship, and strengthen your love bond?

  1. Make up your mind that you are going to cultivate a humble spirit, and maintain a humble attitude even if your girlfriend decides to be beastly, cantankerous, and mean.
  2. Try to see your spouse’s point of view when you have disagreements. Do not expect your girlfriend to be your carbon copy. Do not expect her to behave just like you do. Recognize that the way she thinks may be different from the way you think. Her likes may be different from your likes. For example, she may like her food bland, whilst you may like your food spicy. In such a situation, you can make peace when you decide to compromise so that each will learn how to adopt to the taste of the other, or you may decide to eat what you like, and allow your girlfriend to also eat what she wants. To make peace, you have to understand each other.
  3. Be careful the way you use your tongue. Gossiping about your girlfriend to your friends, slandering her, and exaggerating things and blowing them out of proportion (the minor irritations that occur in the relationship) are all things that can destroy peace in the relationship.
  4. Learn how to communicate charitably. Do not lose your temper, raise your voice, or bang doors when you are angry with your girlfriend. Try to control yourself. Honestly try to approach your girlfriend and make efforts to become reconciled. You can say something such as, “We need to resolve our issues. I think we messed up, darling, and we must clean up the mess by discussing this issue,” instead of saying, “I am very upset with you. It is all your fault. If you had listened to me, all this would not have come up.” Using “we” instead of “you” or “I” shows you feel you are also a part of the problem, and prevents shifting all the blame onto your girlfriend. When you shift the blame onto her, she will be forced to become defensive, and that may mean she may attack you to defend her integrity.

 

2.     Learn How to Be Patient

You must learn to develop the quality of self-restraint which does not quickly retaliate even when the provocation is of a magnitude that is difficult to take, if you want to make your girlfriend love you even more.

When you are patient, it will prevent fights, and so your girlfriend’s emotions will not be ruffled, and this will make her continue to love you.

You must therefore develop the ability to absorb irritating things, such as your girlfriend nagging often, without becoming emotionally and psychologically paralyzed(to refuse to do things you must do just because your girlfriend has hurt your feelings, such as spending time with her, or showing her affection).

  • Try to control your temper. Anger has destroyed many relationships, and caused regret in a lot of relationships.
  • See patience as postponing your anger to a later date, or indefinitely.
  • Say something such as, “I will get angry tomorrow,” or “I will get angry next week,” when you are very angry that. Keep postponing your anger every time and with time you will realize that you are better able to control your temper, and your anger. After all what would it cost you if you decide to postpone your anger for a day, a week, a month, or indefinitely? You will lose absolutely nothing because anger is not an asset!

    3. Show You Love Her

If you want to make your girlfriend love you like crazy, then you need to show her that you really love you.

One way you can show you love her is to practice constant forgiveness towards her. As the Bible says in Matthew 6 : 12, “Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors.”  You have sinned against God many times, and God has forgiven you a lot of times. Therefore, He requires that you should also learn to forgive any person who wrongs you, including your girlfriend.

Forgiving your girlfriend when she wrongs you can be hard at times because as humans, we have our egos hurt when we suffer at the hands of our loved ones, and that makes us want to pay back.

If you carry an unforgiving heart, you are more likely to pick up quarrels with your girlfriend because you will make a big issue out of every little thing. This is bound to disturb your girlfriend emotionally, to cause her psychological trauma, and it may make her love for you wane.

How can you practice constant forgiveness towards your girlfriend so that you can make her love you?

  • You must learn to understand her. There is always a reason why a person does something. If she becomes cross-tempered, maybe she is having her menses and is disturbed emotionally and psychologically. If she treats you with suspicion and picks up quarrels with you often, maybe she misunderstands your motives, or she has been misunderstood about something you said or did. Maybe she is the victim of her environment or her own heredity—She was brought up in a home where her mother was always quarrelling with her father. Maybe her temperament is such that life is difficult, and human relations is a problem for her—She may be a choleric or sanguine extroverted person. When you understand her better, forgiving her would be easier for you. So, remember her past. Let it inform you and make you calm down when you are upset with her.
  • You must learn to forget. So long as you remember what she does to you, and allow the wrong things she does or says to you to remain strongly in your mind, and brood upon the slights and injuries she causes you, the likelihood that you will forgive her and let it go is drastically reduced. You may say, “I can’t forget what Yaa did to me,” or “I will never forget how Ama treated me in Lovers Restaurant!” These kinds of sayings are very dangerous, because they can make it extremely difficult, or maybe humanly impossible, for you to forget. When you say things like these, it can make you print the memory of what your girlfriend did to you indelibly on your mind. To forgive is the sign of a great lover, and to forget is sublime. Therefore, try to think about her positive sides, the good things she has done for you in the past, when you are tempted to remind yourself of the bad things she has done to you.
  • You must pray. Nothing but the cleansing spirit of Jesus can take the memories of the bad things your girlfriend does to you out of your mind, and remove the bitterness from your heart. Therefore, pray to God to help you forgive your girlfriend. You can pray something like, “Dear God, Yaa has done something to hurt me deeply. She called me a toad when we were quarrelling. This remark hurt me a lot. I want to forgive her, but I find it difficult to do so. I keep remembering that remark every time I see her big head, and it always gives me bitter feelings. Please help me to forget that remark.” If you are sincere, God will help you to let go of the hurt, and He will erase the memory from your mind. It is true that even if you forgive and forget those memories will come to your mind sometimes, but it will not have a hold over you, and cause you to be bitter towards her.

Showing love to her is one way to make your girlfriend love you.

4. Make Her Feel Special

One way you can make your girlfriend love you is to make her feel special.

  • Upload her picture onto Facebook and write fifty things you feel are great about her, and fifty ways in which you think she is special. Share this post with your friends, and the public, and tag her. When she sees the post, it will make her know you value her as a person by virtue of the fact that you are extolling her qualities in front of the whole world. She will appreciate it, and she will appreciate you more and fall in love with you even more.
  • Say romantic things to her. You can say something like, “My love for you is the air I breath, darling, and I know there will never be an end to this air, “ or “Some get addicted to alcohol. Some get addicted to drugs. Some get addicted to sleazy material, but I am addicted to the most pleasurable thing in the world, which is you, my sweetheart,” or “Your love is more precious to me than the most expensive gold or diamond in this world.” Come up with more of such romantic words. Use your creativity and say words that will make her feel she is the best girlfriend in the world.

    5. Give Love

The Bible says in Luke 6:38 that, “Give, and it will be given to you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For the measure you give will be the measure you get back.”

You must give if you want to receive. When you give love to your girlfriend, you will receive love from her. The more you love her, the more she will also love you.

Therefore, if you want to make your girlfriend love you, you must love her and show that you are a considerate, caring, loyal, compassionate, and an adoring and empathetic boyfriend who feels she is one of the best things to happen to this world, and one of the best things to happen to your life. This will encourage her to reciprocate your love, and she will also treat you like you are the most wonderful boyfriend in the world.

 

Conclusion

If you will diligently do these things, and also date her often, and keep her happy, you can make your girlfriend love you, and you will be able to keep her  forever.

 

 

What are some of the things you do to make your girlfriend love you? Please share them with the world by leaving a comment. Thank you.

How to Keep Your Girlfriend Happy: 21 Incredible Ways to Do It

How to Keep Your Girlfriend Happy: Make Time for Her

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How can you keep your girlfriend happy? How can you keep your girlfriend in love with you forever? What can you do to keep your girlfriend attracted to you so that she will never leave you?

1.     Make Time for Her

Girls like to share their joys and successes with their boyfriends, and also regularly want to ask advice from their guys, and share their pain and heartaches with the men in their lives. To be able to do this for your girlfriend, you need to make time just to be with her so that she can unload her heart’s desires, and her inner feelings to you. It will give her great joy when you go around often and listen to her.

To keep your girlfriend interested in you and in the relationship, plan meetings with her into your busy schedule.

 

2.     Be Attentive

If you want to keep your girlfriend in love with you, learn to be attentive to what she says. When a girl wants to pass across some information, she wants you to stop whatever you are doing and give her hundred percent attention. Girls do not like it when they are saying something to you, or telling you something, and you give them divided attention.

If you want to keep your girlfriend happy, pay attention to what she says to you.

 

3.     Let Her Feel Special

You must make a conscious effort to make your girlfriend feel as if she is the most important girl in the world, and that you see her as the Queen of your heart, if you want to keep your girlfriend loyal to you.

  • You can do this by sometimes just keeping quiet when you are having a conversation, just looking at her, admiring her beauty, and then you can say something like, “Sarah, I think you are the most beautiful and most wonderful girl in the whole wide world!”
  • Akua, a student said, “I’ll be in the middle of saying something to my boyfriend and I’m suddenly aware he is looking at me in a strange way. And then he tells me he loves me. It blows my mind away and makes me see that I am a special girl. I love it. It makes me feel good inside.”
  • Another way you can make your girlfriend feel special is to send her surprise love text messages from time to time. It will let her know she is always on your mind.

 

4.     Show You Care

  • When a girl spends time with her girlfriends and she meets you the next time, she wants you to ask her how things went.
  • When a girl visits you at the end of the schooling or working day, she wants you to ask her how her day went.
  • When a girl wears new clothes, or does a new hairstyle, she wants you to comment about it.
  • If you want to keep your girlfriend happy, make it a habit to inquire about how things are going in her life, and how she is getting along with her friends and family. When you keep doing these things, she will see you care about her, and she will continue to be happy.

Showing her you care will help you keep your girlfriend from cheating on you because she will have no motivation whatsoever to leave you.

 

5.     Be Generous

Show generosity to her occasionally. A small gift today, a little gift tomorrow will let her know you adore her. This is how to keep your girlfriend!

It does not mean you have to necessarily buy her gifts every time, although it is a good idea if you have the money to spare, but you can show generosity in a variety of ways:

  1. Get her a basket of fruits and vegetables so she can cook a delectable meal for herself.
  2. Buy phone credit for her so that she can recharge her phone and use it to tell you how much she loves you.
  3. Help her out financially when you can, if she is facing financially difficulties.

 

 

6.     Be Faithful to Her

A girl wants to know her boyfriend belongs to her and her alone.

When she knows that your whole heart is devoted to her alone, it makes her happy.

This does not mean that you should not have female friends. You should have other female friends, but let your girlfriend know that they are just platonic friends. Introduce them to your girlfriend so that she will know you are not cheating with them. When you are so open with her, and she sees that you are not romantically involved with these other girls, her mind will be at rest and she will be happy.

Being loyal to your girlfriend is one way to keep your girlfriend happy.

 

7.     Respect Her

If you want to keep your girlfriend attracted to you, you must show maximum respect to her.

One way you can show respect to your girlfriend is to show gratitude for the little things she does for you:

  1. Thank her when she cooks a nice meal for you.
  2. Let her know you appreciate the time she spends with you.
  3. Show appreciation for the pieces of advice she gives you.
  4. Say only character building and motivational words which will encourage her, to her. Avoid insulting her physical build and her intelligence.

 

8.     Be Romantic

  • Let your girlfriend see that you find her a desirable girl by saying romantic words to her often to show you think she is the best. You can say things like, “I think about you from morning to night, baby,” or “You are worth seeing every day, darling.” Come up with other creative words to tell her how wonderful you think she is.
  • Give her surprise dates. It does not necessarily have to be in an expensive restaurant, or at a hotel. You can get a bottle or two of fruit juice, a few meat pies or sandwiches, and have a romantic picnic in a park. Alternately, you can have these dates at your house or her house so that you can save money.
  • Take her to exotic and exciting places she tells you she would love to go as a treat. She will love it, and love you more.

Being a romantic guy is the best way to keep your girlfriend always happy.

 

9.     Be Playful

If you want to keep your girlfriend from getting bored in the relationship, and from seeking excitement from another guy, you should be playful. Try to be playful when you are with her:

  1. Tickle her.
  2. Tease her.
  3. Make jokes so that she can laugh away her stress.
  4. Try to let her lighten up and enjoy life.

Taking life too seriously can put a damper on your relationship and make it boring. Injecting such fun can add to the excitement of the relationship and make her happy. It is a way to keep your girlfriend away from other guys who may also be interested in her.

Keep your girlfriend entertained and she will be happy and stick to you.

 

10.  Flatter Her Often

Intentionally say things about her anatomy to make her feel extra good about her body and her figure. Put her on a pedestal, and let her feel she is no ordinary girl.

  • For example, you can say something like, “Girl, you have the most beautiful lips in the world.”
  • You can say, “Honey, I think your legs are the greatest in the universe.”
  • Another way you can flatter her is to say, “I know your shape is the most wonderful on this side of creation.”

It will make her know that you really cherish her, and she will feel excited and extremely good about herself. It will also help you to get your girlfriend’s attention.

 

11. Show You Are Proud of Her in Public

When you are in public, or when you go to visit friends and family, show signs of affection for your girlfriend in front of them. It will keep your girlfriend excited about the relationship.

  • Sit or stand close by her and put your arm around her.
  • Hold hands with her often.
  • From time to time look into her face for about a minute and just smile at her without uttering a word.
  • Put your arm around her neck and tell everybody there how much you love her.

 

This will show her that you are not ashamed to let others see that you love her, and this will make her happy. It will keep your girlfriend chasing you, and she will never break up with you.

 

12. Give Her Freedom Sometimes

It is true you love her a lot and you want to spend every waking moment with her, but you should also learn to give her some freedom sometimes so that she can miss you. Giving her freedom will also not make her feel you are intruding too much into her life.

Therefore, from time to time, set aside certain days on which you will not go to her place, so that she can reflect on herself and the relationship, and have time to do things she has not been able to do because she has to spend a lot of time trying to please you. It will let her know you are concerned about her as a person, and she will be happy with you for that. It will keep your girlfriend crazy about you and she will never even think of leaving you.

 

13. Inspire Her

If you have been exposed to more in life than her, give her dreams and let her see there is a greater life she can aspire to, and that you feel she has the potential to do even greater things than she is doing in her life now. It will give her something to think about, and make her know that she has potential she can tap into as a person, and it will help you to keep your girlfriend close. It will boost her self-confidence. A person who is always looking forward to something greater, with self-confidence, is generally happier.

 

14. Be Patient When She Messes Up

If you want to keep your girlfriend happy, then treat her with patience when she disrespects you or does something which cuts your heart into two. When you decide to be patient, you will be able to tell her in a civil manner how you are hurt, and this will give her an opportunity to ask for forgiveness in a peaceful manner. Becoming impatient may turn the ant-hill into a mountain, blow up the disagreement, and you may have a major fight.

Being patient and handling conflicts in a mature manner will keep your girlfriend from dumping you because she will see your value as a peaceful guy.

 

15. Maintain Your Commitment to the Relationship

If you want to keep your girlfriend happy, you need to sustain your interest in the relationship by letting her know, by word of mouth, that you are committed to the relationship, and that you will do your best to make the relationship work. This will let her know that she has a stable relationship to look forward to, and this will make her very happy. It will keep your girlfriend wanting you.

 

16.Try to Fulfill Her Expectations

It is true that you cannot fulfill every expectation your girlfriend wants you to fulfill, but you must be able to fulfill a great number of them. Do your best to meet her expectations, or at least meet her half-way, and she will be a happy girlfriend:

  1. Sit down with her regularly and discuss what she expects from you.
  2. Ask her if you are fulfilling them.
  3. If you are not, then try to do better. Ask her to help you meet her expectations. For example, if she expects you to be more romantic, ask her what you can do which she will consider as being romantic. Then do it for her. If she thinks you are not showing enough love, inquire from her why she feels that way, and then implement whatever suggestions she gives you.

If you are able to fulfill most of her expectations, it will keep your girlfriend from leaving you for another guy.

 

17. Never Abuse Her Verbally or Physically

When a guy abuses a girl, it speaks poorly of him and casts a slur on her character. It is not a sign of love, and it is despicable.

Therefore, do your best never to abuse your girlfriend verbally, or by beating her up. Never extend your hands to hit her. Try to talk through problems and make an effort to resolve them amicably. This will get your girlfriend so emotionally attached to you that she will never consider leaving you.

If you cannot thrash out all issues between yourselves, seek the counsel and help of more experienced people than you.

If you think you are not happy with the behavior of your girlfriend, the best thing you have to do is to part ways.

 

18.  Create Future Visions With Her

If you want to keep your girlfriend to be happy, create future dreams and visions with her. Make plans about the future together. This will let her know that you are a guy with a vision, and it will keep her looking forward to something good in the future. This will lift her spirit and make her feel happy because she knows you take the relationship very seriously. It will keep your girlfriend faithful to you, and keep her from leaving.

 

19.  Be a Thoughtful Boyfriend

You must be able to read your girlfriend, and to do the right thing at the right time always.

Therefore, get to know her personality well, her mood changes, the times when she feels like talking, and the times when she wants to be left alone, if you want to keep your girlfriend from losing interest.

When you are able to respond to her changing desires accurately, it will lead to less tension in the relationship, and both of you will feel more comfortable with each other.

 

20. Keep Past Mistakes in the Past

When she does something you hate, and you tell her, and the issue is resolved, try not to bring it into the present again. Bringing it up again will cause healed wounds to be opened afresh, and it will make her unhappy.

Let your girlfriend’s mistakes die with the past, if you want to keep your girlfriend happy and interested in you.

 

21. Don’t Look Down on Her

Treat your girlfriend as a human being with desires, intelligence, aspirations, and abilities which can rival your own, if you want to keep your girlfriend happy. Let her feel she is also a capable person, and it will make her feel great about herself and her abilities. It will keep your girlfriend interested in you forever.

 

Conclusion

If you are able to keep your girlfriend happy, and you show love to her, it will prevent a break up with its consequences. You will not need to go through the trouble of trying to make the relationship work again.

 

 

Do you have a girlfriend? What are you doing to make her stick with you? Share it by leaving a comment. Thank you.

How to Attract Girl: 11 Incredible Ways to Make Her Your Girl

How to Attract a Girl: Look Attractive and She Will Love You

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How can you attract a girl towards you for love so that you can date her and make her your girlfriend? In this article, I want to give you tips of  how to attract a girl.

So, what are some of the things you can do?

1. Look Attractive

Studies have shown that guys with broad shoulders look attractive to girls.

If you are in a condition to exercise, then there are certain exercises which you can do to help you to develop broad shoulders so that  you will be attractive to a girl. Here are a few of them:

Exercise 1

Stand in a doorway, midway between the two door jambs. Place one hand against each jamb, about shoulder high. Push hard against both jambs

Exercise 2

Whilst standing, extend both arms forward and clasp your hands together. Press hard, both hands trying to push each other “away,” with as much force as possible.

Exercise 3

For this exercise you need dumbbells.

  1. Begin the exercise with a 10 pound dumbbell in each hand, weights held at shoulder level. Your feet should be about 12 inches apart and your body comfortably well balanced.
  2. Raise one dumbbell overhead, breathing in as the weight is pressed up.
  3. Lower the dumbbell back to your shoulder , breathing out as you return the weight to the starting position.
  4. Repeat the exercise 10 times with your other arm.
  5. You can also decide to perform the exercise with two dumbbells raised simultaneously.

These exercises will put you in great shape and make you look sexy and appealing to the girl, and help you to attract a girl. This is how to attract a girl by looks!

2. Look Bold

Walk about with your chest pulled out, with a straight back, and with your head looking up. This will tell everybody, including the girl you like and want to attract, that you are sure of yourself, and that you have the courage to face the challenges you will meet in this life. A guy walking about like that looks attractive. It is one way to attract a girl without talking.

Walking in this manner also  tells a girl that you can protect her when she needs protection, and it can influence her to be attracted to you.

3. Have the Right Perspective

You cannot treat something with care if you do not value it. In the same way, you cannot treat  girls with care and make them feel good if you do not value them.

Some guys see girls as objects to be used to fulfill sexual desires, and then to be dumped after you have used them for your pleasure.

If you want to be able to attract a girl for love, then you must value girls. When you value girls, you see a relationship with a girl as a privilege that must not be exploited negatively, but as a relationship that must be well cherished and nurtured with extreme care and love. Such a mentality will make you want to treat any girl you are attracted to with love.

Treat the girls in your class and your female friends with dignity.

When the girl you are interested in and want to attract sees that you treat all girls well, she will feel comfortable with your attitude and want to date you.

On the other hand when she sees, or gets to know that you do not value girls, she will feel she will also get this same kind of treatment when she dates you, and she will not be attracted to you

4. Treat Your Female Relatives Well

If you have a sister, treat her with delicate care and let the girl see that you love her very much. Hug her in public, hold hands with her, kiss her on her cheek, tell her you love her to show to the girl the kind of affection she is missing by not being in a relationship with you, and to show her the kind of love you will show to her if she decides to become your girlfriend.

If you do not have a sister, show this affection to your female cousins or nieces.

This action will make you attract a girl mentally. She will start to think about the way you treat your female relatives, and think that you are a wonderful guy. She will want to know you more, and she may strike up a friendship with you so that she can get to know you better.

5. Be Charming

Be nice to her and make her feel that you are a nice guy to have around as a friend. Use “Please”  a lot when you are conversing with her. For example “Please give me that pen,” or “Please help me with this Science problem.” This will tell her that you are a polite guy. Girls like to go out with polite guys who act like gentlemen, and who treat girls with respect.

Say nice things to her regularly about her hairstyle, her dress, her shoes, her figure, or some other part of her body which you think is beautiful, and she will adore you for it. Girls like to hear sweet things said to them, and when you can muster the courage to say nice things to her regularly, she will be attracted to you and like you because you think she is a beautiful and great girl. This is a way to attract a girl romantically using words.

Also, share things with her. When you buy an ice cream and she is around, buy one for her. When you are going to grab a bottle of Coke and meat pie for lunch, buy  some for her. You do not need to do this every day, but once in a while let her see that you are not a selfish guy but an altruistic guy who likes to share, even if you  only have a little to share.

Compliment Yourself  Too

You cannot give what you do not have. You cannot think she is a nice girl if you do not think you are a great guy. So first of all, compliment yourself. When you put on clothes and you think you look great in them, say to yourself, “Johnny Wascaracha, you look great in your pants and shirt today!” or you can say, “Johnny Wascaracha your haircut is superb!” when you have a new haircut. With time, this will become your second nature, so it will not be difficult for you to say it to a girl to make her feel attracted to you.

6. Understand Girls

Some guys look down on girls and treat them as inferior beings who do not deserve to be given any kind of respect by a guy because they feel guys are superior to girls.

If you want to attract a girl, you should not have this mentality, and you should not display open disrespect for girls. It will only make you unattractive to girls, and no girl will want to date you.

Girls like talking a lot. Sometimes when they talk they don’t want you to say anything, but just to listen. You must know this so that you will not try to give her solutions to problems every time she comes complaining to you about one thing or another.  Understanding a girl and responding appropriately to her changing moods will please her , and she will grow to like you more.

You must also understand that girls can become complex at certain times of the month; sometimes they become easily irritated, moody, or can seem unfriendly. Understanding this and being patient, even if she behaves strangely, will make you “score more points in her eyes,” and make her like you even better because she will see you as a  caring guy.

7.  Respect Her

Don’t treat her ideas as if you think she has no brain in her cranial space. Give her some credit which will show that you know she is also an intelligent human being created by God. Respect her ideas and opinions concerning issues you will discuss.

She is more likely to like you if you value her thoughts on issues.

Do not brush aside her views and comments, treat them with disdain, and say things like “What do women know?” or “Girls are too emotional. You think too little, and react to everything with your heart.” She is bound to be hurt when she knows this is how you feel about the members of her gender. She will dislike you and find you repulsive, and there is no way you will get her to date her.

8. Show That You Are a Great Guy

Girls are attracted to famous guys, and to guys who do great deeds. If you want to attract a  girl you love, show that you are a great guy and do something great!

One way you can show you are great is to serve the people around you. Do kind things for orphans, or the elderly, or the physically challenged in your community. Also, do kind acts for your friends, and for her friends as well. Word will surely get to her about how chivalrous you are , and it will make her admire you and want to become close to you

9. Be Funny

If you want to attract a girl you like, and make her love you, then make her laugh. Having  a good sense of humor, and exhibiting it, makes a guy exciting, interesting, and fun to be with. It also makes a guy attractive to a girl.

Therefore, try to be as funny as you can be. Practice being funny with your sisters or brothers, and also try to make your close friends laugh. Once you build this reputation and develop this habit, you will find it easier to make your dream girl laugh her heart out when you are in her company.

10. Don’t  Be Jealous

Do not feel threatened when you see her going out with other guys, or when you see her talking with other guys. Let her see that you feel secure about yourself, and you feel confident enough to give her  room to develop her association with other guys. Let her see those guys, but show to her by your attitude and your actions that she will be far better off dating you than any of those other guys, and she will choose you above them. Just continue to work on her heart by saying good things to her and showing her you care, and she will be attracted to you and date you with time. This is how to attract a girl to fall in love.

11. Tell Her Stories

A female friend told me once that girls like to hear stories. That particular girl said she was attracted to her boyfriend because he tells such interesting stories. She thought it was so romantic.

I am sure there are more girls like her. This is one method you can use to attract a girl to love you! Therefore master this art and use it to your advantage. Tell her some interesting things that have happened to you in your life, such as an embarrassing situation you went through, or your worst day on Earth, or stories about the girls you have liked in the past, or something funny that happened between you and your sister. It will make you look more interesting to her, you will become closer friends, and you will gain her trust when you share personal stories like these.  When a girl trusts a guy, she feels comfortable with him, and is more likely to like him and to be attracted to him, than when she does not trust him.

Conclusion

If you learn how to attract a girl, and adopt the right approach, you can get an opportunity to date her, develop  a close relationship with her, and make her love you. The important thing is to make her feel special always, show her love, and you will be able to keep her till you marry her one day.

How to Date a Girl: 8 Things You Need to Do If You Want to Get Her

How to Date a Girl: Show Her You Will Be a Good Lover

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How do you go about asking a girl for a date? What should you do? Below I show you how to date a girl you like, or who you know likes you.

 

1. Show Her You Will Be A Good Lover

A good lover pays attention to detail. A good lover cares about what impression people will have of him, and how that impression will also rub- off on his girl. A good lover pays attention to his appearance and always wants to look good for his woman.

It is very important for you to make sure you always look sharp, decent, and attractive if you want to date a girl you like. This will give you a reputation for always looking good, people may notice it including the girl you want to date, or her friends, they make talk about, or she will talk about it and like you even before you make the approach. This will make you more attractive, and she may even be attracted to you before you approach her, which will make your job easier.

Therefore, make sure you take personal care of your body, and how you dress very seriously. Ensure your hair is cut regularly, cut your nails to prevent them overgrowing, shave all hair that needs to be shaved, keep good oral hygiene, eat lots of fruits and vegetables, and drink a lot of water every day, so that you will good and fresh breath. This is one of the tips for how to date a girl.

2. Develop Your Confidence

No soldier goes to war believing he may win the war, or that he will lose the war. No soccer player goes into a crucial match thinking he will lose the game; he goes into the game believing that he has what it takes to help his team win the game.

In that same vein, you need to work on yourself and believe that you can win the girl you want to date. There are many guys who cannot date the girls they are interested in because they do not have the courage to approach the girl and tell her they like her. Gathering courage and confidence to approach the girl is a crucial step you must take to date a girl for free and make her your own.

Therefore, believe in yourself. Know that you can do it, know it in your heart, and then decide to approach her.

3. Decide the Method

If you already have a girl in mind, you need to make up your mind how exactly you are going to approach her. If you approach her the wrong way, even if she likes you, she may have second thoughts. For example,  some guys like to let a girl know they like her by first texting, as a way of testing the waters, and then when they meet the girl next time, they see how she took it so that they will know whether they have a chance. Some girls have turned down such guys and refused to date them.

Some guys prefer to tell a girl over the phone that they like them and want to go out with them.

Choosing to meet her in person, and to say it to her face-to-face is the best option. It shows you have the confidence to approach a woman, and it also gives her the impression that you are bold, one quality girls admire in guys, which will also make her have a good estimation of your manliness.

4. Decide the Setting

Make up your mind where exactly you will tell her you want to go out with her. If you say it in the wrong place, even if she likes you, she may feel apprehensive, or say no. For example, if  you say it in class when there are other guys or girls around, she may say no if she is a shy girl.

The best place to say to a girl that you want to date her  is where there is no one else there. If you want to date a girl who is already your best friend, or a girl in your class, then tell her you have something special to say to her, and tell her exactly where you want to meet her, and  at what time. It must be somewhere both of you will feel comfortable, and where you can express yourself confidently. It could be a park, an empty classroom, her hostel room when her roommates are not around, your hostel room when you know you will be the only one there, your home, or her home.

If you want to date a girl you barely know, then you will have to monitor her and know where she likes going a lot. Choose a time when you see her alone in one of these places, and approach her.

5. Choose the Right Time

A person’s mood is affected by what he or she is going through: if she is going through sad times, the likelihood that she will respond well to a date request will be slim. If she is going through  great times, she is happy, she is more likely to accept a date proposal.

Do your research and find out what the girl is going through. If your intelligence tells you she has heard some bad news recently, then you may have to postpone your proposal to a time when she will become more relaxed, and is more likely to have a better disposition.

The best time to approach a  girl you want to date is when she has heard some good news. This will increase the chances that she will accept your request and give you a favorable response.

6. Approach Her

Meet her at the right place. Walk confidently to her, smile broadly, look cheerful and lively, look her straight in the eyes and greet her. Compliment her on her dressing, or hairstyle, or on some part of her body you like. For example you can say, “Hello, I saw you from that corner there where I was. I must say I like your dress and your hairstyle. The color combination is just great. I thought I would like to know the girl in such a beautiful dress. Where did you get such a dress? By the way, I am…” Introduce yourself, and try to engage her in a conversation.

Alternately, you can go up to her, greet her, introduce yourself, and share a joke to calm your nerves, and to lighten the atmosphere so that you can start a friendly conversation with her.

7. Engage Her In a Lively Conversation

If she is not in a mood to talk, apologize nicely and say it was great for you to meet, and that you hope the two of you will meet again somewhere. And then, be patient, remain calm, and hope circumstances throw both of you together at another time.

If she is responsive to talking, then use the opportunity to get to know her better. Ask her questions about her life, and try to extract from her whether she has a boyfriend or not, or whether she has  dated  before. It will give you an indication as to her dating experience, and whether she is interested in dating anyone at the moment, for it is possible she may  be a girl who doesn’t want a relationship at the time that you want to date her.

If she is a girl who can date, and wants to date, drop hints (through jokes) that you like her. You can say something like, “I have always dreamt of dating a girl like you.” See if she likes that comment.

If she gets your hints and understands, get her phone number and call her later. Have about two or three more conversations so that she can get to know how likeable you are and trust you more, and then tell her you want to go out with her.

You can say, “Rebecca, I like you. I like your intelligence when we have conversations, the wit and humor you exhibit, and I like your personality. I think you are a great girl and I want to have closer relationship with you. Would you like to go out with me?”

If she accepts your request, then make dating plans.

When You Go Out

  • Make sure you look good, especially for your first date.Be interesting and lively. Share a lot of jokes and make her laugh. Avoid being too quiet, and don’t monopolize the conversations. Properly balance talking a little with listening to what she also has to say.
  • Do not ramble on and on about yourself. It irritates a lot of girls. The date is not about you, but is giving you an opportunity to get to know each other.
  • Do not want to know everything about the girl right away. It is overwhelming and makes a girl feel like running in the opposite direction.
  • Do not isolate yourselves when you have a date. When young people who are attracted to each other isolate themselves, as is common in dating, sexual desire can build up until it causes you to want to have sex.
  • Avoid kissing and touching sensitive parts of your bodies, which might lead you to have sex. Many young men’s lives have been destroyed by contracting sexually transmitted infections, or by impregnating a girl and taking on a responsibility they were not prepared for, and thereby destroying their future. Do not think it cannot happen to you, that you can kiss and hold hands, and be able to control yourself and not go all the way, as many youths think. Kissing and cuddling can cause a buildup in your emotions and make you do something you may regret later.
  • Do not date a girl secretly. You rob yourself of the protection that you can have when your relationship is known by your family.
  • Don’t date a girl without her parents knowing. When her parents know you, they are more likely to give you respect and think you are a responsible guy. They will like you for that, and they will agree to make you date her. If you intend to have a long-term relationship with her, this will go a long way to help you since her parents will give you the needed support.
  • Make your relationship open, and let your parents and your older siblings know. Because of their experience, they are aware of the possible dangers involved in dating, and can offer you helpful direction. Do not think your parents will be too restrictive and rob you of fun. Talk to them honestly, win their trust, and ask them for advice. They will be glad to help you.

 

If You Do Not Have a Girl In Mind

If you are not friendly with any girl, or you are a shy guy and wondering how you can get a girl to date, here a few things you can do:

  • Invite friends who are extroverts to your house regularly, or make friends with extroverts, go to social occasions with them to help build your confidence, and learn some lessons from how they socialize and make friends with girls.
  • Make your approach one step at a time. Go to places where you can share your passions and you are likely to meet a girl there who likes the things you care about.
  • When you see a girl you like, make  a gradual introduction of yourself. Just say “Hi” the first time, and get to know more about her on subsequent occasions.
  • Make friends with girls online. Say hi to girls on Facebook, Twitter, Hi5, and find out if they are dating. If they are not, interact more with them and build your confidence till you can meet them in person.
  • If you are not confident to talk so much, listen to her a lot when you make an acquaintance. Sometimes, girls just want someone who listens, for they have a lot to say.
  • Share your fears with her. That is one great way to gain a girl’s trust and make her like you. She will see she is not the only one with vulnerabilities, and she will also open up to you.

Conclusion

These are a few steps you can take to date a girl. If you approach her well, it is likely you will get to date her. Make her feel special during your period of dating, and you can get her to love you and have a long-term relationship.

Coping With A Relationship Break Up: 13 Cool Things You Can Do to Get Over Her

Coping With a Relationship Break Up: Release Your Pain, Don’t Keep It Inside

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A man was so disturbed after breaking up with his girlfriend that when he left her place and got  to the bus station, he joined  a bus going to the west of a city whilst he lived in the east of the city!

Breaking up with your lover can be a traumatic experience which, if you don’t handle well, can cause you a lot of trouble and confusion. So many questions may come to your mind. Could I have avoided this? Would she have left if I treated her well?

Coping with a relationship break up requires you to develop coping skills and strategies to help you survive.

I want to share with you some of the coping strategies you can use to help you sail through the rough storm.

Coping Strategies for Relationship Break Up

Below, I outline 13 coping skills for relationship break up, and how to use them.

1. Write Sympathy Words to Yourself

Write a letter of sympathy to yourself. Imagine you have lost someone very dear to you to the icy hands of death, and are writing a letter to that person’s relative to console him or her.

  • Write the letter with all the emotion and feeling you can muster; put your heart into it.
  • After you have written it, read it over and over again until you are satisfied that you have come to terms with your emotions and are ready to move on. Then throw it in the waste paper basket, or the thrash-bin.
  • After, psychologically see yourself as separating yourself from those painful emotions, and parting with the hurt of the break up forever.

This act will cleanse your mind of the bad memories, and inspire you to want to breath fresh ideas and plans into your mind and your life.

This is one way of coping with a relationship break up loss.

2. Get A Pet

A break up with your girlfriend will obviously make you unhappy, and you will need to find ways to make yourself happy, which will help you to heal any emotional wounds fast so that you can get on with your life.

One superb way of coping after a relationship break up to make yourself happy is to get a pet. In July 2011, Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that people who have dogs say their pets increase their self-esteem.

The animal will help you to regain your sense of belonging and meaning,  and help you to overcome the feeling of rejection which you experienced when your girlfriend broke up with you.

Dogs and cats are pets which are easy to come by, and you can easily get a dog or cat to keep you company.

If you can get a parrot, it will also help you a lot. A parrot will mimic you, and say some of the words you say, unlike a dog or cat; it may say something funny which it heard, or which you said, and that will make you laugh and forget your troubles; hearing the funny tweeting of a parrot will give you memorable moments which will encourage you not to lose hope.

You can also decide to get rabbits, if you live in a place where you can keep them. Rabbits can do all sorts of antics, especially early in the morning, or when you want to feed them, and this will make you laugh and reduce your stress.

3. Write Good Things Down

Another strategy you can use in coping with a serious relationship break up is to assess your self-worth.

You need to affirm your self-worth, to regain your self-confidence so that the past does not imprison you and make you feel worthless. One good way to do this is to remind yourself of all the great things about you.

 

Here is how you should go about it:

  1. Choose a day on which you can have time alone to yourself.
  2. Sit down at a table with a writing pad and pen.
  3. Meditate and ruminate about all the good things you see about yourself.
  4. Write them down.
  5. Think about all the good things you have heard people say about you; pen them down.
  6. Think about all the good things you have done for people; write them down.

Acknowledge these qualities, and let them make you know, and feel that you are a person of worth.

THEN THINK TO YOURSELF THAT IF SHE HAS LEFT YOU, IT IS HER LOSS, NOT YOUR LOSS.

4. Exercise

Exercising will release feel good chemicals into your system and make you feel relaxed, and contribute to coping with a long term relationship break up. It will cause you to have a stable emotional state, not to be so unstable and emotionally unbalanced, so that you focus on your work, make money, and enter a relationship with another lady, for do not forget that the woman who left is not the only woman you can have a relationship with.

 

Here are some exercise suggestions:

 

Exercise 1

  • Lie flat on a mat on the floor.
  • Raise your body up from your waist, while at the same time raising your legs, keeping your knees stiff and locked.
  • When your hands touch your shin, lower both sections of your body slowly back to the floor.
  • Repeat this exercise 20 times.

 

Exercise 2

  • Stand erect, legs slightly apart.
  • Keeping your knees locked and straight, bend forward and touch your fingertips to the floor.
  • Repeat the exercise, this time touching your palms to the floor.
  • Repeat this exercise 50 times.

 

You will feel great and confident, and ready to face the world and take on new challenges, and possibly enter a new relationship with time.

5. Dieting

There are certain foods which will help you to beat the low feelings that accompany a man when he breaks up a love relationship, and help you in your attempts at  coping with a relationship break up.

 

Some of these foods are:

Nuts—Nuts are rich sources of certain acids which support the proper functioning of the brain and help a person to defeat the feelings of being down which a person can experience.

There are various kinds of nuts you can eat:

  • Walnuts
  • Tigernuts
  • Brazilnuts

 

Eat a lot of nuts. In addition, let your diet contain adequate amounts of  mushrooms, dark green vegetables, pears, tomatoes and onions and you will feel you are able to cope with the situation.

6.  Release Your Pain

A smart way of coping with a long-term relationship beak up is to let go of your emotional pain. There is a great temptation to close everybody out and make your disappointment your ‘‘friend’’—that is to withdraw into yourself and shut everybody out. That will not help you. Instead, talk. Find people to talk to. Talking can be a helpful release. It is important that you do not restrain yourself and let the pain build up on the inside of you. You need to let it loose by speaking. Talking to someone you trust who has also broken up with a woman before, and who will listen, for example a close companion who will listen patiently and sympathetically, can bring  relief to your heart.

Putting your experiences and feelings into words often makes it easier to understand them and to deal with them. And if the person you are talking to has also gone through what you are going through, you may be able to learn some practical suggestions on how you can cope.

If you are not comfortable talking to someone, express yourself in writing. Write down how you are feeling on a sheet of paper and later read over what you have written. It will give you helpful release. Communicating your feelings can help you to release your grief.

 7.  Deal With Anger

If you feel angry with her, you must know that it is a normal reaction; you are hurt, and the emotional pain is expressing itself in anger. When you are aware of your anger, you can then manage it and prevent it from destroying you, and destroying your relationship with the people who care about you.

When thoughts of revenge and hatred for her crowd into your mind, ask yourself what you will gain if you are angry with her. Will it put money in your pocket? Will it help you to pay your bills?

See the anger in its proper light: it is a liability which you must get rid of. You will not gain anything if you continue to be angry with her.

See the anger as a liability because it can  cause you to become afflicted with diseases; doctors tell us that when a person gets angry, his or her blood pressure rises, and also that people are more likely to suffer heart attacks when they get angry often.

So, do not give in to anger—kill your anger.

8. Use  Colors

Colors can help you in coping after a relationship break up. There are two colors that can affect your mood, and therefore your emotions, and make you feel more at ease and willing to focus on the rest of your life, .

 

Green

Green is one color you should consider. Green soothes pain (that is why nurses normally wear green) and is associated with optimism. When you see green things a lot, it will make you more upbeat, and influence you to forget about the failed relationship, and generally feel positive about your future and your life.

The color green will also make you feel happy, clean, and fresh—which is what you need when you are coping with a break up of a long-term relationship.

 

Therefore, make sure you see a lot of green things:

  • Wear green- colored clothes for the period immediately following the break up until you can feel you are over her and ready to move on.
  • In your leisure time, go and stand in a field or park. Stand still and just stare at the green leaves of the trees.
  • Go into a farm and gaze at the leaves of the crops.

Blue

Blue is another color that can help you when you are coping with a relationship break up. The color blue reduces blood pressure, calms a person down, and gives a sense of security.

  • You can decide to wear a blue shirt under your suit when you are going to the office, or to wear a blue suit.

9. Move On

It is very challenging when you beak up with a woman  you may have loved. Sometimes you don’t want to move on because you do not understand why you broke up. But working through the pain will put you in a position to move on. You will also be able to reflect on valuable lessons learned while you were in the relationship. The memories may be the vehicle that may help you to go forward.

Resolve to keep living. Determine to move on so that you can still enjoy life. Do not let one woman rob you of continuing to enjoy the birds singing, or the beauty of the sun, or the glory of the stars, or take for granted the love of  those who still love  you.

Don’t let her departure  hold you back from living. Don’t let it dominate you. Mourn and grieve, and then make the best of the life that is ahead of you.

10. Do Something Encouraging for Others

Whenever you do something to alleviate the suffering of another person, your spirit is lifted up and you feel happy about yourself.

 

Here are a few kind things you can do for people:

 

  • Show kindness to poor people you meet on your way to work, or when you are coming back from work.
  • Visit the elderly and just spend time talking to some of them—some of them are lonely and need companionship.
  • Send gifts to orphans.
  • Offer a hand of help to physically challenged people you meet.
  • Send a text message or an email to someone who is suffering or going through hard times.
  • Visit a widow and give her words of encouragement.

 

All these things will lift your spirit and give you spiritual rejuvenation, which is bound to translate into physical energy to help you with coping with the breakup of a relationship.

11. Use Humor

Using humor will help you a lot in coping with the breakup of a long term relationship. Turn your mind to jokes you have heard before, or to a comedy movie you have watched in the past, or to something funny you have seen before; it will make you laugh and  forget about her.

Laughing will lighten up  your whole system, make you feel that you may be overreacting to the situation, and even  make you feel positively pre-disposed to the woman.

Therefore, try to recall funny things to your mind, and laugh.

12. Use Progressive Thinking

Progressive thinking is to tune your mind to the future, to focus your thoughts on what you want to happen to you in the days ahead, and to mobilize all your thoughts in that direction.

The way to do this is to think about all the good prospects that may be in store for you in your work, or a dream house you want to buy, or the car you have plans of acquiring, or your dream to travel around the world and meet exciting people, and see beautiful, exotic places.

It will give you a concentrated focus on your life, and make you forget about the girl.

Do not go around wishing things had been different, and saying things like, “Maybe if I had treated her right , or had approached her the proper way, she would not have left.” Focus on the future. Don’t be so concerned about why you broke up.

 13. Look to Jehovah

The Bible says, ‘‘Cast your burden upon the Lord and He will sustain you’’ (Psalm 55v22).  God holds the whole world in His hands. He can hold you and carry you through your period of grief if you will ask Him to in prayer. ‘‘He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds’’ (Psalm 147v3).  God will comfort you and sustain you through the sorrow if you will ask Him to. He will give you peace of mind, and strengthen your heart so that you will have courage to face tomorrow.

So, involve Jehovah in the situation. He wants you to look to Him in your time of disappointment. Jehovah can contribute to your emotional well-being, and help you in coping up with a relationship break up.

Conclusion

Coping with a relationship break up can be tough, but if you handle the situation well, you can get on with your life, approach another woman, and make her fall in love with you, and make sure you treat her well. All is not lost, so don’t lose hope.