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How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You Again: 7 Ways to Capture Her Heart Once More

How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You Again: Make Her Feel She Belongs to You

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You may have had a fight with your girlfriend, or cheated on her, or broken up with her for another reason. This may have led her to lose her love for you. But you realize you are still in love with her and want her back. How can you make your girlfriend love you again and renew her relationship with you?

Below, I share with you things you need to do to make your girlfriend fall in love with you again.

1.     Consider How You Acted in the Past

If you want to make your girlfriend fall in love you again, take one whole day and ruminate on what caused you to behave the way you did, if you are responsible for the breakup, or what you could have done to act differently so that both of you would not have parted ways, if she was responsible for the separation.

  • Find a quiet spot or place, such as an empty school classroom, or your own room(if you will not be disturbed), or an isolated park, where you can really think without any distractions keeping you from considering all the important points you need to think about.
  • Sit with a pen and writing pad.
  • Try to remember the issues that caused your relationship to come to a halt. For example, if you remember that it was your cheating on your girlfriend which caused the relationship to breakup, note it as point 1 in your writing pad.
  • Write down how you, as a person, contributed to making the cheating happen. For example, if you cheated because you just felt like having fun with another girl, note it down. If you cheated because you saw this gorgeous girl who swept you off your feet, and who looked extremely alluring and tempting, and who gave you so much attention that you forgot about your girlfriend and succumbed to her temptation, write it down. Similarly, write down all the ways in which you contributed to making the breakup happen.
  • Write down what your girlfriend did which pushed you to do what you did. For example, if you cheated because she was nagging too much, or she was too demanding, or she was not giving you enough attention, write them down.
  • Think about, and write down, the ways in which you think you can deal with the things that caused you to do what made the breakup come about. For example if you cheated, you can write that you will be careful how you associate with other girls other than your girlfriend from now on, or you will make sure you communicate more effectively with your girlfriend, or you will learn to resolve issues better when conflicts come up so that you will not find comfort in another girl, or you resolve now to be determined to remain faithful to your girlfriend from now on.
  • Write down what you think your girlfriend should do so that you will be satisfied and comfortable in the relationship, so that you will never try to seek that comfort with another girl ever again.
  • Think about how the breakup has cost you, what it has done to you emotionally and psychologically, for example the minutes of love or companionship from your girlfriend which you have missed. Also, think about how the issue has affected your girlfriend, and the ways it has made her suffer. Let these thoughts make you feel sorry about what you did, and make the thoughts help you to resolve never to repeat the mistake again.
  • Identify how you can improve your character as a person, and what you can do to become a better lover. For example, if you identify that being inconsiderate was the reason why your girlfriend left, what do you think you can do to become more considerate of her? If you broke up with her because she was self-centered, what are the ways you can help her to become a more selfless girl?
  • Make three copies of what you wrote down, and keep one copy.
  • Work on your inner man and your attitude to life. There is no better book in the world to help you do this than the Bible. It is the roadmap for life and you will find a lot of useful advice in it which can help shape your spirit, and your soul, and this shaping will help you to relate to your girlfriend better. The books of Proverbs, Ecclesiastes, Songs of Solomon, and the Psalms hold nuggets of wisdom which can help you to shape up your life better. Read your Bible every day, and pray to God to make you a better person, and you will see a transformation in your life which will impact positively on your relationship.
  • Learn all about loving a woman again and be committed to applying the knowledge you pick up to make her feel truly loved in the future.

Looking to the past so that you can make changes to your attitude is the first step you must take when you want to make your girlfriend love you again.

2.      Let Her See What She Is Missing

If you want to make your girlfriend love you again, you need to add value to yourself so that she will see she is missing something, and that she is the one losing and not you, so that she will find you attractive again and want to be in a relationship with you again, and that may instigate her to love you again.

Therefore, if you are in school, endeavor to work very hard at your books so that you can better your grades and achieve academic excellence. When you get excellent grades, let everybody know about it, and make sure the news gets to her. If you are a worker, double your efforts at work so that you may be considered for promotion, or even be promoted.

Adding value to yourself can act as a pull factor to draw your girlfriend back to you because she will feel she is missing out on being with this great guy.

Make sure you look even more attractive by dressing even better now than when you were with her. Look even more confident, smile as you walk about, and let everyone around you see that you are at peace with yourself, and with the world.

When you meet her in public, smile into her face and greet her civilly. Ask her how she is faring, and tell her about how your life is prospering since you left her, or since she left you. This is one way to make your girlfriend fall back in love with you again.

3.     Make the Move

When you feel you are over what caused the breakup, and you think you have assessed yourself thoroughly and you want to go forward and reunite with her, then make efforts to contact your girlfriend.

  • You may decide to contact her yourself, if the nature off the breakup was not acrimonious.
  • You may use her close friends or her relatives to drop hints that you want to meet her and have an honest discussion with her.
  • Invite her over to your place for a drink, or to watch a movie together, if she will be willing to oblige you. As the man, you must take the initiative to solve relationship problems, and that is what you demonstrate when you invite her to your place, and not vice versa. It shows leadership, and will help you establish your authority over her again if the relationship works out again.
  • On the day you are going to have the discussion with her at your place, create a romantic atmosphere for both of you. This is very crucial if you want to make your girlfriend love you again. Play her favorite love songs in the room where you will hold the discussions, place a picture of both of you at an advantageous place where she will see it immediately she comes to the place. The music will touch her emotions and make her sentimental, whilst the picture will remind her of the wonderful times you had in the past, and these two things may bring back fresh, love memories into her mind. The memories may influence her and make her have fresh love feelings for you if, subsequently, you say the right things.

4.     Remind Her You Are Human

You have to use the argument of your humanness to make your girlfriend fall in love with you again. Take the opportunity of the meeting to remind her that you are only human, and so would make mistakes.

  • Apologize sincerely for your contribution to what led to her losing her love for you.
  • Tell her you have reflected deeply on what happened, and you have seen you erred greatly. Let her know because of your humanness, you succumbed to the weakness, but just as there are many humans who have messed up terribly in life and have bounced back, you also feel you will bounce back and love her even more than you used to love her if she will just give you another chance.
  • You can use the stories of Peter, or David, or the gentleman in Judges 19 in the Bible to support your case. Read how these two men messed up, and how they came back to redeem themselves, and use the lessons you learn from these two stories to convince her that it is possible for a person to mess up terribly, but to become even better than he was later, when he is forgiven and given a second chance.
  • Show what you have written down to her to make her know that you are serious about tackling your weaknesses and improving your attitude. Give her one copy of what you wrote down, and give her a third copy to be given to a person of her choice who will act as an “overseer” and see to it that you act by what you have written down. This can influence her and make her fall in love with you again because she will see you are bent on really loving her, and this may make her more willing to give you her heart again.
  • Show you have changed when you are having this discussion. If you used to speak to her in harsh tones, speak in a slow, measured way. If you were unromantic before, use romantic words as you speak to her. Call her “honey,” or “love,” or “sugar,” as you speak to her. You must say things, or do something whilst you are with her to make her see that you have changed. This will influence her to want to renew her feelings for you again. This can make your girlfriend love you again.

5.     Remind Her of Her Humanness

You can point out a woman’s faults to her and let her see that what happened to you can also happen to her, if you want to make your woman fall in love with you again.

  • Make your girlfriend remember that she has also done things to hurt you in the past. Remind her of specific things she did to hurt you when you were together. For example, if there was an occasion on which she neglected you, or if she insulted you once, or if she got angry because you were not in a position to buy her a smartphone in the past, remind her of how her reaction hurt you, and the way you decided to let go because you loved her and wanted the relationship to progress. And tell her that just as you forgave, she should find it in her heart to forgive you.
  • Point out the specific things she did to make you lose your love for her, that is her contribution to the breakup or fight. Let her see she also has to carry some of the blame. Then discuss what you can do to make compromises so that you can renew your love again.
  • Give her a copy of what you wrote down as evidence that you will do things differently now.

6.     Tell Her the Rewards You Will Give Her

  • If you want to make a girl love you more again, then tell her you are still capable of loving her, and you want to show her even greater love. Assure her of your love for her. Give her evidence by showing her all the information on loving a woman again which you have gathered. This will tell her that you mean business, and it may influence her to throw down the wall which she may have built in her heart, and give you full access to her heart again.
  • Tell her the kind of love you will use to love her this time, which will be consistent, stable, undying, everlasting love.
  • When you renew your relationship, do even more than you told her you would do. Shower so much love on her that she will even beg you to reduce the amount of love you are giving her! It will make your girlfriend fall madly in love with you again.

7.     Make Her Feel She Belongs to a Relationship With You

If you want to make a girl fall in love with you again, you must make her see that you were a great couple, and she can become an important part of your life again and make you a better person if she comes back.

  • Let her know how she impacted on your life, and how important she is to you. For example, you can say something like, “I had low self-esteem until I met you and you made me feel I was the greatest guy in the whole world,” or “I never knew love until you taught me how to love.” This will make her know she is important to you, and it will make her feel she has an unfinished job to do, which is to love you and help make you a better person. It may influence her to love you again.
  • Let her know you need her presence, and make her feel she’s needed by your side. You can say something such as, “I really miss you, Ama. A hole has been created in my heart since you left. I remember the delicious recipes you used to prepare for me? I remember the words of love you used to share with me. We were so good together. Hmmm! Ama, I need you. I want you back in my life. Please consider giving your heart to me again.”

Conclusion

If you want to make your girlfriend love you again, do the things mentioned above in addition to making your girlfriend feel very important, showing her you care, making sure you keep things exciting in the relationship, and trying to get her to refresh her feelings for you, and you will keep her forever.

How did you make your girlfriend love you again? What was the magic formula you used? Let the world know by leaving a comment. Thank you.

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How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You: 5 Smart Ways to Achieve It

How to Make Your Girlfriend Love You:Learn How to Maintain Peace

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How can you make your girlfriend love you so that your relationship will get stronger and better? What are some of the things you can do to make your girlfriend love you forever?

Below, I show you how to make your girlfriend love you so that you can enjoy her companionship better.

1.     Learn How to Maintain Peace

One of the biggest sources of stress in romantic relationships has to do with lack of peace in the relationship. Getting along well with your girlfriend, who was brought up in a different home under different circumstances, requires effort on your part, especially when she does things to irritate you.

When you are at peace with yourself, you do not become restless and frightened for your relationship, and you are better able to treat your girlfriend right. When you treat her right, there is a greater chance she will love you.

If you want to make your girlfriend love you, you must learn how to live at peace with yourself, and with her. This will ensure that the right atmosphere is created between the two of you for the love you have for each other to flourish.

If you do not maintain the peace in the relationship, and you are always finding fault with what she does, or you look down on her, or you allow jealous feelings to invade your heart when you see she is friendly with other guys, or you are abusive, or you are unfaithful, or you are self-centered, then she cannot feel motivated to love you.

What are some of the things you can do to live at peace with your girlfriend, create harmony in the relationship, and strengthen your love bond?

  1. Make up your mind that you are going to cultivate a humble spirit, and maintain a humble attitude even if your girlfriend decides to be beastly, cantankerous, and mean.
  2. Try to see your spouse’s point of view when you have disagreements. Do not expect your girlfriend to be your carbon copy. Do not expect her to behave just like you do. Recognize that the way she thinks may be different from the way you think. Her likes may be different from your likes. For example, she may like her food bland, whilst you may like your food spicy. In such a situation, you can make peace when you decide to compromise so that each will learn how to adopt to the taste of the other, or you may decide to eat what you like, and allow your girlfriend to also eat what she wants. To make peace, you have to understand each other.
  3. Be careful the way you use your tongue. Gossiping about your girlfriend to your friends, slandering her, and exaggerating things and blowing them out of proportion (the minor irritations that occur in the relationship) are all things that can destroy peace in the relationship.
  4. Learn how to communicate charitably. Do not lose your temper, raise your voice, or bang doors when you are angry with your girlfriend. Try to control yourself. Honestly try to approach your girlfriend and make efforts to become reconciled. You can say something such as, “We need to resolve our issues. I think we messed up, darling, and we must clean up the mess by discussing this issue,” instead of saying, “I am very upset with you. It is all your fault. If you had listened to me, all this would not have come up.” Using “we” instead of “you” or “I” shows you feel you are also a part of the problem, and prevents shifting all the blame onto your girlfriend. When you shift the blame onto her, she will be forced to become defensive, and that may mean she may attack you to defend her integrity.

 

2.     Learn How to Be Patient

You must learn to develop the quality of self-restraint which does not quickly retaliate even when the provocation is of a magnitude that is difficult to take, if you want to make your girlfriend love you even more.

When you are patient, it will prevent fights, and so your girlfriend’s emotions will not be ruffled, and this will make her continue to love you.

You must therefore develop the ability to absorb irritating things, such as your girlfriend nagging often, without becoming emotionally and psychologically paralyzed(to refuse to do things you must do just because your girlfriend has hurt your feelings, such as spending time with her, or showing her affection).

  • Try to control your temper. Anger has destroyed many relationships, and caused regret in a lot of relationships.
  • See patience as postponing your anger to a later date, or indefinitely.
  • Say something such as, “I will get angry tomorrow,” or “I will get angry next week,” when you are very angry that. Keep postponing your anger every time and with time you will realize that you are better able to control your temper, and your anger. After all what would it cost you if you decide to postpone your anger for a day, a week, a month, or indefinitely? You will lose absolutely nothing because anger is not an asset!

    3. Show You Love Her

If you want to make your girlfriend love you like crazy, then you need to show her that you really love you.

One way you can show you love her is to practice constant forgiveness towards her. As the Bible says in Matthew 6 : 12, “Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors.”  You have sinned against God many times, and God has forgiven you a lot of times. Therefore, He requires that you should also learn to forgive any person who wrongs you, including your girlfriend.

Forgiving your girlfriend when she wrongs you can be hard at times because as humans, we have our egos hurt when we suffer at the hands of our loved ones, and that makes us want to pay back.

If you carry an unforgiving heart, you are more likely to pick up quarrels with your girlfriend because you will make a big issue out of every little thing. This is bound to disturb your girlfriend emotionally, to cause her psychological trauma, and it may make her love for you wane.

How can you practice constant forgiveness towards your girlfriend so that you can make her love you?

  • You must learn to understand her. There is always a reason why a person does something. If she becomes cross-tempered, maybe she is having her menses and is disturbed emotionally and psychologically. If she treats you with suspicion and picks up quarrels with you often, maybe she misunderstands your motives, or she has been misunderstood about something you said or did. Maybe she is the victim of her environment or her own heredity—She was brought up in a home where her mother was always quarrelling with her father. Maybe her temperament is such that life is difficult, and human relations is a problem for her—She may be a choleric or sanguine extroverted person. When you understand her better, forgiving her would be easier for you. So, remember her past. Let it inform you and make you calm down when you are upset with her.
  • You must learn to forget. So long as you remember what she does to you, and allow the wrong things she does or says to you to remain strongly in your mind, and brood upon the slights and injuries she causes you, the likelihood that you will forgive her and let it go is drastically reduced. You may say, “I can’t forget what Yaa did to me,” or “I will never forget how Ama treated me in Lovers Restaurant!” These kinds of sayings are very dangerous, because they can make it extremely difficult, or maybe humanly impossible, for you to forget. When you say things like these, it can make you print the memory of what your girlfriend did to you indelibly on your mind. To forgive is the sign of a great lover, and to forget is sublime. Therefore, try to think about her positive sides, the good things she has done for you in the past, when you are tempted to remind yourself of the bad things she has done to you.
  • You must pray. Nothing but the cleansing spirit of Jesus can take the memories of the bad things your girlfriend does to you out of your mind, and remove the bitterness from your heart. Therefore, pray to God to help you forgive your girlfriend. You can pray something like, “Dear God, Yaa has done something to hurt me deeply. She called me a toad when we were quarrelling. This remark hurt me a lot. I want to forgive her, but I find it difficult to do so. I keep remembering that remark every time I see her big head, and it always gives me bitter feelings. Please help me to forget that remark.” If you are sincere, God will help you to let go of the hurt, and He will erase the memory from your mind. It is true that even if you forgive and forget those memories will come to your mind sometimes, but it will not have a hold over you, and cause you to be bitter towards her.

Showing love to her is one way to make your girlfriend love you.

4. Make Her Feel Special

One way you can make your girlfriend love you is to make her feel special.

  • Upload her picture onto Facebook and write fifty things you feel are great about her, and fifty ways in which you think she is special. Share this post with your friends, and the public, and tag her. When she sees the post, it will make her know you value her as a person by virtue of the fact that you are extolling her qualities in front of the whole world. She will appreciate it, and she will appreciate you more and fall in love with you even more.
  • Say romantic things to her. You can say something like, “My love for you is the air I breath, darling, and I know there will never be an end to this air, “ or “Some get addicted to alcohol. Some get addicted to drugs. Some get addicted to sleazy material, but I am addicted to the most pleasurable thing in the world, which is you, my sweetheart,” or “Your love is more precious to me than the most expensive gold or diamond in this world.” Come up with more of such romantic words. Use your creativity and say words that will make her feel she is the best girlfriend in the world.

    5. Give Love

The Bible says in Luke 6:38 that, “Give, and it will be given to you; good measure, pressed down, shaken together, running over, will be put into your lap. For the measure you give will be the measure you get back.”

You must give if you want to receive. When you give love to your girlfriend, you will receive love from her. The more you love her, the more she will also love you.

Therefore, if you want to make your girlfriend love you, you must love her and show that you are a considerate, caring, loyal, compassionate, and an adoring and empathetic boyfriend who feels she is one of the best things to happen to this world, and one of the best things to happen to your life. This will encourage her to reciprocate your love, and she will also treat you like you are the most wonderful boyfriend in the world.

 

Conclusion

If you will diligently do these things, and also date her often, and keep her happy, you can make your girlfriend love you, and you will be able to keep her  forever.

 

 

What are some of the things you do to make your girlfriend love you? Please share them with the world by leaving a comment. Thank you.

How to Keep Your Girlfriend Happy: 21 Incredible Ways to Do It

How to Keep Your Girlfriend Happy: Make Time for Her

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How can you keep your girlfriend happy? How can you keep your girlfriend in love with you forever? What can you do to keep your girlfriend attracted to you so that she will never leave you?

1.     Make Time for Her

Girls like to share their joys and successes with their boyfriends, and also regularly want to ask advice from their guys, and share their pain and heartaches with the men in their lives. To be able to do this for your girlfriend, you need to make time just to be with her so that she can unload her heart’s desires, and her inner feelings to you. It will give her great joy when you go around often and listen to her.

To keep your girlfriend interested in you and in the relationship, plan meetings with her into your busy schedule.

 

2.     Be Attentive

If you want to keep your girlfriend in love with you, learn to be attentive to what she says. When a girl wants to pass across some information, she wants you to stop whatever you are doing and give her hundred percent attention. Girls do not like it when they are saying something to you, or telling you something, and you give them divided attention.

If you want to keep your girlfriend happy, pay attention to what she says to you.

 

3.     Let Her Feel Special

You must make a conscious effort to make your girlfriend feel as if she is the most important girl in the world, and that you see her as the Queen of your heart, if you want to keep your girlfriend loyal to you.

  • You can do this by sometimes just keeping quiet when you are having a conversation, just looking at her, admiring her beauty, and then you can say something like, “Sarah, I think you are the most beautiful and most wonderful girl in the whole wide world!”
  • Akua, a student said, “I’ll be in the middle of saying something to my boyfriend and I’m suddenly aware he is looking at me in a strange way. And then he tells me he loves me. It blows my mind away and makes me see that I am a special girl. I love it. It makes me feel good inside.”
  • Another way you can make your girlfriend feel special is to send her surprise love text messages from time to time. It will let her know she is always on your mind.

 

4.     Show You Care

  • When a girl spends time with her girlfriends and she meets you the next time, she wants you to ask her how things went.
  • When a girl visits you at the end of the schooling or working day, she wants you to ask her how her day went.
  • When a girl wears new clothes, or does a new hairstyle, she wants you to comment about it.
  • If you want to keep your girlfriend happy, make it a habit to inquire about how things are going in her life, and how she is getting along with her friends and family. When you keep doing these things, she will see you care about her, and she will continue to be happy.

Showing her you care will help you keep your girlfriend from cheating on you because she will have no motivation whatsoever to leave you.

 

5.     Be Generous

Show generosity to her occasionally. A small gift today, a little gift tomorrow will let her know you adore her. This is how to keep your girlfriend!

It does not mean you have to necessarily buy her gifts every time, although it is a good idea if you have the money to spare, but you can show generosity in a variety of ways:

  1. Get her a basket of fruits and vegetables so she can cook a delectable meal for herself.
  2. Buy phone credit for her so that she can recharge her phone and use it to tell you how much she loves you.
  3. Help her out financially when you can, if she is facing financially difficulties.

 

 

6.     Be Faithful to Her

A girl wants to know her boyfriend belongs to her and her alone.

When she knows that your whole heart is devoted to her alone, it makes her happy.

This does not mean that you should not have female friends. You should have other female friends, but let your girlfriend know that they are just platonic friends. Introduce them to your girlfriend so that she will know you are not cheating with them. When you are so open with her, and she sees that you are not romantically involved with these other girls, her mind will be at rest and she will be happy.

Being loyal to your girlfriend is one way to keep your girlfriend happy.

 

7.     Respect Her

If you want to keep your girlfriend attracted to you, you must show maximum respect to her.

One way you can show respect to your girlfriend is to show gratitude for the little things she does for you:

  1. Thank her when she cooks a nice meal for you.
  2. Let her know you appreciate the time she spends with you.
  3. Show appreciation for the pieces of advice she gives you.
  4. Say only character building and motivational words which will encourage her, to her. Avoid insulting her physical build and her intelligence.

 

8.     Be Romantic

  • Let your girlfriend see that you find her a desirable girl by saying romantic words to her often to show you think she is the best. You can say things like, “I think about you from morning to night, baby,” or “You are worth seeing every day, darling.” Come up with other creative words to tell her how wonderful you think she is.
  • Give her surprise dates. It does not necessarily have to be in an expensive restaurant, or at a hotel. You can get a bottle or two of fruit juice, a few meat pies or sandwiches, and have a romantic picnic in a park. Alternately, you can have these dates at your house or her house so that you can save money.
  • Take her to exotic and exciting places she tells you she would love to go as a treat. She will love it, and love you more.

Being a romantic guy is the best way to keep your girlfriend always happy.

 

9.     Be Playful

If you want to keep your girlfriend from getting bored in the relationship, and from seeking excitement from another guy, you should be playful. Try to be playful when you are with her:

  1. Tickle her.
  2. Tease her.
  3. Make jokes so that she can laugh away her stress.
  4. Try to let her lighten up and enjoy life.

Taking life too seriously can put a damper on your relationship and make it boring. Injecting such fun can add to the excitement of the relationship and make her happy. It is a way to keep your girlfriend away from other guys who may also be interested in her.

Keep your girlfriend entertained and she will be happy and stick to you.

 

10.  Flatter Her Often

Intentionally say things about her anatomy to make her feel extra good about her body and her figure. Put her on a pedestal, and let her feel she is no ordinary girl.

  • For example, you can say something like, “Girl, you have the most beautiful lips in the world.”
  • You can say, “Honey, I think your legs are the greatest in the universe.”
  • Another way you can flatter her is to say, “I know your shape is the most wonderful on this side of creation.”

It will make her know that you really cherish her, and she will feel excited and extremely good about herself. It will also help you to get your girlfriend’s attention.

 

11. Show You Are Proud of Her in Public

When you are in public, or when you go to visit friends and family, show signs of affection for your girlfriend in front of them. It will keep your girlfriend excited about the relationship.

  • Sit or stand close by her and put your arm around her.
  • Hold hands with her often.
  • From time to time look into her face for about a minute and just smile at her without uttering a word.
  • Put your arm around her neck and tell everybody there how much you love her.

 

This will show her that you are not ashamed to let others see that you love her, and this will make her happy. It will keep your girlfriend chasing you, and she will never break up with you.

 

12. Give Her Freedom Sometimes

It is true you love her a lot and you want to spend every waking moment with her, but you should also learn to give her some freedom sometimes so that she can miss you. Giving her freedom will also not make her feel you are intruding too much into her life.

Therefore, from time to time, set aside certain days on which you will not go to her place, so that she can reflect on herself and the relationship, and have time to do things she has not been able to do because she has to spend a lot of time trying to please you. It will let her know you are concerned about her as a person, and she will be happy with you for that. It will keep your girlfriend crazy about you and she will never even think of leaving you.

 

13. Inspire Her

If you have been exposed to more in life than her, give her dreams and let her see there is a greater life she can aspire to, and that you feel she has the potential to do even greater things than she is doing in her life now. It will give her something to think about, and make her know that she has potential she can tap into as a person, and it will help you to keep your girlfriend close. It will boost her self-confidence. A person who is always looking forward to something greater, with self-confidence, is generally happier.

 

14. Be Patient When She Messes Up

If you want to keep your girlfriend happy, then treat her with patience when she disrespects you or does something which cuts your heart into two. When you decide to be patient, you will be able to tell her in a civil manner how you are hurt, and this will give her an opportunity to ask for forgiveness in a peaceful manner. Becoming impatient may turn the ant-hill into a mountain, blow up the disagreement, and you may have a major fight.

Being patient and handling conflicts in a mature manner will keep your girlfriend from dumping you because she will see your value as a peaceful guy.

 

15. Maintain Your Commitment to the Relationship

If you want to keep your girlfriend happy, you need to sustain your interest in the relationship by letting her know, by word of mouth, that you are committed to the relationship, and that you will do your best to make the relationship work. This will let her know that she has a stable relationship to look forward to, and this will make her very happy. It will keep your girlfriend wanting you.

 

16.Try to Fulfill Her Expectations

It is true that you cannot fulfill every expectation your girlfriend wants you to fulfill, but you must be able to fulfill a great number of them. Do your best to meet her expectations, or at least meet her half-way, and she will be a happy girlfriend:

  1. Sit down with her regularly and discuss what she expects from you.
  2. Ask her if you are fulfilling them.
  3. If you are not, then try to do better. Ask her to help you meet her expectations. For example, if she expects you to be more romantic, ask her what you can do which she will consider as being romantic. Then do it for her. If she thinks you are not showing enough love, inquire from her why she feels that way, and then implement whatever suggestions she gives you.

If you are able to fulfill most of her expectations, it will keep your girlfriend from leaving you for another guy.

 

17. Never Abuse Her Verbally or Physically

When a guy abuses a girl, it speaks poorly of him and casts a slur on her character. It is not a sign of love, and it is despicable.

Therefore, do your best never to abuse your girlfriend verbally, or by beating her up. Never extend your hands to hit her. Try to talk through problems and make an effort to resolve them amicably. This will get your girlfriend so emotionally attached to you that she will never consider leaving you.

If you cannot thrash out all issues between yourselves, seek the counsel and help of more experienced people than you.

If you think you are not happy with the behavior of your girlfriend, the best thing you have to do is to part ways.

 

18.  Create Future Visions With Her

If you want to keep your girlfriend to be happy, create future dreams and visions with her. Make plans about the future together. This will let her know that you are a guy with a vision, and it will keep her looking forward to something good in the future. This will lift her spirit and make her feel happy because she knows you take the relationship very seriously. It will keep your girlfriend faithful to you, and keep her from leaving.

 

19.  Be a Thoughtful Boyfriend

You must be able to read your girlfriend, and to do the right thing at the right time always.

Therefore, get to know her personality well, her mood changes, the times when she feels like talking, and the times when she wants to be left alone, if you want to keep your girlfriend from losing interest.

When you are able to respond to her changing desires accurately, it will lead to less tension in the relationship, and both of you will feel more comfortable with each other.

 

20. Keep Past Mistakes in the Past

When she does something you hate, and you tell her, and the issue is resolved, try not to bring it into the present again. Bringing it up again will cause healed wounds to be opened afresh, and it will make her unhappy.

Let your girlfriend’s mistakes die with the past, if you want to keep your girlfriend happy and interested in you.

 

21. Don’t Look Down on Her

Treat your girlfriend as a human being with desires, intelligence, aspirations, and abilities which can rival your own, if you want to keep your girlfriend happy. Let her feel she is also a capable person, and it will make her feel great about herself and her abilities. It will keep your girlfriend interested in you forever.

 

Conclusion

If you are able to keep your girlfriend happy, and you show love to her, it will prevent a break up with its consequences. You will not need to go through the trouble of trying to make the relationship work again.

 

 

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How to Tell if She Loves You: 13 Signs That Will Make You Know

How to Tell if She Loves You: She Will Show You Signs of Affection

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How do you tell if a girl loves you? Below, I want to show you how to tell if she loves you so that you can make an informed choice whether to give you heart back to her.

1.     She Will Want to Be with You Often

How can you tell if she loves you? One way you can tell if she loves you is the amount of time she spends with you. A girl who loves you will have the desire to see you often. Therefore, any least opportunity she gets, she will come to wherever you are because she wants to be close to you and to feel an emotional connection with you.

When she has not seen you for some hours, it will make her feel uncomfortable, and so she will try her best to see you because she has feelings for you. So for example, even if you are in the same class, after you close from class for the day, she will come to your hostel, or come to your house so that she can spend some more time in your presence, because she will experience happiness when she is near you.

On the other hand, if a girl does not want to spend time with you, always makes excuses because she is busy and does not have time for you, then even if she says she loves you, you should not believe her. This is how to tell if she doesn’t love you.

 

2.     She Shares Her Secrets with You

When someone loves you, they trust you a lot, and are not afraid to share things they would otherwise not tell other people with you.

When a girl loves you, she takes you into her confidence and feels comfortable sharing her innermost worries and fears, her thoughts, and desires with you. She does this because she feels she can trust you, and knows you are a guy who will not spill the beans.

If a girl is able to tell you even embarrassing things that happened to her, or terrible things she has done, it means she feels comfortable being in your presence, has no emotional inhibitions, and it is a sign to tell you she loves you. She will even tell you about guys who are proposing to her because she wants to get a response from you, such as you telling her you love her, so that she can confidently ward off those guys by telling them she has a boyfriend.

How to tell if she loves you is to see whether she feels comfortable enough to share her secrets with you.

 

3.     Looks at You and Smiles

A girl who loves you will take delight in looking at you. Whenever she sees you, or if you are doing something together in the same place, such as if you are both in the library reading, or you are both at a friend’s party, you may notice her looking at you. She will look at you for long periods of time and when you also look in her direction and your eyes meet, she will either smile at you because she is happy you are looking at her, or she will avert her eyes, especially if she is a shy girl.

She will look at you for long periods because she admires you, has feelings for you, and cannot have enough of you and so looks at your to satisfy her desire to see you.

How to tell if she loves you is to look for these body language signs, and to be on the look-out for them.

 

4.     She Shows Interest in Your Life

When a person loves you, they want to know what you are going through, whether all is well with you and your family, whether school is going well, and whether you are having issues with your parents or siblings.

When a girl shows a great interest in your life, and always wants to find out what is going on with you, it should tell you she loves you. This is how to see if she loves you.

She will ask you about how life is treating you when she sees you are not looking cheerful. She may ask something like, “Ike, I have not seen you in a while. I have been so busy catching up with my own homework, but I have not forgotten about you. How are you doing? Is everything fine with you?” She will say it with a look of concern on her face. You will see and feel that she is really concerned about you. This is one way to tell if she loves you truly.

She may also say, “Of late you have been very quiet. This is most unlike you. Is everything alright? Are you having some problems? If you are, let me know. I want to help.”

When you love someone, you care about them and what they are going through, and that is why she will show this concern for you.

 

5.     Shows You Signs of Affection

One way to tell if she loves you is when she expresses her love for you by showing you signs of affection when she is around you. She will want to get close to you and depending on your level of friendship, she may put her arms around your waist, or sometimes, she may put her arms on your shoulders, to make you know she really loves you. This is all because of the feelings she has for you. It gives her the desire to want to touch you physically.

Also, you may find her brush your cheeks with the back of her hands sometimes in a playful manner. She will do this because she wants to get your attention and make you know that she wants you to be more than just a friend.

Sometimes too, she may hug you out of the blue, and hold onto you for a long time. On the other hand, she may ask you to hug her when she is feeling emotional, because she wants to feel close to you, which is a sign she loves you. This is how to know she loves you deeply.

 

6.     She Gets Jealous Constantly

If a girl show signs of jealousy every time she sees you with another girl, it should tell you she loves you. This is how to tell if she actually loves you.

  • If every time a girl sees you walking with another girl, she walks up to you and tries to break up your walk with this other girl by taking hold of your hand and trying to take your attention from the girl by turning your face towards her, it means she wants you all to herself, which is a sign she loves you and wants to be the only girl in your life. This should let you know she loves you for real.
  • Sometimes too, you may be sitting down in a corner talking to one of your female friends. She will walk up to where you are sitting and join the conversation uninvited because she may feel that this girl is getting too close to you.
  • When you tell her you came from seeing this girl, or you are going to see that girl, you will see signs of irritation on her face, such as a frown, or if she is smiling before you give her this news, she will stop smiling and assume a serious face. She may try to prevent you from going by saying something to discourage you, such as, “Why don’t you go to her place another time. I want to spend time with you now.” When you insist on going, she will get angry with you and threaten not to speak to you if you go.

 

7. She Will Constantly Get Nervous Around You

How to tell if she is falling in love with you is whether or not she acts in a nervous manner when she is around you.

  1. If a girl loves you, she easily gets nervous whenever she is in your presence. When you speak to her, you will feel the nervousness in her voice, which will show as a shaking, quavering voice.
  2. When you ask her to take something for you, you will notice her hands shaking visibly.
  3. For a girl who sweats a lot, she will sweat more than usual and you will notice her mopping up the sweat which collects on her face often with her handkerchief.

When you notice these signs every time a girl is around you, it must tell you she loves you.

 

8.     Introduces You to Her Family

If a girl loves you, she will want you to know her parents and her siblings. This is to show that she accepts you and wants you to become a part of her family. When someone loves you, they care about you getting to know their family because they are anxious to show you off to their family, and to let their family accept you.

How to tell if a girl is in love with you is when she has the desire to make you meet her family.

 

9.     She Will Want to Know Your Family

A girl who loves you will want your family to know her so that they can give her legitimacy which she can get when she is accepted into the family. If she loves you, she wants your family too to love her, and so she will do her best to get you to introduce her to your family.

How to know if she loves you is to notice her pestering you to introduce her to your family.

 

10. She Will Be Extremely Patient With You

If a girl is extremely patient with you, over and above the ordinary, it should tell you she loves you. When you do something that normally would get any girl annoyed, she will be calm and take it coolly because she loves you and does not want to have a fight with you.

When you hurt her emotionally, she will be patient and give you another chance because her feelings for you are deep. This is how to tell if she loves you or not.

If a girl behaves this way towards you, it must tell you she loves you, and you must not take advantage of her feelings for you, and continue to hurt her.

 

11. She is Particularly Kind to You

A girl who loves you will go out of her way to show special kindness to you. She will treat you in a special way she may not treat even her family members or close friends and associates. For example, she may buy expensive gifts for you, gifts which will make you wonder how she got the money to buy them for you. That will tell you how highly she esteems you, and how precious she thinks you are to her.

She may cook your favorite meals for you and present them to you as a present, or ask you ways she can be of help to you. If she does these things often, she loves you, cares about you, and wants to help you. This is how to know whether she loves you or not.

 

12. She Comes to Like What You Like

One sure thing that can give you an indication that  a girl loves you is when she aligns her interests with your interests. She does this because she wants both of you to have a common ground of interest, and also because she wants to please you. So, for example, if she hated reading, and you like reading, you will notice that she will develop an interest in reading because she knows when she does so, you will like her more, and also you will have a lot more things to talk about when you meet since you will now have identical interests.

How to know she loves you or not is to see if she tries to like what you like, which she does in an effort to impress you and win your favor.

 

13. She Will Include You in Her Decisions

When a girl loves you, she will trust you and your judgments, which will make her seek your opinion when she is making critical decisions that have serious implications for her life, such as travelling out of the country because she wants to go to school overseas, or if she wants to change course in school, or she wants to change schools. By valuing your input into her decision making, she is telling you that your opinion matters to her. When your opinion matters to a person, there is a possibility that person loves you.

How to know if she loves you is to checkout whether she seeks your opinions when she is making decisions.

 

Conclusion

When you can tell if she loves you, then if you want to have a relationship with her, reciprocate that love and make her fall for you. And when you treat her exceptionally, you can be sure that your relationship will last for a long time.

 

 

Do you have a girlfriend? How could you tell she loved you? Please let me know by leaving a comment. Thank you.

 

 

How to Keep Your Girlfriend: 16 Smart Ways to Go About It

How to Keep Your Girlfriend: Acknowledge Her

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How can you keep your girlfriend attracted to you, and in love with you till you can make the commitment to marry her?

 

1. Be a True Companion

We usually enter a relationship because we feel lonely, or do not want to spend our life alone but with someone who will share our space and be a friend we can always count on.

 A girl wants a true companion she can share her life with. Some guys are in relationships but are not companions; they do not offer time for the girl to share her intimate heart’s feelings and emotions with them.

If you want to keep your girlfriend interested, then be a true companion. Keep your girlfriend company. Devote time to her for her to share ideas with you in a peaceful and enjoyable atmosphere.

 

2. Comfort Her

Every girl has weaknesses and faces trials and temptations. A girl wants a guy who will have the patience to understand her weaknesses, trials, temptations, her low level of moral endurance, and who will, even when she messes up, carefully speak words of healing which will correct her and make her a stronger woman.

Girls also want guys who will be loving and do affectionate acts that will bring joy and peace to the relationship.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, be patient with her and try to understand her weaknesses, and help her to overcome them—this is how to keep your girlfriend in love. Comfort your girlfriend, speak words of healing when she makes mistakes, try to help her to overcome her weaknesses, be loving and affectionate, and you will be able to keep your girlfriend close and she will love you forever.

 

3. How to Keep Your Girlfriend From Other Guys—Protect  Her

A girl wants to feel safe when she is with a guy. You do not need to fight or exchange blows with another man, but at least you must demonstrate with your words to your girlfriend that she is secure when she is around you, and tell other guys to stay away from her because she belongs to you.

You can do this by making guys know that they cannot mess around with your girl, and that you will stand up to be counted and defend her to the best of your ability. Say it with all confidence, look fierce and bold, and guys will not want to come near your girlfriend.

 

4. Keep Her From Danger

One way you can protect her is to see beyond the present, look into the future, and give her advice, cautions, and assistance  which will help her  jump over some hurdles in life, or prevent danger and trouble in her life. For example, if she wants to start a business and you can do research and give her useful advice, she will cherish you for that. Also, if you see her developing a friendship which is likely to cause her problems in the future and you tell her honestly, stating the consequences of  that association clearly to her, and she sees reason, you will get your girlfriend’s attention and she will love you more when she sees you are doing it because you want to keep her safe.

 

5. Offer Her Security

When you give your girlfriend a comforting sense of belonging, if she feels you belong to her alone and she knows she is not sharing you with any other girl, it gives her peace of mind, and helps her to devote all her energy to the relationship, and it also makes her more willing to want to stay with you. This is one way to keep your girlfriend loyal, and to keep her happy.

If she knows you like jumping from girl to girl, she will not feel she has a future with you, and she may leave.

 

6. Do Not Only Hear Her, But Listen to Her

Women like to talk, and like to be listened to. It makes them feel very wanted when their guys hear, and also listen to them.

Hearing is to know that her voice is audible, and she is saying something. Listening is stopping whatever you are doing, giving her your full attention, looking into her face, and taking in whatever she wants to tell you, even if you don’t care about what she is saying.

When you do not listen to her, it gives her the feeling that you do not care about her inner thoughts, and this could make her unhappy with the relationship. But when you listen you show her you care a lot about what she has to say, and she will be happy about the relationship and want to continue being with you; this is a way to keep your girlfriend from breaking up with you.

 

7. Be Faithful

Let your girlfriend be the only girl you are seeing. Let her be more precious to you than anyone, apart from Jehovah, and let her know she holds a special place in your heart. This is one way to get your girlfriend comfortable, and to make her want to continue the relationship.

Some guys treat their friends and family with more respect, and give more attention and time to them, than they give to their girlfriends. Also, they place their love for their work, or other friendships, pastimes, or recreations  ahead of their relationship with their girlfriends.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, continue to have your close friends, and times of recreation, but devote more time to her than to the other things. It will keep your girlfriend calm and satisfied in the relationship.

 

8. Resolve Conflicts Amicably

You will most definitely have arguments, but you should not see your arguments as a challenge of your authority as the man, or as a boxing fight which must definitely be won by you. If you do that, you may tear down the relationship just to show that you can fight, and she may leave when she thinks she is being treated unfairly.

Instead, cooperate with her to fight the cause of the quarrels. Both of you should attack the problem, not the consequences of the problem.

 

9. Acknowledge Her

Make up your mind that your girlfriend does not owe you anything. Think that she owes you nothing, so that when she does anything for you, you will acknowledge it and see it as a precious gift she is giving to you. This will cause you to value her more, and she will be happier with you when she knows she is valued, it will keep your girlfriend crazy about you.

 

10. Make Sure You Are Great Fun

Your girlfriend will never leave you when you can make her happy always. How do you keep your girlfriend happy always? You can keep your girlfriend happy by  being great fun.

Some relationships break up because one partner is starved of fun by the other partner.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, then you will have to become a child again and make the relationship lively. Have a sense of playfulness, and a spirit of jollity and merriment. If you can adopt this attitude, and find ways to make even tough times great fun for her, you will keep her forever.

One good way to be great fun is to develop your sense of humor. Try and build up a catalogue of jokes, rehearse them often, practice them, and release them when you are together with her. Make her laugh and forget some of her stress, and she will always love your company, and want to be in a relationship with you.

Keep your girlfriend entertained and she will not want to leave you. It is also one way to keep your girlfriend from cheating on you.

 

11. Be Alert When You Are Around Her

Girls pay attention to detail, and sometimes think guys  also pay attention to detail. A girl wants you to notice it when she changes her lipstick, or when she starts doing her hair differently, or when she does manicure, or changes the color of her eye shadow, or when she wears a new shoe.

Keep your eyes open and notice changes you see in her, and tell her how beautiful it makes her look, or else you are in trouble. She will think you do not care about her when you do not notice these things.

Always remember that for some girls talking about how they look is a measure of your care and love for her. Therefore if you do not do it, they assume you do not love them, and that could cause a break up.

 

12. Don’t Be Manipulative

Manipulative people sometimes use shallow flattery as a ploy to get what they want.

If you are in the habit of flattering your girlfriend, and your girlfriend sees that you use it just to get her to do things for you, to take advantage of her, and she points it out to you but sees you are not willing to change, you will lose her trust, and she will fall out of love with you.

When you want her to do something for you, just negotiate with her. Let her know your needs, and her reward when she does something for you. This is more likely to motivate her, and to make her want to keep the relationship with you.

13. Don’t Be Proud

Pride takes many forms and sometimes shows itself  through an arrogant manner rooted in security. Proud people refuse to listen and face facts, refuse to admit wrongs when they make mistakes, vow never to say “I am sorry,” and refuse to negotiate.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, then you must not show pride in the relationship. If you are feeling insecure, work on your self-esteem and build up your confidence.

When you make mistakes, be humble enough to admit that you are a human and will make mistakes, and your girlfriend will be happy to stay with you. You do not lose anything when you apologize to a woman. It does not make you less of a man, and does not make your height reduce by an inch!

When  you have disagreements, resolve to negotiate so that there will be peace.

 

14. Make Her Feel Special

If you want to keep your girlfriend, you must make her feel that she is the most cherished girl on earth by the way you treat her and set her apart in your heart.

 

15. Date Her Often

Many girls want to be courted regularly. They want their men to rekindle the fire that was lit when they first met. They want to be wined and dined. When you become so busy that you do not have time to date her again, she can feel emotionally neglected, and seek that emotional connection with another man. Some girls have left their guys, or had affairs behind the back of their boyfriends because their boyfriends stopped being romantic.

Therefore, date her. Rekindle your love from time to time.

 

16. Manage Her Expectations

Many girls enter relationships with wild dreams, most of which are unattainable. It is your duty as the guy to  know your girlfriend’s expectations and fantasies, and to manage them so that she does not end up feeling you do not love her, which can make her break up with you.

For example, if she thinks that a boyfriend should always be buying expensive gifts for his girlfriend, and you do not make her understand that she must learn to adapt to the economic strength of her boyfriend and be satisfied with the little he can do for her, she will become dissatisfied with what you can do for her, look for a man who can buy her those expensive gifts, and leave you.

 

Conclusion

Women need attention, and it must be your resolve to give her the utmost attention you can give her. If you do that, she will not break up with you, and you can enjoy your relationship to the fullest.

 

Are there any other ways you think you can keep your girlfriend? Let the world know by leaving a comment. Thank you.

How to Show a Girl You Love Her: 7 Great Ways to Let Her Know

How to Show a Girl You Love Her: Say Words of Love to Her

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How do you show a girl you love her? What are some of the things you can do to show a girl you adore and treasure her?

1. Do Not Pressure Her For Sex

God made sex for a purpose. He made sex so that married people will use it to strengthen the marriage bond, and  to get more tender feelings for their spouse. He  knew it could  lead to the birth of a child which would need the loving care of both  a father and a mother, that is why He said it is married people, who can take care of that responsibility, who should have sex.

Unfortunately in today’s world, many guys do not see anything wrong with sleeping with a girl when you are not married to her. But God sees everything wrong with it, and punishes people who engage in pre-marital sex.

God takes a very serious view of  having sex when you are not married. In the Bible days, God killed 23,000 people in one day because of  immorality. That is how serious He takes it! And immorality will be one of the reasons why some people will end up in hell, because it is a sin God hates.

If you want to show a girl, especially a Christian girl, that you love her, then you would definitely not want her to incur God’s wrath, which she can do if she sleeps with you out of wedlock. Therefore, you will not pressurize her to do something that will have devastating consequences for her. You will not ask her to sleep with you and sin, because you care so much about her and her soul. When you love someone, you care about the whole of that person, including the soul and eternal destination of the person you love.

If you want to show a girl you love her, then you will control your sexual urge, not force her or worry her to have sex with you and do the wrong thing, but wait till you can marry her before you sleep with her. This shows you respect her as a person, respect her body, and also that you respect her right to have control over her own body. This is one way to show  a girl you love her without saying it.

2. Say Words of Love to Her

If you want to show a girl you care and love her, you will say words of love to her often. Girls like  to hear nice and sweet words said to them. Therefore, if you want to show a girl you love her, or make a girl fall for you, say sweet, beautiful words to her often.

“I love you,” are words that most guys say often. But you can take it a step further by saying these words in creative ways to make it more appealing and romantic, since girls hear “I love you” all the time.

  • You can say something like, “My heart is an unending well that produces fresh feelings for you every time I see you, darling, and this well will never cease to continue pouring out tender feelings of adoration for you.”
  • You can say, “Honey, I felt so incomplete I think I was a half-person before I met you. You have brought the other half and made me whole and complete.”
  • You can say, “I know angels go with me wherever I go, but I don’t see them. But you are the angel that I see.”
  • This is another way you can put it: “My heart is a kingdom and you are the queen who looks after my kingdom, and you will rule in this kingdom forever.”
  • “You are so perfect, darling, and I am so into you that I don’t think I could ever have enough of you. If you were food, I know I would eat lots of you and still not be satisfied because I would want more and more of you,” is another way you can put it.
  • You can decide to put it this way too: “You deserve to own the world, and I know it does not belong to you. I really wish I could give you the whole world, but I will give you something which comes close to this world—my world.”
  • “Life without you is like the summer without the sun,” is another interesting way you can express your love for her.
  • You can also decide to take her hand, look deep into her eyes, and say in a low voice, “Darling, every time I see you, my love for you grows bigger, stronger, and sometimes it feels like my love for you is a bomb on the inside which can explode at any time.”

When you are able to put it more creatively, it will not sound like she has heard it before, she will not be bored, and will always look forward to the next time you will say something different in her ears, which will put more excitement into the relationship and add diversity and variety.

This is also how to show a girl you love her without spending money because you do not need to spend anything before giving her words of love.

3. Never Compare Her to Other Girls

Some guys are fond of comparing their girls to other girls. “I wish you had a more beautiful nose than you have,” or “I like the way Jennifer treats her boyfriend. I wish you would also treat me that way,”  are some of the ways some guys compare their girls to other girls.

If you are a guy who compares your girlfriend to other girls, you will dampen her spirit and make her feel she is in competition with another girl. This does not show love.

Instead, treat her as a unique girl, and make her feel special. Let her feel  that you are proud of her, but that there is always room for improvement.

If there is something you don’t like about her, find a nice way to tell her to improve and become a better girlfriend. For example, if you think she is not romantic enough, you can say something like, “Darling, you know you are a great girl. You mean so much to me, I adore you, and will adore you even more if you try to be more affectionate. I can assure you my love for you will become even heavier.” This is how to show a girl you love her more than anything, and because she wants you to love her more, she will try to be more romantic so that she can make you happy. Do not say something like, “Jennifer is always holding Mike’s hands . I think that is very romantic. She is great when it comes to the affection she shows to her boyfriend. I do not think you are doing well in that area. You should try to be more like her.”

Not comparing a girl to other girls is how to show a girl you really love her.

4. Watch Your Tongue

The tongue is a small organ, but it can cause great havoc, and destroy relationships when it is not controlled well. It is shut up inside the mouth by a barricade of teeth, and then by the door of the lips, and still it gets loose and sometimes can be full of deadly poison and stir up a relationship in the wrong way.

The tongue is also a poisonous drug. A poisonous drug does not need to be taken in large doses in order to be effective; a drop or two will usually be enough. Just so, the tongue does not need to utter long speeches in order to be poisonous. Boyfriends and girlfriends lash, rail, and accuse each other with the tongue.

The tongue is also a fire. Fire, when it is under control, is a great blessing to man: it can be used to cook, to drive the chill out of our homes, and also to warm our bodies. But when fire is out of control, it destroys and leaves a path of desolation and destruction.

When you use your tongue wrongly by disparaging your girlfriend, or criticizing her destructively too often, it does not show a girl that you love her, and can lead to quarrels, making the whole of your relationship like a blazing hell. Using your tongue wrongly is how to show a girl you do not love her anymore.

If you want to show a  girl you love her, then restrain your tongue from spewing out a lot of destructive criticisms; she will do things you do not like, but find nice ways to tell her without sounding unnecessarily condemnatory. If you do not do this, she can leave you and give you a headache.

Another way not to show a girl you love her is to lie about her. Poisonous lies from the tongue have destroyed many relationships because a guy told a lie or destroyed the reputation of a girl.

Your tongue is a concealed and dangerous weapon. It is in a wet place and likely to slip. You must constantly guard against using it to lie and gossip about a girl if you want to show her you love her.

Try to keep secrets she shares with you, and make sure you do not harm her reputation by telling others about certain bad habits she may show in private when she is alone with you.

Also, if you want to show a girl you love her, you should not have an inconsistent tongue which says words of love to her at one moment, and then at another time criticizes destructively, mocks, lies, and defames her. When you have a consistent tongue that says only words of love and criticizes constructively, you show a girl you love her a lot.

5. Appreciate Her

There is nothing more painful in this world than to give your heart to someone or to show love to someone and expect to be appreciated, only for that person to take you for granted.

If you want to show a girl you love her, appreciate her. Appreciation  can work wonders in your relationship if you do it often. It shows a girl you love her very much and  willing to do her best to love you in return.

If she cooks a meal for you, you can say something like, “You are a fantastic cook!”

If you and your partner are rusty with appreciations, giving them will feel a bit awkward at first.  But as long as you are sincere, you will be delighted by the new level of goodwill that will begin to spring up in your relationship like trees growing new leaves, when you appreciate her often.

Start with small things you may have been taking for granted for so long, like her beautiful nose, her nice legs, the way she encourages you when you are down, how she makes you laugh because of her sense of humor, kindness she shows to your siblings etc.

When you don’t appreciate a girl, it makes her feel you don’t love her anymore, and she may have second thoughts about the relationship.

6. Give Her a Gift She Will Never Forget

Carefully write down the story of how you met her, what you felt when you first saw her, how you used to think about her when you were developing feelings for her, some of the thoughts that came into your mind when you realized you loved her, and how she has impacted on you as a person and influenced you to become a better guy. Get it printed and bound, and present it to her as a gift to show her the change she has brought to your life. Alternately, you can have the words imprinted on a wooden plaque, which she can keep in her room to always remind herself of how much you cherish her. This is how to show a girl you love her with actions.

Whenever she looks at it and reads the words, she will feel proud that she has at least influenced the way one person in the world feels. It will also make her feel she is so important to you that you cherish the story of your love so much as to want to immortalize it. This is something precious she will treasure forever. This is how to show a girlfriend you love her so much.

7. Criticize Her Constructively When She is Doing the Wrong Thing

When you love someone, you punish that person in love to correct them when they are going off the right path.

If your girl is doing something detrimental to the survival of your relationship, punish her by confronting her and giving constructive criticism: Turn on the heat in wisdom and in love when it is required. This is how to show a girl you love her without telling her. If she is drifting from the relationship, for example if she is losing focus and not giving you the attention you desire, tell her in the face. And then tenderly bring her back into the relationship by telling her what you expect of her, and that your heart is still open to her.

Some guys think that when they criticize their girls, it will make them leave. Not criticizing her at all is how to show a girl you don’t  love her, because it shows you do not care about making her a better person. Criticizing her to make her a better lover will make her know you care about her and the relationship a lot, and make her love you even more if she is a thoughtful  and wise girl.

 

Conclusion

These are some of the ways you can show a girl you love her. If you practice them consistently, you will have a beautiful relationship.

How to Date a Girl: 8 Things You Need to Do If You Want to Get Her

How to Date a Girl: Show Her You Will Be a Good Lover

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How do you go about asking a girl for a date? What should you do? Below I show you how to date a girl you like, or who you know likes you.

 

1. Show Her You Will Be A Good Lover

A good lover pays attention to detail. A good lover cares about what impression people will have of him, and how that impression will also rub- off on his girl. A good lover pays attention to his appearance and always wants to look good for his woman.

It is very important for you to make sure you always look sharp, decent, and attractive if you want to date a girl you like. This will give you a reputation for always looking good, people may notice it including the girl you want to date, or her friends, they make talk about, or she will talk about it and like you even before you make the approach. This will make you more attractive, and she may even be attracted to you before you approach her, which will make your job easier.

Therefore, make sure you take personal care of your body, and how you dress very seriously. Ensure your hair is cut regularly, cut your nails to prevent them overgrowing, shave all hair that needs to be shaved, keep good oral hygiene, eat lots of fruits and vegetables, and drink a lot of water every day, so that you will good and fresh breath. This is one of the tips for how to date a girl.

2. Develop Your Confidence

No soldier goes to war believing he may win the war, or that he will lose the war. No soccer player goes into a crucial match thinking he will lose the game; he goes into the game believing that he has what it takes to help his team win the game.

In that same vein, you need to work on yourself and believe that you can win the girl you want to date. There are many guys who cannot date the girls they are interested in because they do not have the courage to approach the girl and tell her they like her. Gathering courage and confidence to approach the girl is a crucial step you must take to date a girl for free and make her your own.

Therefore, believe in yourself. Know that you can do it, know it in your heart, and then decide to approach her.

3. Decide the Method

If you already have a girl in mind, you need to make up your mind how exactly you are going to approach her. If you approach her the wrong way, even if she likes you, she may have second thoughts. For example,  some guys like to let a girl know they like her by first texting, as a way of testing the waters, and then when they meet the girl next time, they see how she took it so that they will know whether they have a chance. Some girls have turned down such guys and refused to date them.

Some guys prefer to tell a girl over the phone that they like them and want to go out with them.

Choosing to meet her in person, and to say it to her face-to-face is the best option. It shows you have the confidence to approach a woman, and it also gives her the impression that you are bold, one quality girls admire in guys, which will also make her have a good estimation of your manliness.

4. Decide the Setting

Make up your mind where exactly you will tell her you want to go out with her. If you say it in the wrong place, even if she likes you, she may feel apprehensive, or say no. For example, if  you say it in class when there are other guys or girls around, she may say no if she is a shy girl.

The best place to say to a girl that you want to date her  is where there is no one else there. If you want to date a girl who is already your best friend, or a girl in your class, then tell her you have something special to say to her, and tell her exactly where you want to meet her, and  at what time. It must be somewhere both of you will feel comfortable, and where you can express yourself confidently. It could be a park, an empty classroom, her hostel room when her roommates are not around, your hostel room when you know you will be the only one there, your home, or her home.

If you want to date a girl you barely know, then you will have to monitor her and know where she likes going a lot. Choose a time when you see her alone in one of these places, and approach her.

5. Choose the Right Time

A person’s mood is affected by what he or she is going through: if she is going through sad times, the likelihood that she will respond well to a date request will be slim. If she is going through  great times, she is happy, she is more likely to accept a date proposal.

Do your research and find out what the girl is going through. If your intelligence tells you she has heard some bad news recently, then you may have to postpone your proposal to a time when she will become more relaxed, and is more likely to have a better disposition.

The best time to approach a  girl you want to date is when she has heard some good news. This will increase the chances that she will accept your request and give you a favorable response.

6. Approach Her

Meet her at the right place. Walk confidently to her, smile broadly, look cheerful and lively, look her straight in the eyes and greet her. Compliment her on her dressing, or hairstyle, or on some part of her body you like. For example you can say, “Hello, I saw you from that corner there where I was. I must say I like your dress and your hairstyle. The color combination is just great. I thought I would like to know the girl in such a beautiful dress. Where did you get such a dress? By the way, I am…” Introduce yourself, and try to engage her in a conversation.

Alternately, you can go up to her, greet her, introduce yourself, and share a joke to calm your nerves, and to lighten the atmosphere so that you can start a friendly conversation with her.

7. Engage Her In a Lively Conversation

If she is not in a mood to talk, apologize nicely and say it was great for you to meet, and that you hope the two of you will meet again somewhere. And then, be patient, remain calm, and hope circumstances throw both of you together at another time.

If she is responsive to talking, then use the opportunity to get to know her better. Ask her questions about her life, and try to extract from her whether she has a boyfriend or not, or whether she has  dated  before. It will give you an indication as to her dating experience, and whether she is interested in dating anyone at the moment, for it is possible she may  be a girl who doesn’t want a relationship at the time that you want to date her.

If she is a girl who can date, and wants to date, drop hints (through jokes) that you like her. You can say something like, “I have always dreamt of dating a girl like you.” See if she likes that comment.

If she gets your hints and understands, get her phone number and call her later. Have about two or three more conversations so that she can get to know how likeable you are and trust you more, and then tell her you want to go out with her.

You can say, “Rebecca, I like you. I like your intelligence when we have conversations, the wit and humor you exhibit, and I like your personality. I think you are a great girl and I want to have closer relationship with you. Would you like to go out with me?”

If she accepts your request, then make dating plans.

When You Go Out

  • Make sure you look good, especially for your first date.Be interesting and lively. Share a lot of jokes and make her laugh. Avoid being too quiet, and don’t monopolize the conversations. Properly balance talking a little with listening to what she also has to say.
  • Do not ramble on and on about yourself. It irritates a lot of girls. The date is not about you, but is giving you an opportunity to get to know each other.
  • Do not want to know everything about the girl right away. It is overwhelming and makes a girl feel like running in the opposite direction.
  • Do not isolate yourselves when you have a date. When young people who are attracted to each other isolate themselves, as is common in dating, sexual desire can build up until it causes you to want to have sex.
  • Avoid kissing and touching sensitive parts of your bodies, which might lead you to have sex. Many young men’s lives have been destroyed by contracting sexually transmitted infections, or by impregnating a girl and taking on a responsibility they were not prepared for, and thereby destroying their future. Do not think it cannot happen to you, that you can kiss and hold hands, and be able to control yourself and not go all the way, as many youths think. Kissing and cuddling can cause a buildup in your emotions and make you do something you may regret later.
  • Do not date a girl secretly. You rob yourself of the protection that you can have when your relationship is known by your family.
  • Don’t date a girl without her parents knowing. When her parents know you, they are more likely to give you respect and think you are a responsible guy. They will like you for that, and they will agree to make you date her. If you intend to have a long-term relationship with her, this will go a long way to help you since her parents will give you the needed support.
  • Make your relationship open, and let your parents and your older siblings know. Because of their experience, they are aware of the possible dangers involved in dating, and can offer you helpful direction. Do not think your parents will be too restrictive and rob you of fun. Talk to them honestly, win their trust, and ask them for advice. They will be glad to help you.

 

If You Do Not Have a Girl In Mind

If you are not friendly with any girl, or you are a shy guy and wondering how you can get a girl to date, here a few things you can do:

  • Invite friends who are extroverts to your house regularly, or make friends with extroverts, go to social occasions with them to help build your confidence, and learn some lessons from how they socialize and make friends with girls.
  • Make your approach one step at a time. Go to places where you can share your passions and you are likely to meet a girl there who likes the things you care about.
  • When you see a girl you like, make  a gradual introduction of yourself. Just say “Hi” the first time, and get to know more about her on subsequent occasions.
  • Make friends with girls online. Say hi to girls on Facebook, Twitter, Hi5, and find out if they are dating. If they are not, interact more with them and build your confidence till you can meet them in person.
  • If you are not confident to talk so much, listen to her a lot when you make an acquaintance. Sometimes, girls just want someone who listens, for they have a lot to say.
  • Share your fears with her. That is one great way to gain a girl’s trust and make her like you. She will see she is not the only one with vulnerabilities, and she will also open up to you.

Conclusion

These are a few steps you can take to date a girl. If you approach her well, it is likely you will get to date her. Make her feel special during your period of dating, and you can get her to love you and have a long-term relationship.