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How to Start a Conversation with a Woman

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How to Start a Conversation with a Woman

It can be hard to start a conversation with a woman, especially when you are a shy guy, when you don’t know the woman, or when you like the women. That is why some guys ask, “How do you start a conversation with a woman?”

In this article, I want to show you how you can start a conversation with an attractive woman for the first time, or how you can start a conversation with any woman, whether it is an unknown woman, a black woman, a woman on the internet, a woman on a dating site, or a woman at the gym.

Let us look at what you should do.

1.    Make Sure You Approach the Woman at the Right Time

If you want to have a fruitful conversation with a woman you are interested in or to whom you are attracted, ensure that you approach her when she is in a relaxed state. Avoid making your move when she is busy doing something important or when she is preoccupied.

Study the situation around her and look at her body language. If you see that she looks relaxed and comfortable and there is no one around her, make your move. Take in a deep breathe, wish yourself luck, and advance towards her.

2.    Introduce Yourself

The most important thing you must do when you want to start a conversation with a woman is to smile as you approach her. Let her see that you are a warm, friendly guy whom she has nothing to fear from. Approaching her with a serious look may make her misjudge you and , consequently, she may not want to talk to you.

Look confident by standing straight. Moreover, look into her eyes as you approach her. You can then say something such as, “Good afternoon. I am Isaac Nunoofio. I have been seeing you around. There is something about you I like. I just don’t know what it is. But, I want to find out. I want to get to know you. May I know your name?” This is how to start a conversation with a woman you just met.

3.    Shake Her Hand

Try to get her to shake hands with you. A study has shown that shaking the hands of people can make you feel happy. When you shake her hand and feel happy, you will approach the conversation in a positive mood. Therefore, you are more likely to sound interesting and that will make the woman enjoy her time with you better.

4.     Talk About What is Happening Around You

Use what is happening where you are to start a conversation with a woman.

  • If you are indoors, you may comment about the way the room has been painted. You may say something such as, “I really like the color that was used to paint this room. You know, I love cream. It’s my favorite color. What is your favorite color?” Ask a question at the end of your comment so that you can draw the woman into the conversation.
  • You may choose to comment about the people you see in the room. You may say something such as, “The guys and gals here are nice people. That is why I always come to this shopping mall. The service here is incredible. I have seen you here a number of times. Tell me, why do you come here?”
  • If you are outdoors, you may choose to comment about the weather and life. You may say something such as, “Today is a beautiful day and I want to meet beautiful people. The sunshine reminds me that I should be grateful I am alive. Don’t you love the weather?”
  • If you are in public transport, a train, or in an aeroplane, you may say something such as, “I get so bored when I have to travel. I am always wrapped up in my thoughts. It can feel really lonely at times. Do you feel the same way when you are travelling?” This is how to have a conversation with a woman you just met.

5.    Compliment Her

One thing you can do to start a conversation with a woman is to compliment her. Many women like to be appreciated  and will respond with delight when you compliment them.

You may say something such as, “I think you are a great team player. Your colleagues in the office talk a  lot about you and I am honored to meet you,” or “That was a great speech. You were concise, articulate, and very professional. I could learn a few things from you. Tell me, how do you do it?”

When you compliment the woman, you may make her more willing to open up and talk to you. Therefore, try to see how much you can notice about a woman , and then use one of those observations to start a conversation with a woman.

6.    Ask Her a Question

Asking a woman a question is a great way to start a conversation with a woman. Start your questions using the words “Who?”, “What?”, “When?”, “Why?”, “Where?” and “How?” Questions which start with these words make the respondent give some detail when he is responding.

Therefore, the woman will carry on with the conversation. Furthermore, you will get information from which you can ask her further questions so that you can prolong the conversation.

Here are some questions to start a conversation with a woman.

  1. What do you think of your supervisor?
  2. Who is your favorite female work colleague? Why do you like her so much?
  3. When do you hope to get married?
  4. I see you wearing blue dresses most of the time. Why do you like the color blue?
  5. Where do you hope to be in 20 years’ time?
  6. How do you think your future will shape up at the office?

 

7.    Talk About Her Interests

One of the ways to start a conversation with a woman is to use her hobbies to your advantage. Therefore, before you approach the woman, find out about her interests, hobbies, and passions. Then, when you start conversing with her, shift the conversation in the direction of her interests. This is how to keep a conversation with a woman.

For example, if you find out that she loves talking about fashion, learn what you can about clothes. After your initial remarks, start talking about clothes. This will make her find the conversation more engaging and she will be more willing to participate in the conversation with more liveliness. This will make it easier for you to invite her to have another conversation with you at another time.

8.    Ask Her About Her Family

Let the woman feel that you care about her by asking her about her brothers, sisters, and parents. Ask her if they are doing well. Then, talk about your family and share something about yourself. This is how to have a conversation with a woman you like. This is how to open up a conversation with a woman.

However, do not give away everything about yourself. Just say enough just to arouse her curiosity so that she will be willing to have another conversation with you at another time to get to know you better.

9.    Ask the Woman About Her Job

Find out about the kind of job she does, her responsibilities at work, her relationship with her work colleagues, and the frustrations she goes through every day at work. Sympathize with her and share similar frustrations you also go through at your workplace. Showing such solidarity will help you to bond with her and it may motivate her to share more about her life with you for she will see you both face similar struggles. This is how to start and hold a conversation with a woman.

10.Tell Her an Interesting Story

Women like to hear stories and that is why they love watching soap operas. Telling the woman a story will help you to grab her attention from the start so that you can engage her and keep the conversation going. This is how to have a fun conversation with a woman.

You may choose to tell her about something that happened to you or a funny story about how a guy and a woman met for the first time or some silly thing a guy did when he met a woman for the first time. Make the story as funny as possible so that you can make her laugh. It will make the woman see that you are an interesting guy and she would love to converse with you. Furthermore, you may choose to tell her about a funny movie you watched with her.

11.    Comment About Current Events

One great way to start a conversation with a woman is to talk about issues that are trending in your town or country. It is likely she may also know about these events and that will make it easier for the two of you to contribute to the conversation.

11. Talk About Things You Love

At certain times in the conversation, shift the discussion to things you are passionate about. For example, if you love soccer, talk about your favorite soccer team or about your favorite soccer star. This will fire you up and make you look lively which will make you look exciting. You may then ask the woman if she likes your passion and tell her about it if she doesn’t.

12. Talk About How That Particular Day Has Gone So Far

You may start a conversation with a woman by making general comments about how your day has treated you so far. For example, you may say, “I woke up today hoping to have a great day. You know, Thursday is the day on which I was born and so I love Thursdays. However, the day has been terrible so far. My cat scratched me when I wanted to give it a hug. I kicked a stone when I came out of the house in the morning. And my boss has been so demanding today. What about you? How has your day gone so far?”

13. Build on What She Says

When the woman answers one question, ask her another question based on the answer she gives you. Keep doing this so that you can prolong the conversation. Concentrate on what she says to you and make comments related to what she shares with you. Sigh when you have to, laugh at the right time, grunt convivially, and give encouraging remark such as, “Really? I never knew that!” or “Amazing! You are really incredible!” This is how to prolong a conversation with a woman.

14. Stay Focused

Keep your mind on the conversation and try to be curious about her life. In subtle ways, try to find out about her personality, the kind of women she moves with, the kind of men she likes going out with, her visions and plans for her life, how she spends her annual leave and so on. This will give you information which you can use to start subsequent conversations with her.

15. Use Pauses

Talk for periods of time, then give her an opportunity to contribute to the conversation too. Then break for a few seconds so that you can think about follow up questions, or so that you can strategize as to the direction in which to take the conversation.

For example, if you have been talking about her hobbies for about 5 minutes, pause, decide to shift the conversation to your hobbies, think about what you want to say about your hobbies, and then re-start the conversation, this time talking about the things you love.

End the Conversation on a Good Note

Inform the woman that you enjoyed the time you spent talking to her and getting to know her. Hint that you would love to have subsequent conversations with her to see if she also feels the way you do. Ask for her number and promise to call. Then wish her a good day, smile at her, and leave.

Conclusion

To start a conversation with a woman, you must try to make the approach great. If you do that and entertain her well, you may have the opportunity to date her. When you see that she loves you, and you show her you love her, you can make her fall in love with you, and keep her forever.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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How to Attract Girl: 11 Incredible Ways to Make Her Your Girl

How to Attract a Girl: Look Attractive and She Will Love You

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How can you attract a girl towards you for love so that you can date her and make her your girlfriend? In this article, I want to give you tips of  how to attract a girl.

So, what are some of the things you can do?

1. Look Attractive

Studies have shown that guys with broad shoulders look attractive to girls.

If you are in a condition to exercise, then there are certain exercises which you can do to help you to develop broad shoulders so that  you will be attractive to a girl. Here are a few of them:

Exercise 1

Stand in a doorway, midway between the two door jambs. Place one hand against each jamb, about shoulder high. Push hard against both jambs

Exercise 2

Whilst standing, extend both arms forward and clasp your hands together. Press hard, both hands trying to push each other “away,” with as much force as possible.

Exercise 3

For this exercise you need dumbbells.

  1. Begin the exercise with a 10 pound dumbbell in each hand, weights held at shoulder level. Your feet should be about 12 inches apart and your body comfortably well balanced.
  2. Raise one dumbbell overhead, breathing in as the weight is pressed up.
  3. Lower the dumbbell back to your shoulder , breathing out as you return the weight to the starting position.
  4. Repeat the exercise 10 times with your other arm.
  5. You can also decide to perform the exercise with two dumbbells raised simultaneously.

These exercises will put you in great shape and make you look sexy and appealing to the girl, and help you to attract a girl. This is how to attract a girl by looks!

2. Look Bold

Walk about with your chest pulled out, with a straight back, and with your head looking up. This will tell everybody, including the girl you like and want to attract, that you are sure of yourself, and that you have the courage to face the challenges you will meet in this life. A guy walking about like that looks attractive. It is one way to attract a girl without talking.

Walking in this manner also  tells a girl that you can protect her when she needs protection, and it can influence her to be attracted to you.

3. Have the Right Perspective

You cannot treat something with care if you do not value it. In the same way, you cannot treat  girls with care and make them feel good if you do not value them.

Some guys see girls as objects to be used to fulfill sexual desires, and then to be dumped after you have used them for your pleasure.

If you want to be able to attract a girl for love, then you must value girls. When you value girls, you see a relationship with a girl as a privilege that must not be exploited negatively, but as a relationship that must be well cherished and nurtured with extreme care and love. Such a mentality will make you want to treat any girl you are attracted to with love.

Treat the girls in your class and your female friends with dignity.

When the girl you are interested in and want to attract sees that you treat all girls well, she will feel comfortable with your attitude and want to date you.

On the other hand when she sees, or gets to know that you do not value girls, she will feel she will also get this same kind of treatment when she dates you, and she will not be attracted to you

4. Treat Your Female Relatives Well

If you have a sister, treat her with delicate care and let the girl see that you love her very much. Hug her in public, hold hands with her, kiss her on her cheek, tell her you love her to show to the girl the kind of affection she is missing by not being in a relationship with you, and to show her the kind of love you will show to her if she decides to become your girlfriend.

If you do not have a sister, show this affection to your female cousins or nieces.

This action will make you attract a girl mentally. She will start to think about the way you treat your female relatives, and think that you are a wonderful guy. She will want to know you more, and she may strike up a friendship with you so that she can get to know you better.

5. Be Charming

Be nice to her and make her feel that you are a nice guy to have around as a friend. Use “Please”  a lot when you are conversing with her. For example “Please give me that pen,” or “Please help me with this Science problem.” This will tell her that you are a polite guy. Girls like to go out with polite guys who act like gentlemen, and who treat girls with respect.

Say nice things to her regularly about her hairstyle, her dress, her shoes, her figure, or some other part of her body which you think is beautiful, and she will adore you for it. Girls like to hear sweet things said to them, and when you can muster the courage to say nice things to her regularly, she will be attracted to you and like you because you think she is a beautiful and great girl. This is a way to attract a girl romantically using words.

Also, share things with her. When you buy an ice cream and she is around, buy one for her. When you are going to grab a bottle of Coke and meat pie for lunch, buy  some for her. You do not need to do this every day, but once in a while let her see that you are not a selfish guy but an altruistic guy who likes to share, even if you  only have a little to share.

Compliment Yourself  Too

You cannot give what you do not have. You cannot think she is a nice girl if you do not think you are a great guy. So first of all, compliment yourself. When you put on clothes and you think you look great in them, say to yourself, “Johnny Wascaracha, you look great in your pants and shirt today!” or you can say, “Johnny Wascaracha your haircut is superb!” when you have a new haircut. With time, this will become your second nature, so it will not be difficult for you to say it to a girl to make her feel attracted to you.

6. Understand Girls

Some guys look down on girls and treat them as inferior beings who do not deserve to be given any kind of respect by a guy because they feel guys are superior to girls.

If you want to attract a girl, you should not have this mentality, and you should not display open disrespect for girls. It will only make you unattractive to girls, and no girl will want to date you.

Girls like talking a lot. Sometimes when they talk they don’t want you to say anything, but just to listen. You must know this so that you will not try to give her solutions to problems every time she comes complaining to you about one thing or another.  Understanding a girl and responding appropriately to her changing moods will please her , and she will grow to like you more.

You must also understand that girls can become complex at certain times of the month; sometimes they become easily irritated, moody, or can seem unfriendly. Understanding this and being patient, even if she behaves strangely, will make you “score more points in her eyes,” and make her like you even better because she will see you as a  caring guy.

7.  Respect Her

Don’t treat her ideas as if you think she has no brain in her cranial space. Give her some credit which will show that you know she is also an intelligent human being created by God. Respect her ideas and opinions concerning issues you will discuss.

She is more likely to like you if you value her thoughts on issues.

Do not brush aside her views and comments, treat them with disdain, and say things like “What do women know?” or “Girls are too emotional. You think too little, and react to everything with your heart.” She is bound to be hurt when she knows this is how you feel about the members of her gender. She will dislike you and find you repulsive, and there is no way you will get her to date her.

8. Show That You Are a Great Guy

Girls are attracted to famous guys, and to guys who do great deeds. If you want to attract a  girl you love, show that you are a great guy and do something great!

One way you can show you are great is to serve the people around you. Do kind things for orphans, or the elderly, or the physically challenged in your community. Also, do kind acts for your friends, and for her friends as well. Word will surely get to her about how chivalrous you are , and it will make her admire you and want to become close to you

9. Be Funny

If you want to attract a girl you like, and make her love you, then make her laugh. Having  a good sense of humor, and exhibiting it, makes a guy exciting, interesting, and fun to be with. It also makes a guy attractive to a girl.

Therefore, try to be as funny as you can be. Practice being funny with your sisters or brothers, and also try to make your close friends laugh. Once you build this reputation and develop this habit, you will find it easier to make your dream girl laugh her heart out when you are in her company.

10. Don’t  Be Jealous

Do not feel threatened when you see her going out with other guys, or when you see her talking with other guys. Let her see that you feel secure about yourself, and you feel confident enough to give her  room to develop her association with other guys. Let her see those guys, but show to her by your attitude and your actions that she will be far better off dating you than any of those other guys, and she will choose you above them. Just continue to work on her heart by saying good things to her and showing her you care, and she will be attracted to you and date you with time. This is how to attract a girl to fall in love.

11. Tell Her Stories

A female friend told me once that girls like to hear stories. That particular girl said she was attracted to her boyfriend because he tells such interesting stories. She thought it was so romantic.

I am sure there are more girls like her. This is one method you can use to attract a girl to love you! Therefore master this art and use it to your advantage. Tell her some interesting things that have happened to you in your life, such as an embarrassing situation you went through, or your worst day on Earth, or stories about the girls you have liked in the past, or something funny that happened between you and your sister. It will make you look more interesting to her, you will become closer friends, and you will gain her trust when you share personal stories like these.  When a girl trusts a guy, she feels comfortable with him, and is more likely to like him and to be attracted to him, than when she does not trust him.

Conclusion

If you learn how to attract a girl, and adopt the right approach, you can get an opportunity to date her, develop  a close relationship with her, and make her love you. The important thing is to make her feel special always, show her love, and you will be able to keep her till you marry her one day.