How to Get Back Together With an Ex Girlfriend: 9 Intelligent Ways to Go About It

How to Get Back Together With an Ex Girlfriend: You Must See That You Can Win Her Again

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How do you get back together with an ex girlfriend? What are the steps you must take, and some of the things you must do so that the process goes smoothly for you to have your relationship again?

1.     Take the Initiative

God made the male as the leader of the family unit, and expects men to take the lead in solving relationship problems. When you take the initiative in solving relationship problems, it shows good leadership and helps the man to maintain the authority God expects him to hold over the woman.

Therefore, when you breakup with your girlfriend, even if your girlfriend did something terrible which caused you to go your separate ways, take the first steps to bring about reconciliation. Do not leave the girl to take the initial reconciliation steps, but see it as your duty, and your responsibility.

Give her a call, or send her a text saying something like, “Sue, this is Mike. Darling, I have tried to fight my feelings for you for a long time, but I just can’t overcome the feelings I have for you. Sweetheart, I still adore you, and I want us to meet so that we can talk things over.”

Girls are shy. Sometimes they find it difficult to take certain actions. It is possible she may also have wanted a comeback but was feeling shy to make the approach. When you take the initiative, you save the blushes of both of you, and make it easier for her to express herself, and to show her desire for reconciliation.

So, if you want to get back together with an ex girlfriend, you must show leadership and make the first move.

 

2.     Decide to be Humble

The Bible, in 1 Peter 1:5 says, “Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”

If you want to get back together with an ex girlfriend, decide in your mind you will be humble.

Humility is one admirable character trait people admire about others. When you are able to humble yourself, when you don’t find it difficult to accept your mistakes, and you are willing to admit your faults, it can make it easier for your girlfriend to soften her heart and to forgive you, even if what you did to her was terrible.

On the other hand, when you display an arrogant disposition, even if she was the cause of the breakup, and talk down on her or act as if you are making her a favor by trying to get back together with her, she will feel hurt, and may decide not to reconcile with you.

Therefore, approach her with a humble spirit.

  • If you were the cause of the breakup, say you are sorry for what you did and that you will do your best not to repeat those same mistakes. Tell her you will work together with her to make sure you change your bad habits, and you will be counting on her co-operation to keep you on track to do the right things for her always by expecting her to criticize you when she sees you doing the wrong things again. For example, if you broke up because you were chasing other girls, then tell her to remind you of your pledge to her when she sees you becoming too close with other girls again, and to draw your attention to that fact.

 

Getting back together with an ex girlfriend requires you to show a humble and contrite attitude, which will make her feel you are serious about making the relationship work again.

 

3.     Be Positive

You must be positive about the prospects of your reconciliation efforts yielding good result if you want to get back together with your ex girlfriend. You must first of all see it in your mind, and believe that you can work through all issues successfully, even if the breakup was acrimonious. This will give you the confidence to go forward.

When you think that because there was bitterness before the breakup, and when you look at the way and manner in which you broke up, you may feel it is not worth making the effort to try and get back together with an ex girlfriend.

But if you still love her and you desire to get back together with her, then believe it can work.

Thinking good thoughts can motivate you to make the required approach to get back together with an ex girlfriend.

 

4.     Arrange a Meeting With Her

Try to get a day when both of you will be in a good mood so that you can meet to talk through issues. Decide on such a day together, and meet at the rendezvous. It must be in a place where both of you can express your feelings without reservation, and where you will not be disturbed by other people.

It will help if you play love songs which talk about forgiving your partner, whilst the meeting is going on. Ask your ex girlfriend if it is okay for you to play music whilst you talk, and if she agrees, play music in the back ground from your smartphone, or any other device that plays music. Find a nice love song that speaks about your situation. Alternately, you may decide to play your ex girlfriend’s favorite love song, the love song she always liked and which helped both of you to feel so connected emotionally when you were in the relationship.

Songs have an interesting way of influencing the emotions of people, especially love songs, and it can help you to get back together with an ex girlfriend. Sentimental music, especially love songs, tend to make one sentimental, and it can work on the emotions of your ex girlfriend and make her sentimental, and also remind her of the times when you loved her so much and she in turn loved you so much. This may make her more willing to give you a willing ear, and to listen to your request with an open and positive ear.

 

5.     During the Meeting

  • Be honest. Do not pretend just because you want to get back together with your ex girlfriend.Tell your ex girlfriend exactly how you feel. Say how hurt you are by whatever she did to cause the breakup. Let her know exactly how it affected you emotionally. For example, if you caught her cheating and it affected your studies, you can say, “Because of your attitude to the relationship, I could not study for one month.” Let her see how serious the effect was on you. It will not make her take you for granted, and she will know how badly she hurt you, which may make her more remorseful if she contemplates on it.
  • Let your ex girlfriend also tell you how she feels about how you treated her, and about the past relationship. Try to find out ways in which you hurt her, and what you can do so that you do not make those same mistakes again.
  • Agree on changes you will make in your attitudes, and ways you will try to please your ex girlfriend. For example, if you broke up because you think she is not honest, you can agree that she will become more open and tell you about all her plans, and make you know her movements. If the breakup came about because you love yourself so much that you do not give her the attention she requires, then agree on how you will spend less time on yourself so that you can devote more time to making her feel loved.
  • Type your agreement on your phone and let your girlfriend type the same words on her phone so that you can remind yourselves often of the pledges you made to each other and keep each other accountable to these promises.
  • Give her some time to think over what you discussed, and obtain a promise from her to give you feedback by a set date which both of you should agree on.
  • Let her give you a date by which you will hear her final decision.
  • Let her know you still love her. Say it with words and tell her how you miss her, and how you want to get back together with her.

Consider making a meeting an essential part of trying to get back together with an ex girlfriend.

 

6.     Use the Things She Loves to Your Advantage

If you want to get back together with an ex girlfriend, you need to use what she loves best to your advantage, and make her feel a strong connection to you again. For example, if she loves a particular genre of movies, thrillers for example, find excuses to go to her place to watch thrillers with her. If you have the money to buy such movies for her, buy her a lot of those movies.

If she loves conversing, find time to have long conversations with her. Do not rush these occasions, but let her feel you have all the time in the world to spend with her to make her happy. This is how to get back together with your first love.

Show concern and let her feel you still care about her. This will show evidence that you still care, and she may consider that to give you another chance.

 

7.     Keep Up the Pressure

After the meeting, keep constant touch with your ex girlfriend, if you want to get back together with her. This does not mean you should make yourself a nuisance, but remind her often of what you discussed during the meeting and your love for her. This could work on her emotions and sway her thoughts in your favor so that she will decide to give the relationship another try.

 

8.     Make Her Feel Special

If your ex girlfriend agrees to get back together with you, promise to abide by the promises you made during the meeting, and try to make her feel special. You can do this by:

  • Making most of the words you say to her be compliments and not criticisms. Do not do it too often, and do not talk only about her physical beauty; also talk about her admirable qualities, like her patience, or her wonderful cooking skills.
  • Keep the promises you make to her.
  • Take her on unexpected visits to exciting places, such as the zoo or amusement park, or to interesting events such as comedy shows or  lover’s days together. Making it a surprise adds more excitement to your relationship, and will make her feel she can expect more surprises in the future.
  • Try to see her point of view too when you have disagreements. Remember she is different from you and sees life differently from the way you see it.
  • You must yield your desires to make your girlfriend happy. This means you must surrender your selfish plans so that she will be happy always.

 

9.     Date Her Again

See yourselves as starting the relationship all over again. Therefore, date your ex girlfriend again. Invite her out to places where you used to go when you saw her at first. It will bring back memories of the good times you shared in the past, and help you to feel connected again. It will also signify that you treasure the wonderful times you had in the past.

Then, take her to new places you have never been before. This will signify that you want a new relationship, and you want to take this new relationship to a different level into the future.

 

Conclusion

These are some of the things you can do to get back together with an ex girlfriend. Getting back together with an ex girlfriend will require you to  make sacrifices, and to give her concessions. Then, do your best never to make her feel sorry for giving you another chance, and show her undying love, and you will both enjoy your relationship.

 

Is this information useful? How did you get back together with your ex girlfriend? Let me know by leaving a comment. Thank you.

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How to Know a Girl Loves You: 12 Ways You Can Be Sure

How to Know a Girl Loves You: She Gets Excited When She Sees You or Hears Your Voice

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Some guys ask, “How do I know a girl loves me? What will tell me that the girl loves me, and is not just pretending so that she can get something from me, or she is not just infatuated with me?” The information below will answer those questions and help you to know if a girl loves you deeply.

1.     She Will Make Sacrifices for You

How to know a girl loves you truly is to see whether she makes sacrifices for you.

When you love someone, you are prepared to make sacrifices, even sacrifices that will cost you, so that you can make the person you love happy, or so that you can save that person from a sticky situation.

A perfect example is the love God showed for us by sending His only son to die for us to save us from our sins. As John 3: 16 puts it, “For God so loved the world that He gave His only son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have eternal life.” God loved us so much that He was willing to sacrifice His only son for us. And Jesus loves us so much that He sacrificed His life so that we could get a way of having our sins redeemed.

In just the same way, if a girl loves you, she will be willing to let go of some of her comforts so that she can make you happy. For example, if you are doing the same course, and you are struggling to understand it, and she is better than you in that course, she will see nothing wrong with sacrificing the time she needs to use to study her own books to come and explain things to you at the cost of her own time, because she loves you and wants you too to do well in the course.

Another example too is you may be in financial difficulties and need money. She may also be facing financial difficulties, but she will be willing to give you her money and make her situation worse, but it will not bother her because of the feelings she has for you.

A girl who makes no sacrifices whatsoever for you cannot possibly love you. This is how to know a girl doesn’t love you.

2.     She Will Want to Be Seen With You in Public

One way to know a girl loves you is to observe how closely she wants to be associated with you, especially in public. This is how to know a girl loves you or not.

When you are in a room and she enters the room and sees you, she will come straight to you and try to engage you in a conversation before she goes off to take care of the reason why she came to that place. It shows that she places you at the top of her priority list, and sees giving you some attention before she does other things as extremely important. She may want to hold your hand whilst speaking to you, or touch parts of your body as a way of letting everyone there know that she has some emotional connection with you.

On the other hand too, if she is in a room and she sees you entering, she will stop whatever she is doing and try to get your attention by waving, signaling, or by walking up to you. Conversely, she may tell you to come and sit by her. She will do this because she wants to be close to you at all times and sees this opportunity as one she can grab to get close to you.

If you are standing somewhere quietly alone and she sees you, she will walk up to you, ask you how you are doing, and try to engage you in conversation.

Again, if she sees you sitting alone, she will come and sit where you are sitting, in a position where you can see her, or even come and sit by you uninvited.

3.     She Talks a Lot about Love

How to know a woman loves you is to take note of her language. When a girl is in love, she thinks about love a lot, and since what we normally say comes out of what we think about often, if her heart is full of love for you, she will find it very difficult to keep it all inside and will talk about love when she is with you. In other words, the mouth  speaks what the heart is full of.

  • She may ask you questions such as, “Ike, what kind of woman do you want to marry when you are ready to marry?” or “Isaac, have you fallen in love before?” If you say no, she will tell you she does not believe you. She may tease you about your female friends and say something like, “And so you want to tell me that you have not fallen in love with any of those beautiful girls I see you walking with?” This she will do so that she can find out if she has any competitors, so that she can up her game and improve her skills if she gets to know you are harboring any feelings for any other girl.
  • She may also ask something like, “What kind of woman would you love?” all in an effort to gather “romantic intelligence” and to judge herself whether she has any chance of winning your love.
  • She may even go further to describe the kind of woman she would have fallen in love with if she were to be a man. She may say something like, “If I were a man, I would fall in love with a girl who is tall, has some flesh on her, has a pretty face, and cares about me.” In so doing, she will describe herself so that you will get an idea as to the fact that she may be a good match for you.
  • She may also ask, “Ike, look at me.” She will draw your attention to herself and then ask you, “Do you think you can fall in love with a girl like me?”

How to know if a girl loves you is to listen carefully to all that she says, and to see whether there is a lot of love talk.

4.     She Will Want You All to Herself

How to know a girl loves you is to observe whether she wants to have you all to herself most of the time.

When she comes to a place and sees you conversing with other people, even though it may seem rude, she will give an excuse to draw you away from them so that she can spend some time alone with you. This is how to tell a girl likes you and wants you to like her too.

5.     She Gets Excited Whenever She Sees You or Hears Your Voice

When a girl loves you, she gets happy whenever she sees you. It gives her a thrill to set her eyes on you, and so she can exhibit bursts of energy, and great enthusiasm whenever she sets eyes on you. You will see that she is excited to see you.

  • She will talk animatedly.
  • You will see her smiling often.
  • She may become a busybody, moving up and down, but not doing any particular thing.
  • You will feel the excitement in her voice when you give her a call.

All these are signs that should tell you a girl loves you.

6.     Shows You Great Respect

When someone loves you, that person gives you a lot of respect because their feelings for you make them want to honor you.

If you want to know how you can know a girl loves you, checkout whether she gives you maximum respect, which sometimes you feel you do not deserve.

  • She may greet you every time she meets you, although there may be other guys there whom she will not greet.
  • When you give her an opinion or idea, she will say, “That is a great idea. You are a great guy. Absolutely terrific idea! You know, I really think you are the smartest guy on Earth!” She will value whatever you give her, and sometimes even overvalue them!
  • She will never swear at you, insult you, or tease you.
  • She will not tell you lies but tell you the truth always, because she wants you to see her as a trustworthy girl.

A girl showing you great respect is how to know a girl loves you.

7.     She Gives You Surprise Gifts

It is normal for a girl who knows your birth date to buy a “Happy Birthday Card” or a singlet or a necktie for you to show she is thinking about you and cares about you as a friend, on your birthday.

But when a girl loves you, she will buy gifts for you even when there is no occasion to celebrate. One day, out of the blue, she may come to you with a parcel, or hamper, and say, “Isaac, I thought I would get this for you. I know you will love it, and it will make you happy.”

When you ask her why she bought the gift for you, she may not have any tangible reason for giving you the gift. She may say something like, “Well, I felt it would make you happy, that is why I am giving it to you. I love to see you happy. When you are happy, it makes me very happy.”

How do you know a girl loves you? By casting your mind back and checking whether she gives you surprise gifts.

8.     Ask Her Close Friends

One strategy you can use to get to know if a girl loves you for sure is to try and get her friends to give you that “romantic intelligence.” When a girl loves a guy, she will find it very difficult to keep that feeling to herself, and will most definitely tell her closest friends. Some of them will keep the secret, but there may be some of her friends, especially the gossips, who are bound to spill the beans when you go about it tactfully.

  • Put your investigative cap on, get close to her friends who are gossips, and ask questions to make them spill the beans. Do not make it so obvious, otherwise because they want to be loyal to their friend, they will not tell you the truth.
  • You can say something like, “I hear Jennifer is in love? Let me guess. It must be John, or Patrick, or maybe Thomas.” Beating about the bush will make a gossip itch to tell you the truth, because they feel important when they can give an accurate piece of information.
  • Alternately, you can say something like, “Jennifer is a wonderful girl. I think she is the greatest girl on earth. She really deserves a great guy. I would be very hurt if any jerk wins her heart. Do you know if any guy has won her heart?” This will prompt the gossip to talk because she will see you care about her friend. And when you probe further, with coaxing and promises of rewards, such as not telling the girl who loves you, she may open up.
  • You may also say, “You know, I care about Jennifer a lot. I feel I must protect her from bad guys. Do you know if there is anyone she feels crazy about? I just want to check him out to see if he is right for her.” If you are the one, she might tell you, with a promise from you to keep it secret.
  • You may decide to surprise the gossip by being direct. You can say, “I can see Jennifer is in love. I know she is in love with someone. It is me, isn’t it? Am I right?” She may be so shocked you know the truth that she will find it difficult lying, or even if she will lie, it will be a poor lie which will betray that she is hiding something.
  • You can inquire from her friends who are very religious. Telling the truth always is one of the teachings of Christianity. A very religious girl who fears God will not lie to you if she knows the girl loves you.

How to know if a girl likes you requires you to become an “investigator” and to ask some questions from the people who know the girl intimately.

9.     Ask Her Family

To know if a girl loves you may require you to seek the support of her family.

If a girl loves you, she will most definitely tell some of her family members, especially her siblings.

Therefore, get close to her siblings and make them find out that information for you. Tell them you want to know because you care about their sister, you want to give her a wonderful life, you have feelings for her, but you are not so sure of her feelings for you and, not wanting to upset her emotionally if she does not feel anything for you, you first want them to find out if she loves you. Tell them you will go forward and express your feelings for her if you find out she loves you.

This will tell them that you care a lot about their sister, and they are likely to do you that favor. Tell them not to disclose the reason why they are eliciting that information from their sister to her, so that she will not feel that you are going behind her back to find out her feelings from a third party. Some girls get hurt by such actions, and could hate you for finding out such information from another person.

10. She Will Give More Than She Will Get

When someone loves you, they are more concerned about being generous towards you than they are in receiving things from you. How to know if a girl likes you is to measure how many times she gives to you, as against how many times she asks you to give to her.

If the girl gives you things most of the time, as opposed to asking things from you, then you can know the girl loves you.

When a girl loves you, she takes delight in offering you herself, as in giving you her time, and money, rather than always asking you for this-, or for that-. And you will see that she takes pleasure in parting away with something just for your sake.

On the other hand, if a girl is always making demands on you, she does not love you but is an opportunist who wants to just grab material things from you.

11. Ask Her to Love Another Guy

One way to know a girl loves you is to test her to see if her love is genuine, by trying to suggest she starts a relationship with another guy you know she is friends with, or even close to.

For example, you can say something like, “Jennifer, I see something that I think will make you very happy, and will give you a glorious life one day. I want you to think about it. You are a wonderful girl, Jennifer, so beautiful, smart, and incredibly gorgeous. You know John, right? I think he likes you a lot. I know he will make you happy. Would you consider having a relationship with him?”

There are two reactions she will give you if she loves you:

  1. She may become so shocked at the suggestion that she will become very sad, and may even cry.
  2. She will get very angry with you because she expected you were coming to propose, and you swerved her.

If she reacts in the ways described above, it should tell you she loves you. This is how to know if a girl likes you or is just being nice.

  • A girl who does not love you will brush your suggestion aside, may ask why you think she should have a relationship with this guy, and may even laugh at your suggestion. She will not be troubled emotionally.
  • But a girl who loves you will be very hurt that you should suggest she have a relationship with someone else, when you are the one she wants. This pain, which expresses itself as sorrow or anger, should give you an indication as to how much a girl loves you.

12. She Will Tell You

The surest way to know a girl loves you is when she tells you in no uncertain terms that she loves you and wants to spend the rest of her life with you.

But because of culture, which generally says that a man has to express his love for a woman, many girls find it difficult to say those words to a guy, especially the shy girls.

You will therefore have to create the atmosphere, and make the conditions easier for her to tell you:

  1. Choose the right moment, such as when you see her in a sad state. Go close to her and say, “Jennifer, I see you are sad. You are thinking about sad things. Tell me about them.” She may resist, but insist and tell her you love her with all your heart and so she should tell you so that you can help her. This will prompt her to tell you the truth of her love for you.
  2. Choose a moment when she is sad because she will be feeling more emotional at such a time, may need emotional comfort, and is more likely to respond to such an emotional call better at such a time.
  3. Alternately, tell her you want to talk to her about love and take her to a romantic spot, such as a botanical garden, a park with birds singing, or by a stream, on a moonlit night.
  4. Take her hand, look into her eyes, smile at her, and say, “Jennifer, I know you have something to tell me. I have known it for some time now, and felt it. I want you to confirm it with your own lips. Jennifer, do you have feelings for me? Do you love me?” This will make it difficult for her to deny it if she loves you, and she will tell you what you want to hear. The location will also add to making her sentimental and she will love to let you know how she feels about you.

A girl telling you herself she loves you is how to know whether a girl really loves you.

Conclusion

These are some of the ways to know a girl loves you. When you can confidently tell she loves you, make an approach, make her yours, treat her like a special girl, show her love, and keep the love fire burning for years.

Do you know if any girl loves you? Do you have a girlfriend? How did you get to know she loves you? Share your experiences by leaving  a comment. Thank you.

How to Tell if She Loves You: 13 Signs That Will Make You Know

How to Tell if She Loves You: She Will Show You Signs of Affection

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How do you tell if a girl loves you? Below, I want to show you how to tell if she loves you so that you can make an informed choice whether to give you heart back to her.

1.     She Will Want to Be with You Often

How can you tell if she loves you? One way you can tell if she loves you is the amount of time she spends with you. A girl who loves you will have the desire to see you often. Therefore, any least opportunity she gets, she will come to wherever you are because she wants to be close to you and to feel an emotional connection with you.

When she has not seen you for some hours, it will make her feel uncomfortable, and so she will try her best to see you because she has feelings for you. So for example, even if you are in the same class, after you close from class for the day, she will come to your hostel, or come to your house so that she can spend some more time in your presence, because she will experience happiness when she is near you.

On the other hand, if a girl does not want to spend time with you, always makes excuses because she is busy and does not have time for you, then even if she says she loves you, you should not believe her. This is how to tell if she doesn’t love you.

 

2.     She Shares Her Secrets with You

When someone loves you, they trust you a lot, and are not afraid to share things they would otherwise not tell other people with you.

When a girl loves you, she takes you into her confidence and feels comfortable sharing her innermost worries and fears, her thoughts, and desires with you. She does this because she feels she can trust you, and knows you are a guy who will not spill the beans.

If a girl is able to tell you even embarrassing things that happened to her, or terrible things she has done, it means she feels comfortable being in your presence, has no emotional inhibitions, and it is a sign to tell you she loves you. She will even tell you about guys who are proposing to her because she wants to get a response from you, such as you telling her you love her, so that she can confidently ward off those guys by telling them she has a boyfriend.

How to tell if she loves you is to see whether she feels comfortable enough to share her secrets with you.

 

3.     Looks at You and Smiles

A girl who loves you will take delight in looking at you. Whenever she sees you, or if you are doing something together in the same place, such as if you are both in the library reading, or you are both at a friend’s party, you may notice her looking at you. She will look at you for long periods of time and when you also look in her direction and your eyes meet, she will either smile at you because she is happy you are looking at her, or she will avert her eyes, especially if she is a shy girl.

She will look at you for long periods because she admires you, has feelings for you, and cannot have enough of you and so looks at your to satisfy her desire to see you.

How to tell if she loves you is to look for these body language signs, and to be on the look-out for them.

 

4.     She Shows Interest in Your Life

When a person loves you, they want to know what you are going through, whether all is well with you and your family, whether school is going well, and whether you are having issues with your parents or siblings.

When a girl shows a great interest in your life, and always wants to find out what is going on with you, it should tell you she loves you. This is how to see if she loves you.

She will ask you about how life is treating you when she sees you are not looking cheerful. She may ask something like, “Ike, I have not seen you in a while. I have been so busy catching up with my own homework, but I have not forgotten about you. How are you doing? Is everything fine with you?” She will say it with a look of concern on her face. You will see and feel that she is really concerned about you. This is one way to tell if she loves you truly.

She may also say, “Of late you have been very quiet. This is most unlike you. Is everything alright? Are you having some problems? If you are, let me know. I want to help.”

When you love someone, you care about them and what they are going through, and that is why she will show this concern for you.

 

5.     Shows You Signs of Affection

One way to tell if she loves you is when she expresses her love for you by showing you signs of affection when she is around you. She will want to get close to you and depending on your level of friendship, she may put her arms around your waist, or sometimes, she may put her arms on your shoulders, to make you know she really loves you. This is all because of the feelings she has for you. It gives her the desire to want to touch you physically.

Also, you may find her brush your cheeks with the back of her hands sometimes in a playful manner. She will do this because she wants to get your attention and make you know that she wants you to be more than just a friend.

Sometimes too, she may hug you out of the blue, and hold onto you for a long time. On the other hand, she may ask you to hug her when she is feeling emotional, because she wants to feel close to you, which is a sign she loves you. This is how to know she loves you deeply.

 

6.     She Gets Jealous Constantly

If a girl show signs of jealousy every time she sees you with another girl, it should tell you she loves you. This is how to tell if she actually loves you.

  • If every time a girl sees you walking with another girl, she walks up to you and tries to break up your walk with this other girl by taking hold of your hand and trying to take your attention from the girl by turning your face towards her, it means she wants you all to herself, which is a sign she loves you and wants to be the only girl in your life. This should let you know she loves you for real.
  • Sometimes too, you may be sitting down in a corner talking to one of your female friends. She will walk up to where you are sitting and join the conversation uninvited because she may feel that this girl is getting too close to you.
  • When you tell her you came from seeing this girl, or you are going to see that girl, you will see signs of irritation on her face, such as a frown, or if she is smiling before you give her this news, she will stop smiling and assume a serious face. She may try to prevent you from going by saying something to discourage you, such as, “Why don’t you go to her place another time. I want to spend time with you now.” When you insist on going, she will get angry with you and threaten not to speak to you if you go.

 

7. She Will Constantly Get Nervous Around You

How to tell if she is falling in love with you is whether or not she acts in a nervous manner when she is around you.

  1. If a girl loves you, she easily gets nervous whenever she is in your presence. When you speak to her, you will feel the nervousness in her voice, which will show as a shaking, quavering voice.
  2. When you ask her to take something for you, you will notice her hands shaking visibly.
  3. For a girl who sweats a lot, she will sweat more than usual and you will notice her mopping up the sweat which collects on her face often with her handkerchief.

When you notice these signs every time a girl is around you, it must tell you she loves you.

 

8.     Introduces You to Her Family

If a girl loves you, she will want you to know her parents and her siblings. This is to show that she accepts you and wants you to become a part of her family. When someone loves you, they care about you getting to know their family because they are anxious to show you off to their family, and to let their family accept you.

How to tell if a girl is in love with you is when she has the desire to make you meet her family.

 

9.     She Will Want to Know Your Family

A girl who loves you will want your family to know her so that they can give her legitimacy which she can get when she is accepted into the family. If she loves you, she wants your family too to love her, and so she will do her best to get you to introduce her to your family.

How to know if she loves you is to notice her pestering you to introduce her to your family.

 

10. She Will Be Extremely Patient With You

If a girl is extremely patient with you, over and above the ordinary, it should tell you she loves you. When you do something that normally would get any girl annoyed, she will be calm and take it coolly because she loves you and does not want to have a fight with you.

When you hurt her emotionally, she will be patient and give you another chance because her feelings for you are deep. This is how to tell if she loves you or not.

If a girl behaves this way towards you, it must tell you she loves you, and you must not take advantage of her feelings for you, and continue to hurt her.

 

11. She is Particularly Kind to You

A girl who loves you will go out of her way to show special kindness to you. She will treat you in a special way she may not treat even her family members or close friends and associates. For example, she may buy expensive gifts for you, gifts which will make you wonder how she got the money to buy them for you. That will tell you how highly she esteems you, and how precious she thinks you are to her.

She may cook your favorite meals for you and present them to you as a present, or ask you ways she can be of help to you. If she does these things often, she loves you, cares about you, and wants to help you. This is how to know whether she loves you or not.

 

12. She Comes to Like What You Like

One sure thing that can give you an indication that  a girl loves you is when she aligns her interests with your interests. She does this because she wants both of you to have a common ground of interest, and also because she wants to please you. So, for example, if she hated reading, and you like reading, you will notice that she will develop an interest in reading because she knows when she does so, you will like her more, and also you will have a lot more things to talk about when you meet since you will now have identical interests.

How to know she loves you or not is to see if she tries to like what you like, which she does in an effort to impress you and win your favor.

 

13. She Will Include You in Her Decisions

When a girl loves you, she will trust you and your judgments, which will make her seek your opinion when she is making critical decisions that have serious implications for her life, such as travelling out of the country because she wants to go to school overseas, or if she wants to change course in school, or she wants to change schools. By valuing your input into her decision making, she is telling you that your opinion matters to her. When your opinion matters to a person, there is a possibility that person loves you.

How to know if she loves you is to checkout whether she seeks your opinions when she is making decisions.

 

Conclusion

When you can tell if she loves you, then if you want to have a relationship with her, reciprocate that love and make her fall for you. And when you treat her exceptionally, you can be sure that your relationship will last for a long time.

 

 

Do you have a girlfriend? How could you tell she loved you? Please let me know by leaving a comment. Thank you.

 

 

How to Meet a Girl: 7 Cool Things You Can Do to Meet Your Dream Girl

How to Meet a Girl: Be Sociable if You Want to Meet a Girl

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Kwasi, a senior high school student, has been going out with his girlfriend, Abena, for five years now. Their relationship is stable and great fun, and Kwasi feels it will continue this way till, hopefully, they get married in the future.

“Abena is a great girl, a wonderful female. She has brought a lot to my life. She is my dream girl, and I am very happy to be dating her,” he recounts with a happy smile on his face.

As you read this article, you may be single but desirous of having a girlfriend. What can you also do to meet the girl of your dreams?

There are a variety of places where you can meet a girl. You can meet a girl at the beach, in the gym, at the mall, in church, and in other places. The important thing is to know how to go about it, which I am going to show you in this article.

1.     Assess Why You Want to Meet a Girl

Before you meet a girl for the first time, you need to sit down and consider whether it is worth the effort you are going to make. Do you think the girl will be worth the time and energy you will use to try to get her? You must consider this because having a relationship with a girl involves emotions. Sometimes the relationship does not work well, and you are left with emotional scars, or pain in your heart, which may take some time to heal. This can cost you in terms of focusing on your books and studying.

Therefore, you need to ask yourself, “Is it worth it? Do I really want to do this? Why, in any case, do I want a girlfriend? Is it because all my friends also have girlfriends and are teasing me that I am afraid of girls, or I can’t get girls to like me? Is it because I am lonely and want companionship? Is it because I want to get closer to the opposite sex so that I can learn about women, having in mind that I will have to have a relationship with a woman later in life when I am ready to marry? Is it because I want a girl so that I can have sex with her?

You must assess your heart, and know why you want to meet a girl. This will help you to have the right relationship with her since you will know exactly what you want from the relationship.

 

2.     Work on Your Confidence

Most girls are attracted to, and like to date a guy who looks confident, and feels confident about himself. It gives them a sense of security when they are with a guy who feels he is great. Such a guy is more likely to treat a girl with greater respect because a guy who does not believe in himself and does not feel good about himself cannot make the girl he goes out with feel great. It takes a guy who thinks he is great to make a girl feel she is great.

Therefore, work on your self-confidence before you meet a girl today. Believe in your mind that you are great guy, and you deserve a great girl, and that you will treat whatever girl you meet with decency, respect, and honor. This will affect your spirit positively, it will make you look exciting and lively, and this is sure to attract a girl to you, when you step out and meet a girl.

 

3.     Look Great

A research done by Psychologist Devendra Singh in 2004 showed that “men having broad shoulders is attractive to women.”

You meet a girl every day. Maybe the reason why you have not been able to make one of them your girlfriend is because you do not look attractive to them.

Before you meet a girl and can make her your girlfriend, put yourself in a great shape so that you will look attractive enough for the girl to want to be with you, and to have a relationship with you.

There are a variety of exercises you can do to develop broad shoulders and look attractive to girls.

I want to share some of them with you:

 

Exercise 1

  1. Stand facing a door jamb or post.
  2. Place your hands on the post or jamb, breathe deeply and squeeze your hands together with as much force as possible.

 

Exercise 2

  1. Place your hands together close to your chest, palms touching.
  2. Press your hands together with as much force as possible, as if trying to push one hand away from the other. Resist strongly with both hands and arms.

 

Exercise 3

  1. Put a 10- pound dumbbell in each hand, and hold them at shoulder level.
  2. Your feet should be about 12 inches apart, and your body should be comfortably balanced.
  3. Raise one dumbbell overhead, breathing in as the weight is pressed up.
  4. Lower the dumbbell back to your shoulder, breathing out as the weight is returned to its starting position.
  5. Repeat the exercise with your other arm.
  6. Repeat this exercise ten times with each arm.
  7. You may also decide to raise both dumbbells simultaneously. The greater the number of times you raise the dumbbells, the better your shoulders will look. So you can start with raising the dumbbells ten times, and increase it to fifteen or twenty times when your capacity to raise them increases.

 

In addition to looking great, you have to make sure you will always dress in a manner that will make you look appealing to any girl you meet. Make sure the colors of your clothes and footwear match, and that there are no more than three different colors at a time. For example, if you wear a black pair of pants, you can wear black or blue footwear, and wear a white, yellow, or red shirt.

Do not wear a black pair of pants, then wear red footwear, wear a brown belt, and then green shirt. It will not make you look attractive. Always make sure that the number of different colors you have on does not exceed three.

4.Be Sociable

If you want to meet a girl, you have to make sure you go out a lot. You will have to spend a lot of hours out of your house, or your dormitory or hostel.

Joining groups or associations on campus can help you to socialize and meet interesting girls you can date later when you are able to convince them to start having a relationship with you.

Choose an association where a lot of girls also like to join, like for example the Drama Club, or a Reading Club with a lot of girls. If you want to meet a good girl, then join a religious group on campus.

Another strategy you can use is to join a club which espouses your passions. So, if you like bird watching, for example, you can decide to join the bird watching club and be active in the club. It will help you to meet a girl just like you.

Look around and observe the girls in the club or association you join. If you spot any girl who you think is interesting, and you feel attracted to her, try to get closer to her, become a friend with her, show her that you are a great person by showing a great personality, and when your friendship develops, you can ask her out.

Also, go for decent parties that are organized by your friends, or people of your age group, if you want to meet a hot girl. When you get there, walk from friend to friend and talk animatedly. Let everyone there feel you and see that you are an exciting guy to be around. Make jokes, make people laugh, smile at everybody you see, be friendly, and look enthusiastic.

When you see a nice girl, approach her. Smile nicely, greet her, and try to say something charming about her dress, or her hair. She would love it. Then, ask her if she would mind you buying a drink for her. If she obliges, use that opportunity to get to know her, and reveal some part of yourself that you think can impress her. For example, if you are doing well in class, let her know that you are a brilliant student. Do not say it in a boastful way, but drop hints from time to time about how well you are doing in class.

Don’t reveal everything about yourself then and there, though, otherwise you cannot keep the suspense in her mind building up. Saving some information about yourself for later will make her imagine what kind of person you are, she will want to know you more, and that desire could be the bait you can use to sustain the friendship, and later use to have a relationship with her.

 

5.Use the Internet

There are a lot of sites on the internet that encourage young people to make friends with people of the opposite sex. You can meet a girl on websites such as: Twoo, Cherryfun, Tagged, Badoo, and Hi5.

  • Visit some of these websites and create a user profile.
  • Upload a nice picture of yourself, showing your face, or upload a picture of you doing something interesting, such as playing the guitar, dancing, or observing birds in a park. You may also decide to dress in a way that will expose your broad shoulders which you have followed the exercises above and developed, to make you look more appealing.
  • Browse the profiles of girls on these sites. Read through their profiles and when you see a girl who shares similar interests with you, or who you think looks attractive, make friends with her.
  • Try to be an interesting as you possibly can be. Let her feel that you are the kind of guy who can lighten up her day, and who can add some value to her life. This is more likely to make her want to be your friend.

You can also use social media to meet a girl. Websites such as Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, PInterest, Tumblr, StumbleUpon, Reddit, Delicious, and many more, can offer you an opportunity  to meet girls who will be suited to your taste in girls.

 

6. Stand for Leadership Positions in School

One thing that attracts girls to guys is when they see a guy who is powerful, or has some sort of influence. They tend to think you can use your power and influence to help them when they are in need.

Therefore, if you want to meet a girl, when leadership positions in school open up, such as Class Prefect, or when the elections for the President of the Entrepreneurs Club comes around, stand for the position. You will have to go around campaigning, and in the process of campaigning, you will meet interesting girls you can befriend and date, if you are interested in them.

 

7.Ask Your Friends and Family

This may seem so obvious but a lot of guys overlook it. There is nothing wrong with asking your sisters, or classmates if they know of any girl they think will be a good match for you. So, use the people you know, and who are close to you, if you want to meet a girl.

When they offer you suggestions, then make some time to meet the girl. Do not be judgmental when you meet her and you think she may not be a good match. Try and get to know her better, and who knows, she may be your soulmate.

 

Conclusion

When you meet the girl, learn how to date her. Do your best to keep her so that she can become a girlfriend by showing her love, and making her feel special.

You can also learn how to make the approach look exciting, and how you can make her yours forever.

 

Are there any other ways you think a guy can meet a girl? Tell me about them by leaving a comment. Thank you.

 

8 Smart Ways to Sustain Your Long Distance Relationship

How to Sustain Your Long Distance Relationship: Be Committed to the Relationship

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You Can Sustain Your Long Distance Relationship

Kofi lives in Ghana, a country found on the African continent. His girlfriend, Eunice, lives in England. They have been in a long-distance relationship for three years now. So far, their relationship has progressed smoothly and both of them are happy, still love each other, and know it will end in a happy marriage.

How have they sustained their long-distance relationship up till now?

Making a long distance relationship work can be very challenging because both of you are not located at the same place. However, you can overcome the obstacles and make it succeed if you adopt the right approach.

Below, I want to share a few long distance relationship ideas with you which will help you  solve some of your long distance relationship questions, and to help you sustain your long distance relationship.

So, what can you do to sustain your long distance relationship?

1.     Long Distance Relationship Communication Must Be Frequent

Communication is one of the essential ingredients of any relationship—it  helps one to express his feelings and desires, to make open issues he or she is not happy about so that they can be resolved, and also aids in showing signs of affection which acts as a fuel to drive the relationship smoothly.

Communication is extremely important in a long distance relationship because it may not be possible for you to see each other in the flesh frequently. In addition, human beings tend to forget people they do not hear from regularly, or who they do not have the time to talk to or contact.

You should therefore agree to contact each other every day or every other day. The two of you should decide on a particular time of a day when it will be convenient for you talk, and resolve to show commitment to meeting that obligation. Make sure you discipline yourself  and cut off whatever you are doing to make that call when the appointed time arrives; do not let that time pass and give excuses which may make your partner think that you do not care about the relationship anymore. This will result in the long distance relationship weakening. If you will not be available at the time you both agree to connect, let your lover know in advance, and offer an alternate time so that you can make up for the time you missed.

Communicating frequently will help you to know what is happening in the life of your lover, and to know what to do to offer support at any time. For example if you know he is going through great times and is happy, you can decide to by a gift for him to show your love. If he is going through sorrow or pain, then when you call, your focus will be on offering words of encouragement and comfort.

2.     Use Technology

In today’s world of technological advancement, long distance relationship problems, such as communicating across great distances, has been made easier.

There are many  ways you can keep in touch with your loved one:

  • You can make a Skype video call so that you will see each other. When you see the person, it will make you feel your lover is close and connected, which will give you some moments of joy.
  • Send each other pictures, cards, and emoticons through social media to make your lover know you still care about them, and are thinking about them. Knowing what you are up to will sustain their interest in you and keep the long distance relationship going.

3.     Visit Regularly

One of the long distance relationship activities you should engage in is to try to make sacrifices of time and money to visit  each other whenever the opportunity avails itself. This will offer you the opportunity to understand the body language of your partner, to understand the way the person thinks, afford you time to talk about things you may not feel too comfortable talking about on the phone or computer, and give you the opportunity to meet some of his friends and family.

Visiting will give you an opportunity to judge your lover’s character better, get to know his interests and dislikes, so that you can come up with strategies to please him. For example, you can do research about his likes and include them in your  long distance relationship conversation topics.

When you visit your lover, you can take the opportunity to also gauge whether the person is the right person for you.

Use this time too  to assess the relationship, talk about how far you have come, discuss what you both want for the relationship, discuss long distance relationship problems you are both facing, and make plans for the future if you feel you are right for each other, and see  long-term prospects for the romantic relationship.

4.     Deal With Long Distance Relationship Depression

Because you are separated from your lover, you can develop long distance relationship anxiety—sometimes  your imagination can run wild and make you think all sorts of uncomplimentary thoughts about your lover, especially if he has cheated on you before, or given you reason not to trust him or her.

Therefore it is important that you learn to control your mind and prevent it from worrying about where your lover is, what he is doing at any given moment, who he is with, and other concerns like these.

If you have such thoughts regularly about your partner, it shows you are feeling insecure about the relationship, and you have to deal with any issues you think can negatively affect the relationship, and also work on your self-esteem.

To check this problem:

  1. Trust your lover and give him the benefit of the doubt. If there are any trust issues, meet and discuss them.
  2. Recognize your lover also has a life of his own and must be given the room to be an individual separate from you.
  3. Occupy our mind—read, or watch a comedy movie, or visit friends and talk so that your mind will not have the freedom to roam into dangerous territory.
  4. Do not listen to gossip.
  5. Be confident about the relationship and believe it will work out.
  6. Read a long distance relationship story, learn how it survived, and apply the lessons you learn to your relationship.
  7. Send long distance relationship text messages to your lover to tell him or her you trust them. It will inspire them to want to remain true to you.
  8. Talk to someone with long distance relationship experience and ask for advice on how to deal with your feelings.

5.     Be Committed to the Relationship

Without commitment, there is no way this relationship can stand because it takes a lot of guts to remain true to someone you have not seen before, or who is not near you to give you physical affection when you need it.

You must make up your mind that you are going to make the relationship succeed. One way you can do this is to remind yourself of your partner constantly by looking at the pictures of your partner often. Also, record videos of yourself  doing some interesting things and send it to your partner. Let him or her also send you a video recording of some exciting activities that they have engaged in. When you feel lonely, you are aching for him or her, and you do not have the time to call or text, just watch the video of your partner. It will give you a connection, refresh your feelings you have for him or her, and want you to stay committed to the relationship.

In addition you can make your long distance relationship  work  by:
1.  Putting time and energy into it.

  1. Seriously resolving any conflicts that crop up.
  2. Keeping your heart for your partner by deciding to love only him or her, and refusing other romantic offers that will come from people of the opposite sex around you (who may be attracted to you and want to have a romantic relationship with you).
  3. Trying to constantly think about your lover even if you cannot communicate regularly.

Temptation

Temptation to be unfaithful to your lover is one thing that can weaken your commitment to the relationship.

Do your best not to deliberately put yourself into a threatening situation and doing it recklessly and needlessly because your lover is not around. If you are reckless, your long distance relationship can break up.

On the other hand too, you will be tempted to be unfaithful to your lover—it is something you cannot run away from.  The great and uplifting truth about temptation is that it is not meant to make us bad, but to make us good. It is not meant to weaken us, but to make us emerge stronger from the ordeal.

So how do you deal with the temptations that may come your way?

  • See it as a test to help you prove your love for your partner.
  • Realize that you may not be tempted only once; many temptations may come your way, and you must prepare your mind to resist all of them, and to persevere in your desire to remain true to your lover.
  • Know that you will never be beyond temptation; do not feel too overconfident in your ability to resist temptation. For example if you are a woman and a man asks you out, do not think that you are so faithful to your long-distance lover and so even if you see another man, you can control your emotions and prevent yourself from developing feelings for him. Whenever someone else asks you out, politely refuse.
  • Determine and make up your mind not to compromise on your feelings for your long-distance relationship lover, and to remain true to him or her.

6.     Watch the Way You Socialize

You will need to be careful about the friends you make, and the social activities you engage in. For example, if your friends pass negative comments about long distance relationships, or create doubts in your mind regularly by telling you their distrust of long-distance relationships, it may affect you and make you start worrying about whether your relationship is safe or not, and as a result you may become disturbed  mentally, start distrusting your lover, ask questions which may tell him you are getting suspicious of him or her, and this may  cause tension between you and your lover. As a result, your commitment to the relationship, and your love for your partner can reduce, and cause a weakening of the relationship bond.

Parties

One of the long distance relationship difficulties is that you cannot go for parties with your lover. If you like going for parties, you may have to be selective about the parties you attend. This is to avoid a situation in which you may meet a person you will be attracted to, or to prevent yourself from doing something silly, for example getting drunk and sleeping with someone other than your partner, which could cause you guilt. If you know a party will be wild, and probably be full of promiscuity, avoid it.

Go to parties with friends of your same sex, and try to stick to members of your sex throughout the party. For example if you are a female, go to  parties with female friends, and do your best to socialize with mostly females at these parties. This will prevent you from getting close to the males, and protect you from a situation where a male may be interested in you and ask you for a date.

7.      Long Distance Relationship Devices

You can also use technology to connect emotionally when you miss your lover, and want to feel close to him or her. Get the thermal hug belt which stimulates the sensation of a hug by warming up certain parts of your body. Agree to use it whilst you are making a video call, or chatting on Facebook. Both of you should agree to put them on at the same time; it will make you feel connected, feel you are hugging your lover, and remind you that you still love your lover, and your lover loves you.

The LumiTouch, which consists of two interactive picture frames, is another piece of technology you can use to maintain your love. Let it help you to keep your lover in your thoughts, to create romantic thoughts about your lover, and make you continue to have feelings for him or her.

8.     Pray

God is Omnipresent, which means He is everywhere. When you pray to Him and ask Him to look after your lover for you, and to keep him or her from temptation so that they will  remain true to you, God will do it for you.

In addition, you can ask Him  to keep you in the mind and thoughts of your lover, and He will do it for you if you believe—this  will make your partner think about you often, and want to make the relationship succeed.

A long distance relationship Christian must involve God in the relationship, and know that God will help him.

Conclusion

If you feel your long distance relationship you are having is with your soul mate, and you know you are in love, put in the effort needed to sustain it, and you will be happy in the end.

How to Attract Girl: 11 Incredible Ways to Make Her Your Girl

How to Attract a Girl: Look Attractive and She Will Love You

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How can you attract a girl towards you for love so that you can date her and make her your girlfriend? In this article, I want to give you tips of  how to attract a girl.

So, what are some of the things you can do?

1. Look Attractive

Studies have shown that guys with broad shoulders look attractive to girls.

If you are in a condition to exercise, then there are certain exercises which you can do to help you to develop broad shoulders so that  you will be attractive to a girl. Here are a few of them:

Exercise 1

Stand in a doorway, midway between the two door jambs. Place one hand against each jamb, about shoulder high. Push hard against both jambs

Exercise 2

Whilst standing, extend both arms forward and clasp your hands together. Press hard, both hands trying to push each other “away,” with as much force as possible.

Exercise 3

For this exercise you need dumbbells.

  1. Begin the exercise with a 10 pound dumbbell in each hand, weights held at shoulder level. Your feet should be about 12 inches apart and your body comfortably well balanced.
  2. Raise one dumbbell overhead, breathing in as the weight is pressed up.
  3. Lower the dumbbell back to your shoulder , breathing out as you return the weight to the starting position.
  4. Repeat the exercise 10 times with your other arm.
  5. You can also decide to perform the exercise with two dumbbells raised simultaneously.

These exercises will put you in great shape and make you look sexy and appealing to the girl, and help you to attract a girl. This is how to attract a girl by looks!

2. Look Bold

Walk about with your chest pulled out, with a straight back, and with your head looking up. This will tell everybody, including the girl you like and want to attract, that you are sure of yourself, and that you have the courage to face the challenges you will meet in this life. A guy walking about like that looks attractive. It is one way to attract a girl without talking.

Walking in this manner also  tells a girl that you can protect her when she needs protection, and it can influence her to be attracted to you.

3. Have the Right Perspective

You cannot treat something with care if you do not value it. In the same way, you cannot treat  girls with care and make them feel good if you do not value them.

Some guys see girls as objects to be used to fulfill sexual desires, and then to be dumped after you have used them for your pleasure.

If you want to be able to attract a girl for love, then you must value girls. When you value girls, you see a relationship with a girl as a privilege that must not be exploited negatively, but as a relationship that must be well cherished and nurtured with extreme care and love. Such a mentality will make you want to treat any girl you are attracted to with love.

Treat the girls in your class and your female friends with dignity.

When the girl you are interested in and want to attract sees that you treat all girls well, she will feel comfortable with your attitude and want to date you.

On the other hand when she sees, or gets to know that you do not value girls, she will feel she will also get this same kind of treatment when she dates you, and she will not be attracted to you

4. Treat Your Female Relatives Well

If you have a sister, treat her with delicate care and let the girl see that you love her very much. Hug her in public, hold hands with her, kiss her on her cheek, tell her you love her to show to the girl the kind of affection she is missing by not being in a relationship with you, and to show her the kind of love you will show to her if she decides to become your girlfriend.

If you do not have a sister, show this affection to your female cousins or nieces.

This action will make you attract a girl mentally. She will start to think about the way you treat your female relatives, and think that you are a wonderful guy. She will want to know you more, and she may strike up a friendship with you so that she can get to know you better.

5. Be Charming

Be nice to her and make her feel that you are a nice guy to have around as a friend. Use “Please”  a lot when you are conversing with her. For example “Please give me that pen,” or “Please help me with this Science problem.” This will tell her that you are a polite guy. Girls like to go out with polite guys who act like gentlemen, and who treat girls with respect.

Say nice things to her regularly about her hairstyle, her dress, her shoes, her figure, or some other part of her body which you think is beautiful, and she will adore you for it. Girls like to hear sweet things said to them, and when you can muster the courage to say nice things to her regularly, she will be attracted to you and like you because you think she is a beautiful and great girl. This is a way to attract a girl romantically using words.

Also, share things with her. When you buy an ice cream and she is around, buy one for her. When you are going to grab a bottle of Coke and meat pie for lunch, buy  some for her. You do not need to do this every day, but once in a while let her see that you are not a selfish guy but an altruistic guy who likes to share, even if you  only have a little to share.

Compliment Yourself  Too

You cannot give what you do not have. You cannot think she is a nice girl if you do not think you are a great guy. So first of all, compliment yourself. When you put on clothes and you think you look great in them, say to yourself, “Johnny Wascaracha, you look great in your pants and shirt today!” or you can say, “Johnny Wascaracha your haircut is superb!” when you have a new haircut. With time, this will become your second nature, so it will not be difficult for you to say it to a girl to make her feel attracted to you.

6. Understand Girls

Some guys look down on girls and treat them as inferior beings who do not deserve to be given any kind of respect by a guy because they feel guys are superior to girls.

If you want to attract a girl, you should not have this mentality, and you should not display open disrespect for girls. It will only make you unattractive to girls, and no girl will want to date you.

Girls like talking a lot. Sometimes when they talk they don’t want you to say anything, but just to listen. You must know this so that you will not try to give her solutions to problems every time she comes complaining to you about one thing or another.  Understanding a girl and responding appropriately to her changing moods will please her , and she will grow to like you more.

You must also understand that girls can become complex at certain times of the month; sometimes they become easily irritated, moody, or can seem unfriendly. Understanding this and being patient, even if she behaves strangely, will make you “score more points in her eyes,” and make her like you even better because she will see you as a  caring guy.

7.  Respect Her

Don’t treat her ideas as if you think she has no brain in her cranial space. Give her some credit which will show that you know she is also an intelligent human being created by God. Respect her ideas and opinions concerning issues you will discuss.

She is more likely to like you if you value her thoughts on issues.

Do not brush aside her views and comments, treat them with disdain, and say things like “What do women know?” or “Girls are too emotional. You think too little, and react to everything with your heart.” She is bound to be hurt when she knows this is how you feel about the members of her gender. She will dislike you and find you repulsive, and there is no way you will get her to date her.

8. Show That You Are a Great Guy

Girls are attracted to famous guys, and to guys who do great deeds. If you want to attract a  girl you love, show that you are a great guy and do something great!

One way you can show you are great is to serve the people around you. Do kind things for orphans, or the elderly, or the physically challenged in your community. Also, do kind acts for your friends, and for her friends as well. Word will surely get to her about how chivalrous you are , and it will make her admire you and want to become close to you

9. Be Funny

If you want to attract a girl you like, and make her love you, then make her laugh. Having  a good sense of humor, and exhibiting it, makes a guy exciting, interesting, and fun to be with. It also makes a guy attractive to a girl.

Therefore, try to be as funny as you can be. Practice being funny with your sisters or brothers, and also try to make your close friends laugh. Once you build this reputation and develop this habit, you will find it easier to make your dream girl laugh her heart out when you are in her company.

10. Don’t  Be Jealous

Do not feel threatened when you see her going out with other guys, or when you see her talking with other guys. Let her see that you feel secure about yourself, and you feel confident enough to give her  room to develop her association with other guys. Let her see those guys, but show to her by your attitude and your actions that she will be far better off dating you than any of those other guys, and she will choose you above them. Just continue to work on her heart by saying good things to her and showing her you care, and she will be attracted to you and date you with time. This is how to attract a girl to fall in love.

11. Tell Her Stories

A female friend told me once that girls like to hear stories. That particular girl said she was attracted to her boyfriend because he tells such interesting stories. She thought it was so romantic.

I am sure there are more girls like her. This is one method you can use to attract a girl to love you! Therefore master this art and use it to your advantage. Tell her some interesting things that have happened to you in your life, such as an embarrassing situation you went through, or your worst day on Earth, or stories about the girls you have liked in the past, or something funny that happened between you and your sister. It will make you look more interesting to her, you will become closer friends, and you will gain her trust when you share personal stories like these.  When a girl trusts a guy, she feels comfortable with him, and is more likely to like him and to be attracted to him, than when she does not trust him.

Conclusion

If you learn how to attract a girl, and adopt the right approach, you can get an opportunity to date her, develop  a close relationship with her, and make her love you. The important thing is to make her feel special always, show her love, and you will be able to keep her till you marry her one day.

How to Keep Your Girlfriend: 16 Smart Ways to Go About It

How to Keep Your Girlfriend: Acknowledge Her

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How can you keep your girlfriend attracted to you, and in love with you till you can make the commitment to marry her?

 

1. Be a True Companion

We usually enter a relationship because we feel lonely, or do not want to spend our life alone but with someone who will share our space and be a friend we can always count on.

 A girl wants a true companion she can share her life with. Some guys are in relationships but are not companions; they do not offer time for the girl to share her intimate heart’s feelings and emotions with them.

If you want to keep your girlfriend interested, then be a true companion. Keep your girlfriend company. Devote time to her for her to share ideas with you in a peaceful and enjoyable atmosphere.

 

2. Comfort Her

Every girl has weaknesses and faces trials and temptations. A girl wants a guy who will have the patience to understand her weaknesses, trials, temptations, her low level of moral endurance, and who will, even when she messes up, carefully speak words of healing which will correct her and make her a stronger woman.

Girls also want guys who will be loving and do affectionate acts that will bring joy and peace to the relationship.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, be patient with her and try to understand her weaknesses, and help her to overcome them—this is how to keep your girlfriend in love. Comfort your girlfriend, speak words of healing when she makes mistakes, try to help her to overcome her weaknesses, be loving and affectionate, and you will be able to keep your girlfriend close and she will love you forever.

 

3. How to Keep Your Girlfriend From Other Guys—Protect  Her

A girl wants to feel safe when she is with a guy. You do not need to fight or exchange blows with another man, but at least you must demonstrate with your words to your girlfriend that she is secure when she is around you, and tell other guys to stay away from her because she belongs to you.

You can do this by making guys know that they cannot mess around with your girl, and that you will stand up to be counted and defend her to the best of your ability. Say it with all confidence, look fierce and bold, and guys will not want to come near your girlfriend.

 

4. Keep Her From Danger

One way you can protect her is to see beyond the present, look into the future, and give her advice, cautions, and assistance  which will help her  jump over some hurdles in life, or prevent danger and trouble in her life. For example, if she wants to start a business and you can do research and give her useful advice, she will cherish you for that. Also, if you see her developing a friendship which is likely to cause her problems in the future and you tell her honestly, stating the consequences of  that association clearly to her, and she sees reason, you will get your girlfriend’s attention and she will love you more when she sees you are doing it because you want to keep her safe.

 

5. Offer Her Security

When you give your girlfriend a comforting sense of belonging, if she feels you belong to her alone and she knows she is not sharing you with any other girl, it gives her peace of mind, and helps her to devote all her energy to the relationship, and it also makes her more willing to want to stay with you. This is one way to keep your girlfriend loyal, and to keep her happy.

If she knows you like jumping from girl to girl, she will not feel she has a future with you, and she may leave.

 

6. Do Not Only Hear Her, But Listen to Her

Women like to talk, and like to be listened to. It makes them feel very wanted when their guys hear, and also listen to them.

Hearing is to know that her voice is audible, and she is saying something. Listening is stopping whatever you are doing, giving her your full attention, looking into her face, and taking in whatever she wants to tell you, even if you don’t care about what she is saying.

When you do not listen to her, it gives her the feeling that you do not care about her inner thoughts, and this could make her unhappy with the relationship. But when you listen you show her you care a lot about what she has to say, and she will be happy about the relationship and want to continue being with you; this is a way to keep your girlfriend from breaking up with you.

 

7. Be Faithful

Let your girlfriend be the only girl you are seeing. Let her be more precious to you than anyone, apart from Jehovah, and let her know she holds a special place in your heart. This is one way to get your girlfriend comfortable, and to make her want to continue the relationship.

Some guys treat their friends and family with more respect, and give more attention and time to them, than they give to their girlfriends. Also, they place their love for their work, or other friendships, pastimes, or recreations  ahead of their relationship with their girlfriends.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, continue to have your close friends, and times of recreation, but devote more time to her than to the other things. It will keep your girlfriend calm and satisfied in the relationship.

 

8. Resolve Conflicts Amicably

You will most definitely have arguments, but you should not see your arguments as a challenge of your authority as the man, or as a boxing fight which must definitely be won by you. If you do that, you may tear down the relationship just to show that you can fight, and she may leave when she thinks she is being treated unfairly.

Instead, cooperate with her to fight the cause of the quarrels. Both of you should attack the problem, not the consequences of the problem.

 

9. Acknowledge Her

Make up your mind that your girlfriend does not owe you anything. Think that she owes you nothing, so that when she does anything for you, you will acknowledge it and see it as a precious gift she is giving to you. This will cause you to value her more, and she will be happier with you when she knows she is valued, it will keep your girlfriend crazy about you.

 

10. Make Sure You Are Great Fun

Your girlfriend will never leave you when you can make her happy always. How do you keep your girlfriend happy always? You can keep your girlfriend happy by  being great fun.

Some relationships break up because one partner is starved of fun by the other partner.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, then you will have to become a child again and make the relationship lively. Have a sense of playfulness, and a spirit of jollity and merriment. If you can adopt this attitude, and find ways to make even tough times great fun for her, you will keep her forever.

One good way to be great fun is to develop your sense of humor. Try and build up a catalogue of jokes, rehearse them often, practice them, and release them when you are together with her. Make her laugh and forget some of her stress, and she will always love your company, and want to be in a relationship with you.

Keep your girlfriend entertained and she will not want to leave you. It is also one way to keep your girlfriend from cheating on you.

 

11. Be Alert When You Are Around Her

Girls pay attention to detail, and sometimes think guys  also pay attention to detail. A girl wants you to notice it when she changes her lipstick, or when she starts doing her hair differently, or when she does manicure, or changes the color of her eye shadow, or when she wears a new shoe.

Keep your eyes open and notice changes you see in her, and tell her how beautiful it makes her look, or else you are in trouble. She will think you do not care about her when you do not notice these things.

Always remember that for some girls talking about how they look is a measure of your care and love for her. Therefore if you do not do it, they assume you do not love them, and that could cause a break up.

 

12. Don’t Be Manipulative

Manipulative people sometimes use shallow flattery as a ploy to get what they want.

If you are in the habit of flattering your girlfriend, and your girlfriend sees that you use it just to get her to do things for you, to take advantage of her, and she points it out to you but sees you are not willing to change, you will lose her trust, and she will fall out of love with you.

When you want her to do something for you, just negotiate with her. Let her know your needs, and her reward when she does something for you. This is more likely to motivate her, and to make her want to keep the relationship with you.

13. Don’t Be Proud

Pride takes many forms and sometimes shows itself  through an arrogant manner rooted in security. Proud people refuse to listen and face facts, refuse to admit wrongs when they make mistakes, vow never to say “I am sorry,” and refuse to negotiate.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, then you must not show pride in the relationship. If you are feeling insecure, work on your self-esteem and build up your confidence.

When you make mistakes, be humble enough to admit that you are a human and will make mistakes, and your girlfriend will be happy to stay with you. You do not lose anything when you apologize to a woman. It does not make you less of a man, and does not make your height reduce by an inch!

When  you have disagreements, resolve to negotiate so that there will be peace.

 

14. Make Her Feel Special

If you want to keep your girlfriend, you must make her feel that she is the most cherished girl on earth by the way you treat her and set her apart in your heart.

 

15. Date Her Often

Many girls want to be courted regularly. They want their men to rekindle the fire that was lit when they first met. They want to be wined and dined. When you become so busy that you do not have time to date her again, she can feel emotionally neglected, and seek that emotional connection with another man. Some girls have left their guys, or had affairs behind the back of their boyfriends because their boyfriends stopped being romantic.

Therefore, date her. Rekindle your love from time to time.

 

16. Manage Her Expectations

Many girls enter relationships with wild dreams, most of which are unattainable. It is your duty as the guy to  know your girlfriend’s expectations and fantasies, and to manage them so that she does not end up feeling you do not love her, which can make her break up with you.

For example, if she thinks that a boyfriend should always be buying expensive gifts for his girlfriend, and you do not make her understand that she must learn to adapt to the economic strength of her boyfriend and be satisfied with the little he can do for her, she will become dissatisfied with what you can do for her, look for a man who can buy her those expensive gifts, and leave you.

 

Conclusion

Women need attention, and it must be your resolve to give her the utmost attention you can give her. If you do that, she will not break up with you, and you can enjoy your relationship to the fullest.

 

Are there any other ways you think you can keep your girlfriend? Let the world know by leaving a comment. Thank you.

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