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5 Smart Ways to Cope With a Breakup With Your Ex-Girlfriend

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How to Cope With a Breakup

 

Have you broken-up with your ex-girlfriend?

Do you want to learn secrets that will help you to cope with a breakup with your girlfriend?

Do you want to know ways to get over a breakup?

Then read on because in this article, I will give you tips on ways you can deal with a breakup.

Ready?

Here we go…

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1.     Eat These Foods Often During This Period

  • Do you love eating fiber-rich foods, such as rice bran, wheat germ, soya beans, or peas?
  • Do you love eating oysters and cashew nuts?

Nope? Then you might consider including these foods in your diet.

Why?

According to the Harvard Medical School,

  • foods rich in zinc such as oysters and cashews; and
  • foods rich in vitamin B, such as the cereals and legumes mentioned above

stimulate the release of neurotransmitters, such as serotonin, from the brain. These neurotransmitters help one to feel calm.

So, make sure you include a lot of these foods in your diet. They will help to boost your mood so that you will not mope about your ex-girlfriend.

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2.     Use The “Pet Interaction And Socializing Strategy”

Do you know a dog can help you to get over your girlfriend? Do you know a cat, parrot, horse, or rabbit can also help you to cope with a breakup?

I can already hear you murmur and complain under your breath.

I am feeling so depressed and want someone to help me deal with the situation.

And you talk about animals? How can these animals help me to cope with depression after a breakup?

Here’s the deal:

Caring For The Pet Will Help To Distract You

You will have to see to it that your pet eats, drinks, and avoids any mischief in the house, right? As you apply your mind to this “full-time job,” you will think less and less about the breakup.

The Pet Will Help Boost Your Self-esteem

Do you know why you feel like a loser? It’s because you are depressed. And that depression makes you feel unlovable. Consequently, you feel no other woman will ever love you again. And so you keep thinking about your girlfriend.

However, when you get a pet

  • it will help to boost your self-esteem;
  • a boost in confidence will make you feel more positive about life;
  • consequently, you will find it easier to see all the other “romance possibilities” and you will stop thinking about your ex-girlfriend.

How can the pet help to boost my self-esteem, you may be wondering?

How A Pet Can Help Boost Your Self-esteem

  • Psychologists assert that when one does a task, he/she begins to feel that he/she owns that task. And when that person succeeds at doing that task well, he/she feels like a responsible person.
  • When you wake up each morning and your rabbit or hamster is still alive, it will help to reinforce to yourself that you are capable of caring for something. That feeling will help you to feel good about yourself. And you will start thinking, “Of course! I can make another woman fall in love with me!”

The Pet Will Offer Friendship

Your human friends give you their opinions about the breakup, right?

You should have done this… You should not have done that…

And that makes you feel very lonely. And so you crave the companionship of your ex-girlfriend, right? At least, she was very understanding.

Well, a pet can be there for you without making you feel worse.

How?

You can share your thoughts and feelings with it without getting criticized. Expressing yourself without being judged will give you inner peace and you will find it easier to feel content about your loss.

The Pet Will Help You To Exercise

You will have to walk your pet to make it poop, right?

  1. As you walk it down the pavement in your neighborhood, or down a street in your town, you will be exercising, right?
  2. That exercise will make your brain release chemicals known as endorphins into your bloodstream.
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3.     Use “The Girlfriend Devaluation Strategy”: Blow What You Never Liked About Your Ex-Girlfriend Out Of Proportion

There were many times in your past relationship when your ex-girlfriend did things that made you ask yourself, “Am I with the right woman?”, right?

You can use those things to help you think less about your ex-girlfriend.

You’re probably wondering,

How can I do that? I loved her. And I still have feelings for her.

Here’s the kicker:

How “The Girlfriend Devaluation Strategy” Can Help You To Cope With A Breakup

You have things that you value very much in your life, right? It may be your shoe, laptop, or smartphone, right? And because you value these things, you think about them often and you feel an emotional attachment to them, right?

On the other hand, you do not spend too much time thinking about things you don’t value in your life, right? Like your old clothes, old books and things like that, right? Because they are unattractive, right?

Likewise, when you harp on all those not-so-great things she did, your feelings for her will grow weaker and weaker.

As you continue the exercise, she’ll start to look terrible in your eyes. And then you will find it easier to disconnect emotionally from those memories that make you feel connected to her.

Sounds cruel?

Well, a man’s got to do what a man’s got to do to survive, right? And science shows that it helps.

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4.     Read Novels About Guys Who Overcome Breakups

As you read these books, you will benefit in these ways:

  • Following the lives of the “heroes” will help you to learn about how other guys deal with their fears and worries after relationship breakups. Consequently, you can pick two or three tricks you can use to handle the pain.
  • As you learn about how some of the characters survive breakups, you will see that once others have done it, you can also do it.
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5.     Practice Yoga For 30 Minutes Every Day

You feel anxious about the future, right? You are so worried and you feel that you cannot find another woman, right?

One thing that can help in coping with a breakup is doing yoga. Research shows that when one does yoga, the levels of Gamma-aminobutyric acid (GABA) increases in the body. GABA reduces the excitability of nerves in the body, thereby helping one to calm down. ClicktoTweet

Additionally, yoga makes one slow down and live in the present moment so that one can decompress mentally and release worries and fears from the mind.

So, do yoga often.  Here is an easy yoga pose which you can do:

  • Stand straight in your bedroom.
  • Think about something pleasant, such as winning the lawsuit, receiving your compensation, or surviving the mesothelioma and living long enough to see your grandchildren.
  • Breathe in deeply.
  • Join your hands in your hip area.
  • Breathe out gently.
  • Start inhaling again and whilst you do so, separate your hands and raise them laterally to the level of your shoulder.
  • Arch your body forwards as far as it can go, whilst still keeping your hands outstretched.
  • Hold that position for 5 seconds and then release the air from your lungs slowly.
  • As you inhale again, raise your body to the starting position. Your hands should still be outstretched.
  • Exhale slowly.
  • Then, arch your body backwards as far as it can go.
  • Inhale again and straighten your body.
  • With your arms still outstretched, bend your knees  and lower your body slowly until your thighs are parallel to the ground.
  • Exhale slowly and count up to 5.
  • Then rise slowly until your body is straight again.
  • Stretch your left leg laterally. Count up to 10. Then, bring it back to its original position.
  • Stretch your right leg laterally, count up to 10, and then bring it back to its original position.
  • Then, lie down flat on your back, breathe in deeply, count up to 10, and then breathe out slowly. Repeat this for 5 minutes.

Do this exercise twice a day: early in the morning and just before you take your bath in the evening.

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Points To Remember

To help you cope with a breakup:

  • touch, hug, cuddle, and play with a pet often;
  • do things that will make you devalue your ex-girlfriend in your eyes;
  • read about how other guys deal with breakups; and
  • practice yoga

and you will feel better.

 

 

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8 Great Ways to Make a Woman Happy in a Relationship

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How to Make a Woman Happy in a Relationship

 

You can see it getting to that point…

… that point where things get so boring.

And you can feel it in her attitude towards you nowadays. She’s not happy in the relationship.

You rack your brain searching for ideas to improve the situation and … nothing seems to come up.

Oh boy, what do I do?

Relax. Everything’s going to be fine. I am here to help you solve this problem.

In this article, I will share secrets and tips that can help you make a woman happy in a relationship so that you can keep her until… well, until President Trump dances with the “Rocket Man!”

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1.     Communicate

One thing you can do to make a woman happy in a relationship is to learn to communicate effectively with her.

Most guys are brought up to refrain from expressing their emotions. As they grow up, they are taught that “a guy must not express his emotions when he is hurt.”

If you are still holding onto that kind of idea, then you must know that you will need to open up and communicate with your girlfriend.

How Communicating Will Make Her Happy

Let her know how you feel when she offends you or when she does something you disagree with. Keeping the lines of communication open, letting her know what is inside, will make her trust you even more. And that will make her feel a sense of intimacy.

Listen Too

Furthermore, ensure that you listen to her when she wants to communicate. That is one thing women treasure a lot because they feel that you value them when you give such attention.

So, the next time your girlfriend walks into your room and wants to talk, switch off the laptop, or stop the text message you were about to send, look her in the eye and listen.

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2.     Don’t Ignore The Little Things

A female friend of mine told me once that, yes, women like to receive the big things like cars, shoes, clothes, jewelry and so on from men. However, most women treasure the little things a man does for them above these things. ClicktoTweet

So, if you want to make a woman happy in a relationship, place a great premium on doing the little things and giving her the little curtsies.

Still lost about what I am talking about?

  • Say, “please pass the cup to me” instead of “give me that cup!” when you are having a meal together;
  • when she buys a tie or shirt for you, say, “Darling, I thank you that you are so thoughtful. God bless you!” instead of just saying “great gift. Where did you get it?”;
  • when she does a new hairdo, say something such as this, “I love your new hairdo. It looks great on you. And it makes you look even more beautiful!” instead of ignoring it and thinking, “It’s just a hairdo. How important is it?”;
  • when she puts on makeup that makes her look attractive, or when she wears a dress that shows her great sense of color balance, tell her how you feel about the way she looks.

When you do some of these things consistently, her ego will swell and she will feel great about herself. And you can be sure you will be the beneficiary of those positive feelings!

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3. Trust Her

You loved it when your parents trusted you when you were growing up, right? You love it when your friends trust you, right? It makes you feel a great sense of worth, right?

In that same vein, your girlfriend will feel appreciated when you trust her and give her space sometimes to mingle and socialize with other guys.

How Trust Can Make Her Feel Great

When you give her that space to develop her sense of self, she will feel very respected. She will know that you feel she is honest and  mature, and that her loyalty to you cannot be questioned.

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4.     Be Predictably Unpredictable

You love watching movies that have lots of twists and turns that you never expected, right? You enjoy watching a basketball game or soccer game in which the underdog causes an upset, right?

Unpredictability makes the whole experience more exciting and enthralling, right?

How Unpredictability Can Help

Likewise, a guy who gives a relationship “twists and turns,” or who does things that a woman never expected him to do, finds it easier to sustain the interest and attention of a woman than a guy who is terribly predictable.

  • Unpredictability makes a woman look forward expectantly to what you might come up with next.
  • The suspense that creates will never make her feel bored.
  • On the other hand, predictability makes being in a relationship feel like climbing a mountain with a weight on the back.
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5.     Never Remind Her Of Her Flaws

You don’t like it when people harp on your flaws, do you? You accept that you will do your best to work on them, but the most important thing in life is not striving to be perfect but trying to make progress, right?

So, show that same kind of magnanimity to your girlfriend. Avoid making disparaging remarks and insulting her with her flaws especially when you feel angry. Rather, when her flaws get the better of her, encourage her by letting her know that you accept her imperfect as she is, and you love her just as she is.

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6.     Let Her Feel Special When She’s With Her Female Friends

Most women want other women to know that their boyfriends are treating them right. They feel a great sense of pride when other women know that their lovers treat them with care, dignity, respect, and affection. It gives them “bragging points” when they chat with their girlfriends.

  • So, from time to time, intentionally give her a special treat when she is socializing with her girlfriends. Compliment her on her beauty in front of them.
  • Tell them you feel she is the best female cook in the world.
  • Inform them that you know she is the greatest woman in the world.
  • Give her a precious gift whilst she is chatting with her friends.
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7.     Let Her Know You Value Her Opinions

You hate it when you pass a comment and your guys make you feel as though you’ve got no brains, right? It makes you feel disrespected, right?

And negative feelings such as anger come into your heart which make it difficult for you to relate lovingly to your friends, right?

Yes, that can happen to your girlfriend too if you treat her views and opinions with disrespect because you feel “she’s just a woman.”

Conversely, when you treasure her opinions, she will feel like an equal partner in the relationship and her spirit will swell so much she will feel on top of the world.

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8.     Make Sacrifices For Her

  • Once in a while, take her to see a fashion show instead of going to watch your favorite team in action; or, let her watch her favorite romance movie on your laptop instead of insisting that you want to watch a thriller;
  • or, let her listen to her kind of music on your iPod instead of choosing to do something different;
  • and please do these things with a smile!

When your girlfriend sees that you are happy about making sacrifices for her, she’ll know through and through that you really love her and she’ll cherish every waking moment she experiences with you.

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Points To Remember

If you want to make a woman happy in a relationship:

  • talk, talk, talk and let her know your thoughts and feelings;
  • continue to do the little things;
  • let her know that  you think she is an honorable woman; and
  • make compromises for her.

 

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10 Smart Ways to Know if Your Girlfriend is Cheating

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Do you want to know if your girlfriend is cheating?

Do you need information about how to tell if she has cheated?

Do you want to know signs she cheated on you last night?

Then keep keeping because…

…I am going to show you all the secrets.

In this article, I will let you know how to tell if your girlfriend is cheating on you for sure signs.

ready? then let’s go…

 

1.     She No Longer Shows Caring Behavior

  • Your girlfriend used to call or text three times a day, but does not do that anymore, right?
  • Or, she has stopped giving you gifts on special days, right?
  • And she no longer hugs you, rubs the back of your hand when you give her a gift, or checkouts how you are doing when you fall sick, right?

If your girlfriend used to care a lot about you, but starts showing indifference and apathy, she may be getting emotional satisfaction somewhere else and you need to investigate further.

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2.     She Starts Dressing- To- Kill Again

One of the physical signs that will tell you your girlfriend is cheating is when she starts dressing to attract attention.

Your girlfriend used to go to great lengths to “dress- to- kill you” whenever she was coming to visit you, right?

And then you became so used to each other and for some time she’s been coming around looking very casual, right?

But recently, she’s started dressing immaculately and elegantly whenever she is going to social functions where you cannot accompany her, right?

She may be dressing that way because she’s seen a guy she fancies and she wants to attract his attention.

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3.     She Starts Acting “Strange”

You know the kinds of clothes your girlfriend likes to wear, no doubt.

You know the kind of perfume she likes to put on, right? And you also know the way she pays attention to you when you are communicating with her, right?

However, you’ve noticed over the last few weeks that she’s started changing the types of clothes she likes, she wears different perfume, and she finds it hard to concentrate when you are chatting with her, right?

The Connection Between The Changes And Cheating

According to behavior experts

  • if she liked eating pizza and she suddenly starts to eat hamburgers;
  • if she used to smile a lot and she suddenly becomes pensive and easily irritable;
  • if she used to assertively challenge you often, but she’s becomes docile and very accommodating;
  • if she liked to go out on Saturday nights but she suddenly wants to stay at home

and so on, it’s because she’s acting deceptively and she is feeling nervous about it. And so probe further and go on the hunt and you will discover the truth.

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4.     She Turns “Dumb” When You Ask Her Probing Questions

  • Does your girlfriend just stare at you when she turns up late for an appointment and you ask her why? And for minutes she just cannot answer where she went, or who she was with?
  • Does your girlfriend become silent when you see her walking with a guy, and you accost her? Does she find it hard to talk when you ask her for further information about her relationship with the guy?

If your girlfriend develops an inability to speak in such situations, you will have to monitor her closely.

You’re probably thinking,

What’s the connection?

The Connection Between Such Behavior And Cheating

According to scientists, when one is feeling stressed as a result of behaving deceptively or cheating, the autonomic nervous system of that person kicks into action involuntarily in response to that stress and makes it hard for that person to speak when he/she is queried immediately after engaging in deceptive behavior. ClicktoTweet

5.     Your Girlfriend Becomes Defensive When Put On The Spot

When you check her out at her house and she’s not there, does she retort, “you have no right to ask me that!” when she comes back and you ask her where she went, without answering the question?

When she informs you she is going to a girls’ party, and you ask her whether there will be guys there, does she start throwing tantrums?

The Connection

  1. She’s getting hints that you suspect that something’s up and she feels uncomfortable about that and so she reacts angrily to make you feel guilty as a way to “throw you off the scent.”
  2. She’s afraid you are getting clues that she may be cheating and to give you the impression that you’re mistaken, she acts aggressively to create doubts in your mind so that you will give her the benefit of the doubt.

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6.     She Repeats Your Question

If you have intelligence she met another guy, or she’s been meeting another guy, and you ask a question such as, “Where were you last night?” and your girlfriend repeats, “Where were you last night? Where was I…? Where was I? I was … uhm … well l …” and then she racks her brain for a while before she answers? That is one sign that can make you know if a girlfriend is cheating.

The Connection

According to psychologist Edward Geiselman of the University of California, Los Angeles, when people show this kind of behavior it means they are lying.

If your girlfriend does this often, it is likely your girlfriend is living a deceptive life and you need to question whatever she tells you about her relationship with other guys.

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7.     She Avoids Talking About A Shared Future

You try to ask her about what the future holds for both of you, right? But every time you make the attempt, she either avoids the question, or changes the subject entirely, right?

Why She’s Avoiding Making A Commitment

If you see these signs, she may be in love with another guy, or developing feelings for him, and she feels that she may have a future with that other guy and so she does not feel that committing to you is such a good idea.

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8.     She Starts Demanding That You Respect Her Space

Does your girlfriend get angry when you try to go through her browsing history? Does she keep her phone on her when you go to visit?

Has she informed you that she does not want you to call her at certain times of the day? Has she demanded that you inform her before you go to visit her?

She may need the space and time to communicate with the other guy without fearing that you may “chance” on them.

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9.     She Starts Buying Things Beyond Her Means

If your girlfriend buys goods that you do not give her, and which her income cannot support, and which you know she did not receive from her relatives or friends, then she may be receiving financial help from her other boyfriend and you will have to dig deep into the matter and seek answers.

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10.  Ask An “Experienced” Close Female Friend…

Ask a female friend who knows her very well, and who understands cheating. This may be

  • a woman whose boyfriend has cheated on her before, or
  • a woman who has cheated on her boyfriend before.

She has the experience dealing with cheating and she can easily spot the signs of cheating.

Let her interact with your girlfriend, observe her, and monitor her movements for a week or two, and then give you the feedback.

… Or Ask A Stranger

I can already hear the doubts you are expressing.

How can someone who does not know my girlfriend know if my girlfriend is cheating on me? Sounds silly!

But, it’s not silly! And this strategy is backed by science.

A study by scientists at Brigham Young University suggests that people can give accurate judgments about the behavior of others after they study these people, or observe them, for only a short period of time.

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Points To Remember

If you want to know if your girlfriend is cheating:

  • watch out to see if she no longer cares about showing care to you;
  • observe to see whether she pays extra attention to her appearance again after slacking for a while; and
  • checkout if she gets defensive every time you ask her harmless questions that she should find easy to answer.

 

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(Secrets Revealed!) 6 Secrets to Help You Have a Happy Relationship With Your Girlfriend

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Is your relationship great?

Do you want to have a happy relationship?

Need tips to help you have a happy, long-lasting relationship?

Want secrets that can help you have a healthy relationship that will stand the test of time?

Then you are at the right place!

In this article, I am going to give you tips and secrets that will make you enjoy your relationship.

Ready to discover those secrets?

Then read on…

1.     Respect  Her Always

You like it when your girlfriend treats you as though you are a king, right? You love it when she shows that she feels you are the leader in the relationship, right?

And you love it when she makes you feel that you are a great guy, right?

Then reciprocate!

  • Let her know that she means everything to you in this life;
  • honor her always, especially when you are in public;
  • avoid destructive criticisms; and
  • avoid disparaging remarks as a way of revenge when she hurts you.

How Respecting Your Girlfriend Can Make Your Relationship Great

Respecting your girlfriend always can make her feel that she is a valued partner in the association. Consequently, she is likely to continue to have strong affection for you, and to continue treating you with respect so that you can maintain the harmony in the relationship.

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2.     Practice “Empassion”

“Empassion” is a combination of empathy and compassion.

How do you practice it?

  • Before you say anything to her, ask yourself, “Would I feel happy if my girlfriend said these same words to me? Will what I am going to say help to make us feel closer to each other? Will it draw us apart? From what I know about her personality, will it hurt her?”
  • If you feel those words will enhance the relationship, then let them out!
  • If you feel that what you are going to say will not help to maintain the peace in the relationship, either modify it so that it will hurt her feelings less when you say them, or don’t say them at all.
  • And, regularly, put yourself in your girlfriend’s shoes and imagine how it must feel for her to cope with you: to stomach some of the hurtful things you say, and to make sacrifices to satisfy your demands.

How “Empassion” Can Help

Doing the above will help you to appreciate the efforts and sacrifices she is making to make you feel happy. Consequently, you will find it easier to keep your “devotion spirit” high and to continue treating her with care.

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3.     Develop “Camaraderie Strengthening Communication” Every Day

You know effective communication can help you to express your feelings and thoughts properly so that you can understand each other and co-operate better, right?

And it can help you to get rid of toxic feelings, and help you to settle differences, when you have disagreements, right?

But, would you say you are a good communicator? Nope? You find it hard to express your feelings when your girlfriend hurts you, right?

Importance of Good Communication for a Happy Relationship

Several studies have shown that the way you express your feelings to your lover, and the way you respond to concerns raised by your partner, can help to make both of you feel happy in a relationship. Great communication prevents misunderstandings and, hence, frequent fights.

“Camaraderie Strengthening Communication”

One type of communication you can practice daily to ensure you stick to each other is what I call “camaraderie strengthening communication.”

How do you develop  this type of communication?

  • Set aside 10 minutes each day to talk to each other in a quiet, attractive setting where you will not be disturbed. Talk about silly things you have done since you started going out. This activity will make you laugh, which will induce positive feelings in both of you and you will both feel closer to each other.
  • Every Saturday, write down ways in which you feel your girlfriend did not communicate effectively with you throughout the week. Additionally, write down how you think she can improve her communication. Let her do likewise.
  • At the end of the exercise, exchange your sheets, discuss what you can do to get your thoughts and feelings across better, and what your girlfriend can also do to communicate better with you.
  • Set aside 30 minutes each week to learn about each other’s body language signals so that you can avoid misunderstandings.

How This Type of Communication Will Help You as a Couple

Maintaining your friendship is what keeps couples together. Developing this type of communication will help you to stay strong as friends and help to maintain the “we” feeling so that you will continue to feel that you are a “team.”

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4.     Keep the Emotional Connection Strong Always

The feelings you had for your girlfriend were probably very strong at the beginning of the relationship, right? And you thought you would feel that way every day until you got married, right?

But, you’ve discovered that you have strong feelings for her sometimes, and you feel like leaving her at other times, right?

That is perfectly normal in any relationship. However, if you want to have a happy relationship, you must ensure that you renew the feelings of attraction whenever those feelings start to wane.

According to Sue Johnson, a clinical psychologist in Canada, making it a habit to fall in love with your partner over and over again can help to keep a relationship happy and strong. ClicktoTweet

So, what are some of the things you can do to make you fall in love with your girlfriend over and over again?

  • Spend some time just observing her and admiring her attractive physical features when she is with you.  It will help to induce fresh affection in your heart for your sweetheart.
  • Think about her positive qualities often. You may record yourself saying 20 of them on your smartphone and play them back to yourself every day. And when she hurts you, play them constantly to yourself to help you continue to have strong goodwill towards her.
  • Memorize quotes about love, and create your own, and say them to each other often.
  • Organize a “drawing closer to have a happy relationship quiz” every week. Ask each other questions about the relationship journey so far. It will help to rekindle fond memories that will make you feel intimate as a couple.

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5.     Do “Making You Feel Like A Queen” Days Regularly

You may be asking, “What on earth is that?”

It means setting aside days on which you will make her feel as though she is the queen of “lovedom,” as well as the queen of your heart.

How do you do that?

  • Take her on a drive to her favorite location in the city.
  • Act like her servant. Cook her favorite meal for her and serve her when you are having a meal.
  • Buy her a gift she will never forget in her life.
  • Compliment her for all the good things she has done for you.
  • Let her ask you three wishes and fulfill those wishes for her.

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6.     Go To Church Together

You believe in God, right? But how do spend your Sunday mornings? Do you go fishing? Do you watch movies with friends? Or do you sleep?

Well, you might want to reconsider those habits.

Why?

According to research carried out by Bradford Wilcox and Nicholas Wolfinger, couples who attend church regularly together have happier relationships than those who don’t.

How can going to church help your relationship?

How Going To Church Can Help You Have A Happy Relationship

The research revealed that going to church fills people with positive, happy feelings. When you feel positive most of the time, and your girlfriend also feels great, you are more likely to relate lovingly to each other. Hence, emotional intimacy can be maintained.

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Points To Remember

To have a happy relationship:

  • practice “empassion”: empathize with your girlfriend often, whilst at the same time having compassion on her;
  • develop “camaraderie strengthening communication”: improve ways you can strengthen your friendship; and
  • make her feel like she is a queen on some days

and you will both be happy forever.

 

          

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(Revealed!) 6 Smart Ways to Cope With a Breakup With Your Ex-Girlfriend

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How to Cope With a Breakup

          

Kofi Duku just broke up with Yaa Ampratwum.

“I just don’t know what to do. I think about her every day. I cannot focus on work. I have been queried by my supervisor because I am not giving my best to the job. I also dream about her every night. What can I do to cope with a breakup? I need to know before I am fired for poor performance,” Kofi says with a look of concern on his face.

Are you also dealing with a breakup? If you are, then here are some tips and secrets that can help you to handle a breakup with your ex-girlfriend effectively.

Related:  5 Smart Ways to Cope With a Breakup

1.     Magnify What You Hated About Her

There were many things about your ex- girlfriend that were not so great, right?

And there were many things she did that irritated you sometimes and made you feel like slapping her sometimes, right?

Well, maybe not slapping her, but walking out on the relationship, perhaps.

To help you cope with a breakup, play up her weak points and the things that were not so attractive about her.

Science Shows It Helps In Dealing With A Breakup

This is backed by science! A study published in the journal Cognition and Emotions has revealed that people who remind themselves of negative things about their ex immediately after the breakup are less likely to feel depressed after a breakup than people who do not.  ClicktoTweet

How It Can Help You

When you magnify your ex-girlfriend’s faults and weaknesses, when you remind yourself often that she was not perfect after all, it will make her look less attractive and appealing to you. Consequently, the affection you have for her will grow weaker and you will find it easier to move on.

How To Do It

Was she a bad cook? Remind yourself of this often and laugh over it. Did she slurp whilst drinking sodas?

Use it to tease the thoughts that come to your mind and make you feel that you are losing a woman without compere on this earth.

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2.     Think Positively By Using The “I See The Big Picture” Strategy

You feel as though you can’t live without her, right? You feel that you still need her by your side, right?

However, holding onto to such negative thought patterns can make you miss her even more and you will become depressed as a result.

Rather, look at the big picture.

How do you do that?

How To Use This Strategy

When a thought such as, “I can’t see how I can live without Yaa (or Sue)” comes into your mind, think something such as this, “Of course I can! I lived for 18 years without her before I met her, didn’t I? If I was able to survive all those years without her, I can do it again! I have my job. I have my loving friends. I will be fine.”

Placatory thoughts such as this one will make you feel that although you have lost someone, you have not lost everything, and so your life must not cease. That will make it easier for you to gather courage and keep hope alive.

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3.     Write Words Of Comfort To Yourself

All sorts of negative emotions are filling your body, right? And you feel confused about what is happening, right?

And thoughts such as, “Am I such a bad lover? What will women who know about this breakup think about me? Will I ever find love again? Will any other woman trust me enough again to have a relationship with me?” and other questions such as these come into your mind often, right?

And you feel that by burying your feelings and avoiding mourning over the loss, you’d be showing that you are a real tough guy, right?

However, one way to cope with a relationship breakup is to mourn by writing a letter of comfort to yourself.

Sounds crazy? It’s not!

How This Can Help You

When you view the loss of your lover as a sort of “death” and you console yourself by writing encouraging words, it will help you to put closure to that past relationship: it will help you to release the pain of the loss. As a result, the intensity of the pain you feel will reduce drastically.

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4.      Transform Your Pain Into A Teaching Experience

You’ve learned some valuable lessons about relationships, right? Lessons which will help you to mature as a lover so that you can handle your next lover better, right?

Instead of sitting at home moping and crying, find guys who have also experienced painful breakups and teach them what you’ve learned about coping with a breakup.

How Doing This Will Help You

As you share your experiences, and as you listen to their stories too, and you see the positive effect your words of motivation and encouragement have on their spirits, you will feel better yourself when you know that you are helping a fellow man solve a problem.

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5.     Write A Short Fiction Story Based On Your Experience

Have you starred in a play at school before? Have you ever acted in a movie before? How did you feel after the play when girls were praising you left, right, and center? You felt great, no doubt.

You can relive that experience by writing a short story of about 5000 words in which you are the lead character.

How To Write The Story

  • Let it be a fast-paced story filled with lots of action and exciting scenes so that whenever you read it, it will help capture your imagination and thrill you so much that you will not think about your former girlfriend.
  • Let the negative part of the story take up only a short part of the story. Let the story begin with the breakup. That scene should take up at most 500 words. This will give you enough space to write the positive change that occurs in the life of the protagonist after the breakup.
  • Additionally, let the story have a happy ending. Let the protagonist (that is you) meet a more beautiful, more intelligent, more loving and understanding woman than the woman he lost. And let them have a better relationship than the one that broke-up.

Subsequently, read the story very often. When you do this exercise, you will be sending subliminal messages to your subconscious that positive things can happen in your love life in the future and that can help you to change your mindset and look to the future with hope.

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6.     Prioritize Your Spiritual Relationship With God

God loves you so much He allowed Jesus to come to earth to die so that you could have eternal life. And even if your ex- girlfriend no longer loves you, God still loves you and He will comfort you if you turn to Him.

How To Do It

So, renew your friendship with the LORD.

  • Talk to Him often throughout each day.
  • Let Him talk to you too by reading your Bible often.
  • Go to church and sing and dance away your negative feelings.
  • And go on spiritual retreats where you can meditate about God’s goodness and build your spiritual strength again so that you can experience inner peace.
  • Additionally, socialize with Christina brothers and sisters and enjoy the encouragement and motivation they can give you.
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Points To Remember

To cope with a breakup:

  • remind yourself about what was not so great about her often;
  • teach guys who are also going through the same experience;
  • write a short story based on your story; and
  • let God love you.          

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15 Cute Things to Do With Your Girlfriend

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15 Cute Things to Do With Your Girlfriend

 

A relationship can get boring sometimes, right?

You just ran out of ideas about what to keep the relationship exciting…

You rack your brain and rack it but…

It is as though you have come to the end of your creativity.

But…don’t worry! I have lots of ideas and being the selfish (?) guy that I am, I want to share a few cute things to do with your girlfriend with you to help you have a great relationship.

Related: 10 Cute Things to Do With Your Girlfriend

1.    Bake Together

You love eating cakes, right? And you also love eating pastries, bread, meat pies, biscuits and the like, right?

Instead of just being a consumer of these goodies, why don’t you become a producer?

That’s right! One of the cute things to do with your girlfriend on a date is to bake!

Produce all these delicious “eatables” with your girlfriend! Dress like clowns, or dress like genies or gnomes or whatever imaginary beings tickle your fancy. And as you beat eggs, mix flour, regulate an oven and so on at her house, converse and listen to your favorite music intermittently.

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2.    Watch The Sun Set

One of the cute things to do with your girlfriend on valentine’s day is to watch the sun retire for the day.

Settle with your girlfriend under palm trees, or at the  park. Snuggle up to your girlfriend with a bottle of lemonade and vegetable pies, or a yogurt and banana cakes.

Put your arm around her and observe as the sun glows, throws an orange ball in the sky, and goes “home” to sleep. Enjoy every moment of the spectacle.

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3.    Build Castles In The Sand At The Beach

You loved to build castles in the sand when you were a little boy, right? And you miss those days, right?

So, why don’t you relive those exciting times again?

No, no, don’t shake your head. You are not too old to do that again. You can!

This is what you should do:

Keep it a surprise…

  • go to your girlfriend’s house one Saturday morning;
  • inform her that you have a surprise for her;
  • respectfully ask her to put on casual clothes; and then
  • drive her to the nearest beach;
  • settle in the sand together, brainstorm about the kind of house you would like to live in together when you get married. Then, together, try to create a “sand version” of your dream house.
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4.    Tramp Through Woods

Grab Susie, Amy, Ava, Yaa, or Adwoa’s (or whatever your girlfriend’s name is)hand. Leave the house. And take a stroll through serene woods.

Challenge each other to “walking matches”—set a distance you must both walk and try to outdo each other over that distance.

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5.    Have A Picnic On A Lake

Pack a basket with raspberries, cranberries, bananas, pineapples, or papaya, as well as doughnuts, some fried fish, and whole meal bread. Plus, take along any musical instrument that you can play well.

Hire a canoe or a kayak. When you get to the lake, row off the shore and stop in the middle of the lake. Unpack the food and enjoy it over a conversation about what direction you want your relationship to take.

After the meal, create a love song together and sing it to each another.

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6.    Learn How To Speak A New Language

Learn French, German, Norwegian, Swedish, Dutch, Twi, Ga, Ewe, Swahili, Hausa, Arabic or any other exotic language that you may have heard of.

And after you master it, use it to confuse your friends and relations. Or, use it to create your own “imaginary world” where only both of you can understand each other.

Want to know more interesting things to do with her…

Keep reading…

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7.    Show Love To Disadvantaged Children

One of the cute things to do with your girlfriend on her birthday is to be charitable. Buy exercise books, pens, and pencils. Then, visit an orphanage and distribute these items to the children.

Alternatively, identify homeless or street children and give the items to them. Follow this up by inspiring them to aspire to get an education.

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8.    Teach A Parrot How To Mention Your Names

You get thrilled when you hear a parrot “speaking”, right? And you wonder how those birds manage to imitate humans, right?

So, solve the mystery! Together with your girlfriend, learn how to train a parrot to speak. And then buy a parrot for your girlfriend on her next birthday. Subsequently, teach the bird how to mention your names.

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9.    Write Love Poems

Recount all the amazing times you have shared together as boyfriend and girlfriend. Let those memories inspire you and guide you to express yourselves to each in poems. Then, grab her hand, look deep into her eyes, and let her know the depth of the love you have for her.

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10. Ride A Horse

Borrow the horse of a farmer or horse owner in your town. Settle on the horse together and go on an adventure: ride the animal to outlying parts of the town and hurdle over obstacles.

Alternatively, get a horse each and race each other on a track and field park or on a soccer field.

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11. Go To A Ghanaian Festival

Ghanaians in the US and Europe organize festivals from time to time. During these festivals, they showcase Ghana’s rich culture.

Inquire about when the next Ghanaian festival will be held in your area. And then go there with your girlfriend.

Learn what you can about Ghanaian culture. Learn about the Ghanaian way of dressing. Learn how to dance some traditional Ghanaian dances. And learn how to cook some Ghanaian foods.

After the festival, dress like Ghanaians sometimes, cook Ghanaian foods for each other, and entertain yourselves with Ghanaian music and Ghanaian dances.

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12. Camp In The Yard Of  Your House

When your girlfriend comes over one day, set up a tent on the lawn of your house one warm evening. Decorate the tent with flowers and play love songs to create a romantic ambience. Settle in two chairs facing each other, hold hands, and talk about your hopes and dreams for the future.

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13. Role Play

You enjoy watching your favorite movie stars on screen, right? And you enjoy the excitement the movies bring you, right?

Then, why not create your own excitement yourselves! Pretend you are your favorite film stars and enact some of your favorite scenes from their movies which you love the most.

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14. Guess The Names Of Flowers

Set the stakes for a “knowing flowers” excursion. For example, you may decide that when your girlfriend hits a certain score, you will give her a special treat: for a whole week, you will take her to her favorite restaurant for lunch.

And you may decide that if she does not make that score, she will buy you a gift of your choice on your next birthday.

Then go to a botanical garden with a botany book. Let your girlfriend try to identify some flowers and give her a score.

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15. Listen To Radio For A Whole Day

Settle by your radio and listen to different discussions and different programs. Listen to a range of programs ranging from entertainment to politics, sports, fashion, science, wealth creation, cars, women’s issues, health, and holidays and celebrations. Then, pick 5 of the issues that interested you the most and debate each other on those topics.

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Points To Remember

Wrapping it all up, remember that some of the cute things to do with your girlfriend are:

  • baking in the house;
  • tramping through woods;
  • caring for disadvantaged children; and
  • attending a Ghanaian festival.
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I am sure that you also have many ideas about some cute things lover can do.

Share some of them with the world! Let the world know by telling me about them in the comments section below.

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6 Smart and Easy Ways to Get Back Your Ex Girlfriend

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6 Smart and Easy Ways to Get Back Your Ex-Girlfriend

Do you want to know the best ways to get back your ex-girlfriend? Have you tried several times but failed?

Are you frustrated and thinking of giving up?

Don’t!

In this article, I will show you what you can do to make it happen.

Curious?

Then continue reading…

Related: How to Get Your Ex Back

1.     Your Mindset

No soldier goes to war thinking that he will lose the war, right? And no soccer player goes onto the field hoping that his side will lose the game, right?

In that same vein, make up your mind that only the best can happen when you make efforts to get back your ex-girlfriend.

Why You Must Be Positive

It will give you the vim and confidence you need to persevere even when she proves stubborn.

Exhibiting an unrelenting spirit can make her see how serious you are about her and it can help her change her mind about trying to work things out.

And here’s the big one…

2.     Excel At Something

Are you living a mediocre life? Are you just another member of the crowd? Do you live an ordinary life?

If your answer to all these questions is yes, then there is nothing special about you that may make your ex-girlfriend feel that she is losing someone great and valuable.

And that is why she does not bat an eyelid lid when you tell her you want her back.

So how can you change the situation?

Wow Her!

If you want to get back your ex-girlfriend, do something extraordinary.

  • If you are in school, work very hard, I mean extra, extra hard, and make good grades so that you can become the talk of the school.
  • Learn a new skill such as playing the guitar or drumming, record a love song, and promote the song on social media.
  • Do a brave deed in school—do advocacy work for poor students who are finding it hard to pay their school fees, advocate for a female student who is undergoing abuse at home, champion student’s rights on campus and so on.
  • If you are a worker, fight for a cause with zeal and passion. Set up an NGO to take care of street children, contact people and influence them to help the homeless, do charitable acts every week, set up an NGO to fight for women’s rights in your community and so on.

You may be asking yourself, “Right. Do this and do that and go to the moon and dance calypso and…and so what! How can this help me to get back my ex-girlfriend?”

How Excelling At Something Can Help You To “Score Points”

Have you ever watched the President giving a soldier a medal for bravery at the war front?

And then when you read the newspaper the next day, this soldier’s picture was in it?

And then when you tuned in to watch Oprah you saw his face…

You get the point?

Here’s the deal…

Guys who do brave deeds become popular and win the hearts of people.

When you leave your “comfort zone” and you “get your hands dirty” and become popular, your ex-girlfriend is bound to see what you are doing and how you are helping disadvantaged people.

Want to know the best part?

Ladies like to be associated with popular and famous guys.

So

  • when she reads the rave reviews that you are getting all over the place;
  • when she hears the comments people pass about how you are contributing to make the lives of others better;
  • when she sees how people respect you because of your new status

she may want to have a piece of the “cake” too—she may want to get back into your social circle again so that she can enjoy some of the attention too.

And when she renews her friendship with you, BINGO!

You can cajole her with sweet words and promises of doing things differently this time. And you can give promises that you will treat her differently.

Those sweet words can tip the scales and make her give your dead relationship life again.

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3.    Use “The Magnetizing Mood” Whenever You Meet Her

You remember days on which you have met ladies and their mood just makes you want to associate with the person, right?

It just makes you feel that, “I just want to spend more time with this lady,” right?

That is what I call “the magnetizing mood”—a mood that makes it hard for someone to leave you when you meet them.

How Can You Show This Magnetizing Mood?

  1. Avoid showing anxiety or looking needy. Take in deep breaths to help you feel relaxed and go with the flow.
  2. Don’t grumble or complain when you are with her.
  • Don’t talk about problems whilst you are with her, but solutions to problems.

How The Magnetizing Mood Can Help You To Get Back Your Ex-Girlfriend

Showing a magnetizing mood consistently whenever you meet your ex-girlfriend will

  • make you leave an indelible impression on her mind;
  • this impression may make her see you in a new light;
  • the change in her perspective may help stir her affection for you again; and
  • so, she may miss you again, which can help rekindle feelings for you in her again and make her desire a comeback.

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4.     Ask Her About Her Love Life

If she tells you that she is still single and searching

  • show excitement and drop hints that you miss her and she is always welcome back whenever she decides to reconnect; and
  • subtly drop hints that you are also still single and searching.
  • For example, you may say something such as this, “I hope you find what you are looking for out there. But you know what, I…I miss the good times we had in the past. You know what, my doors are always open if you need a friend. You know I am always there for you, right?”

You can use that to make her mind work to accept that the relationship may not be over. That can pave the way for you to let her see why you should get back together again.

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5.     Use Her Closest Female Friends

Your very close male friends can sometimes influence you to change your mind, right?

Sometimes you are so angry with someone, but when a male friend you trust and love talks to you about the situation, it makes you change your attitude towards the person who hurt you, right?

You change your mind because you feel that the male friend understands the situation and cares about you so much that whatever he is suggesting will benefit you in the long run, right?

In just the same way, you can get back your ex-girlfriend by getting some of your girlfriend’s very close female friends to talk to her about getting back together with you.

Why This Will Work

Since your girlfriend knows that her close female friends want the best for her, she is likely to seriously consider a request they make on your behalf.

And when they keep reminding her and impressing upon her how the two of you will make a great couple, she may see truth in that and choose to give your relationship another chance.

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6.     Let Her Elder Sisters Help You

Another strategy you can use to get back your ex-girlfriend is to implore the help of her elder sisters, especially those who may have broken up with their boyfriends but reunited later.

Why their elder sisters?

Here’s The Deal:

Women trust the judgment of their elder sisters who have experiences in love matters.

They feel that because their “experienced” elder sisters are also women, they can spot a guy who can make a woman happy, or a guy who is good marriage material.

So, when her sister(s) talk to her and make her see that you are a good guy and she will be happy with you if she gives you another chance

  • she may ruminate upon all the good things you did for her whilst you were dating; and
  • she will remember the times you made her happy.

The happy feelings those nostalgic memories will induce can motivate her to choose to work things out again instead of taking the easy way out—quitting the relationship.

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Points To Remember

To get back your ex- girlfriend

  • be upbeat about the whole “project”;
  • do extraordinary things;
  • magnetize and mesmerize her whenever you meet her; and
  • let her female friends work on her mind.
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6 Smart Ways to Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend Permanently

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6 Smart Ways to Get Over Your Ex-Girlfriend

Kofi Brentuo’s heart was broken by a lady he adored and he finds it very difficult to get on with his life.

“I never imagined in my wildest dreams that I would be in a situation where I would be wondering how to get over your ex-girlfriend because I felt my relationship would last forever. I had never been in a relationship before I met Akosua. She taught me how to love, how to believe in myself, and she knew exactly what to do to make me feel happy. Our relationship progressed and it got to a point where my whole life revolved around her. And then her former boyfriend came back into town and from then onwards it was trouble after trouble. We started having quarrels. I did my best to salvage the relationship, but she continued to fall out of love with me, and we grew distant until she left me for her former boyfriend. And they will be getting married soon. I am shattered! I want to know how you can get over your ex-girlfriend that you still love but who dumped you? Oh, I still have strong feelings for her! I want to know how you can get over your ex-girlfriend who is dating someone else. I wake up each morning feeling so empty. How can one deal with an ex-girlfriend leaving you for someone new?” Kofi asks.

In a similar situation?

Then here are a few tips that can help you to get over your ex-girlfriend for good.

Related: 7 Easy Ways to Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend

1.    Stop Reminiscing

You think about the hugs she used to give you, right? You recall the sweet words of love she used to whisper into your ear, right? And you often remember what she did for you during your last birthday, right?

Ruminating will just make the past relationship feel so real to you. Consequently, the feelings those thoughts induce may urge you to think of asking for a reunion or asking for another chance.

But your ex- girlfriend may have gotten over you and made new plans for the future, right?

Friend, this is how to get over your ex-girlfriend completely:

What You Must Do

  1. Accept that it is over! And choose to stop analyzing what you could have done differently, why she should have made compromises so that you could have worked things out, or efforts you should have made to improve the relationship.
  2. Encourage yourself that once there is life, and once there are so many other women out there, you will most definitely find love again, if you look forward to tomorrow instead of living in the past.
  3. Visualize yourself meeting another woman and having a great relationship with her, an even better relationship than the one which is dead.
  4. Watch movies in which the protagonist loses his girlfriend, but finds a wonderful woman who loves him more than the woman he lost.

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2.    Focus On The Benefits Of Leaving Her

Yes, you shared some great moments together. And, yes, she added value to your life and made you feel happy.

But you will agree with me that you have benefitted in some ways, right?

Think about it!

At least, you have time for yourself now, right?

I can hear the anger in your voice as you say,

I am so hurt and always ruminating upon the great times I shared with her. I can’t think of anything else!

I sympathize with you!

I know it’s hard.

But you have to discipline your mind and think about the things you have gained since you broke up with her, if you want to get over your ex-girlfriend.

How can you do this?

How To Keep Your Mind On The Benefits of Leaving Your Ex-Girlfriend

  • Reflect and you will see ways in which your life has become better since you broke up with her.
  • You may start by writing the extreme opposite of the things she did to hurt you. For example, if she used to get angry often, you may write, “At least, now I will not have her shouting at me.”
  • Read them often when you start thinking about her.
  • Or, record the ways you have benefitted on your smartphone and play them to yourself when thoughts about how badly you miss your ex-girlfriend come into your mind.

Doing the exercise above will help to fill you with positive emotions and you will find it easier to reconcile with your present situation.

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3.     Look For A New Woman Within Two Months

Look for whom! you may be asking.

It looks counter-intuitive, right?

It is true that your feelings have been so messed up by the break up that you may not feel like starting a new relationship any time soon.

And you may be feeling,

I don’t feel that I can date any woman right now. Women are wicked! They are all the same! No woman for me ever again!

Thoughts such as these are normal.

However, doing just the opposite of that is one of the best ways to get over your ex-girlfriend.

And it is backed by science!

Research done by the University of New York and the University of Illinois suggests that starting a relationship within two months of a breakup can help one move on faster.

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4.     Keep Yourself Occupied

You feel depressed, right? You feel as though the world has come to an end and you may never find someone to love you, right?

Then the best thing to do is to ensure that you occupy your mind and body continuously throughout each day.

What You Can Do

Come up with a “getting over her” plan:

  • Make a list of all the things you enjoy doing.
  • If the list does not get to 100 activities, add things you have always wished to do until the list reaches 100. 100 activities should keep you so occupied that you will have no time to think about her.
  • Then create a detailed plan with the list. Write down what you will do every morning, afternoon, and evening every day for the next 6 months. 6 months should be enough time for you to get over the pain of losing her.
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Read Too

Read the kinds of books you love, apart from romance novels.

Set a target for yourself every month. For example, you may decide to read at least 10 thrillers in the first month after the break up, 15 thrillers in the following month and so on.

Learn Something New

It takes a lot of time, effort, and mental focus to learn how to do something new, right?

So, get out of your comfort zone and do something novel.

5.     Use “The Replacement Strategy,” If You Feel Very Attached To Her

If you were very strongly attached to your ex- girlfriend, you will have to try and develop such strong attachments with other people who love you and care about you.

  • Spend a lot of time with schoolmates who used to make you laugh back in the days when you were in Junior High.
  • Get out of town for a few weeks. Go on a trip with your siblings and “mindfully” enjoy yourself wherever you go—let your mind focus on enjoying yourself there.
  • Cook meals and invite your work colleagues to come over for lunch on weekends.
  • “Date” your sisters. Spend time with them every weekend and talk about the great times you had when you were children.
  • Visit your father and mother more often, help them with household chores, and tell them about how you are getting on in life.
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6.       Make Your iPod Or Sound-System Your Friend

You love music, don’t you?

And I suppose it must be upbeat, danceable music you love, right?

However, you may need to change your taste in music during this period.

Why?

Research has shown that listening to sad music can induce positive emotions, such as peacefulness, in the person who listens to such music.

When you feel positive, you are more likely to think positive thoughts and that will make you feel less miserable.

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Points To Remember

This is how to get over your ex-girlfriend:

  • Accept its over;
  • remind yourself often of the positives in this whole situation;
  • start a new relationship early;
  • fill your life with constant activity;
  • use “the replacement strategy”; and
  • listen to music that will help subdue your emotions.

 

Now It’s Your Turn!

Have you experienced a breakup before? How did you get over her?

Share them with me and with the world by leaving a comment.

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7 Easy Ways to Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend Completely

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7 Easy Ways to Get Over Your Ex-Girlfriend

Ouch! It hurts…

I know it does.

The sleepless nights…

The feeling of emptiness…

Want to know the steps to emotional freedom?

Then read on…

… because in this article, I am going to show you how to get over your ex-girlfriend, completely and permanently, so that you can find peace to help you enjoy your life.

Ready?

These are the easy steps you must take to get over your ex-girlfriend:

   Related: 6 Smart Ways to Get Over Your Ex Girlfriend

1.    Cut Off Contact On Facebook

Okay, you love Facebook. And your ex-girlfriend also loves Facebook.

And because you often wonder what she is up to, you stalk your ex- girlfriend, right?

If you continue to see what’s going on in the life of your ex- girlfriend on Facebook, one of two things may happen:

  1. you may start developing feelings for her again; or
  2. you may start hating her.

And both reactions will make you continue to think about her, right?

So, if you want to get over your ex-girlfriend who was cheating on youclick that “unfriend” button and never look back.

2.    How To Get Over Your Ex-Girlfriend: Boost Your Self-esteem

Remind Yourself That You Are Great

Be honest with me. You feel as though you are not worthy to be loved, right?

And you feel as though you cannot propose to another woman ever again in your life, right?

But, let me tell you a secret:

You are great! You are a great guy!

I can hear you mutter under your breath,

Yeah, you’re kidding me, right?

NO, I’m not! Really! Think about it for a moment.

There is no other person like you on earth. And there will never be! And you have great attributes, right?

You are unique and you must highlight that to yourself, if you want to get over your ex-girlfriend for real.

How?

Remind yourself every day of how great you are.

Why Reminding Yourself Of Your Greatness Can Help You

Reminding yourself of how great you are will help you to boost your self-esteem.

Consequently, you will find it easier to believe that you can woo and win another woman.

That belief will help you to relax and you will find it easier to enjoy each day.

3.     Practice Loving-Kindness Meditation

Have you ever heard of loving-kindness meditation?

No?

Then let me explain what it is to you.

Loving-kindness meditation is a kind of meditation that helps to induce positive feelings in a person.

Additionally, it helps to strengthen feelings of magnanimity in a person.

You may be wondering,

Well, how can it help me to get over my ex-girlfriend who is dating someone new?

Here’s the deal:

Research done by Fredrickson et. al. in 2008 revealed that doing loving-kindness meditation can increase one’s  love, contentment, hope and other positive emotions.

Want to know the best part?

The Best Part

When you are filled with these emotions

  • you can find it easier to watch your favorite sitcoms without your mind wandering to what your ex-girlfriend is doing;
  • you can find it easier to concentrate on your books when you sit down to study;
  • you can find it easier to concentrate on work in the office; or
  • when you meet your ex- girlfriend at the mall, you will find it easy to say “hi” and walk away without feeling depressed.
  • In short, it can help you to get over your ex-girlfriend for good.
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4.     Change Your Perspective About The Situation

You ruminate a lot about your ex- girlfriend, right?

And you feel that the break up is a negative thing, right?

And no doubt, it’s hard to distract yourself and focus on your life.

You know why you are ruminating about her so often? It’s because you are thinking about what you are missing out on.

There is a trick you can use to make it easier for you to distract yourself successfully so that you will not think about her so often.

Here’s the trick:

  • View the break up as a chance to discover something positive that you never gave attention to earlier on.
  • Think about what it cost you to maintain your relationship with her.
  • Think about all the money you used to spend on her. Think about what you could have done with all the time you spent at her place.
  • If you look at things objectively, you will see that the relationship cost you in some ways.

This exercise may fill you with a negative emotion such as anger. You may get angry with what you did to yourself.

Subsequently, you may start questioning the way you are reacting to the breakup. And that can make it easier for you to focus on the present.

5.      Fight Stress

Feeling stressed or failing to deal with the stress that accompanies the break up can make it harder for you to get over your ex-girlfriend that you still love but who dumped you.

How?

In the world of psychology, there is something they call “contact comfort,” which is caused by stress, and which can contribute to make you long for your ex-girlfriend.

This is how it works:

How “Contact Comfort” Can Make You Miss Your Ex- Girlfriend

When you feel overwhelmed, you are more likely to feel a strong urge to connect with someone.

In other words, you will feel a strong desire to contact her to make you feel comfortable. That will make you miss your ex- girlfriend.

How can you deal with your stress to prevent the longing?

How To Deal With Your Stress

  • Let your sister give you a massage.
  • Watch your favorite American football or basketball team in action.
  • Give yourself treats at your favorite restaurant.
  • Play soccer with your boyfriends.
  • Go to the beach and enjoy yourself.

6.     Spend Time With A Close Friend

Have you been neglecting your best friend from childhood because of your ex-girlfriend?

Have you been avoiding your close female friends because of your ex?

Then this is the time to reconnect.

It can help you to take your mind off the emotional and psychological pain you are experiencing so that you can feel better.

7.     Pray

You may be asking,

Why should I involve God when I want to get over my ex-girlfriend who is dating someone else?

These are some reasons why:

How Praying Can Help

  • As you communicate with God, and as God speaks to you, you will find your sense of self again and you will value yourself again;
  • your relationship with God will help remind you that God still loves you; consequently, you will find it easy to shift your focus from the person who disappointed you, to God;
  • and as you bask in God’s love, you will learn to love again instead of shutting your heart to love because of pain;
  • God will let you see that we hurt Him always yet He forgives us and continues to love us and so you must also act that way.

A Prayer You May Say

So, every day, say a prayer such as this one, “LORD, God of Heaven and Earth, Father of all creation, have mercy on me a sinner. God, I worship You, Omnipotent, Omnipresent, Omniscient One, the Great God who created all the vast planets and all the living creatures on Earth. Your power is great! No one and nothing can be compared to You, holy, righteous, kind, good, merciful, and gracious God! LORD, I thank You for the gift of life, for the gift of love. I thank You for helping me to experience love with Isaac. However, our relationship ended on a very bad note and I am finding it hard to move on. I am hurting, LORD, but I know You are the comforter who binds up broken hearts and who heals emotional wounds. Please help me to get over my feelings for Isaac so that I can move on. Please help me to remember Your word as I go about my duties today so that I will not think about the pain of yesterday. Please help me to forgive Isaac because that will release me emotionally and help me to start a new relationship. I know You care about me and so I ask You to do this for me so that I will be happy. Through Jesus Christ I pray, Amen.”

Points To Remember

This is how to get over your ex-girlfriend:

  • unfriend her on Facebook;
  • feel good about yourself again;
  • do meditation to induce feelings of goodwill in your heart; and
  • pray.

 

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103 Premarital Christian Counseling Questions You MUST Ask Her Before Marriage

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Premarital Christian Counseling Questions

 

It is very important to ask your beloved certain questions to help you get to know her better so that you can make adjustments and create the kind of rapport that will make your marriage work.

In this article, I want to share some premarital Christian counseling questions with you in that regard.

               Check out these 50 Christian premarital counseling questions too!

 

  • Would you say you know the opposite sex well? Do you get along well with members of the opposite gender? Why do you say that?
  • Are most of your friends members of your same gender or members of the opposite gender?
  • Did you attend Sunday school as a child? For how long? Did you enjoy it?
  • Would you say you are an introvert or an extrovert?
  • Am I an introvert or an extrovert? What are the characteristics of my kind of personality? What do you know about living with this kind of personality? How do you know one can live with my kind of personality so that there will always be peace?
  • How do you see yourself objectively?
  • Do you think I am a genuine lover? Why?
  • Do you remain calm when things go wrong?
  • What conversation topics do you love most? Why?
  • Would you say I am a good listener? Do I give you the attention you deserve when you want to communicate with me?
  • Would you say I am courteous when we are having conversations?
  • Would you say I appreciate your merits?
  • Am I sensitive to your feelings and opinions?
  • Do you look at the humorous side of perplexity?
  • Can you laugh at yourself when I make a joke about you?
  • Do you worry over spilt milk?
  • Would you say you like people? Will you feel comfortable when my friends visit me often? Do you want me all to yourself?
  • Do you try to be friendly with most of the people that you meet?
  • Do you normally go out of your way to be kind to people?
  • Are you tolerant of your friends’ mannerisms? Do you get angry when a person slurps whilst drinking? Do you get irritated when someone burps whilst eating? Do you get annoyed when someone makes noise with the mouth whilst eating?
  • How will you react when I fart whilst we are in bed? When we are in public?
  • Do you find satisfaction in indoor activities? Outdoor activities?
  • When you face problems, do you shrink back? Do you choose to persevere?
  • Would you say you are a risk taker? A risk averse person? A risk neutral person?
  • Do you try to build your character out of tragedy? Do you make the tragedy overcome you?
  • Do you like to obey laws or you love to flout laws?

 

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  • How do you revitalize your life? Make a new friend? Move out of town? Sleep in a hotel instead of sleeping at home? Buy a new shirt/dress?
  • Do you appreciate your potential? Are you winner conscious?
  • Would you say you are time conscious? Do you believe in showing love and care today, and not in showing it tomorrow?
  • Before you speak, do you ask yourself, “Is what I am going to say true? Is it kind? Is it necessary? Am I going to say what I am about to say because my feelings have been hurt? Is it based on facts?”
  • Would you say you use time efficiently? Do you have a time management plan?
  • How do you think we can manage ourselves and our time well so that we can spend quality time together often?
  • Do you believe in disciplining kids?
  • What is your attitude towards serving God?
  • Do you consider yourself as affectionate? Are you openhearted, kind, ad thoughtful? Are you emotionally withdrawn? Uncommunicative? Stoical?
  • Are you prayerful? Do you pray consistently?
  • Do you carefully avoid retaliation when you are hurt by others?
  • Do you normally leave any stone unturned in your efforts to try and make peace?
  • Do you try to return good for evil? Do you return evil for evil?
  • Have you been betrayed before? How did you take it? Did you forgive the person who betrayed you?
  • I hope this never happens, but if I should betray you and cheat, can you find it in your heart to forgive me?
  • Have you betrayed a friend before? What were the circumstances?
  • Do you desire to become rich at any cost?
  • Do you believe that godliness with contentment is great gain?
  • Do you have an excessive desire for unnecessary things?
  • If you were given a choice between money and goals such as righteousness, godliness, faith, patience, and meekness, which would you choose? Why?
  • If it happened that I lost my job after we got married, would you still respect me?
  • If in the future you start earning more money than me, will you reduce the level of respect you have for me now? Will you become arrogant? Will you still respect me as the head of the family?
  • How much do you spend on clothes, shoes, jewelry and other accessories in  a month?
  • Would you choose to buy clothes or pay the kids’ school fees when their fees have to be paid but I don’t have money and you have money?
  • Would you ever consider pawning some of your jewelry when I am in financial difficulties and I need your help? Would you choose to keep your jewelry and make me suffer?
  • How much do you spend on makeup in a month?
  • Do you like to look natural or you love to put on makeup? A lot of makeup?
  • What is your idea of a clean home?
  • Would you say I am a clean guy? Do you like how I keep my apartment? My room? What habits, with regards to cleanliness in the home, do you hate about guys?
  • Would you say I show good manners when we interact with other people? If I don’t, how do you think I can improve?

 

 Conclusion

These premarital Christian counseling questions can help you and your girlfriend to assess yourselves and see where you have to do a lot more work so that you can create that dream marriage which will make both of you feel happy.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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