Kojo Antwi has been able to convince a girl to go out with him and he needs first date tips. “I have been attracted to Ama for several months now. She is smart, beautiful, witty, and she has great character: she is always willing to sacrifice her comfort to make a guy feel cool. It was not easy approaching her because when I observed her from afar, and I considered her great personality, I thought she would play hard to get. It took me days of rehearsing my lines before I finally said those words. And you should have been around when she said yes: I was on cloud nine. However, immediately after, I was filled with fear that I may not be able to make a good impression on her. I want her to have such a great first date that I will find it easy to make her go out with me again and again until we can have a relationship. What do I do during our date? What attitude should I adopt? How should I behave?” Kojo asks in a nervous voice.
In this article, I want to give you first date tips to help you make that night a wonderful one so that the woman will wish to go out with you again.
1. Make Up Your Mind That You Will Enjoy Yourself
Psyche yourself and adopt a mindset that says that you will do your best to enjoy yourself and make your date have a rollicking time. This will help you not to feel so apprehensive about the adventure. Consequently, you will find it easier to be yourself during the date. And that can increase the likelihood that you will engage in stimulating conversation to make the woman happy.
2. What To Wear
What you choose to wear should be informed by your motive for dating the woman. For example, if you want to have a long-term relationship with her, then choose to wear something red because research shows that women find men who wear clothes of that color appealing and irresistible. You may choose to wear a red long-sleeved shirt or red T-shirt, depending on where you will have the date. And you may choose to match that with a black pair of trousers or black pair of jeans.
If you have no intention to date her long-term, then you may wear a blue shirt or suit and match it with a blue pair of trousers or a black pair of trousers. Alternatively, wear a white shirt and match it with a black pair of trousers.
Make sure that the color of your belt matches the color of your shoes. For example, if you wear a brown belt, wear brown shoes. And if you wear a black belt, wear black shoes.
3. Be Intriguing
Do not make it easy for her to figure you out. Do your best to hide some of your strong points and some of your idiosyncrasies so that you can have something with which to surprise her every time you meet, if you continue dating. So, say things that will put her in a suspenseful mood and make her wish to see you again.
4. Make Sure You Communicate Properly
Use simple language and simple sentences to convey your thoughts and feelings and avoid trying to impress you date with flowery language and big vocabulary. This will help your date to understand you well so that you can establish a good and strong rapport.
On the other hand too, make sure you pay complete attention to what your date says and look for nonverbal cues that tell you that she is uncomfortable or feeling bored so that you can liven things up.
- For example, if you ask her something and she frowns or she tries to dodge the question, it should alert you that she does not want to discuss that subject.
- Or, if she keeps looking at her watch it means she is bored and she wants you to change the direction of the discussion.
- If she looks down often, it should tell you that she is unhappy.
- If she looks around often, it should tell you that you are not exciting enough and you should up your game.
- If she drums her fingers on the table or on her body, she may be irritated with something you said.
5. Does She Like Me?
At the end of the date, you may wonder whether the lady likes you so that you can ask her to go out with you again. How can you know that? Check out if she mimics some of your gestures and if once in a while she copies the way you speak: research suggests that when someone mimics you, it means there is a likelihood that the person likes you.
So, if you see that she mimics your accent during the conversation, copies the way you throw your hands about, or makes some of the facial expressions that you make, it is likely that she has enjoyed your company and you should feel confident to ask her to go out with you again.
6. Make Sure That She Arrives At Home Safely
Let the woman see that you care about her welfare and about her safety by ensuring that she gets home without any hitches. So, drive her back home if you picked her up. If you don’t have a car, join the bus and go home with her, or join the taxi you hire for her and ensure that she enters her house before you go home.
Some first date tips you might like to implement are that make up your mind that “I’ll have fun and make sure she enjoys the time too,” wear something red, blue, or black to make you look attractive, speak in simple, clear language and listen attentively, and take her home after the date.
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