How to Get Back Together With an Ex Girlfriend: You Must See That You Can Win Her Again
How do you get back together with an ex girlfriend? What are the steps you must take, and some of the things you must do so that the process goes smoothly for you to have your relationship again?
1. Take the Initiative
God made the male as the leader of the family unit, and expects men to take the lead in solving relationship problems. When you take the initiative in solving relationship problems, it shows good leadership and helps the man to maintain the authority God expects him to hold over the woman.
Therefore, when you breakup with your girlfriend, even if your girlfriend did something terrible which caused you to go your separate ways, take the first steps to bring about reconciliation. Do not leave the girl to take the initial reconciliation steps, but see it as your duty, and your responsibility.
Give her a call, or send her a text saying something like, “Sue, this is Mike. Darling, I have tried to fight my feelings for you for a long time, but I just can’t overcome the feelings I have for you. Sweetheart, I still adore you, and I want us to meet so that we can talk things over.”
Girls are shy. Sometimes they find it difficult to take certain actions. It is possible she may also have wanted a comeback but was feeling shy to make the approach. When you take the initiative, you save the blushes of both of you, and make it easier for her to express herself, and to show her desire for reconciliation.
So, if you want to get back together with an ex girlfriend, you must show leadership and make the first move.
2. Decide to be Humble
The Bible, in 1 Peter 1:5 says, “Clothe yourselves, all of you, with humility toward one another, for God opposes the proud, but gives grace to the humble.”
If you want to get back together with an ex girlfriend, decide in your mind you will be humble.
Humility is one admirable character trait people admire about others. When you are able to humble yourself, when you don’t find it difficult to accept your mistakes, and you are willing to admit your faults, it can make it easier for your girlfriend to soften her heart and to forgive you, even if what you did to her was terrible.
On the other hand, when you display an arrogant disposition, even if she was the cause of the breakup, and talk down on her or act as if you are making her a favor by trying to get back together with her, she will feel hurt, and may decide not to reconcile with you.
Therefore, approach her with a humble spirit.
- If you were the cause of the breakup, say you are sorry for what you did and that you will do your best not to repeat those same mistakes. Tell her you will work together with her to make sure you change your bad habits, and you will be counting on her co-operation to keep you on track to do the right things for her always by expecting her to criticize you when she sees you doing the wrong things again. For example, if you broke up because you were chasing other girls, then tell her to remind you of your pledge to her when she sees you becoming too close with other girls again, and to draw your attention to that fact.
Getting back together with an ex girlfriend requires you to show a humble and contrite attitude, which will make her feel you are serious about making the relationship work again.
3. Be Positive
You must be positive about the prospects of your reconciliation efforts yielding good result if you want to get back together with your ex girlfriend. You must first of all see it in your mind, and believe that you can work through all issues successfully, even if the breakup was acrimonious. This will give you the confidence to go forward.
When you think that because there was bitterness before the breakup, and when you look at the way and manner in which you broke up, you may feel it is not worth making the effort to try and get back together with an ex girlfriend.
But if you still love her and you desire to get back together with her, then believe it can work.
Thinking good thoughts can motivate you to make the required approach to get back together with an ex girlfriend.
4. Arrange a Meeting With Her
Try to get a day when both of you will be in a good mood so that you can meet to talk through issues. Decide on such a day together, and meet at the rendezvous. It must be in a place where both of you can express your feelings without reservation, and where you will not be disturbed by other people.
It will help if you play love songs which talk about forgiving your partner, whilst the meeting is going on. Ask your ex girlfriend if it is okay for you to play music whilst you talk, and if she agrees, play music in the back ground from your smartphone, or any other device that plays music. Find a nice love song that speaks about your situation. Alternately, you may decide to play your ex girlfriend’s favorite love song, the love song she always liked and which helped both of you to feel so connected emotionally when you were in the relationship.
Songs have an interesting way of influencing the emotions of people, especially love songs, and it can help you to get back together with an ex girlfriend. Sentimental music, especially love songs, tend to make one sentimental, and it can work on the emotions of your ex girlfriend and make her sentimental, and also remind her of the times when you loved her so much and she in turn loved you so much. This may make her more willing to give you a willing ear, and to listen to your request with an open and positive ear.
5. During the Meeting
- Be honest. Do not pretend just because you want to get back together with your ex girlfriend.Tell your ex girlfriend exactly how you feel. Say how hurt you are by whatever she did to cause the breakup. Let her know exactly how it affected you emotionally. For example, if you caught her cheating and it affected your studies, you can say, “Because of your attitude to the relationship, I could not study for one month.” Let her see how serious the effect was on you. It will not make her take you for granted, and she will know how badly she hurt you, which may make her more remorseful if she contemplates on it.
- Let your ex girlfriend also tell you how she feels about how you treated her, and about the past relationship. Try to find out ways in which you hurt her, and what you can do so that you do not make those same mistakes again.
- Agree on changes you will make in your attitudes, and ways you will try to please your ex girlfriend. For example, if you broke up because you think she is not honest, you can agree that she will become more open and tell you about all her plans, and make you know her movements. If the breakup came about because you love yourself so much that you do not give her the attention she requires, then agree on how you will spend less time on yourself so that you can devote more time to making her feel loved.
- Type your agreement on your phone and let your girlfriend type the same words on her phone so that you can remind yourselves often of the pledges you made to each other and keep each other accountable to these promises.
- Give her some time to think over what you discussed, and obtain a promise from her to give you feedback by a set date which both of you should agree on.
- Let her give you a date by which you will hear her final decision.
- Let her know you still love her. Say it with words and tell her how you miss her, and how you want to get back together with her.
Consider making a meeting an essential part of trying to get back together with an ex girlfriend.
6. Use the Things She Loves to Your Advantage
If you want to get back together with an ex girlfriend, you need to use what she loves best to your advantage, and make her feel a strong connection to you again. For example, if she loves a particular genre of movies, thrillers for example, find excuses to go to her place to watch thrillers with her. If you have the money to buy such movies for her, buy her a lot of those movies.
If she loves conversing, find time to have long conversations with her. Do not rush these occasions, but let her feel you have all the time in the world to spend with her to make her happy. This is how to get back together with your first love.
Show concern and let her feel you still care about her. This will show evidence that you still care, and she may consider that to give you another chance.
7. Keep Up the Pressure
After the meeting, keep constant touch with your ex girlfriend, if you want to get back together with her. This does not mean you should make yourself a nuisance, but remind her often of what you discussed during the meeting and your love for her. This could work on her emotions and sway her thoughts in your favor so that she will decide to give the relationship another try.
8. Make Her Feel Special
If your ex girlfriend agrees to get back together with you, promise to abide by the promises you made during the meeting, and try to make her feel special. You can do this by:
- Making most of the words you say to her be compliments and not criticisms. Do not do it too often, and do not talk only about her physical beauty; also talk about her admirable qualities, like her patience, or her wonderful cooking skills.
- Keep the promises you make to her.
- Take her on unexpected visits to exciting places, such as the zoo or amusement park, or to interesting events such as comedy shows or lover’s days together. Making it a surprise adds more excitement to your relationship, and will make her feel she can expect more surprises in the future.
- Try to see her point of view too when you have disagreements. Remember she is different from you and sees life differently from the way you see it.
- You must yield your desires to make your girlfriend happy. This means you must surrender your selfish plans so that she will be happy always.
9. Date Her Again
See yourselves as starting the relationship all over again. Therefore, date your ex girlfriend again. Invite her out to places where you used to go when you saw her at first. It will bring back memories of the good times you shared in the past, and help you to feel connected again. It will also signify that you treasure the wonderful times you had in the past.
Then, take her to new places you have never been before. This will signify that you want a new relationship, and you want to take this new relationship to a different level into the future.
These are some of the things you can do to get back together with an ex girlfriend. Getting back together with an ex girlfriend will require you to make sacrifices, and to give her concessions. Then, do your best never to make her feel sorry for giving you another chance, and show her undying love, and you will both enjoy your relationship.
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