How to Meet a Girl: Be Sociable if You Want to Meet a Girl
Kwasi, a senior high school student, has been going out with his girlfriend, Abena, for five years now. Their relationship is stable and great fun, and Kwasi feels it will continue this way till, hopefully, they get married in the future.
“Abena is a great girl, a wonderful female. She has brought a lot to my life. She is my dream girl, and I am very happy to be dating her,” he recounts with a happy smile on his face.
As you read this article, you may be single but desirous of having a girlfriend. What can you also do to meet the girl of your dreams?
There are a variety of places where you can meet a girl. You can meet a girl at the beach, in the gym, at the mall, in church, and in other places. The important thing is to know how to go about it, which I am going to show you in this article.
1. Assess Why You Want to Meet a Girl
Before you meet a girl for the first time, you need to sit down and consider whether it is worth the effort you are going to make. Do you think the girl will be worth the time and energy you will use to try to get her? You must consider this because having a relationship with a girl involves emotions. Sometimes the relationship does not work well, and you are left with emotional scars, or pain in your heart, which may take some time to heal. This can cost you in terms of focusing on your books and studying.
Therefore, you need to ask yourself, “Is it worth it? Do I really want to do this? Why, in any case, do I want a girlfriend? Is it because all my friends also have girlfriends and are teasing me that I am afraid of girls, or I can’t get girls to like me? Is it because I am lonely and want companionship? Is it because I want to get closer to the opposite sex so that I can learn about women, having in mind that I will have to have a relationship with a woman later in life when I am ready to marry? Is it because I want a girl so that I can have sex with her?
You must assess your heart, and know why you want to meet a girl. This will help you to have the right relationship with her since you will know exactly what you want from the relationship.
2. Work on Your Confidence
Most girls are attracted to, and like to date a guy who looks confident, and feels confident about himself. It gives them a sense of security when they are with a guy who feels he is great. Such a guy is more likely to treat a girl with greater respect because a guy who does not believe in himself and does not feel good about himself cannot make the girl he goes out with feel great. It takes a guy who thinks he is great to make a girl feel she is great.
Therefore, work on your self-confidence before you meet a girl today. Believe in your mind that you are great guy, and you deserve a great girl, and that you will treat whatever girl you meet with decency, respect, and honor. This will affect your spirit positively, it will make you look exciting and lively, and this is sure to attract a girl to you, when you step out and meet a girl.
3. Look Great
A research done by Psychologist Devendra Singh in 2004 showed that “men having broad shoulders is attractive to women.”
You meet a girl every day. Maybe the reason why you have not been able to make one of them your girlfriend is because you do not look attractive to them.
Before you meet a girl and can make her your girlfriend, put yourself in a great shape so that you will look attractive enough for the girl to want to be with you, and to have a relationship with you.
There are a variety of exercises you can do to develop broad shoulders and look attractive to girls.
I want to share some of them with you:
- Stand facing a door jamb or post.
- Place your hands on the post or jamb, breathe deeply and squeeze your hands together with as much force as possible.
- Place your hands together close to your chest, palms touching.
- Press your hands together with as much force as possible, as if trying to push one hand away from the other. Resist strongly with both hands and arms.
- Put a 10- pound dumbbell in each hand, and hold them at shoulder level.
- Your feet should be about 12 inches apart, and your body should be comfortably balanced.
- Raise one dumbbell overhead, breathing in as the weight is pressed up.
- Lower the dumbbell back to your shoulder, breathing out as the weight is returned to its starting position.
- Repeat the exercise with your other arm.
- Repeat this exercise ten times with each arm.
- You may also decide to raise both dumbbells simultaneously. The greater the number of times you raise the dumbbells, the better your shoulders will look. So you can start with raising the dumbbells ten times, and increase it to fifteen or twenty times when your capacity to raise them increases.
In addition to looking great, you have to make sure you will always dress in a manner that will make you look appealing to any girl you meet. Make sure the colors of your clothes and footwear match, and that there are no more than three different colors at a time. For example, if you wear a black pair of pants, you can wear black or blue footwear, and wear a white, yellow, or red shirt.
Do not wear a black pair of pants, then wear red footwear, wear a brown belt, and then green shirt. It will not make you look attractive. Always make sure that the number of different colors you have on does not exceed three.
If you want to meet a girl, you have to make sure you go out a lot. You will have to spend a lot of hours out of your house, or your dormitory or hostel.
Joining groups or associations on campus can help you to socialize and meet interesting girls you can date later when you are able to convince them to start having a relationship with you.
Choose an association where a lot of girls also like to join, like for example the Drama Club, or a Reading Club with a lot of girls. If you want to meet a good girl, then join a religious group on campus.
Another strategy you can use is to join a club which espouses your passions. So, if you like bird watching, for example, you can decide to join the bird watching club and be active in the club. It will help you to meet a girl just like you.
Look around and observe the girls in the club or association you join. If you spot any girl who you think is interesting, and you feel attracted to her, try to get closer to her, become a friend with her, show her that you are a great person by showing a great personality, and when your friendship develops, you can ask her out.
Also, go for decent parties that are organized by your friends, or people of your age group, if you want to meet a hot girl. When you get there, walk from friend to friend and talk animatedly. Let everyone there feel you and see that you are an exciting guy to be around. Make jokes, make people laugh, smile at everybody you see, be friendly, and look enthusiastic.
When you see a nice girl, approach her. Smile nicely, greet her, and try to say something charming about her dress, or her hair. She would love it. Then, ask her if she would mind you buying a drink for her. If she obliges, use that opportunity to get to know her, and reveal some part of yourself that you think can impress her. For example, if you are doing well in class, let her know that you are a brilliant student. Do not say it in a boastful way, but drop hints from time to time about how well you are doing in class.
Don’t reveal everything about yourself then and there, though, otherwise you cannot keep the suspense in her mind building up. Saving some information about yourself for later will make her imagine what kind of person you are, she will want to know you more, and that desire could be the bait you can use to sustain the friendship, and later use to have a relationship with her.
5.Use the Internet
There are a lot of sites on the internet that encourage young people to make friends with people of the opposite sex. You can meet a girl on websites such as: Twoo, Cherryfun, Tagged, Badoo, and Hi5.
- Visit some of these websites and create a user profile.
- Upload a nice picture of yourself, showing your face, or upload a picture of you doing something interesting, such as playing the guitar, dancing, or observing birds in a park. You may also decide to dress in a way that will expose your broad shoulders which you have followed the exercises above and developed, to make you look more appealing.
- Browse the profiles of girls on these sites. Read through their profiles and when you see a girl who shares similar interests with you, or who you think looks attractive, make friends with her.
- Try to be an interesting as you possibly can be. Let her feel that you are the kind of guy who can lighten up her day, and who can add some value to her life. This is more likely to make her want to be your friend.
You can also use social media to meet a girl. Websites such as Facebook, Twitter, Tumblr, PInterest, Tumblr, StumbleUpon, Reddit, Delicious, and many more, can offer you an opportunity to meet girls who will be suited to your taste in girls.
6. Stand for Leadership Positions in School
One thing that attracts girls to guys is when they see a guy who is powerful, or has some sort of influence. They tend to think you can use your power and influence to help them when they are in need.
Therefore, if you want to meet a girl, when leadership positions in school open up, such as Class Prefect, or when the elections for the President of the Entrepreneurs Club comes around, stand for the position. You will have to go around campaigning, and in the process of campaigning, you will meet interesting girls you can befriend and date, if you are interested in them.
7.Ask Your Friends and Family
This may seem so obvious but a lot of guys overlook it. There is nothing wrong with asking your sisters, or classmates if they know of any girl they think will be a good match for you. So, use the people you know, and who are close to you, if you want to meet a girl.
When they offer you suggestions, then make some time to meet the girl. Do not be judgmental when you meet her and you think she may not be a good match. Try and get to know her better, and who knows, she may be your soulmate.
Are there any other ways you think a guy can meet a girl? Tell me about them by leaving a comment. Thank you.