How to Keep Your Girlfriend: 16 Smart Ways to Go About It

How to Keep Your Girlfriend: Acknowledge Her

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How can you keep your girlfriend attracted to you, and in love with you till you can make the commitment to marry her?

 

1. Be a True Companion

We usually enter a relationship because we feel lonely, or do not want to spend our life alone but with someone who will share our space and be a friend we can always count on.

 A girl wants a true companion she can share her life with. Some guys are in relationships but are not companions; they do not offer time for the girl to share her intimate heart’s feelings and emotions with them.

If you want to keep your girlfriend interested, then be a true companion. Keep your girlfriend company. Devote time to her for her to share ideas with you in a peaceful and enjoyable atmosphere.

 

2. Comfort Her

Every girl has weaknesses and faces trials and temptations. A girl wants a guy who will have the patience to understand her weaknesses, trials, temptations, her low level of moral endurance, and who will, even when she messes up, carefully speak words of healing which will correct her and make her a stronger woman.

Girls also want guys who will be loving and do affectionate acts that will bring joy and peace to the relationship.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, be patient with her and try to understand her weaknesses, and help her to overcome them—this is how to keep your girlfriend in love. Comfort your girlfriend, speak words of healing when she makes mistakes, try to help her to overcome her weaknesses, be loving and affectionate, and you will be able to keep your girlfriend close and she will love you forever.

 

3. How to Keep Your Girlfriend From Other Guys—Protect  Her

A girl wants to feel safe when she is with a guy. You do not need to fight or exchange blows with another man, but at least you must demonstrate with your words to your girlfriend that she is secure when she is around you, and tell other guys to stay away from her because she belongs to you.

You can do this by making guys know that they cannot mess around with your girl, and that you will stand up to be counted and defend her to the best of your ability. Say it with all confidence, look fierce and bold, and guys will not want to come near your girlfriend.

 

4. Keep Her From Danger

One way you can protect her is to see beyond the present, look into the future, and give her advice, cautions, and assistance  which will help her  jump over some hurdles in life, or prevent danger and trouble in her life. For example, if she wants to start a business and you can do research and give her useful advice, she will cherish you for that. Also, if you see her developing a friendship which is likely to cause her problems in the future and you tell her honestly, stating the consequences of  that association clearly to her, and she sees reason, you will get your girlfriend’s attention and she will love you more when she sees you are doing it because you want to keep her safe.

 

5. Offer Her Security

When you give your girlfriend a comforting sense of belonging, if she feels you belong to her alone and she knows she is not sharing you with any other girl, it gives her peace of mind, and helps her to devote all her energy to the relationship, and it also makes her more willing to want to stay with you. This is one way to keep your girlfriend loyal, and to keep her happy.

If she knows you like jumping from girl to girl, she will not feel she has a future with you, and she may leave.

 

6. Do Not Only Hear Her, But Listen to Her

Women like to talk, and like to be listened to. It makes them feel very wanted when their guys hear, and also listen to them.

Hearing is to know that her voice is audible, and she is saying something. Listening is stopping whatever you are doing, giving her your full attention, looking into her face, and taking in whatever she wants to tell you, even if you don’t care about what she is saying.

When you do not listen to her, it gives her the feeling that you do not care about her inner thoughts, and this could make her unhappy with the relationship. But when you listen you show her you care a lot about what she has to say, and she will be happy about the relationship and want to continue being with you; this is a way to keep your girlfriend from breaking up with you.

 

7. Be Faithful

Let your girlfriend be the only girl you are seeing. Let her be more precious to you than anyone, apart from Jehovah, and let her know she holds a special place in your heart. This is one way to get your girlfriend comfortable, and to make her want to continue the relationship.

Some guys treat their friends and family with more respect, and give more attention and time to them, than they give to their girlfriends. Also, they place their love for their work, or other friendships, pastimes, or recreations  ahead of their relationship with their girlfriends.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, continue to have your close friends, and times of recreation, but devote more time to her than to the other things. It will keep your girlfriend calm and satisfied in the relationship.

 

8. Resolve Conflicts Amicably

You will most definitely have arguments, but you should not see your arguments as a challenge of your authority as the man, or as a boxing fight which must definitely be won by you. If you do that, you may tear down the relationship just to show that you can fight, and she may leave when she thinks she is being treated unfairly.

Instead, cooperate with her to fight the cause of the quarrels. Both of you should attack the problem, not the consequences of the problem.

 

9. Acknowledge Her

Make up your mind that your girlfriend does not owe you anything. Think that she owes you nothing, so that when she does anything for you, you will acknowledge it and see it as a precious gift she is giving to you. This will cause you to value her more, and she will be happier with you when she knows she is valued, it will keep your girlfriend crazy about you.

 

10. Make Sure You Are Great Fun

Your girlfriend will never leave you when you can make her happy always. How do you keep your girlfriend happy always? You can keep your girlfriend happy by  being great fun.

Some relationships break up because one partner is starved of fun by the other partner.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, then you will have to become a child again and make the relationship lively. Have a sense of playfulness, and a spirit of jollity and merriment. If you can adopt this attitude, and find ways to make even tough times great fun for her, you will keep her forever.

One good way to be great fun is to develop your sense of humor. Try and build up a catalogue of jokes, rehearse them often, practice them, and release them when you are together with her. Make her laugh and forget some of her stress, and she will always love your company, and want to be in a relationship with you.

Keep your girlfriend entertained and she will not want to leave you. It is also one way to keep your girlfriend from cheating on you.

 

11. Be Alert When You Are Around Her

Girls pay attention to detail, and sometimes think guys  also pay attention to detail. A girl wants you to notice it when she changes her lipstick, or when she starts doing her hair differently, or when she does manicure, or changes the color of her eye shadow, or when she wears a new shoe.

Keep your eyes open and notice changes you see in her, and tell her how beautiful it makes her look, or else you are in trouble. She will think you do not care about her when you do not notice these things.

Always remember that for some girls talking about how they look is a measure of your care and love for her. Therefore if you do not do it, they assume you do not love them, and that could cause a break up.

 

12. Don’t Be Manipulative

Manipulative people sometimes use shallow flattery as a ploy to get what they want.

If you are in the habit of flattering your girlfriend, and your girlfriend sees that you use it just to get her to do things for you, to take advantage of her, and she points it out to you but sees you are not willing to change, you will lose her trust, and she will fall out of love with you.

When you want her to do something for you, just negotiate with her. Let her know your needs, and her reward when she does something for you. This is more likely to motivate her, and to make her want to keep the relationship with you.

13. Don’t Be Proud

Pride takes many forms and sometimes shows itself  through an arrogant manner rooted in security. Proud people refuse to listen and face facts, refuse to admit wrongs when they make mistakes, vow never to say “I am sorry,” and refuse to negotiate.

If you want to keep your girlfriend, then you must not show pride in the relationship. If you are feeling insecure, work on your self-esteem and build up your confidence.

When you make mistakes, be humble enough to admit that you are a human and will make mistakes, and your girlfriend will be happy to stay with you. You do not lose anything when you apologize to a woman. It does not make you less of a man, and does not make your height reduce by an inch!

When  you have disagreements, resolve to negotiate so that there will be peace.

 

14. Make Her Feel Special

If you want to keep your girlfriend, you must make her feel that she is the most cherished girl on earth by the way you treat her and set her apart in your heart.

 

15. Date Her Often

Many girls want to be courted regularly. They want their men to rekindle the fire that was lit when they first met. They want to be wined and dined. When you become so busy that you do not have time to date her again, she can feel emotionally neglected, and seek that emotional connection with another man. Some girls have left their guys, or had affairs behind the back of their boyfriends because their boyfriends stopped being romantic.

Therefore, date her. Rekindle your love from time to time.

 

16. Manage Her Expectations

Many girls enter relationships with wild dreams, most of which are unattainable. It is your duty as the guy to  know your girlfriend’s expectations and fantasies, and to manage them so that she does not end up feeling you do not love her, which can make her break up with you.

For example, if she thinks that a boyfriend should always be buying expensive gifts for his girlfriend, and you do not make her understand that she must learn to adapt to the economic strength of her boyfriend and be satisfied with the little he can do for her, she will become dissatisfied with what you can do for her, look for a man who can buy her those expensive gifts, and leave you.

 

Conclusion

Women need attention, and it must be your resolve to give her the utmost attention you can give her. If you do that, she will not break up with you, and you can enjoy your relationship to the fullest.

 

Are there any other ways you think you can keep your girlfriend? Let the world know by leaving a comment. Thank you.

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