How to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special: Say Romantic Words to Her
If you want to be a good lover, you have to find ways to make your girlfriend feel special about your relationship, and let her know you love her. How do you make a woman feel special, loved, cherished, and adored?
1. Make Her Feel Special With Words
The way you use your tongue is a barometer of romantic maturity, and your speech reveals whether you love your girlfriend or not. The tongue can encourage the sorrowing, or it can cause emotional pain and spread distrust and induce wrong feelings.
There are two kinds of words—those that are uplifting and bring happiness and life, and there are those which tear down and destroy the spirit.
On average a man says 30,000 words a day. You can either speak wisely, or you can speak foolishly and waste words. When you use words appropriately , you can make her feel special at all times, or feel terrible about herself.
Girls are creatures of hearing; they like to hear a lot, especially words that signify beauty and dignity, and words that make them feel that they are unlike any other girl in the world.
When you are speaking to your girlfriend, let your speech be with grace; let your words have a certain dignity—not with a tone of sarcasm. Graceful language means you will refrain from using words such as “foolish,” and “stupid,” and “prostitute,” and “gold digger” when you are having a quarrel—these words will not make her feel special.
When you say kind words to your girlfriend, it shows you love her, and care about her feelings, and want her to be happy. She will feel elated, excited, and special, and know you treasure her more than any other girl. Kind words can be magical; they give nutrients to the soul, and will help your girlfriend to feel connected, appreciated , and loved.
Things to Say to Make Your Girlfriend Feel Special
Learn how to make her feel special with words—say kind words such as “Darling, you are fantastic!” or “You have a delightful sense of color in the way you dress,” or “I love the way you do your hair,” or “You cook the best meals,” or “I just love the way you smile,” or “The way you walk just sets my heart on fire,” or “I appreciate the incredible amount of time you always spend with me, and the care you have for me. Thank you, sweetheart.” It will water her heart and make her feel good inside.
2. Show Her Genuine Love
Genuine love is not an empty claim. If you say you love your girlfriend—but your actions do not prove it—that kind of love is not genuine love. If your love produces no works, does not show in practical help, then it is mere words. Love is an invisible and intangible feeling; you can’t touch it, but you can show it in action.
One way to show genuine love is to exhibit energy and zeal and fervency for the relationship. Show that you are excited about her and about the relationship; when you are with her, talk with energy and life, not in a boring, dull manner as if you do not treasure the moments you are spending in her presence; when she asks you to do something for her, do it with a great deal of enthusiasm—put your heart into it, and it will tell her that her needs and burdens are of concern to you—it will make her feel special and loved.
Another way you show genuine love is by giving her thoughtful gifts from time to time. It does not necessarily have to be something expensive, but something she will cherish, and which will tell her you think she is the best girl in the world.
One day just go to her place, hold her hand, tell her to come with you. Do not tell her where you are going. If she asks you, “Where are we going?” just tell her “to a special place.” Put her in a taxi, and then drive her to a boutique, and ask her to pick whatever she chooses.
3. Make Efforts to Improve the Relationship
You need to show you are serious about the relationship, and make conscious efforts to always make it better. This requires time, concentration, research, talking often about how you can become closer as romantic partners, assessing whether you are making progress, looking at where you are falling short, and doing your best to correct your mistakes and make yourself a better lover.
- Regularly, it may be at the end of every week or every month, sit down quietly alone, or lie on your bed and ask yourself, “Am I a good lover? Do I deserve her? Am I impatient? Do we quarrel too often? Do I compliment her enough? Am I doing my best to satisfy her needs?” and other relevant questions. Be honest with yourself because you can never improve if you have a false sense of the efforts you are making. For example, if you know you have not been complimenting her often, admit it to yourself and make a mental note of it, and resolve to compliment her more often.
- After you have assessed yourself, have an honest discussion with her and let her make you know how you can be a better lover.
- Compare how you think you have fared with what she expects you to do.
- Develop strategies to bridge the gap. For example, if she says you are too impatient, learn how you can manage your anger better. If she says you do not spend enough time with her,
It will make her feel wanted, and show her that you are utterly dedicated to making your relationship with her work, that you care so much about her that you are willing to take steps to make changes in your life so that you can make her happy.
4. Give Her Your Time
It is easy to forget this and to take your girlfriend for granted when you are occupied with school, or work and trying to make money, and facing stiff competition in class or in business—but you can never be too understanding of your girlfriend’s concerns and problems.
Make time for her—this shows that you value her and you are prepared to sacrifice other interests just for her. Tell her to talk to you about any challenges she may be having at school or at work. Listen with a sympathetic ear and do your best to offer words of encouragement and motivation.
Girls like talking a lot. One thing you can do to make her feel special is just to be a good conversationalist—engage her in interesting conversation. Keep the discussion rolling for hours so that it will give you time to remain in her presence. Focus the conversation on her; her dreams, visions for the future, plans for her career, her ideas about family life, parenting and so on.
5. Show That You Are Not Ashamed of Her
Some guys do not feel comfortable to be seen with their girlfriends; they feel they are doing their girlfriends a favor by being in that relationship with them.
Be different if you want your girlfriend to feel special. Let everybody, including your family and your friends see that she means a lot to you.
When you go to see your male friends with her, tell them how honored you are to have her as your girlfriend.
When you have family gatherings, invite her as a special guest and make her feel part of your family.
When you are walking in public, hold her hands and show visibly that you are happy to be with her by smiling, or showing an excited, content face. It will not be a good advert for your relationship if you are walking with her but have a frowned face; make jokes, laugh, let everybody see that you are happy and proud when you are in her presence.
Go to see your friends without her from time to time. Extol her wonderful qualities , and tell her later how you praised her to your friends. She will understand that you have no inhibitions about letting your friends know about her, and that you are comfortable to with her.
Pleasing a woman requires diligence, patience, and a lot of perseverance. But if you want your girlfriend to feel special so that she will feel happy, then you must do whatever it takes, and hope she will do her part to co-operate.