Mesothelioma survival rates are extremely low: according to the American Cancer Society, most of the patients who are diagnosed with pleural mesothelioma when the disease is in the early stages die within two years of diagnosis, and the rates are even lower for those who are diagnosed when the disease has advanced.
These rates induce fear in the hearts of some mesothelioma patients. However, there are great Bible verses that can help one to deal with such a fear. In fact, the words “Fear not” appear 360 times in the Bible—one for each day! And there are other wonderful Bible verses that can help one to overcome his or her fear of dying early because of mesothelioma.
Here are some of those verses, if you are one of the patients who gets scared whenever he hears or sees those scary rates.
1. Have Faith In Jehovah
“And Moses said unto the people, ‘Fear ye not, stand still, and see the salvation of the LORD, which He will shew to you today.” (Exodus 14:13). (King James Version).
Just relax, give your cares to the LORD, believe in Him, expect God to prevent you from dying early, and enjoy each day as a gift: play with your spouse, enjoy your passions, offer hope to other mesothelioma patients, enjoy your favorite foods and forget about those rates because God promises to save you.
2. God Will Fight For You
“Then I said to you, ‘Do not be in dread or afraid of them. The LORD your God who goes before you will Himself fight for you, just as He did for you in Egypt before your eyes.” (Deuteronomy 1:29).
In the past, you heard bad news right? Probably, when you were a child there were a lot of armed robberies in your neighborhood and that put fear in you. Or you were informed that the kids from your neighborhood never went to college and that scared you that you would never make it to college. And today, you may fear that nuclear war can break out between the United States and North Korea or Russia at any time. However, God has saved you from experiencing any of these bad situations, or from suffering what you feared, right?
Then, believe that just as He fought for you in the past and delivered you from your fears, He will extend His mercies and grace to you today too and save you from becoming one of the mesothelioma patients who die only a few months after being diagnosed with this disease.
Just say to Him, “LORD, You saved me from suffering what I feared in the past. You have not changed and I know You will deliver me again. Glory be to holy Name.”
3. Practice Constant Awareness Of The LORD’s Presence
“I keep the LORD always before me; because He is at my right hand, I shall not be moved.” (Psalm 16:8).
The LORD inspires calm and quiet wherever He goes. For example, when the storm arose whilst the disciples were rowing their boat from Nazareth to Gennesaret (Matthew 14 v 22—33), and the disciples got scared, Jesus’ presence caused the disciples to lose their fear.
When you go about your duties fully aware that the LORD is there with you as you cook, as you listen to news about mesothelioma research, as you read about mesothelioma patients who have lost their life within the course of the year, as you listen to people talking about how low those rates are, it will remind you that once the LORD is in control, once the LORD is with you and He can keep you from suffering the fate of mesothelioma patients who die only a few years after diagnosis, then you are safe. Consequently, that information about the low mesothelioma rates will not induce fear in your heart.
4. God Will Help You So Do Not Fear
“fear not, for I am with you, be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my victorious right hand.” (Isaiah 41:10).
In this verse, God commands you to fear not. It is a command and you must obey the LORD. Fear not! God says that He is with you and so do not fear the fact that very few people are able to live with mesothelioma for many years.
God says that do not let the figures and statistics you are seeing, and which you are hearing, cause you to miss one beat of your heart. He is your God. He is your God who protected the Israelites from suffering the diseases that Israel’s neighboring nations suffered from. He is your God who prevented the Egyptians from destroying the Israelites when the Israelites left Egypt. He is your God who caused water to come out of the rock when the Israelites were thirsty and cried out to Him to give them water. He is your God who gave Methuselah life until he was over 900 year old.
Get the point? Your God is able to prevent you from dying early so trust in Him and don’t fear. He promises to help you and you can be sure He will do just that. So, is there any reason to be scared of those rates? No!
5. Take Refuge In God
“This God—His way is perfect; the promise of the LORD proves true; He is a shield for all those who take refuge in Him.” (2 Samuel 22:31).
Take refuge in the LORD and He will give you long life just as He granted Hezekiah more years to live after Hezekiah fell sick and pleaded with Him to add more years to his life. Run to Him and ask Him to keep you alive till you see your great grand-children. Make supplication to Him and ask Him to help you to enjoy the beauties of the world He created for many more years to come. Plead with Him to prevent the mesothelioma from spreading to other organs in your body. Plead with Him to strengthen your immune system so that your body can fight the disease. The LORD will honor your prayer and grant you your heart’s desire so that you will feel happy and glorify Him.
Bible verses you can use to deal with the fear associated with a knowledge of mesothelioma survival rates include Exodus 14:13, Deuteronomy 1:29, Psalm 16:8 and others. Read them often, commit them to memory, and affirm them whenever fear strikes your heart and you will feel fine.
̽All Bible verses taken from the Revised Standard Version except the first one.
So, what can you do to boost your faith, if you are a Christian who has been diagnosed with this disease, and whose faith is wavering?
1. Feed On God’s Word Every Blessed Day
The Bible says in Romans 10:17 that faith is inspired in us when we hear God’s word. Faith is a seed that is planted in our hearts when we hear the word of the LORD and we respond to it.
Just as if you want to eat mangoes you have to dig the ground and place a mango seed in the hole, and water it until it grows and bears mango fruit, when you plant the words of the LORD in your heart every day by reading at least one or two verses before you go about your activities for the day, or reading a verse or two before you sleep at night, the word will strengthen your trust in the LORD.
When you read the word, the Holy Spirit will take the word and help you to understand it. He will illuminate the word and give you revelations that will give you a deeper understanding of what God meant by what He said. Consequently, the LORD will become more real to you and you will find it easier to trust Him.
Another strategy you can use to boost your faith after a mesothelioma diagnosis is to listen to the word. Buy a lot of preaching tapes and listen to them throughout each day. Listen to them whilst you are exercising in the morning, whilst you are eating your breakfast, whilst you are cooking, as you do our laundry, whilst you are in the car on your way to visit family members, whilst you do gardening, and before you say bye-bye to the world at the end of the day. Saturate your mind with God’s word and you will feel close to the LORD all the time.
4. Meditate On The LORD’s Word
Not only should you read the word and listen to it, but you must also meditate on it day and night: think about what you read, imagine that you are some of the Bible characters, recreate some of the Bible scenes in your mind and mull over them, and think about the LORD’s goodness often.
Additionally, put yourself in the shoes of the characters and try to imagine how the characters felt as they went through their experiences, and. It will help that word of the LORD to stay in your mind throughout the day and that will increase the chances that those words will influence your mind and your emotions positively for your faith will remain strong throughout each day.
5. Look To Jesus
In Hebrews 12:2, the Bible says, “looking to Jesus the pioneer and perfecter of our faith…” Jesus is the author of our faith: He is the one who inspires faith in us. And He is the perfecter of our faith: He can help us develop strong, stable, unwavering faith.
So, study His life and learn from the way He handled the challenges that He faced when He was on Earth. Note down the practical ways He dealt with the problems that confronted Him. You will learn a few lessons which you can apply to your life to help boost the trust you have in God.
In Mark 9, a man brought his son to Jesus and asked the LORD to heal his son. This man doubted whether Jesus could heal his son and Jesus asserted that if the man only believed in Him, his son would be set free. The man admitted the fact that his faith was weak, and prayed for stronger faith.
Likewise, if you will humble yourself and pray, the LORD will strengthen your faith. So, every day, you may say a prayer such as this one, “LORD, Giver of life, I praise you and worship You for giving us the blood of Jesus to help set us free from diseases and suffering. LORD, I thank You for sending Jesus to bind up the brokenhearted. I thank You, LORD, that through the work of Jesus, You set the captives free. I thank You that You have opened the prison to those who are bound. LORD, I am honored that I am able to read Your word and hear Your word. I glorify You that I can see and that I can hear. Thank You for Your blessings. LORD, the mesothelioma has really shaken my faith. I must be frank and say that I do not love You the way I used to because I am hurt that I am suffering this disease. As You know, I do not read the Bible as I used to and I do not go to church like I used to. Please renew the faith in my heart again. Please help me to believe in You like I used to do before I developed mesothelioma. Please help me to love You again so that I can have faith as long as I live . Amen.”
If you want to boost your faith after a mesothelioma diagnosis, ensure that you spend time each day reading the word. Furthermore, drink in the word by listening to it being preached as you go about your duties each day, as well as meditate on what you read and hear and you will feel strong spiritually.
Mesothelioma is a very deadly type of cancer that one can develop when one ingests asbestos fibers. Mesothelioma survival rates are low and that is because the disease is usually diagnosed when it has spread in the body.
These rates induce a lot of negative thoughts in some mesothelioma patients who become scared that they will also die soon after being diagnosed.
Such patterns of thinking have serious implications for your health: it can weaken your immune system and that can make the cancer spread further in your body.
However, if you are able to think positively, it can help to boost your immune system and your body will be able to fight the disease better.
So, what can you do to think positively if those rates scare you?
I am sick myself: I am battling about 6 diseases. My circumstances make a lot of negative thoughts come into my mind every day. When I get a good, restful night’s sleep, I wake up the next day feeling refreshed and mentally alert and I am able to generate a lot positive thoughts. Additionally, I feel relaxed and that makes it easier for me to think positively most of the time.
So, get at least 8 hours of sleep every day. If you do not get this amount of sleep in the night, make up for the lost sleep sometime during the day. It will make you feel refreshed and you will find it easier to be optimistic.
3. Practice Positive Self-Talk Throughout The Day
Self-talk is the thousands of thoughts that pass through your mind every second and every minute throughout the day. The self-talk can be positive at certain times of the day or they can be negative; it all depends on whether you are in a good mood at a particular time or a bad mood.
Some of these thoughts will come from the way your brain is wired to analyze information in a logical manner i.e. from logic and common sense.
Some of the thoughts that run through your head may also come into your head as a result of the fact that you may not understand certain situations fully or you may not have enough information about why people who have mesothelioma do not live very long.
So to deal with those negative thoughts, make a promise to yourself that you will not say anything that will put you down and that will dampen your spirit.
When you start getting worried because of those rates, say something such as this to yourself, “I have lived for all these years because of the grace of God. I have suffered other diseases in the past, but God was good to me and He healed me. God will help me today too. Many other mesothelioma patients have lived for years with the disease. They are human just like me. Why can’t I also survive? I will survive too! I will live for many years regardless of those low survival rates! The God who allowed His Son Jesus to die on the cross to save me from my sins still loves me and He will be merciful and gracious to me. I will not be one of those who give up the fight and exit this world. I will fight and I know I will win!” and then, read the story of a survivor such as this person or this personwho have beaten the odds and are surviving mesothelioma. The stories will help to inspire hope in your heart and that will generate positive feelings in your body. Feeling positive can make it easier for you to think positive thoughts.
4. Put A Good Spin On The Negative Thoughts That Come Into Your Mind
When a bad thought comes into our mind, reframe it and say it in a way that will make it look advantageous to you.
For example, if a thought such as, “The life expectancy for a mesothelioma patient after diagnosis is 21 months. Will I survive? Or will I become one the sad statistics?” comes into your mind, say something such as this to yourself, “I am a good statistic! I will be one of the good statistics! I will not die, but I will live to declare God’s goodness! Halleluyah!”
Or, if a thought such as, “No one in this town who has developed mesothelioma has lived for more than 2 years. I have been living with this mesothelioma for 22 months now. Hmmm! Is this the end?” comes into our mind, say something such as, “I will be the first person in this town to live for 15 years and more. I know it! I believe it! It shall come to pass by God’s mercies and grace!”
5. Evaluate Your Thoughts Throughout The Day
Every three hours, stop what you are doing and consider whether most of the thoughts in your mind are positive or negative. If your thoughts are mainly negative thoughts, start feeding your mind with positive thoughts: read God’s promises and affirm them over and over again, watch an inspirational movies that will help to fill your mind with positivity, talk to an optimistic friend who always helps you to look at the bright side of life and who makes you feel that things can only get better and not worse, or listen to motivational preaching on your portable radio.
6. Spend A Lot Of Time With Optimistic People
Spend at least 6 hours each week with people who can motivate you and speak words that will uplift your spirit and make you feel that there is hope. Choose people who are caring, understanding, empathetic, and who enjoy themselves and see only hope even in hopeless-looking situations.
As you listen to their optimism day after day, and as you see how they respond to trying circumstances, you will change the way you think about your present predicament and you may see that you are being too negative about those rates. That can help you to make a mental shift and you will start looking at the ways things may get better.
In Nehemiah 7 v 5, the Bible says that, “Then God put it into my mind…” In other words, Jehovah can drop thoughts in one’s mind. And since He commands us to pray to Him about everything (that includes thinking positive thoughts) in Philippians 4 v 6, go boldly to Him and ask Him to help you to think positively.
You may say a pray in such a manner, “Father, glory be to Your Name. You are a wonderful Creator. You are a marvelous Savior. You are an incredible Helper. Your faithfulness never ceases. When I think about the fact that You sent Jesus to come to Earth to die on the cross to deliver me from my sins, it makes me see that You are a loving Father who cares so much about me. Father, the low survival rates among mesothelioma patients make a lot of negative thoughts come into my mind. I try to fight them , but they keep coming. And when I think about those thoughts, I get depressed. Please, just as You dropped thoughts in the mind of Nehemiah and Daniel and Nebuchadnezzar, please help me and drop positive thoughts from time to time into my mind throughout each day. And please let the Holy Spirit quicken my spirit and make me remember Your word often throughout each day. Amen.”
If mesothelioma survival rates scare you and you want to think positively most of the time, question the thoughts that come into your mind, make sure you get enough sleep every night, and lay your burden at the feet of the LORD and you will find it easier to start to look at the bright side of things.
Mesothelioma is a rare form of cancer that is caused by the ingestion or inhalation of asbestos fibers. Mesothelioma survival rates are extremely low because the latency period of the disease is between 20 and 50 years and so the disease is normally diagnosed when it has spread extensively in the body.
Those rates induce fear in the hearts of some mesothelioma patients because they feel that they will also die a few years after they are diagnosed to have the disease.
If you are one of such patients, here are a few things you can do to help you deal with that fear.
1. Control Your Breathing
Breathe in deeply through your nostrils and release the air slowly through your mouth, whenever you think about the rates and you get scared. It will help sensory nerves to send signals to the brain that you are not under any danger and that will make it easier for you to remain calm.
2. Imagine The Worst
Imagine the worst thing that can happen to you if your worst fears come to pass. For example, imagine yourself dying and going to heaven. Then, imagine yourself enjoying the bliss and peace of heaven without any pain and discomfort.
And then think to yourself such as, “So, when I die eventually, won’t I go to a better place? Doesn’t God say that heaven is a place where there is no suffering? Then why am I afraid to die? Death is just going from life to life, that’s all! Jesus has defeated death and so I must not be scared to die. Everything will be alright when I die. Jesus will welcome me to a life of joy and peace!”
Ruminate on the likely consequences when the worst happens and you will see that although the rates look scary, even if you don’t survive for many years you will still go on living beyond death because of God’s love (the fact that He sent His son to die on the cross for you to give you eternal life), and that will help you to lose your fear of what is causing you fear.
3. Challenge Thoughts Of Fear
Sometimes you can deal with your fears effectively if you remind yourself of the evidence on the ground, instead of pampering the thoughts of fear that come into your mind.
For example, when those rates come into your mind:
Write down the names of 50 people you know or people you have heard about who have lived with mesothelioma for more than five years.
Then think to yourself, “Many people are living with mesothelioma, right? Kofi has lived with mesothelioma for more than two years, right? Kwabena has lived with the disease for ten years now, right? Then why do I think that I will die of mesothelioma in the next year or two? It’s my mind playing tricks on me. Just as Kofi has survived, and just as Kwabena is surviving, I will also survive by the grace of God. Those two guys are also human just as I am, right? So, if they are beating the odds, I can also do it, right?”
By doing such an exercise, you will see that since other people are defying the odds, since others face those fears and conquer them every day, you can also do it if you put your mind to it.
Research shows that exercising regularly can help a person to deal with fear, because exercising causes the release of chemicals known as endorphins which help to calm one down. Additionally, exercising raises the temperature of the body, which also helps people to feel calmer.
Therefore, every day, walk briskly up and down your stairs for 30 minutes, ride your bicycle for 30 minutes before you go to see your Oncologist, do yoga or taichi, or swim. According to Oncologists, these are all safe exercises for a mesothelioma patient to do.
Prayer will help to remind you that the strongest and most powerful Person in existence is on your side. That can help to reassure you and make you feel secure and safe in His love.
So, every day, say a prayer such as this one, “LORD, I thank You for the love You showed to me at Calvary where You sacrificed Your Son Jesus for me so that I could live forever. Glory be to Your Name for such a sacrifice and for such a gift. You show love to me every day too and I am very grateful for that. You give me food to eat. You give me clothes to wear. You enable me to buy shoes. You protect me as I go to see my doctor. You preserve me as I come home after seeing my doctor. I thank You that I can breathe freely the air that You made to help sustain me: if I were to pay for it, as is done in hospitals sometimes when one is sick, I don’t think I would have been able to do so. I thank You, God, that You protect me when I sleep. I thank You for the life of my spouse. I thank You that You have given me children. I thank You for the love of my friends and church members. LORD, the mesothelioma survival rates scare me and put fear in my heart. You tell us in Your word that You have not given us a spirit of fear, but a sound mind. Please inspire courage in my heart and strengthen my faith and help me to have peace of mind. Amen.”
If mesothelioma survival rates create fear in your heart and you want to handle that fear effectively, do deep breathing exercises whenever you get scared, imagine yourself dying and going to heaven, challenge thoughts of fear, and pray to God and you will find it easier to face those rates.
Mesothelioma is a kind of cancer that one can develop when he or she inhales asbestos particles.
Although scientists established a link between asbestos and mesothelioma in the 1930s, and although asbestos companies knew that exposing employees to asbestos could harm the health of their workers, the asbestos companies continued to expose their workers to asbestos so that they could make profits.
Consequently, many employees of these companies developed mesothelioma. The US government ordered asbestos companies to set up funds to give compensation to employees that they exposed to asbestos.
According to legal experts, when a former employee of an asbestos company files a personal injury lawsuit, he or she can receive between $1 million and $1.4 million.
However, there are many challenges a mesothelioma patient will have to overcome to get that compensation when he or she files a mesothelioma suit. One of such challenges is the intentional dragging of the case by the lawyers of the former employers because they know the life expectancy of mesothelioma patients is short.
These delays and frustrations can cause stress in the life of the mesothelioma patient and this stress can worsen the health status of the mesothelioma patient.
So, what can you do to handle such stress, if you are going through a similar situation?
1. Do Deep Abdominal Breathing
When one is stressed, he or she tends to breathe shallowly. Signals are then sent to the brain that there is danger around and so the “fight or flight” response is activated and that makes one feel tense and nervous. However,doing breathing exercises can help to slow the heart rate and lower blood pressure so that one can feel less stressed.
So, every day, do this exercise:
Lie supine on a mat on the floor of your bedroom.
Close your eyes and imagine that you are lying on a beach enjoying the sun.
Place your left hand on your heart and place your right hand on your abdomen.
Breathe in deeply. Smile as you do so.
Hold your breath for a count of 10.
Breathe out slowly. Feel your hand fall with the deflation of your abdomen.
Repeat breathing in and out 50 times.
2. Write About How You Feel
Writing about how you feel about the delays that you are experiencing will help you to engage your mind and use it to do something creative instead of ruminating about all that is going wrong. Furthermore, writing your feelings expressively will help you to release your emotions instead of bottling them up.
Slow, quiet, calming music can help to reduce the amount of stress hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline in the body and that will make you feel more relaxed.
Additionally, such music can make it easier for you to meditate on the Bible and to think godly thoughts. The godly thoughts the music induces in you can give you hope. Consequently, your breathing rate and blood pressure will drop so that you can feel more relaxed. Furthermore, your heart rate too will drop so that you can feel relaxed.
4. Laugh Often
Laughter can help to diffuse tension from your body so that you can feel relaxed. So, make a timetable for watching funny clips and comedy movies. You may choose to set aside two hours each day just to watch something that will make you laugh.
During this period, block out all other thoughts and engage fully with what you are viewing. Mindfully follow the actions of the actors and actresses, and laugh when they do something funny: engage your whole body and mind in the exercise as though you do not have a care in this world.
Remind yourself of 20 good things that happen to you each week, and 50 good things that happen to you every month. And then reflect on the fact that there are many people around the world who wish to have the things you have. It will make you see that you are blessed and privileged. That will help you to worry less about the problems you are encountering.
7. Practice Positive Self-Talk Throughout Each Day
When you wake up every day, say something encouraging to yourself such as, “It is great to see another day the LORD has made. I will enjoy myself today and make the best I can of this wonderful day. I will not allow any challenges I face today to dampen my spirit and prevent me from enjoying my gift of life.” This will help to energize you for the day and boost your spirit and help enliven you so that your worries will not seem bigger than hope.
Additionally, throughout each day, make positive confessions such as this one, “I can deal with any challenge I will face this day. No problem is bigger than me. There are many ways around any challenge I face. I have faced and conquered challenges before and this challenge too will fall in the name of Jesus!”
8. Socialize Often
Instead of bottling up your feelings, open up to friends and family about your inner feelings and your deepest thoughts. Express your frustrations to them and laugh over funny aspects of the legal process with them. They may give you advice and tips that will open your eyes to see new perspectives which will make you feel more optimistic about the mesothelioma suit. Consequently, you will not lose a minute’s sleep thinking about the slow process again.
If you want to deal with the stress associated with a mesothelioma suit, breathe in deeply from your diaphragm often, write your thoughts and feelings into your journal, listen to gospel music that is slow and calming, and say positive things to yourself and you will feel relaxed.
Some Christians, after being diagnosed with mesothelioma, have continued to believe in Jehovah-rafai, the LORD our Healer, and God has helped them to survive and cope with the disease.This woman is one of such Christians.
And you may also be a Christian who has mesothelioma, but perhaps your faith has become weak and you feel you cannot survive the disease. What can you do to boost your faith so that God will help you to cope and survive?
In this article, I want to share with you some things you can do to strengthen your faith so that God will be merciful to you just as He was merciful to the woman mentioned above.
1. Confess Parts Of The Bible And Mindfully Listen To Them
One way you can remind yourself of these miracles is to make an audio recording of these signs and wonders yourself and to play them constantly throughout each day. Play them as you prepare to work, as you cook your breakfast, as you eat your breakfast, and when you have a work break. It will keep you focused on what God can do and you will find it easier to expect that the inconceivable will happen.
In addition to listening to miracles, watch movies of these miracles often. When you see an enactment of those miraculous scenes, when you see God’s power in action, you are likely to feel convinced that God can do what He says since He did it for some: the movies will make what God did feel and seem more real and relatable. They will stretch your imagination and make you contemplate on the depth of God’s power and that can make it easier to believe. Furthermore, you will see perspectives you may not have considered before. That can help you to change the way you think and you will find it easier to get rid of doubts.
Additionally, talk about the miracles and the movies with other Christians often. As you share ideas and gain deep insights, the miracles will continue to remain fresh in your mind throughout each day and so doubts will find it hard to stay in your mind.
3. Keep Jeremiah 33 v 6 Burning In Your Heart Always And Affirm It Throughout The Day
The Bible says in Romans 10 v 17 that the faith of a believer gets strengthened when he or she hears the word of God. When a believer reads and speaks the word of God, it helps to empower the Holy Spirit to quicken your spirit. Consequently, the word of God will ring in your mind often. And when you are aware of God’s word all the time, it will help to strengthen your confidence in God.
One verse you may choose to remind yourself of often is Jeremiah 33 v 6 which says, “…I will heal them and reveal to them abundance of prosperity and security.” Affirm this verse to yourself whenever doubts come into your mind, or when you feel that your faith is getting weak, to remind you that God wants to heal you. When you are always aware of the fact that God is willing to heal you, you are more likely to believe for the impossible to happen.
Furthermore, back this verse up by reading Hebrews 6 v 17 too, where God confirmed His promise with an oath. It will remind you that since God has given an oath, in addition to the promise in Jeremiah, there is no way God will fail you and that will help you to have full assurance that God will help you to cope.
4. Use The “If He did that…then” Principle
I use what I call the “If He did that…then” principle to help boost my faith when I face very challenging situations that stretch my faith and it help to strengthen my believe in God.
How do I do it? When I start having doubts about a tough challenge, I think to myself, “Well, God gave me that 15 million cedis scholarship, didn’t He? God saved me from being bitten by a snake I walked by within a hair’s breath when I was in Jentilpe, that village in a forest in the Northern Region, didn’t He? God saved me from dying when I hit my head against that glass window and I lost so much blood, didn’t He? God saved me from being bitten by that cobra that was lying in the gutter when I was going to school, and which was ready to strike, many years ago, didn’t He? If He did that for me, then I believe He can help me to overcome this challenge too.” I reckon that since it is the same Person I am looking to, and since He has the track record of saving me from trouble, then I can trust Him to deliver me from the trouble that confronts me now.
5. Read The Online Stories Of Mesothelioma Survivors Often
Instead of listening to news that you will not benefit from and which will only create doubts in your mind, read the stories of Christians who are surviving and coping with mesothelioma by God’s grace, such as this person, this person, or this person. It will make you feel that once the LORD has helped others to cope and survive, He can help you too if you continue trusting in Him.
If you want to boost your faith so that you can survive and cope after you are diagnosis with mesothelioma, confess encouraging Bible verses often, keep God’s miracles in your mind always, remind yourself of Jeremiah 33:6 often, and read the stories of patients who are surviving and coping.
According to a report released in 2017 by the US Centers for Disease Control, between 2,400 and 2,800 Americans are diagnosed with this disease every year.
Mesothelioma comes with other conditions, especially mental health problems. A substantial number of people who are diagnosed with mesothelioma become depressed after they learn that they have the condition: according to Asbestos.com, 25% of all cancer patients become depressed when they learn of their status.
Depression can worsen the health status of a spouse who is suffering from mesothelioma: Depression can weaken your spouse’s immune system (the body’s defense against infections) and that can reduce his or her chances of survival.
Additionally, when a spouse suffers from depression, he or she may isolate himself, or he may feel listless. Consequently, he or she may not relate to you affectionately and so you may not enjoy his company and your emotional connection as a married couple may weaken.
So, if your spouse has this disease and is suffering from depression, here are a few things you can do to make your spouse feel better so that you can continue to have a great marriage.
1. Reaffirm Your Love For Your Spouse Every Day
Chemotherapy treatment, which may cause hair loss in your spouse, and other treatments, which can make your spouse put on excess weight or lose weight or which can affect the quality of your spouse’s skin, as well as what friends, family, and neighbors may say or think about the way they may have changed physically, can all make your spouse’s image of himself or herself change: they may feel unattractive. Consequently, your spouse may become insecure and may doubt that you still love them, and that can worsen feelings of sadness.
Therefore, make it a habit to keep reminding your spouse that you still love them and you still care about him or her even though they may have changed physically.
When you are reaffirming your love for your spouse, focus on the inner beauty, their outstanding character traits, to remind him or her that they have something valuable and worthy of adoration and that can help reduce feelings of worthlessness they may experience as a result of the changing image they may have of themselves.
For example, regularly, you may say something such as, “Yaa, I love you today just as I did when we first met. I still see the beautiful you, the kind, caring, understanding, considerate woman that I married and pledged to love till death parts us. My love, I want you to know that my affection for you has not changed at all. I will keep loving you every day that we spend together. You are still the queen of my heart!”
When your spouse hears such encouraging words from the most important person in his or her life, it will make your spouse think less about the change in his or her physical looks and make him or her think about what is great about them and that can help your husband or wife to feel happier.
2. Let Your Spouse Reconnect With Nature
Pain is one main contributory factor that makes mesothelioma patients feel miserable: your spouse’s cancer tumor may put pressure on surrounding nerves and organs and that can make your husband or your wife experience pain. Additionally, cancer treatments such as surgery, radiation, and chemotherapy can also make your spouse experience pain.
However, a study has revealed that people who view trees, or who view scenes of nature, or who can even view a plant in a room, are able to tolerate pain better than people who do not view nature.
Viewing trees or a plant, reconnecting with nature, can help to fill one with pleasant feelings, which can distract one and make him or her endure pain better. And when your spouse can handle the mesothelioma pain better, he or she will find it easier to walk around with a smile on his or her face.
So, if you live near woods, drive your spouse to the woods or walk hand-in-hand to the woods and spend time strolling through nature. As your spouse admires the trees, butterflies, birds and so on, he or she may be awed by the beauty of nature and that can inspire hope in your spouse, which will make him or her decide to enjoy life again.
Alternatively, place potted Golden Pothos, Peace Lily, or Arrowhead Vine in your spouse’s bedroom or sitting room and encourage your spouse to interact with these plants often because research shows that these plants can help one deal with depression: let your spouse feel the leaves often, or stand and admire the plants and it will make him or her feel better.
3. Let Your Spouse Express His Or Her Gratitude Often
Research has shown that when a person feels grateful, it can help him or her to feel happier: feeling grateful causes the brain to release chemicals such as dopamine and serotonin which are “feel good” hormones that make one feel happy and satisfied with life.
How can you encourage your spouse to express gratitude? Here are some ways you can help your partner to feel grateful:
Let your spouse write down 20 ways in which you have showed love to him or her during the week, at the end of every week. Furthermore, remind your spouse of the fact that it is not everyone who is diagnosed with mesothelioma who has a husband or wife to support him or her. It will make your partner appreciate your presence in their life. Consequently, your husband or your wife will see that he or she is privileged and that may influence your spouse to change his or her perspective and look at the positives of the situation instead of focusing on the pain and discomfort associated with the condition. As a result, he or she may choose to walk about with joy in the heart.
At the end of every day, sit down with your partner and let him or her write down 10 good things that happened in his or her life that day. Let your spouse read the blessings of the day to himself or herself over and over and encourage your spouse to reflect on the fact that despite his or her condition, good things are still happening to him or her. When your partner ruminate on this, he will find it easier to look at the bright side of life.
So, grow allamandas, dahlias, marigolds, roses, bougainvilleas, artichokes, beans, egg plants, cauliflowers, celery, cucumbers, or leeks with her in your yard or your backyard.
As your partner focuses on planting an allamanda, watering the roses, or cutting dead bougainvilllea branches, his thoughts will shift from thinking about the disease often, to doing something responsible and that can help to drive negative thoughts from his mind.
Additionally, as the crops and flowers grow and blossom, it will make your spouse feel that he or she has achieved something worthwhile and that can boost your spouse’s self-esteem, which can help to drive away feelings of worthlessness.
Several studies have shown that when one exercises, stimulates the brain to release a group of chemicals known as endorphins which make one feel happy. When your spouse feels good, he is more likely to feel positive about life and he is more likely to walk around with a smile on his face, or to laugh when you crack a joke.
So, have a discussion with your spouse and make him understand the benefits he will derive if he chooses to exercise every day.
Additionally, let a mesothelioma survivor who shares the same sex as your spouse, and who got depressed when he or she was diagnosed with mesothelioma, but who took up the habit of exercising regularly and has experienced a mood boost, talk to him or her and encourage him or her to adopt that lifestyle too.
The testimony of this man or woman will be more compelling because your spouse will feel that once this person has also gone through what he or she is going through, that person’s word must be credible and if he also starts exercising, he will also benefit.
One kind of exercise you can do with your spouse is aerobic dancing: exercising whilst listening to your favorite music at the same time. The accompanying music will help to lift your spouse’s spirit, as well as make the times of exercise feel less tedious. So, grab your spouse’s hand every morning or evening, turn on the sound system, and relive the early years of your marriage by doing the dance moves you used to do when you first met.
And to motivate your spouse to continue exercising, give him or her an incentive whenever they finish with their weekly regimen of exercise. For example, give him or her a loving massage, give your spouse a $20 or $50 tip, take your husband to watch his favorite soccer team in action, or take your wife to her favorite restaurant and give her a treat.
6. Worship God With Your Spouse Often
When your spouse worships Jehovah with you, it will remind him or her that the Loving Heavenly Father, who has helped him or her in the past, still cares and loves him or her and He will keep him or her. That can help to drive away feelings of worthlessness that may be plaguing your spouse.
Additionally, as your spouse focuses on God instead of himself or herself during worship, it will help your spouse to remember the nature of God: he or she will remember that with God all things are possible, and that can help drive away feelings of hopelessness, and that can make your spouse feel more positive about life.
So, encourage your spouse to worship God by saying something such as this often, “Jehovah, LORD God Almighty, I worship You for You are a great Creator. God, You are holy and righteous. All power, all glory, all honor belongs to You. Creator, You are worthy to be adored by the work of Your hands. You made the stars that shine in the dark night to remind us that when we experience darkness in our lives, You can make a star shine to give us hope. LORD, You created the sun that shines in the morning to remind us that when darkness fall on us, it is not the end of life because the sun will shin the next day: we will experience brightness and happiness in life again. LORD, You healed Hezekiah of his disease and added 14 more years to his life when he fell sick. You healed the sick of diseases in Bible days, and You still heal many of their diseases today. O Great God, Savior, Strong Deliverer, Merciful and Gracious Helper, kind and good God, I worship and praise You today because with You all things are possible. I worship You, LORD, Jehovah-rafai, our Healer because I know You can heal me. Nothing is too hard for You, Omnipotent, Omnipresent, Omniscient miracle-working God. You do the things that men cannot do. Glory be to Your holy Name.”
When your spouse worships this way often, it will help to inspire hope in your partner and he or she is likely to feel more positive after this spiritual exercise.
When your spouse is diagnosed with mesothelioma and he suffers a depression as a result, reaffirming your love for him, drawing him close to nature, making him express his gratitude for the blessings he enjoys every day, and encouraging him to worship God often can help your spouse to feel better.